Hello, thank you for reaching out.
My name is Denise, I am 41 years old living alone in London.
I always worked very hard. From the age of 15 I had my first formal job but had my obligations at home since I was 9 or younger. My parents always worked very hard and could never afford someone to look after us and our house. Being the older sibling, I was responsible for keeping out rented place clean and to feed my brother.
I grew into a bossy controlling person and have several social issues due to this earlier responsibilities. I was married for 6 years but it didn’t work. I’ve been single for four years now. The older I get the pickier I get. I never felt maternal, I probably just didn’t want to take care of anyone as I felt (emotionally) neglected as a child. I don’t really have happy memories as a child when it come to family, I don’t even have many photos as my parents couldn’t afford buying films, when they did it would sit in the fridge for ages before they could develop them.
I came to London in 2008 full of hopes that my life would be better, I would be happier. I did in fact achieved a lot, I have a nice job which pay my bills, a few selected friends which I don’t see very often (everyone is busy and now during pandemic, keeping to their own) and got a mortgage.
So, why am I here asking your for money if I don’t need it? I am not ill, I am not in debt, I don’t have to care for a family member and I do not have a business plan at this moment. Well, I am here because maybe you have already donated to several of the REALLY IMPORTANT requests, but you still have some budget for charity and you just want to change someone’s life, you just want that person to feel LUCKY also.
I never got anything for free (and most of people, I now). I do believe in meritocracy and worked very hard to purchase a share of my flat (shared ownership scheme). I was so happy that I found a top floor flat and I could afford that share (55%), I pay rent for the rest. I wish I knew better, I wish I had someone to help me when I saw this place, to tell me the issues I would face, but what is done is done.
I am very sensitive to sounds and vibrations, I had not idea how much problem this building would bring to my sanity. The train line is on the other side of the road (I got use to it because it is predictable), but my walls are so thin, I can hear my neigbours, their day to day life, TV, music, conversations, doors banging in all floors, water pipes etc. Two days ago the local government gave permission toa developer start building up 3 blocks of flats in front of mine and it will be good 2 years of hell from the moment they start. What puts me really down is that I worked so hard to get my first place and I feel miserable in it, obsessively thinking on improvement possibilities or moving out. The market is not good to sell now and even if I did I would need to pay Stamp Duty (as I am no longer a first time buyer), estate agent, solicitors and the housing association etc. I am employed now but I am always afraid that the economy can get worse and I could lose my job and not even be able to pay for my mortgage.
I’ve contacted a company specialised in soundproofing interiors and they came up with a ridiculous quote of 18K GBP. I could use this money for a deposit for a new quiet place together with the sale of my share instead putting into this flat.
So, I would like to make some improvements on my one bed flat (not a 18K one), to try to minimise the sounds and impacts that come into it. It doesn’t even have rockwool in between walls and I was told that the external walls should be at least 30cm (according to regulations) but my one is 20ish.
I have enough money monthly to pay the mortgage for my share, the rent share, service charge, utility bills and my food, but not for home improvement.
If you feel this is a cause you would be happy to contribute, I would be even happier to receive it.
I am working from home and being all day in my place hasn’t been very nice. I do find joy in DIY and small projects, this would be the highlight of this not so nice year.
Thank you for your time.