Living With Abuse Every Day: Why I’m Desperate to Leave
Hello, I’m asking for money to help me take an important step toward stability and independence: moving into my own place. Right now, my biggest obstacle is being able to afford the upfront deposit and initial moving costs, which I’m struggling to cover on my own despite budgeting and saving as much as possible.
Why I’m asking?
My current living situation is I live in a toxic environment with abusive parents I have very little saved up right now and while I can save up to get the rest I just cannot wait that long as every month here seems to be getting worse and worse. I’ve lived through several years of physical and mental abuse and there’s been times where I’ve thought about ending it all.
What the Funds Will Be Used For
The money raised will go directly toward:
deposit
Solicitor fees
Basic moving costs and essentials
I will only use the funds for these purposes, and anything extra will go toward essential household items.
What This Means to Me
Having my own place would mean:
Stability
Privacy and safety
A chance to properly focus on my life and goals
Improved mental and emotional wellbeing
This isn’t an easy thing to ask for, and I’m incredibly grateful for anyone who takes the time to read, share, or contribute — no matter the amount.
How You Can Help
If you’re able to donate, I appreciate it more than I can express. If you can’t donate, sharing this campaign would still help me hugely.
Thank you so much for your kindness and support.
Please help!
Hello,
I’m a single mom of 1 living in the UK, I recently moved here from Nigeria for work a few years ago and things were going smoothly until 2 years ago when my sister got diagnosed with Lung cancer. She has since been unable to work and has had to move in with me. I’m the first born of my family and my parents live in Nigeria so I’m responsible for my parents and siblings since my parents are retired plus the burden has doubled since my sister’s been unable to work for over a year now. I work overtime to cover my bills, cost of daily living and childcare but there’s only so much shifts I can do with a child I’m solely responsible for and a sick sister. I’m drowning in so much debt, my salary is basically used to recycle them every month. I’m really trying my best, even tried starting a hair business but I’m unable to gather enough capital to scale the business so I only make very little from it. My credit score has tanked so bad I’m not even eligible for credit anymore. At this point, I just need help to clear my debts so I can build back my credit score and scale my business. I’m currently up to £5000 in debt and can’t seem to get out of it, any help I can get towards getting it cleared or showing me how to make more money would really be great. I’ve paid for so many online businesses that haven’t gotten me anywhere, I’m tired of wasting money I don’t have for zero results. I really need a hand please!
REPOSSESSION
Subject: A personal message from the heart
Hello
My name is Russell, and I hope you don’t mind me writing. so openly. This isn’t easy for me, but I feel I need to be honest.
For over twelve years, my wife and I opened our home to children who needed safety and care, we fostered more than fifty children of different ages and it became our whole life. It wasn’t just something we did- it was who we were.
Along the way, things went badly wrong, while fostering within the system, we faced several false allegations. Every one of them was later found to be untrue, but each one meant months without income. The stress and fear were constant, to keep going and keep our home, we took on secured debt just to survive.
Later, another wave of accusations came. Again, all unsubstantiated – but by then, the damage was too much. My wife retired in 2023, and just like that, the life we had built around caring for others was gone.
Right now, I’m not well enough to work, I’m waiting on major surgery and stuck in long NHS delays. We get very little support, and we’re now facing the possibility of losing our home.Our house is on the market-not because we want to sell, but because we’re trying to avoid repossession and hold on to some dignity.
I’m not asking for handouts, I’m asking for help to stand back up.
I ‘m hoping for a long-term loan, at a fair rate, to clear our debts – £525,000 in total-so we can breathe again and rebuild slowly but honestly, with stability and time, I know we could repay and move forward.
I’ll be honest- I’m cautious. We’ve been through a lot, and trust is hard. But I’ve reached a point where staying silent feels worse than asking.
I believe in Jesus Christ, and I believe that even in the darkest seasons, there’s still a way forward.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, whatever you decide, I truly appreciate you listening.
Take care, kind regards.
Russell ( PayPal.Me/DamayanteeWootten)
£16,000 ($21,000) needed for surgery please read
I was a victim of severe domestic and Sexual abuse for 7 years I had been beaten and abused very badly which as led to many parts of my female body to be left disproportionate. I have spent 2 years undergoing therapy to heal mentally but I still have to see the physical scars left from the abuse and I have internal pain that can only be fixed by surgery . I want to regain my life that was cruelly taken from me and move on and try and find love and have a family but I can’t do this unless I can fix the exterior. This man took everything from me and I just want the chance to feel like a normal woman and live a normal life. I tried to take my own life just before Christmas but was saved by a stranger talking me down and I was told how this platform has helped people and may be able to help me. I need to raise the money to have internal surgery from the abuse and to have breast augmentation because one side is mutilated from the physical abuse. Please help me live the life I deserve. I just want a chance a life again. Thank you in advance for reading my story. I am in the uk and paypal me link is https://paypal.me/Sug61
My interest only mortgage has haunted me for 21 years!
Back in 2001, I had sudden back pains due to repetitive bending in my manual job. This got worse over time and I needed to have months off work. I got paid a small amount of sick pay which eventually dried up. As the months went by and my back problems continuing, I got further and further into debt to the point where I had to re -mortgage with a back street lender. It was initially meant to be interest only for a year, but 21 years down the line and 56 years old, I still owe the same £96,568. It is so demoralising to see the same figure year after year and not being able to change anything. I have other debts that are secured on the property which would have to be cleared first.
The most annoying part is, I’m paying a higher interest rate and would have paid the house in full if I was on a lower rate – with a repayment mortgage. So basically I am a mortgage prisoner!
For 2 years leading up to April 2022, I worked overtime to pay off debt. I cleared £20,000 and had a great mortgage approved at 1.99% fixed for 10 years.
I thought, this can’t be happening – finally I’m going to have a mortgage at a great rate and see the balance reducing every month.
Then in April 2022, I was diagnosed with bowel cancer that had spread to my liver.
I had to cancel the mortgage because I needed every penny for security. My whole world had changed over night. Suddenly my mortgage situation was trivial, but it was a great distraction. I couldn’t stop thinking how close I was to this better deal, but at the same time, my health was more important!
Since being diagnosed, I have had bowel surgery, a liver resection and 32 months of chemotherapy in total.
My outlook for health looks good, but my mortgage situation is the same.
I( was planning to re -mortgage this year, but I feel like a dog chasing it’s tale because I can only earn basic money, due to hospital visits.
My expenses are the same as what I earn, so it’s becoming a long awaited dream more than a reality.
Thank you for reading my story!
If you could help in any way, even a small amount of money from many people would go along way.
If you have anything to spare in this tough world please pay to https://paypal.me/GaryB672
Help Me Get Through a Financial Hardship 80k debt
Hi, I’m a staff midwife,
I’m going through a serious financial hardship due to debt that built up during a difficult period of my life. I’m doing my best to manage it, but right now I’m struggling to keep up and could really use some help.
I’m not looking for luxury or extras—just support to stay afloat while I work toward stability. Any contribution, no matter how small, helps reduce pressure and gives me room to breathe and keep moving forward.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Your kindness truly means more than I can put into words.
How Your Help Makes a Difference
- Small donations help cover daily essentials
- Medium donations help reduce outstanding bills
- Larger donations help me make real progress on debt
Disabled, Cold and running out of hope
I am currently living on disability benefits after a severe mental breakdown around seven years ago that forced me to stop working and from which my health never fully recovered. Over time, my physical and mental health have steadily deteriorated, and I now live with multiple chronic conditions including endometriosis, adenomyosis, PCOS, IBS, arthritis, joint hypermobility syndrome, autism, ADHD, anxiety, depression, PTSD and complex PTSD. Pain, exhaustion and overwhelm dominate my daily life. I tried to push myself back into work, but living in a large city as an autistic person caused my health to completely collapse again, and I experienced further trauma that I am still trying to process. I’ve been forced to leave everything behind and move back to the north of Scotland, where i am currently living in a bedroom in a friends house. The house is freezing cold, damp, has no central heating and no hot water. I live with constant pain from arthritis and gynecological conditions, and being cold every day makes it unbearable. I cannot take baths to relieve my pain, and I cannot rest properly. To make matters worse, the waiting lists for treatment for my conditions are over a year long, and in some cases several years. I am trapped in limbo, deteriorating while waiting, knowing that proper treatment exists but is completely out of reach financially. Having the ability to access even some private care could give me a quality of life I have never had — relief from pain, better mobility, and the chance to feel human again instead of just surviving. I am not working because my disabilities make it impossible right now, and every day feels like endurance rather than living. I am terrified that if nothing changes, I will continue to wither away mentally, physically and emotionally until I lose all hope. Any money I receive would go toward basic survival needs like food, heating, bills, petrol for my car, and occasionally staying somewhere warm just to bathe and ease my pain. Ultimately, it would help us save toward a deposit so we can escape this situation and have a safe, warm place of our own. If you are in a position to help, even in a small way, you would be helping me stay warm, fed and safe, while giving me a chance at treatment, dignity, and a future that feels worth holding on to.
Any help at all would mean more than I can put into words, and would give me a small chance to breathe and keep going.
paypal.me/heathervarin
Domestic Abuse Survivor trying to get back on track
Hi all, happy new year.
This is a difficult thing to write, but I believe it’s finally time to ask for help. I am really struggling. I always wanted to be able to crawl out of this hole on my own, but I’m starting to believe that is just not possible in this lifetime.
I was involved in a very long-term domestic abuse relationship, which I finally managed to break free from after a lot of trauma. I won’t get into the gory details, but the abuse was physical (all kinds), psychological and verbal (all kinds), financial, coercive control, and abuse of power/position.
Unfortunately, this person ran up a lot of debt in my name without my consent as an exhibition of control, which I have been trying to pay off for some time. I work upwards of 60 hours a week just to pay my bills, and unfortunately, this is no longer sustainable. I had to quit my master’s degree due to the financial hardship I was already contending with, and I am now at a complete loss on what to do because I cannot afford to pay my bills as well as the debt this person has left. I can no longer afford the trauma therapy I require to continue my recovery from PTSD; however, if I can clear some of this financial burden, I would like to save up again to return to therapy once the more pressing bills are covered.
I was trying to recover from this on my own, but after several further hardships created by this person due to their position, I have finally reached a breaking point.
The total amount of debt that I need to pay off is £30,000 in order to be able to clear what they left, and start with a clean slate.
This month, however, the total amount I need to cover my bills is £1000.
I know this is a lot to ask for, and I do so with a heavy heart. I do not wish to burden anyone else with this, and I am only asking for help if it is within your means and you feel comfortable doing so.
I would be so, so grateful for any amount towards my bills for the month and will endeavour to pay forward any kindness when or if I eventually find myself in a position to do so.
If I can pay off the debt left behind by this person, I will endeavour to save up within my means and complete my master’s so I can pay it forward by helping other victims of domestic violence and abuse in the future.
Thank you once again if you can help or choose to do so. I cannot express my gratitude enough.
My PayPal link is as follows:
Support with driving lesson fees
- Hello, my name is Tom and I’m based in Northern Ireland. I was diagnosed with MS back in 2025 which has affected my ability to walk and cycle etc. I used to walk or cycle everywhere or get public transport, I even did a couple of marathons. I now have severe issues with mobility as I have a large lesion on my lower spinal cord which has left me unable to walk more than 50 feet. I’ve never driven and would like to take lessons to drive an automatic car. Lessons are about £40 per lesson and I’ll need 10-15 lessons. Will also need help with test fees and hopefully when I get a license I can apply for a mobility car. I will need a deposit of about £1000 to get a suitable vehicle. Anh support would be greatly appreciated. My PayPal link is paypal.me/tomhasgotcha
Given so much of my resources and time for Make A wish children and other charities, but I for the first time need help with my dental and medical expenses
My PayPal link is @chaskaur Hi, thank you for reading this firstly, I am after £20000 to cover to dental and medical costs that have popped up due to my diabetes hitting 31MMOL when it should be 7 due to stress. A domestic violence victim accused me of beating her rather than her boyfriend to protect him. This meant I got wrongfully arrested and suffered a miscarriage in the process and my body went into stress and a chronic pain nurse had to monitor me. This caused my gums to swell up that I couldn’t even bite into a sandwich and I still can’t bite into one. They are literally hanging on their last threads and this has made my PtSD and anxiety worse than what it is already. The police have arrested her boyfriend now and convicted him but it still doesn’t reverse the impact on my health and life. I have been one that always gives to community, causes etc and for once in my life I am I a. Position where I need help. I am happy to repay it back over time if you would kindly assist with my request. I just just need a secret angel or just an angel to step in and hell me and show that there are still kind people out there. Especially while I have been left to rebuild my life and health after the ordeal I have been put through. Happy to provide updates, pics and happy to slowly pay back within my means, if you wanted me to. Or I could slowly donate to a charity of your choice with my affordability per month and provide you updates to show I have done so
Christmas for my kids!
Hey,
I’m a single mum of 5 kids, they are 11, 10, 7, 4 and 2. My eldest is a boy and the rest are girls. We have just managed to get away from my abusive husband ( the father of all my kids ) about a month and a half ago. It was very quick when we left so unfortunatly the kids and I didn’t have enough time to really grab much so we’ve got some clothes and the kids have their special soft toy and a few books but that’s it!
We are living in temporary accommodation very far away from my ex and he doesn’t know where we are – it feels AMAZING to be away and know that we are safe but of course I feel so guilty for how long it took for me to leave, that was not fair on my kids at all. Anyway I digress, I am here to ask for help in anyway at all to provide Christmas for my kids. As it stands at the moment I have nothing for them, we don’t even have any decorations, although I am going to attempt to make some with the kids this weekend! Unfortunatly I have no family and I wasn’t allowed any friends so I am on my own.
I have an amazon wishlist that I put together with the kids that I have popped at the bottom as well as my paypal link.
I don’t know if anyone really does help on this site but I really hope there is maybe someone out there that could please help us. I really want to give my children a nice Christmas and the thought of them waking up on Christmas day with nothing just absolutley breaks my heart. They have been through so much and deserve a bit of magic and happiness. Not sure if you can send messages on this site but if you can I am open to questions or just a chat!
Thank you for reading my rambling!
Anna
Amazon Link
https://www.amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/19UBOGRA16ST?ref_=wl_share
Paypal Link
https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/my/profile
Building Life After Domestic Violence
My mother and I are rebuilding our lives after living in a domestic violent household. We were both in a women’s shelter before finally getting a home. Soon after my mother fell ill with TB and is still recovering from this, meaning she hasn’t been able to work. I’ve started a new job but we have some debt from the last few years, making our cost of living difficult at the moment. I would greatly appreciate anything you may have to give. Thank you so much. This is my Paypal link -https://paypal.me/AshleighMuza
Help see us through a very tight spot!
We own a family run sheet metal firm, we predominantly make cladding for buildings, in the UK since October 2023 the government bought in new legislation to make cladding safer (see Grenfell fire) however our cladding is not a fire hazard and BSR gateways (the new legislation) have created such long delays, we have tried to battle on without losing staff for over 2 years, we have diversified, tried to fill the whole left by the lack of cladding work and now it’s almost back we are in a very tight spot and could do with help from kind people so we can make it through to January 2026!!!
paypal.me/tommybcool
Family at breaking point
Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this.
We never thought that our happy and loving family life would take this unrelenting downward spiral but it has, and thats why I have had to resort to asking kind hearted strangers for help.
I first met my wife 14 years ago while I was serving my last seven years in the British Army. It was love at first sight for both of us and after 3 years we got married and then along came our precious daughter. We have both been good and responsible with money and when I left the Army in January 2020 we were lucky enough to buy our family home…This was to be the start of our downward spiral.
Covid then hit us in February and I lost my last family member to heart disease, my mum, this loss devastated us and we still miss her Daily afternoon calls. Our daughter at this time was 3 years old and we noticed that she was different, and that she was showing signs of Autism..I was supposed to start work out in Afghanistan but this was delayed until November 2020 so with no income I applied for Universal credit to help with day to day costs, this was declined as I was receiving an Army pension. I have worked since I was 14 and served 24 years for the country, I was shocked. We had some savings but like so many others this did not last long….over the last 4 years, our daughter has been diagnosed with severe Autism and special needs, our doors and windows have to be locked and deadbolted to stop her climbing out of the windows. She also doesn’t sleep well and regularly wakes up from 0200-0500 jumping from the windowsill to the floor..she needs 24 hour supervision and support which puts family members off visiting and helping out…
This all put my wife into severe depression which was fueled by her abuse as a child and up to her late teens, memories she has to deal with daily…this led to a gambling addiction which spiralled….due to my work abroad I did not pick up on this for a while. This and me having to stop working abroad and not completing a full year has resulted in credit card debt, HMRC fines and chasing us for unpaid tax, resulting in around 15-20k debts.. Due to all stress I then had a major heart attack on the 1st September, resulting in being off work and only getting £118 pw statutory sick pay and my wife has had to care for me aswell as our daughter….
There are other options to make money fast that could help but this is not something we could do or even consider, it would be a marriage breaker.. We have looked at loans but been unsuccessful, we also looked at equity release against our home but cannot apply as both owners need to be over a specific age…
Where we are now…….
On the ropes,.daily calls and letters from collection agencies, cannot pay car insurance so had to sell the car which was worth nothing. Basically struggling to pay all basic bills and council tax, this is not where we thought we would be…we like to and have helped family out.when they have needed it financially and emotionally but get nothing in return…
So we are asking for some help from kind hearted people to help us get back on our feet save this family from falling apart.
Whatever your decision, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts for even taking the time to read this, that alone gives us some hope…
Wherever you are we wish you all a great Christmas and love, health and success for the coming year
Thank you
David Welch
@donationhelp503
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