I was a big surprise to my parents when my mom found out she was pregnant almost 15 years after they were done having children. I grew up as an only child since my siblings were a lot older than me. I was the first in my family to go to a university and receive my bachelor degree. I got my first divorce. I went through difficult time, but have been sober now for 15 years when I met my second husband. But when I’m at my second husband, my father was diagnosed with dementia and I couldn’t leave my mom alone to take care of my Dad. After my dad passed away in 2019, I couldn’t leave my mom by herself. She was already 82 years old and I had in the one to do a great deal of the heavy lifting when it came to taking care of my dad towards the end. My siblings were never they’re like I was to help my mom. I thought that would’ve changed after my dad passed away, maybe they would come around more, visit, but they’re too busy. I was busy with my career and have been the only one to take care of my mom – doctors appointments , medication, spending time with her, making sure she had something to eat while I was at work, trying my best to take care of her house. For the almost 3 years, it’s just been my mom and me because I left my second marriage because I wasn’t happy and it was unhealthy.
unfortunately 10 months ago, I lost my really good paying job and it’s been hard to find another one. At first I was looking only for the job or industry I wanted, but time is passing by and at one point I said I would even go back to table, so I did that for a couple weeks until I was offered a job, not as high pain as what I had before and it’s a struggle because I was so far behind for the past 10 months. It is kind of about time that I need to move out and start my life on my own with my two dogs and her mom to move into a retirement community where she can be watched over and socialize and not have to worry about this big house that I’ve lived in almost 90% of my life. Doesn’t mean that while I’m at work I want her to worry about her falling or being alone, whether or not she’s taking her medication correctly, or if her blood sugar is gone down. So in order to get caught up financially and have enough to move out and get Mom settled without having any worries with money, here I am asking for help.
it’s hard to admit how hard it’s been the past two years. Because I put a smile on my face and try to come across as happy and that everything is fine. But the truth is, it’s difficult and stressful taking care of. in elderly parents. Especially when you’re the one that they are with all the time and depend on. I promised my dad I would take care of my mom and that he could leave this earth in peace. And I’m gonna continue to take care of her when she’s in her little apartment and we don’t have to worry about the bills and the repairs of this old house that it seems to be a money pit. I just wish I had found a job a lot saver that pay is well so that wouldn’t have gotten so far behind it in debt. I don’t ask my siblings for help because they’re all well off and on the youngest, they’ve always looked down on me for my early years and past drug addiction. But it’s me that was sober in here. Taking care of my dad is last years and it’s me that has been here with my mom all these years too. Everyone sees it I hear it all the time that I do so much for my mom. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But now that she is starting to forget things and fixing to be 89 in two days, it’s a lot for one person day take on.
I am grateful for any financial help to get caught up with bills and what I owe.
$50,000 would get bills caught up, my cards and loans as well as mom’s paid off with a little left over to help with the move.
$80,000 would pay off the two repos form more than 12 years that harassing my mom
$150,000 would be enough for a down payment on a house with a studio apartment/“mother-in-law suite” so mom can live with me instead of the retirement community and have her space without me having to worry about her tripping over my dogs and we can each run our households our own way!
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