I met my sons father when I was 17 and we were together up until recently. I am now 22 years old and am in almost $25,000 in debt with credit cards and loans that i had to take out to fix my only car.
I live about an hour and half away from all of my family and i am way to embarrassed to go to them and let them know the hole that i let this monster leave us in. I currently work 2 jobs and am still struggling to make sure all my bills are paid on time and that my son has food.
The main reason i am in so much debt is because we moved into a more expensive home, and he then proceeded to quit his job and look for something more “meaningful” for him. He found a job in sales and i supported him through it, i bought him the clothes he needed for the job and all the tools he would need. WELL this job brought us NO income whatsoever and i had to use credit cards to pay for bills and groceries and then to top it off our ONLY car broke down and needed a whole new engine.
That was the start of all my problems and my downfall. I basically let him take control of the money even though i was the breadwinner of the house. Fast forward $25,000 later and now he does not feel he should help me pay for any bills because its all under my name and he has decided to move to Colorado to start growing pot and claims once he gets his business going he will start sending me money for our son. I cant even put child support on him because he doesn’t work.
I am not asking for the full $25,000 but anything at this point would help. I just want to be able to work one job and go home to my son. He’s already lost one parent, he shouldn’t have to lose another. I was weak because i let him use me up and dump me once there was no more money. I am doing the best i can but i this point is just doesn’t seem like enough.