My name is Lauryn and despite a challenging upbringing, as well as becoming a mom at 19, I’ve been able to get through college and earn my Masters in Education. I work full time as an elementary educator. I have two wonderful children who I strive to provide a “normal” life for, whatever that really means. We live in a town with a great school district and they participate in sports and the arts. My father was an alcoholic and passed away a few years ago. I was able to use money that was left to me to put a down payment towards the house we now live in. Unfortunately, despite my full time career and part time work on weekends, I am drowning in student loan and credit card debt and barely making mortgage payments. I’ve tried so hard to stay away from using credit cards but when living paycheck to paycheck, it can be challenging when car problems, birthdays, etc occur. I’m at the point where I don’t think I can keep our house, which breaks my heart. We will likely have to move to a town with a not so quality school district and my children will have to leave the comfort of their friends and community behind. I feel like such a failure. As I write this I am at my summer job in tears thinking of my oldest son watching my daughter at home since I cannot afford camp or a babysitter. Meanwhile, our friends in town are attending fun summer events and vacations. All I’ve wanted is for my children to have the childhood I never did and it breaks my heart that they are feeling the stress of money. I’m tired of feeling like I cannot breath. I know that it could always be worse, I am reminded of this all of the time through my work in education as well as in the mental health field. This reality keeps me going and present for my children. I know that if I had the financial ability to help others and give back that I would. I hope if my story moves you that you can help in any way possible. Some day if I am able I surely will. Thanks for listening,
Being a single mother especially in today’s era can be extremely overwhelming. If you are one of those mothers who is doing it alone every day you know what I am talking about. It seems like the bills just continue to pile up and never end.
Researchers have said that just in 2015 year ending alone over 80 percent of the households in America that we’re single households we’re in fact ran by a FEMALE head of household which we’re mostly living very poor.
Many people may say well there is government assistance for them to get a grant but it’s hard to find and information regarding that said topic anywhere. So in hopes to help the single mothers out in the world this article will give you some insight on the different assistance topics we can cover including where and how to get a grant or scholarship. Also, you will read and see how simple it is to receive help with income expenses and medical insurance.
Are there really grants for a single mother?
Of course they do but these grants are not only for single mothers. However, that doesn’t mean there isn’t help for a mother to receive one. I know its mind boggling that the government hasn’t had any means created for money for a single mother that is actually in the shape of a grant. One thing the government does for a single mother is they assist them through a group or have set sponsors through a company, and sometimes they are covered by the actual income assistance completely.
Below are a few websites that will redirect you to free items that you can get just for registering on the website.
Low Income Assistance for Single Mothers / Government Grants
As I said there is not an official grant for a single mother available that is FEDERAL. However a single mother can go through federal programs and register and sign up for them. Those kinds of programs are usually for households with low income. Which means you would also qualify for Welfare. No matter what the case these are programs to help those who make below the limit and live poorly.
Below are different types of assistance based in the United States.
TANF – TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES
TANF is a crucial for many low income families located within the US.
With TANF you receive a small amount of cash every month that you can use toward your food, rent, and other necessities. However you only receive TANF for up to 60 month limit.
If you are a single mother and you have children in your home who are less than 19 years old you are eligible for TANF.
SNAP – SUPPLEMENTAL NUTRITION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Food-stamps or SNAP as other people may refer to is financial help for meals. You can receive money every month to place food on the table if you are on low or no income.
For most of Americans living in poverty SNAP is potentially the only assistance they can get.
Research has shown that in 2015 SNAP benefits have helped at least 45 million Americans. Most of the ones who receive the stamps are under are up to the age of 18.
When you go to use your benefits for SNAP you have your own personal debit card to ring your groceries up with at the register. If you are interested in trying to get on with SNAP benefits all you have to do is fill and application out and send it in or take it into a local office that deals with SNAP benefits.
NSLP – NATIONAL SCHOOL LUNCH PROGRAM
This is a program that gives free (or discounted) food to students whose parent’s income is bellow a poverty level. The income needs to be at least between 130-185 percent bellow the poverty line.
Most the time if a person is a receiver of SNAP benefits their children will be accepted into this program for free lunches. But, that doesn’t mean if you don’t have or receive SNAP that your children are disqualified.
You need to contact your child’s school to apply.
TEFAP – THE EMERGENCY FOOD ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Food for the American families who are in the poverty range not matter what the age.
If you have received food stamps before or any other program assisting you and helping you such as the ones in this article you could also be approved for this program.
You will need to contact your State distribution agency to learn more about the Emergency food assistance program.
Local Food Banks
A food bank doesn’t exactly fit into the whole “Grant” program area as it is actually a location in your town where you can get food if you are in need.
Do not allow you or your family to go without food. If you ever reach that trouble you can call 211 and ask them where the nearest food bank is based on your location.
More then 200 food banks exist with the feeding america foundation and they supply enough food to feed over 40 million people.
WIC – WOMEN, INFANTS AND CHILDREN PROGRAM
This program includes a package deal where you as a mother are able to receive healthy foods, whether you are pregnant or a new mother, and also to children who are 5 or under.
WIC is a program that is temporary and only used for a short amount of time – usually between 6 to 12 months.
EARLY HEAD START / HEAD START
These programs are for children up to 5 years old.
You can receive free child’s medical and dental care along with their schooling, and dietary needs.
Find your closes headstart office on their website or call at 1-866-763-6481.
Insurance for unemployment
This is a special program which will pay you weekly if you are unemployed and it had nothing to do with you for you being fired or let go. You will only be able to receive this benefit for maximum 26 weeks. Different states have different benefit rules. But most states will average out at about 45% of whatever the average weekly income is.
Single mothers who are out of a job temporarily can find solace with these benefits and can help make the burden less for themselves because this pay will restore what you have lost from losing your work.
If you want to try and get this started and opened for you, you will have to find your local unemployment office or apply on the website for this specific program. Most states will allow you to also try to sign up for this over the phone.
Section 8 housing
Section 8 is basically a program that helps a family be able to pay for their housing. If approved you will receive a voucher of up to 70 percent of your bills (utilities and rent). You are expected to pay the other 30 percent.
If you want to apply and feel you qualify you can get in touch with your local office involved with public housing, the HUD office.
CCAP – CHILD CARE ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
This is a benefit for families who can’t afford to place their children in daycare while working.
You still have to pay a certain percentage but it isn’t a big lump of money. The less you earn, the less you need to contribute.
EITC – Earned Income Tax Credit
It is a tax benefit for people with low income. You could potentially get as much as $6,000.
If you normally have a tax rate of $1050 but you are allowed $5550 then you get refund of $4500.
There is a Children’s Tax Credit too for as much as $1,000 for EACH child.
LIHEAP – LOW INCOME HOME ENERGY ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
LIHEAP is a program that is a one time help to help pay for heating / cooling expenses.Most of the time this is for the disabled or families with children or disabled person in the home.
If you need any extra information regarding this topic you can get in touch through the number 1-866-674-6327 or a local number for your local LIHEAP office.
WAP – WEATHERIZATION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Weatherization assistance program lowers energy bills for families in need. Usually the elderly and families involving children are accepted and put to the top of the list before all.
Your monthly income need to be below 200 percent poverty level.
To apply, find a local WAP center.
Medicaid
Medicaid is help with medical expenses. If you do not have health insurance this gives you certain benefits as long as your income restriction meets the level it should.
A lot of single mothers may meet the standards to be recipients of Medicaid even if you are unemployed.
Every state has different rules about Medicaid plans. You can find out exact requirements on this website.
Together with ObamaCare it ensures that even single mothers who didn’t receive any health benefits will now be able to have coverage.
CHIP – CHILDREN HEALTH INSURANCE
CHIP gives children without health insurance a chance to have health benefits all the way up until they are nineteen. It is for families whose income is too high to receive Medicaid benefits.
It provides every type of benefit you can think of — dental, eye exams, and even annual doctor’s exams.
Every state has its own rules. If you would like to learn a little more about this specific benefit you can call 1-877 Kids now (1-877-543-7669)
Federal Pell Grants
Aid program for students of up to $5,815 for those in need to be able to set foot into college.
This is the best opportunity for a mother who is single to finally be able to finish her schooling and finally continue in the workforce. The money is completely free of charge with no interest rates or paybacks ever.
You need to fill out an application and submit it for a pell grant and have it turned in on or before June 30th of every year.
Federal Supplemental Education Opportunity Grant
Similar to the Pell Grant. If you already have had pell grants and you are at the top of the charts in need you will be first on the list to receive this. Depending on a persons needs that are wrapped in with their financial struggle will ultimately decide who will receive anywhere between $100 too $4,000 annually.
Charities
Charities can be a way to seek help for you and your children whether you are in need of food or clothing or even housing. A lot of charities around the world actually have their own food banks that they run and they will give you bags of free food.
If you go to salvation army a lot of the times they will let you sleep there if you have no where else to go especially if it is a result of violence.
Churches
Most churches will offer you food and clothes or maybe even a place to stay if you have been recently kicked out by the one you are living with.
To find information on this you should look through your phone books local listing or yellow page. You can also research online and see what churches are available to your area and call them and ask what services they do offer.
Loans
Single moms can receive loans usually relatively quickly but I would not recommended that at all. You could potentially go into debt and not be able to rise back from that.
Sometimes you have no choice because you have to fix your broken car or maybe pay for utilities and food and need the help right then. But you have to be able to pay that loan realistically quick.
Pay attention to your credit because if you try to get a loan through a bank or anyone they will check your credit score and see if it is even available to be able to place a loan out to you. If it is a loan that is for payday loans or credit card advances they will not run a check but you will end up paying more after fees and costs.
Line of Credit
If your credit is decent some people ask a bank for a loan personally. Most of the time this is a better idea then asking for a payday loan because if you need quick money with lower rates of interest this is it.
Personal Loans
On a personal loan interest is lower dramatically but you have to pay in instalments. It doesn’t really fit criteria for an emergency. Normally if you just tell them you do not have any more funds and that is why you need this they will turn you away. If your credit is poor you will not be able to even touch this offer.
Short term (payday) loans
This is a very popular type of loan. You may know it by the term “Cash advance.” The interest runs really high on these and it is a loan that is only for a small time frame.
This is a loan that would more then likely be considered if a problem arises and you needed to repair your car or had a disastrous dental emergency. You have to know for sure you will be able to give every penny back.
If you do not pay this type of loan back you could be in loads of trouble financially.
Credit card cash advance
Do you own a credit card? If so you will be able to get money from a bank as easy as 1, 2, 3. This is not a method that is highly praised though because as soon as you start taking money out of the bank the interest keeps rising and you also are charged for using and pulling out of the bank a fee. This is potentially the easier options if you do need cash asap but you have to pay it back and make sure you absolutely can.
When it is all said and done grants will not solve your money issues within your home if that is what you expect. To get a grant is definitely not easy it isn’t a walk in the park by any means.
If you are looking to get a more stable source of financially being stable you should probably look in areas around you or find a women shelter until you can get back up on your feet.
If you think you have all the time in the world you can apply for other areas of assistance such as Food stamps, HUD, and etc. They do take a lot of time and effort for someone to get back with you and let you know if you have been accepted and enrolled. Try finding a part time working job as a way to financially start becoming stable again.
The moral of this is you can not expect a grant to fall into your hands without effort and take all your worries away. They are only here too do one thing and that doesn’t usually fix anything with your financial setting.
This is all on you and what you decide, no one else can decide for you.
Back on Track!
Hello. I am hoping that this works to help me with a crazy situation in life, that I have gotten myself into. I am obviously i’m desperate need or else I don’t think I would have written on a random site asking for money. I am in need of $2500.00. Yes, that amount sounds like a lot but let me explain.
First off I am a single mother of two adorable little ladies. Last year, I wouldn’t have thought that I would end up in this situation of being a single mom yet again nearly nine years later. I have a 9 year old and a now, 16 month old. I am usually pretty well with money but these past couple months my youngest daughter’s father decided that he no longer wanted to pay child support. Immediately not receiving that money put me in a bind. I had not only a childcare payment but also my rent, car note, insurance, food, cell phone, etc. You get the hint.
The next month I did not receive a payment, I had to dip into my children’s savings account to pay some of the bills, but food, diapers, utilities and summer camp activities for the kids while I was at work. I ended up miscalculating a few bills that were minimal but totally added up badly. This caused me to overdraft my account by well over $807.00. All the overdraft fees really chewed up anything and everything in my sad account. I tried to fix it by taking money from one account to the other but it obviously was a bust. I dug a deeper hole. Not to mention over the 4th of July, I purchased food. Soooo, most recently I also overdrafted my kids savings account. I feel horrible and I am just wanting, nay, begging for some assistance with getting back on track financially. I have also put in applications for a second job, I am adamant about making money no matter my sacrifice (like sleep).
With $2000.00, I will be able to pay off all my overdraft fees and put the money that I used back in my kids account. Along with all of that I will also be able to possibly give a lawyer a retainer so that I can get custody of my daughter and enforce her father to pay future child support and the payments that he has neglected. So please help me. I have even resorted to entering in a bunch of sweepstakes in hopes of winning anything that would help. Thank you so much, Jazz.
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Struggling Single Parent
Thank you for taking the time out to read my story. I have never went around searching for ways to ask for money before but this was my last option I could turn to so I hope this website is legit. Posting my struggles on the internet is not something I would usually do, but I’m at a really low point in my life and could really use some extra help.
I am currently a struggling college student and soon to be mom. I am pregnant with my first three babies at the same time (yes I’m having triplets) and that comes with a big responsibility that I am not prepared for I am currently twenty-two and dealing with eviction on my home because I currently am not able to work, therefore I am losing my home because I can’t keep up with the bills or rent and I don’t have anywhere else to go to provide for my babies. I am a single parent with no help nor support system, I am doing everything I can so I don’t have to give them away because they will be born soon.
Also I am in debt of twelve thousand dollars in college funds because I haven’t been able to pay on it since I’ve gotten pregnant I was spending all of my money on food and clothes for the babies. I never thought that when I gotten pregnant that I was going to end up being alone or having to do it by myself, but since that’s the case of what’s happening I’ve been trying to think positive about this whole situation. Once I pay off my school debt I will be able to apply for a couple of online classes until I can afford daycare. I want to continue my education and working hard until I can get back on my feet.
If there is anyone out there reading my story please help me as I am in this low point in my life. I don’t want to be homeless in a couple of weeks and stranded starving or having my babies taken away all because of debt and bills payments I cannot currently make. I would like to thank each and every person who donated to my story and can relate to what I am currently going through, anything that is donated will be greatly appreciated for me and my new family to come.
Single mom of two needs help!
Good day friends and hello! First of all thank you for giving me some of your time by clicking the link and hearing my story. I appreciate you!
I am a single momma of two young kiddos. They’re four and a half and six years old. My kids are my life, my world and everything in it! Without them I probably wouldn’t be humbling myself and asking for donations.
We’re hungry! We need a safe place to live. They need all kinds of things that I’m unable to adequately provide them right now.
The reason I’m in such a pickle, yes I work a full time job, is that I’m going through a divorce from their dad. He’s abusive, he’s mean, he lies, he drinks and does drugs and he’s just downright horrible! It hasn’t always been this way, he just started hanging with the wrong crowd. A crowd I don’t want anywhere near my kids or I. We rented a home which the lease was about to expire. It was our home for 6 years. I took the initiative to go out and purchase a home for the kids and I to live. A safe place away from his insanity, a place where the kids and I didn’t have to worry about him, a place where we can once again be ourselves and relax. Things were looking up for us, my mom sold her house and moved from out of state to live with us and help me with the kids. This is where things took a turn for the worst.
Mom was paying my attorney bills and I was able to keep my head above water. She comes out here and turns into a completely different person, her dog takes priority over the kids, her drinking is in excess. She’s unwilling to help with anything at all! She complains about me working long hours all because it interferes with her being able to get drunk! She’s rude to my kids, all they want to do is get to know her better. She’s staying at my house under my roof while I pay all the bills, buy all the food, and she thinks I should pay her for whatever it is she does all day. Since she’s been living with me she refuses to pay anymore attorney bills so I can finally cut all ties with future ex husband. In fact the reason she refuses to help me with the attorney bills is because she had too much to drink and passed out at like 9pm, I had to work the next morning, the kids were completely wound up that night for some reason and it was 3am and they were still up! I had to get up at 5:30am to work and out of complete desperation I called future ex husband to come get the kids so I could get at least 2 hours of sleep! He had no food in his house so I gave him $20 to feed the kids. She found out and completely cut me off financially. Now, I have a $1000.00 attorney Bill I’m unable to pay because feeding my kids on what little money I have takes priority. My car tags were due 2 months ago for another $400, I have a $500 dental bill that’s about to go to collections and I just can’t afford it anymore. It’s so depressing.
All I’m asking is for a little help with these things so I can feed my kids and not get my wages garnished while giving my all to stay above water. I work, I work hard, I work overtime when it’s available, I do all the household chores, Mom is moving at the end of this month and I don’t even know how I’m going to afford childcare! I’ve listed everything I own on eBay. I cook meals rather than buy fast food, I go hungry often so that my kids can eat. I’m stressed out to the max and I don’t know what our future looks like at this point.
Anything you can help with is more than appreciated!! Thank you for reading this, may God bless you. I always pay things forward ❤️
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Does Anyone Care Enough to Feed Us?
My kids are hungry and I have no one to help me. I have suffered from depression and anxiety for some time now. I lost my Father in a brutal and violent way a few years ago. It caused me to fall apart and mentally, I could not handle it.
After that, I lost my job because I could not deal with life. I shut down and just lost myself. I ended up ready to end my life but God would not allow it. I then ended up receiving medical help and treatment so that I could be there for my kids who need me. If something happens to me, there is no one else to love them and take care of them like I do.
I am on the right track again to taking care of myself and mentally, I am doing better. But during those few years, I lost a lot financially. I am now having extreme financial hardship and am begging for someone to help us.
Although I finally have been given the permission to work again by my doctor, I do not have enough money right now to feed my kids or have gas to get to work.
I am heartbroken and embarrassed to even ask. But is there someone out there with a heart, someone loving who could allow me to borrow money for food and gas? I am working and I am also taking college courses to better myself and find a better job once I have my degree.
If I could just have some money to feed my kids. I don’t even care about the gas to get to work, I can walk. But please, allow me to have just a little money to feed them and until I get my check at the end of the month. I can then pay you back. I don’t make much but I can pay you back in payments if I don’t have enough all at once.
I beg you, please help me feed my children. I have 2 children at home who are very hungry and I do not have anymore money to feed them. Rent was due and if I fall behind, we will lose our home.
Thank you so much. And if no one can help, it’s ok. May God bless you just for listening. I know it will get better for us. This too shall pass.
Take care, Mariquita
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Hardworking mom needs your help!
Good day guys! I’m giving this a shot to see what i can make happen. At least I can be optimistic, right? I’ve always believed the glass is half full, I’m so grateful for everything I have and I keep my family (kids) close. I protect them at all costs! I have a four and a half year old daughter and a six year old son. They’re my calm, my motivation, my world and everything in it! I Love my children more than anything in the world. Looking at them is actually what motivated me to humble myself and let the world know what’s going on.
The good: So I’m trying very hard to make ends meet. It’s not easy. My kids keep me going. I work a full time job plus overtime when it’s available. I work in tech support for a large company. I’ve been at my job going on 9 years now. I love my job most of the time my day consists of getting up at 5:15am to get ready for the day. I drive my older model vehicle to work. Ninety percent of the time the kids are still sleeping. I go to work, my shift ends at 5:15. I get home around 6pm and make dinner, bathe the kids and we hang out for a bit while I do chores before going to bed. Next day rinse and repeat.
Im in the process of divorcing my husband, my kids dad attorneys are NOT cheap! Yes, I learned this very quickly! My elderly mother was helping me pay the attorney bills as they came. I’m divorcing my Husband due to his excessive laziness, drunkenness and drive use. He is also abusive, really only verbally, but shakes his fists in my face when he’s had too much to drink, smoke, snort, shoot, whatever it is he does. I’m quite afraid of him, truth be told. Him and I rented a house together for 6 years. I decided, since the lease would be expiring soon, that it would be best if I moved with the kids elsewhere so I purchased a home. It’s nothing big and fancy but suits our needs (the kids and I) well. It’s cozy and the jerk is out of the picture.
My elderly mother sold her house, she moved in with me from out of state to help with the kids. She is anything BUT helpful! Since she’s been here it’s been non stop drama. She drinks more alcohol than my soon to be ex husband. Yes she helps with the kids some but also complains that i should be paying HER! Excuse me but you are living in MY house rent free! Remember me saying she was paying my attorney bills? Yeah well that came to a halt when my soon to be ex husband was to watch the kids the next day with NO food in his house. I gave him $20 to buy the kids some food, she found out and immediately cut me off from paying my attorney bills. The attorney bills are piling up, my older model vehicle is two months past due for tags, my first mortgage payment is due, it’s like I’m being hit with sooo many things at once! All I want to do is afford my divorce which is so close to being done so I can get rid of the jerk future ex husband once and for all and and the kids and I can live our lives in peace! I’m not asking for a miracle here but anything you can afford to help me with is so beyond appreciated! I work hard to make sure my kids have food and clothes and a safe place to call home that I’ve put everything else on the back burner. I currently owe $1000 to my attorney, my car tags are $361. Those are my two most pressing bills at the moment. I barely have any food to eat, I make sure my kids bellies are full before I even think about feeding myself. Its quite embarrassing really.
Please, if you can help I promise to pay it forward. I know I’m a total stranger but I’m honest and coming to you asking for help.
Thank you, god bless!
Trying to remain positive.
Hi, my name is Kristen and I am 31 years old. I am a single mother of 2 amazing boys that are 6 and 11 and that I absolutely adore. I recently completed my coursework for a degree in accounting and I work as a pharmacy technician. My student loans being paid back are the biggest thing I am struggling with the most at the moment while trying to pay all other bills and providing for my children as well. While I was attending school I chose to move myself and my boys in to live with my mom. I would like to move out again as soon as I can but this student loan is making it feel impossible. I am a very positive person and rarely ask for help. I am really in need and would appreciate any help at all. Thank you in advance.
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Life keeps making this single mother strong but she just needs a little help to regroup and get things back on track.
I’m 26 years old and I’m a single mother to two boys. Their dad and I were together for almost five years. During that time, I was a stay-at-home mother. My oldest had health issues and we had one car, so my ex worked. He was really controlling and eventually became abusive. So, I became depressed and when he left me in 2016 two days after I had my youngest son, I was almost 300 pounds. I lived with my grandmother for two months while I continuously looked for work. To help with the depression I walked a minimum six miles a day. Most days I walked eight or more miles. I’d load the kids up in the stroller and we’d just walk around the lake and dirt roads. At the end of everyday I’d put my babies to bed and take a walk by myself to just clear my mind. I eventually landed the job of my dream at the plasma center. I worked there for 2016 until March of 2019 when I had to make one of the hardest decisions of my life. I was getting mistreated and bullied by a manager and co-workers. Other employees were too. We all resigned at the same time. They held a week back when I started so that next check, I was determined to move out my grandmothers. I worked 120 hours in 10 days so I could get my boys and I a home. And I did in September of 2016 we moved into a small trailer. Even though it wasn’t much I was so proud because I did it on my own. I moved up quick in the company. I’ve been surrounded by the medical field my whole life. It’s my passion. I love helping people. It’s who I am as a person. I’ve continuously had to struggle being a single mother. Their dad doesn’t help, and I recently started child support which I’m not receiving any. I’m so tired of having to struggle. I want to be successful in life, I know I will be something great, and most importantly my kids won’t have to live a life like this. They’ll at least have a mother that can help support them achieve their goals and always be by their side. My managers at the plasma center worked extremely hard with me to get me where I am. I was faced with many difficult battles with co-workers just because of my age and the fact that I achieved higher titles than they had. I’m driven to succeed, and nobody will get in that way. I had passion for what Grifols did and I loved being a phlebotomist. I was confident in my abilities and I made it known. A lot of my donors wouldn’t let anyone else stick them. I was proficient in easing the fears or anxiety they may have had for the donation process. I also went back to college in August of last year for nursing. I have not made it into the program yet, I’m finishing up my pre-courses. I’m also taking medical coding, billing and insurance classes plus healthcare leadership and business management classes. It’s very difficult to take all these classes together a long with nursing. But I know I can do it. At the beginning of this year my world has fell apart. January 6th, my birthday, I lost my Nana, who raised helped me. The bond we had was irreplaceable. She developed Alzheimer’s and of course I helped take care of her cause that’s what she did for me. It was very painful to watch her go through that. The last time I went seen her she didn’t know who I was and that killed a part of me. She always knew me; I was her sunshine. I was the last one that she forgot. I couldn’t bring myself to go back in there. I’d go up there and sit in the parking lot. The workers would see me and come out to comfort me telling me that it was okay. I found another job at the end of march at a restoration company here. I immediately started having issues with the manager. I lost my grandfather that I’ve been helping my grandmother take care of since 2013. He had a stroke and became disabled on his right side. He wasn’t my blood, but my Papa Joe passed away when I was three so he’s the only one I knew. I loved him so much. I made sure to do everything the way he asked me to. The day I lost him I texted her to let her know. She said she never received the message and that I needed to bring her my key and work shirts. I told her I was sorry and sent her the message I had sent and re-let her know what was wrong. She had no sympathy. I called a co-worker and she stated that she felt like she was just trying to get me out of there and that she’s been out to get me. I’ve applied for positions in the hospitals and doctors’ offices around my town. I’ve had many interviews for medical assistant positions in the hospital here and four are still open. I’m one of the leading candidates and it’s taking them a while to decide. I do not have the MA certificate but my experience and skills over qualify me for the position. I also have three more interviews set up for the next two weeks. A friend moved in with me to help me because this year has been rough. He was supposed to be my best friend. He up and left me out of nowhere with two months’ rent due and a third month rolling around. We split bills, he paid rent and I paid everything else since there was three of us. He worked for my landlord which is my neighbor. He has a fifteen-year-old. He’s my third son. He tells everyone I’m his mom and that I do more for him than his mom ever has in the year and a half I’ve lived here. I take him to all his JROTC, cross county, track, baseball practices and games. I’m there every late-night heartbreak, waking up not feeling good, I stay on top of his school stuff, I have all the calendars for everything. He shouldn’t have to miss out on being a teenager and all these great opportunities he has going for him. I started raising my sister at six because my parents choose streets, drugs, and other people over us. I can at least help fill that spot in his heart a little bit, so he doesn’t feel the pain I’ve felt. My landlord is an awesome man because he saw everything that happened and said he’d work with me. He had my back when even my family turned theirs. He works hard to help me. I’ve paid all but 400 but a new month rolled around so that put me at owing $1000. I still have other bills and my babies to take care of. With college and the fact that I’m trying so hard to succeed and everything is falling apart has made me so tired. My family doesn’t help and have turned their backs on me. My grandparents raised me, and I only have one left. I must take care of her, she can’t live by herself anymore, especially being she just lost her second husband. I must start planning and researching how to get a trailer big enough for her, the kids and me. The trailer she’s in is falling apart and not safe for her. The land will eventually be mine. She also helped raised me so now it’s my time to take care of her. I watched her go downhill taking care of him for six years. I’m in a lot of pain right now. I’m tired. I need help getting things caught up so I can slow down, re-group and get everything back together. I can’t believe everything has happened like this. But that’s a lot for one person to deal with by herself. I’m not perfect and mistakes get made sometimes. I always learn from them. Even when I want to give up, I know I can’t. My three kids are watching me and depend on me.
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Mom of 3 living in a nightmare
I am a mom of 3 amazing children, and I am basically being held hostage by the man I once loved.
I am 32 years old, and I met my husband when we were 15. We had our first son when we were 18, got married, and we were a normal family. (or so I thought). For the next several years we continued to build a life together. We bought a house, had 2 more kids, I had a nice car that fit the whole family, and I had worked my way up to being a district manager with a decent salary for a QSR franchise.
That’s when things in my marriage started to fall apart. My husband was starting to drink all the time and he became very mentally abusive. It happened gradually over the course of a few years, and when I just couldn’t be the only one at home trying to keep my family together anymore, I told him I wanted a divorce, so he moved out.(not a huge adjustment because he was rarely ever home before midnight by that time). After about 2 weeks he came back and told me he was sorry and he knew he had a problem, but he was going to fix everything. He said we needed a fresh start and he needed to get away from all the bad influences in his life. So he convinced me to pack up my whole life and move across the country. We didn’t have very much equity in our house, so when we moved we were back to renting. I made the best of it, found a job equal to what I had been doing before, and was settling in to our new life. That lasted about 6 months. One day out of the blue, he said he just couldn’t be there anymore. He said we were too far away from our family, and the kids needed to be closer to their cousins and grandparents. He said I shouldn’t worry because he knew what was important now and if we came home, things would still be ok with our marriage. So once again I agreed to upend my life and move back across the country.
When we got back, we stayed with family for a week or so, until he got home from work one day and told me he had found a place to rent. He had gotten a job making good money, and told me I could be a stay at home mom if I wanted to be able to spend more time focusing on the kids. A short time later, he came home with a new truck and said it was a surprise for me. He had gotten rid of our SUV and gotten the truck for me instead. I was so happy. I had my husband back, I was spending more time with my kids, and I had a new truck. Things were starting to really look great. I WAS SO WRONG!! I had absolutely no idea what was really going on and what was about to happen.
It was like a switch flipped, and all the light in my world went away. My husband had me right where he wanted me and I didn’t even know it. He quickly turned into someone I didn’t even know. The drinking came back with a vengeance, and he was horrible to me. He came home late every single night, left every weekend, and only talked to me if he was calling me names or letting me know how worthless I was. I was not going to put up with that crap again, so I decided I was going to leave him. But…..I realized I couldn’t. I had been manipulated into giving up every single resource I once had.
So now I am living in a nightmare. I gave up my job, my car, my home. I am not allowed to have my own keys to the truck, or a bank card. I am stuck in the house 90% of the time. When I have to go get food or do anything I have to beg him to use his truck and his bank card. And then he will tell me how much Im allowed to spend and he even times how long it takes me until I get back. I’m also not allowed to go anywhere by myself so I have to have at least one of the kids with me at all times. He has told me that if I leave, he will make sure he gets full custody of my kids since I have nothing to offer them and no way to take care of them right now. I do everything in my power to hide the reality of my situation from my kids, because that is not something they should have to worry about. So I carry all of my pain and fear and helplessness silently. I am trapped and I don’t know what to do. I need to be financially able to escape this situation with my kids nd not be afraid of him being able to have them taken from me for not being able to take care of them until I get back on my feet. I never though I would be in this position. I thought I was living the American dream, and I was really having everything including my freedom taken from me by a monster manipulator. Any help is appreciated more than you could ever know. I just need to get myself and my kids in a safe situation and be able to take care of them until I can find a new job. I will be having to start over with basically nothing but some clothes until Im completely out from under my husbands control and able to get back to work and get divorced. Please please, this is my last hope.
paypal.me/krc0915
Struggling family trying to make ends meet
My name is Cari and I am a 27 year old mother of two. I have been struggling financially for quite some time and have exhausted most of my options. I am currently about $7,000 in debt (mostly medical) which has left me with a poor credit score and unable to get any kind of loan. I am two months behind on my rent, with my eviction notice to be sent out after next week if I do not pay $455 by July 11. My electric bill, gas bill, and internet bill are all two months past due. My phone bill, car payment and insurance are all due in the next two weeks and I simply do not have the money or time to play catch up. My phone is currently broken and do not have the extra money to fix it, so I am unable to do things like Uber, etc. for extra cash flow. I have been working full time consistently, until I ran into a slew of medical problems in the month of April. My time off work and in the hospital set me back so far financially, I do not think it is possible for me to ever get ahead without some kind of loan or donation. I am back to work full time now, but all of the money I am making is going right back out to past due bills, and I just cannot catch up. My daughter’s first birthday is in less than four weeks and I will not be able to afford even a cake for her. I sit here with $2.98 in my bank account, needing to decide between buying diapers or baby wipes, when I need both. I have recalculated my budget over and over again, cutting down to the bare essentials and we can barely afford that right now. I am a very hard working mom, I am very diligent with my budget and finances, and I help my local community by donating things I no longer need and I am a regular volunteer at the local humane society. I try to be as giving as I can, even when I am struggling to get by. But now it is my turn to ask for help.
I have applied for just about every loan I could find, and have been turned away time and time again because of my credit. I have no issue paying someone back or even paying it forward! I believe there is a blessing out there for everyone. I am hoping it is my turn for one.
Need help and fresh start ASAP
I was a fool and struggled with a man for 7 years because I thought he would eventually get counselling and be the man I thought he was. I was wrong. He became very involved in illegal activities and eventually started abusing me (even as far as pushing me out of my vehicle and trying to run me over, then stole everything I had while I was trying to make an honest living by working 6-7 days a week at 9-13 hours per day. I was stuck in co-dependency and feel so foolish for allowing this to happen to me.
I tried to contact his family to help him, and they pinned the blame on me. His mother even said I probably hit him first and only his sister (who I raised from age 11) believed me as she saw first hand the damage and pain I was enduring. I had built this entire life up just for it to be thrown out in a matter of 3 months draining my bank account and savings.
His sister is now 19 years old, and also in an abusive situation in which I want to take her with me when I start fresh so she can begin her life much earlier than I was able to. I feel obligated to help her. I do not drink, party or spend my money foolishly.
I feel humiliation in even begging for help like this but I need to move and begin a new life. I need help paying my loan payments, credit card payments and to help me move to a different city to start fresh. I work hard, I am a loving mother but I just cannot seem to get ahead and I refuse to do anything illegal to obtain the money I am seeking. Even if I have to pay it back to my donar, I will find a way to through monthly payments and budgeting.
I need someone to take a chance on me please. I am a great conversationalist, I can email back and forth, I will write a letter explaining my situation further. Whatever is needed of me, unless it is humiliating or illegal. I just want to get a good start on providing the best life I can for my son, my (informally adopted) little sister and my two cats.
Please, I will take any help I can. Thank you in advance.
https://paypal.me/spmomma
Help Childrens’ Extra Curricular & Bill Help
Hello. I’m a 29 year-old mother to two smart and talented children. My son just turned nine years old and he is wise beyond his years. He struggles with bullying because of how different he is from the other children. They just don’t understand him. I live in Hawaii and the cost of living is so incredibly high. I try to keep up with bills/extra curricular activities. I can’t afford to send my son to a private school, so I try to incorporate other things into his routine. He’s currently in piano lessons. I bought him a violin as well, but I need to hold off on those lessons because I just can’t afford it. Also, my three year-old daughter just asked to “play piano with my brother.” It’s very challenging as a mother, (and main financial source), to keep up with these things that aren’t a necessity, but stimulate my children’s minds. My husband and I are separated and he is trying to start up a business. He has no income as of now. I pay for all of the kids’ needs. Any help would be sooo appreciated! I work full time as a scrub tech for a surgery center. I pay $600/mo just for my kids’ health insurance. I am not, and NEVER have been on welfare. Just a side note: any single person making less than $65,300 in Hawaii is considered low income. A family of four making less than $93,000 annually is also considered low income. I APPRECIATE YOU FOR EVEN TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS!!! Aloha & Mahalo!
Single Mom of 2 & DV Survivor
For the last 4 years of my life, I have been abused by the father of my youngest child. I’ve faced multiple near death experiences and have walked around black and blue almost every day for the last 3 years. After the first year of my relationship, I learned that the man I planned on spending the rest of my life with is a heavy drug addict, abusing every drug imaginable, but his DOC was heroin, which is, in my opinion, the most world wrecking drug of them all. In the first year, everything was great. But once the drugs came into our lives, he became a completely different person. He was a cheater, a liar, and the most violent person I have ever met. When I looked into his eyes, I really believed I was looking directly into the devils eyes. My kids witnessed more than I even want to admit, because they shouldn’t have had to witness anything at all. I had an encounter with CYFD because of the domestic violence, and came extremely close to losing my babies. That alone should have gotten me away from the evil trap I was in, but he refused to let go. I knew needed to get away from him and remove him from my life, and I never believed it when I heard other girls say it, but it really is easier said than done. At first, I was at the stupid girl phase (excuse my lack of a better way to say it); I didn’t want to give up on him, I thought he loved me. I thought he needed me and I will be able to save him from the demons that took over his life when he allowed the drug into his life. But I soon learned, only you can save you from yourself. I couldn’t help him if he wasn’t looking for help. Then, I was at the stage where I let him make me feel guilty for giving up on him. He would cry his eyes out because no one else would care what was happening to him, and he would ask me how I was going to explain to my daughter that her daddy overdosed because her mommy walked away from him and left him alone. And last, the blackmail stage came into place. He would use every little thing he could possibly find wrong with me to blackmail me. He would threaten me, my family, and even my children if I even thought about leaving him. He threatened to turn me into CYFD for things I knew I wasn’t even doing, but I was so afraid of losing my children, I let him brainwash me. So there was always a reason why I couldn’t leave him. But finally, I broke free. I had to finally put my foot down and realize that even if he did try to black mail me or try to turn me in to CYFD or threaten myself or my family, I had to remove him from my life, I would just need to prepare myself for all the above situations, so that’s exactly what I did. I made the police aware of the threats that i was facing if I were to leave him, that way they could be prepared for what was going to come, and all I could do was hope that the police would see what kind of person I really am, despite the picture he tried to paint of me. And it worked, I am finally free!
In the last year of my relationship, he became the worst I could ever imagine. He was so paranoid, and so suspicious. I wasn’t ever allowed to leave his sight because he was so sure I was cheating on him or trying to leave him. He even thought I was cheating on him with my cat! So because of his insecurities, I was not allowed to have a job, because he needed to keep me close to make sure I wasn’t doing anything wrong. And even when I was with him EVERY MINUTE EVERY SINGLE DAY, he still thought I was cheating if I walked into a different room, or if I refused to shower with him. Being unable to work, I fell extremely far behind on all of my bills. My car, my apartment, my utilities, everything. I am currently on an appeal bond because I was recently evicted from my apartment, but my grandmother helped me pay the appeal bond to take the eviction case to a higher court. And I have still fallen behind on my rent, and am struggling to catch back up. I am hoping to be able to raise enough money to bring my bills current before I am evicted from my apartment because my children and I absolutely love our home and would be devastated if we do end up having to leave our home. I am asking for and appreciate any donations, big or small, just to be able to get back on my feet after finally being able to escape the evil that has been holding me back for so long. I’m not asking for help for myself; but for my 2 baby girls. Because after the horrible things that they have had to witness, and the hell they have had to face because I was too weak to walk away, I want to give them everything that they could ever wish for, because they deserve it and I owe it to them. My baby girls are 5 and soon to be 3 coming up in August, and they are my whole entire life and more; they gave me a reason to live every single day even when I felt like dying, I looked into their eyes and remembered what my purpose was.. and that is to be their mommy and to show them what love really is and to teach them that what they saw their mommy go through is not what any woman should have to go through and they should never settle for someone who hurts them. I want to show them that they deserve the world and so much more, and they should never settle for anything less.
Thank you in advance ❤️
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Vera
I am in desperate need of help to get out of an abusive relationship. I will start my story from the beginning. When I met my abuser I was working at a Wendy’s franchise,he was also working there..At first he was very charming and sweet.. Offering to help me out with my homeless situation in which he offered me to move into his home..At first I refused his offer,considering I had only known him a few months,but as time went on we became closer and I eventually moved into his home..Soon after I moved in the abuse started at first it was only verbal to the point where I ignored it thinking he was “just angry”,at the time and didn’t really mean what he said..Then after that he became abusive..The first time he he busted my nose and sent me flying across the floor He later apologized but I was completely humiliated. Since I had no where to go stayed. The second time he hit me He swelled my eye shut as he hit me with all his might leaving me with a black eye for several weeks..After that he didn’t hit me for a while so I felt like maybe he had changed so I brought my children “not his kids”, to stay with us at his house for a week because of me being homeless I was letting them stay with their grandmother until I found a place to live..but I wanted desperately to spend time with them since I hadn’t had any to place to take my children..He was nice at first but after a few days he started fighting with me in front of them to the point where I had to flee his home with them.So after I took my children back to their grandmother he called my phone repeatedly begging me to come back telling me how sorry he was, so I believed him and came back to him again..About a week later I received a call from CPS telling me I had a court date..They told me that since I was in abusive relationship my children we’re not allowed to be around me unsupervised and that I would have to take domestic violence classes..I was once again humiliated that this man was the cause of my kids being taken away from me. I felt so stupid for even bringing my kid around him but yet this was someone I trusted and thought would never hurt me..A few months after I received news that my father was not doing so well health wise,so I decided to stay at his home to help him out..He had gone blind from diabetes type 2 so he needed around the clock care…My abuser had a big problem with this since I wasnt going to be living with him full time..He would call my phone all times of the night begging me to come back to his house even though my father needed me more than him.My father died not long after that and I didn’t have any money to bury him so I had to have him cremated.Do not having any money or anywhere to go I went back to my abuser..The abuse became worse and worse,He put a gun to my head threaning to kill busted both my eyes up,busted my lips, repeatedly punched me in my back til I had bruises all over me. I had a funeral picture of my dad he threatened to burn it and cursed at my deceased dad.I mean he has been nothing but the devil and I have felt trapped..He’s brainwashed me to the point where I feel like I will never get away from him..A little while later I found a good job at a hospital so I could stand on my own two feet and finally get away from him.He kept calling up to my job telling a bunch of lies on me and got me fired..Now I have no job and I’m still stuck with this horrible man 2 yrs later. All I need is $900.00 to move in to my apartment and escape this monster once and for all..I will thank God and whomever helps me everyday.
Single Mom Camp Fire Victim
Hello. I’m not sure who will see this or where to start. I’ll try my best to explain my situation.
I am the Mother of two boys, one who is two years old and one who is now 6months old. A few months ago I was 8 months pregnant. I had a beautiful healthy pregnancy and a baby with great vitals. Until one random day in Paradise California. The day of the Paradise Campfire that not only destroyed our home but our entire town and everything we knew as well. My son and I woke up to a pitch black sky at around 8 AM. I won’t get into too much detail about what happened after I had turned on the news and realized the severity of the situation. But sometime during the panic, I decided to go outside and water the property so that any falling embers wouldn’t put me and my family in a compromising situation. Between my two elderly grandparents and my small child, I was the only adult physically capable of doing so at the time despite me being a pregnant woman. While I was watering outside there were two explosions. One was our local gas station just a few blocks down and the other I believe was a home. At this moment my pre-term labor was triggered. While we were escaping we got stuck on the only evacuation road for around 3 hours. During the time we were stuck on the road my son would give a violent cough which later turned into a lung infection and I was having a panic attack while in labor.
Once we escaped the fire I had to walk myself 2miles to the hospital ( I have hospital records as proof). Once I Checked myself into Enloe hospital they had to pump me with meds for two days to get my adrenaline down and make my body once again safe for my unborn child. It was as if I had just escaped a war zone. Unfortunately after losing everything I’ve ever known I was still stuck with a whopping 34,000+ hospital bill. Luckily my insurance paid half so I only have around 15,000+ left to pay. My mother scammed me out of getting money from FEMA by claiming me and not giving me any of the money she received. 6 months later and I’m still trying to revive my family’s new life from the ashes. It’s almost impossible to work due to having two children and breastfeeding.
I’ve been trying so hard but my steam is running out. Before the fire, I was making the best life I could as a young single mother. A home, furniture, clothes, and toys. I had it all. Only for all my 3 years of hard work to be ripped from me in one morning. I won’t ask for a specific amount. I’m grateful for what anyone can spare. I’m not even sure if this is legit but I’m getting desperate and I can’t do things all by myself anymore.
Single mom
I am a struggling single mother who needs help. My 14-year-old daughter and I live alone and try to make it check by check. Recently things have gotten worst. I’m a diabetic and about 3 months ago, I’ve gotten my leg cut off a little below the knee. I have no car, job, and on top of that a shy, lazy teenager. I try to get her out of her comfort zone to help out a little, but we’re getting nowhere. Medical bills are stacking up and I’m so overwhelmed. She actually has been diagnosed with diabetes herself last year in September. Family down here won’t help and it’s hard to survive out here. My daughter recently started acting out because of all of this. Someday’s when there might not be any food in the kitchen, she’ll go out all night and won’t tell me where she’s been. I’ve caught her talking to an older guy and I’m having suspicions that she’s not up to any good. I want to be able to provide for her so she doesn’t feel like she has to do things like that. It just feels like I can never get a break. I do try to do things to earn a little extra money, but now it just feels like I’m in way too deep. Bills are piling up like crazy. I have to take care of my daughter and her needs. I have needs I need to take care of. Any little help would be GREATLY appreciated. I will continue to go through this one step at a time, hopefully, things will get better. I know it’s my fault my life is like this, but I’m actually trying to turn it around. I signed up for a local community college. I still have to find a way to make it up there everyday though. I believe everything will fall in place, I just need a little help to get me there. At this point, I’m just afraid life is going to throw another obstacle at me. My lifestyle has ruined everything. I hate the fact that my daughter feels like she won’t even be able to go to college because of us being poor. My choices has affected everyone around me and I’m so sorry about that; However, I have been making an attempt to turn it around. This donation isn’t for luxuries, it’s just so that we can get by while we’re still going through the storm.
Single mother needing help with bills!
Hey guys!
I’m a single mom, with a four year old boy. It’s a little tough these days to live on a single income, and unfortunately I’m not lucky enough to have family to turn to for help when I need it. I’m reaching out to you guys to ask for help with getting our bills paid. We don’t really have anything extra so I can’t cut out anything to make it easier on us. I have been working hard lately getting delinquent accounts on my credit reports paid off so that I can move my son and I into a house in a decent neighborhood and get him into a safe school by next year. So, as I’ve been paying off settlement debts to pave the way for a better life for us, it’s caused us to fall a little short on bills right now, like rent and daycare. Those are the two hardest things to manage because of course they are the two largest bills. I pay $1000 a month on rent for a 1 bedroom apartment where my son and I live. Then I pay $680 a month on daycare. With all of the other bills, our monthly expenses add up to about $3300, and I only make $2400/monthly at my full time job. I’m not able to get a second job because I can’t afford the extra childcare costs that it would require. I’ve tried doing things on the side such as Lyft or Uber for the past three years but it’s a dangerous job, especially for females. It’s not a risk I want to take anymore. If you could please help us with whatever you’re able to, it would be GREATLY appreciated. Thank you!
Help me reach the light, please
Hi, I’m a single mom of 2 fantastic kids. I do my best by them always, they are the lights of my life and the beats of my heart. I got into some trouble with student loan debt, while I was in school I was married to a not so great guy, he took out a lot of student loans and stuck me with them in our dissolution. On top of the subsidized student loans that went to my education itself I’m just drowning in debt. I went to school to be a veterinary technician, I love animals, they are my passion and I worked in the veterinary field for 10 years before I admitted to myself that I would never be financially stable in that line of work. I left a job I loved 3 years ago to start a new career with the USDA in the food safety inspection service. I’m grateful that I got to do a job i loved and was very good at for a decade. I know there are people who don’t get that satisfaction out of their work life and I have so many memories, experiences and friends from it that I will be forever thankful for that experience. With my current position, I like my job, I’m satisfied with the work I do, I make a good salary to raise my children and see to their needs and most of their wants, except for this debt over my head. I made a mistake in ignoring my federal student loans, which put them into default, things happen, times get tough, to summarize a failed relationship, moving on own, car troubles, surgery for daughter to remove large, benign mass. Etc. Every one knows things happen, I try not to whine and complain, I am grateful for what I have and the life I live I just know with some assistance this cloud over my head could start to dissipate and my burdens could lighten. You see in February of this year my position at my post was eliminated. I am not unemployed, upper management found a way to keep us funded at another local plant for a short period to contemplate future and try to get a promotion. Thank heavens, I was offered a promotion but the downfall is a move out of state. I can and will do it and see it done, but it would be a lot easier if I had some help with funds. I was recently offered a payout of about $4000 to erase the $52000 debt from the private student loans my ex husband took out. My federal student loans which are currently in default are being settled with a rehabilitation plan and will soon to at an affordable rate, but since I work for the government un til I am 6 months into this program (I made my first payment at the beginning of this month) the treasury offset program takes any travel advances, reimbursement and basically anything played out from the treasury. I lost my tax return and some travel vouchers for mileage that I processed before knowing it could be taken. I lost out on about $8000. I can’t even take a loan from my retirement plan. So again to summarize, I have a large amount of debt, half of it I am in the process of making manageable, the other half I have an opportunity to pay a fraction of and it’s gone. And I need to fund a out of state move for the end of the year on top of paying my current rent and bills. I’m asking for help to be able to take advantage of the payout opportunity and to help fund the move my kids and I have to make. If I could get the $8000 I lost out on through my defaulted loans, I could get back on my feet, move towards the light at the end of this dark tunnel and have so much burden raised off my shoulders. Thank you for reading, thank you for your consideration and if you’re able to, thank you for your help.
Paypal.me/theresab84
Mother and daughters asking for some sunshine .
Hello my name is Beth almost 30 yrs with two gorgeous young girls . I have worked since I was 16 years old met the love of my life at 20 and during the next 2 years fell pregnant with my 2 girls . We were renting privately and he was working full time and I was looking after my girls . A couple of months after my youngest was born we had an eviction notice and ended up homeless . My ex had not been paying the rent for almost 2 years ! He had to go and he hasn’t tried to have contact with my girls since . We managed to get a lovely rent to buy house And finally myself and the girls have a house to call home . I’m working as much as I can during school times as both girls are at junior school now to feed and clothe them and pay bills but it’s a struggle every week and most days to be fare . We have been in our home for 6 years and not managed to decorate 1 single room or even think about the garden that is just a mass of overgrown greenery. I have so many red bills on top of everything . I just want my girls to live in their home and be happy .
I really need help to overcome my financial problems as a first so I can have a clean slate to maintain .
I really need help to be able to finally decorate and furnish the girls room and the living room also . Maybe then they won’t be anxious to have a friend over .
I really need help to be able to do something with our mess outside ( garden ) . The girls can then actually have a place to play and enjoy outside for once .
I feel desperate and needed to ask for help as I have no other family .
Any help to bring some sunshine into myself and my girls lives would be absolutely amazing .
Thank you so much to anyone who helps . Bless you .
Paypal.me/Family538
Single Mom injured
Hello my name is Natashia Branch and I’m a single mother with a five year old little boy. He’s my pride and joy and everything I could have ever wanted. I just wish I could give him half the life I dreamed of when I was pregnant with him. His father wants nothing to do with him and it shatters my heart that he doesn’t have that relationship. But like the warrior I am I’ve kept going and stayed strong through it all. Back in September I injured my back pretty bad at the factory that I was working at. I went through months of physical therapy and chiropractor visits all to no avail. And all of that time I wasn’t getting paid due to the fact that they felt like I didn’t report it in enough time. I would work sometimes 21 days straight without a break in between. This was a third shift position and I was exhausted but I had bills to pay and a child to care for. So when I couldn’t do that job anymore it was completely DEVASTATING to say the least. I felt like a failure. Not just in life but more so as a mom. A failure because I could no longer provide for my baby and I was struggling. I couldn’t believe that I, the strong willed, independent mama bear was what seemed like defeated. I blew through my savings and my 401k that I had built up paying my bills. But I’m not upset about that because Thank God I had that money to carry me along as far as it has. I was also helping my mother out. She’s been disabled since 2006 from a car accident. We had such a good set up going on. She’d watch my son while I’d go to work at night. Everything was so perfect until I made on unfortunate move while carrying a heavy object and injured my back. I regret it every single day. But since I can’t change the past all I can do is look to the future. I just ask that anyone willing to help me get back on my feet so my family and I can be in a good place again PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do so. It will be GREATLY APPRECIATED and I promise it will go to a good cause. I really don’t know what else to do at this point. Thanks in advance and God Bless❤
PayPal.me/NatashiaBranch
Struggling college girl desperately seeking some kind of light at the end of this tunnel
I am sure posts like mine are a dime a dozen…just another shameless struggling chick in college looking for an easy hand me out to assist her in just skating by and having it easy her whole entire life. And i guess in a way, i really am exactly the cliche type of chick that i have never wanted to be. And for that, and for actually writing out this post i will bite down, cringe a little and maybe even scorn myself in the long run. But if there is one thing that i have never seen myself as relating to…it would have to be considering myself as having it “easy” in any sort of sense in my entire life. But please, rest assured dear reader… i will not sit here and waste the next few minutes of your time (if i am fortunate enough to find that you have decided to have given me by your curiosity having caused you to click on my post( filling you in on my feeling sorry for myself sob story that I could probably write an entire book on. No, there probably isn’t another person out there who knows it as best as I do, that not a lot of people take interest in that type of stuff. It will just suffice to say that my entire 28 years of existence on this earth has done a very thorough job in teaching me all about the art of the word, struggle.
I would, instead, like to focus my post on this site to write about what the struggle has assisted in molding me to be. Ever since the day that i graduated from high school, i never would have even in my wildest dreams imagined that I’d see the inside of any college. I was pretty much settled on living a life that would be all about my at that time significant other’s goals and dreams. And so that brought me into the life of large chunks of my life to follow consisting of sleepless nights filled with anxiety and missing my new husband who was shipped away almost directly right out of high school to months and months of boot camp and AIT training to become the successful military man that I couldn’t have been any more proud of. I settled working at part time paying jobs like serving at local restaurants and receptionist work that I thought I could maybe make into a career at my childhood pediatrician’s office to supplement our pretty steady income of a now E-4 Army soldier. Those job skills transferred with me to the many states that we would eventually move to having to follow strict orders from his job. I never sought after anything that could actually challenge me or even perhaps you know fill me with a sense of pride and purpose. As i entered my mid twenties, I was completely content with my husband receiving all the praise and recognition and me being the dutiful supporting “trophy wife” that stood beside him (but in all reality it was more like always a step behind him). As we would then become new parents to a beautiful little girl, he would continue to rise the ladder at his job while we agreed it would be time to put my job on hold to have all the time in the world to focus on our new growing family and being an even better mom.
Ten whole years of my life would pass by and just as I thought I had finally gotten down how to be an almost damn near perfect stay at home mother and wife, my whole entire world and cause for my existence would be challenged and I would eventually find myself completely knocked on my butt having almost losing it all. If it wasn’t for my then estranged husband allowing me to move back to my home state with my daughter in tow, I dont know how i would have honestly been able to wake up and get out of bed every morning. Every single day during my divorce, having to appear strong and keep my daughter and I on our feet living as comfortable as possible was my only motivation for how I got up and lived life from then on and out. And apparently that was and always has been quite the driving force. Since my divorce, my life has done a complete 180. Now i’d be lying if I tried to spin it like I haven’t had my FAIR share of both ups and pretty steep downs but through and through my daughter and I have gotten by pretty well. And i’d like to think that she will always know that her mother is strong because of my love for her and wanting better for her. And it’s because of her that I never let any type of defeat ever get the best of me. I always try to show her my best and if she just so happens to witness me not at my best, I hope she sees what I learn from it to one day eventually get me to being at my best again. She is even a big reason to me discovering what i feel to be my calling in life and what i have been busting my ass for the past three years now trying to achieve one day…my law degree so that i can one day practice family law and represent other parents who were once like me…hit unexpectedly one day with divorce papers and no explanation whatsoever, just a “It was good while it lasted, but now i am leaving you.” to eventually find out you have been replaced by another after having devoting significant amounts of time to putting their lives on hold to support the life of their significant other so now they are finding themselves completely lost with no idea how to get back up on their own two feet. I want to fight for them in court, assist in getting fair custody in the interest of the child(ren), and also be a lawyer who can provide and get newly divorced and jobless clients in touch with resources to help see them along on their new way of living a better, purposeful life where they can now focus on the one person who they should have always been focusing on in the first place, themselves. It’s extremely important to me to be apart of helping to empower people who may have lost their way a little and helping them to understand that it’s OK to feel confused or lost or hopeless or however they feel, and that those feelings should subside once they can get back to focusing on them and finding their purpose in life.
Now touching on those ‘steep lows’ that I mentioned above that I had to unfortunately go through…during those times I lost my way a little and seemed to have accquired a good amount of school loan debt that I have gotten way in over my head with paying back. I am a proud person and strive to show my daughter the importance of always paying back your debts. So even though I cannot even anywhere close to realistically afford the payments that i have been making toward my student loans, somehow I have pushed off other things to pay late to make every single one. But all of that can only last so long before you just completely sink and wind up completely drowning and finding that you don’t even have enough for groceries after having to use your entire paycheck to put towards paying back debt…
So I have figured out that if somehow, someway I could find some relief/help with my student loans that would seriously free up a good chunk of my paychecks that i could devote toward keeping food on the table for my daughter and I. We can only eat so much rice and ramens for dinner before we start to feel like we are starving for an actual good, hearty meal again. So this is my very desperate attempt at asking the anonymous world of the internet for any kind of help that they might possibly be able to find in their amazing hearts to share with a hard working, honest mom and her child to help relieve some of the financial burden of just trying to make a better life for her family. Any kind of donation will not be in vain and one day plan to wholeheartedly pay it forward with the type of work and career that I plan on going into as soon as I finish the necessary amount of schooling that is required.
If you’ve managed to make it through my long and I am sure very drawn out post, I am so very grateful for your time and interest in what i’ve shared with you. And my heart is forever filled with gratitude should anyone decide to donate whatever they can to help out my daughter and I. It is amazing people like you that make this world go round each and every day and who I hope I can one day be like and teach my daughter to be as well. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. And God Bless.
Please make any donations to
https://paypal.me/aleyy27
Looking for a Fresh Start
Gosh, I don’t know where to begin………..
I was a single mother at 29 years old. My daughter’s father was never really in her life much. As a single mom, I held down 2 jobs and lived with my best friend. I did not want to become another statistic. For a number of years, I survived on the pure desire to give my daughter the best life I could give her. I ended up getting my own apartment and eventually my own single level 3 bedroom/2 full bathroom house. I was so proud of myself.
About 5 years ago, I fell in love and completely took for granted everything I put into place to maintain keeping my house, my car – my security. I lost my car (I did get another car – I actually bought 2), and eventually would lose my house.
About 3 years ago, my life truly took a downward spiral of heartbreak. My father died. Two days later, my step brother had died. During the passing of my dad and stepbrother, I was 6 1/2 months pregnant and newly engaged. Needless to say, Thanksgiving and Christmas are hard holidays to celebrate.
My wedding was set for 1/7/2017. This date became the date that I delivered my baby girl (32 weeks of pregnancy). She was stillborn. My fiance, at that time, and I were lost. My oldest daughter was lost. Life as I truly knew it was gone but the glimmer of light/hope I had was that following weekend, when I got married. How quickly that changed. In early February, my grandmother passed away. She passed a few days within my birthday. Several months later (June 2017), I am diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer after having my first mammogram in almost 15 years. How much can one person go through! Everyone called me strong. “You are so strong! I don’t see how you get up each morning.” I’d tell myself , I still have a daughter to take care of. She has ALWAYS been my motivation. I went through chemotherapy (lost my hair, nails and sense of taste), radiation (burned and darkened skin) and surgery (lumpectomy) for 1 year. September 2018, I had my last chemotherapy. In December 2018, I had my first mammogram – no signs of cancer. Thank you GOD! I only missed 4 months of work and that was due to my daily radiation treatments (35 in all) and recovery time from surgery. My reward for beating cancer was my husband leaving me over Thanksgiving weekend. How could this strong woman lose one of her biggest supporters?!
Here I stand defeated and lost once again. The face I display to everyone is not the face I I display on the inside. I just need a new beginning for my daughter and me. I want to be debt free, so when February 2020 comes, I am ready to live on my own once again. I want to take care of my soon to be 16 year old as she will be getting ready for college in a few years. I am no where near prepared for that financial obligation. My bank account sits on less than $50 after every paycheck. I’ve filed bankruptcy and while it helped, it didn’t take care of my federal taxes and school loans. Those 2 debts alone are almost $60-$65k. My retirement plan is under $9k and I’ve been contributing to this plan off and on for 15 years.
I’m so depressed. I need to find my sense of security again. I need to be able to show my daughter that despite all of the things WE have gone through, WE can survive and overcome anything. With this help, I can build on my foundation once again.
To help me start over, I’d be so grateful if you donated to me: https://www.paypal.me/nicknack24
Help is needed to fill the gap
Hello,
Thank you for being willing to read my situation. I am a single mom of 4 kids and have found myself unable to bridge this gap in my financial situation. The home I am renting about the cheapest available for the number of bedrooms I am required to have. This was not a problem when we first moved in because I do work full time and I had a decent amount of overtime every week, child support had started to come in (I thought their father may have changed his ways and was going to take care of his responsibilities, that only lasted for 6 months). I went back to school as well to finish getting my bachelor’s degree in business administration and finance. This kept things in fine working order and I was starting to fix my credit and create a savings for eventually buying a home of my own for us.
When the child support stopped coming in after the six months it was damaging to my budget but fixable. My company unfortunately stopped all overtime as we merged due to being bought out by another mortgage company and this was right after I came from being out on disability for 6 weeks due to surgery. I still had my income tax return to look forward to and would be able to use that to catch up and possibly start paying on my debt again, but my car had issues. The car ordeal took almost a month to have fixed and cost almost all of my tax return that I had allocated for other bills.
I have been looking for other jobs that pay what I made with overtime but the process takes times. I also decided to start a cleaning company and have people interested in hiring myself and my daughter and help to keep my home and pay past due rent and utilities would allow me to focus on getting this little company going. To have an eviction is going to put us in worse situation and prevent me from getting another home.
I am looking to raise as close to $20,000 as I can to give bring relief to my situation and get a head start on building my dream company that focuses on health, wellness and financial well being too. I know I can get this going in the right direction but I am absorbed with trying to complete my classes for school work raise my kids and then looking for another job is full time work as well. I know I can use my past experience to give people hope and find their story of success and hope to share with others as well. And I am unable to get any help from the state because I do work and make more than minimum wage. The child support is up to $40,000 and the courts put him in jail for 6 months and he is right back to not paying.
I thank you again for taking the time to read and consider my situation, I am really trying to do right by my kids and fight as hard as I can and will give be an angel to someone else in the future.
paypal.me/jskallz
Sincerely,
Jennifer
Help Abused Mom Fight Strong
I gained the strength after years of being a “kept at home” mom, being controlled, constant belittling and physical abuse (that actually led to multiple surgeries) to leave and try to create a better life for myself and my 4 boys! I left with a beat up Jeep, a small rental I had found, $800 & the naivety that people would have seen him for what he was. My name was never allowed to be on anything so he kept the home, property, financial accounts, vehicles and even received joint custody during the legal separation. He immediately hired a lawyer & moved on romantically, but still terrorizes me with threats of taking the children, constant comments about how I cannot ever fully leave, text & calls, peeping in my windows, random stop overs, obscene accusations during mediation and has the police randomly stopping by with new things to question me about. I stay strong and I continue to tell my boys it’ll work out, that the truth always prevails and that we will all soon be happy and free, but Im loosing my grip and finances. I thought I would be fine with no lawyer because I have no extra money, and no access to the savings or checking accounts, nor have I been granted anything yet. I ask whole heartedly for help to raise money for a lawyer. I tried to fight forward honestly and with dignity, but I cannot out think or escape the narcissist that I allowed to hold onto my spirit for so long. My children are flailing…grades dropping, anger & tears and one has even attempted suicide and had to be hospitalized. They have begged and pleaded to not have to return to their father’s house and I truly believed that I’d be understood or that I could stretch out the time to save up for an attorney, but he has pushed everything forward very quickly. I am tired and I am scared, but I know my children and I are close to peace and I will not quit because he holds the timing and money…because I do hold the hope! I thank everybody in advance for any donation to my family’s freedom and any kind words or prayers sent our way!
https://paypal.me/willtofightforward?locale.x=en_US
Had to leave everything behind to get out of an abusive marriage, to have a better life for me and my 3 year old girl!
A few months ago I was in a marriage that was not what I imagined marriage to be like! I’ve always imagined it, as two best friends that’s work together to build a life together, although it’s not always easy, you still give it all you got because you love each other unconditionally..well, that’s not what I got when I married my ex, at first he was loving and supportive then he slowly became obsessive, controlling and eventually abusive, he put a tracker on my phone forwarded all my calls n texts to his phone he slowly isolated me n i became a shell of a person bc I knew he wouldn’t hesitate to hit me and he used his size to intimidate me often, he’s punched me, choked me till I passed out, for no reason,i was scared to death of him …one day I was getting off work and I was at a gas station pumping gas and he pulled up behind me, walked up to me while I was pumping gas and ripped my wallet containing $500 out of my hands n stared at me In an effort to intimidate me, thats when I said I had enough I went to my dad’s that night n i woke up the next morning n my car was gone, he stole it and sold it so I would have to rely on him, the cops wouldn’t do anything I’m out of $500 and a car and I’m supporting our 3 year old ALONE … for the first couple weeks he works sit Indian style outside my dad’s gate for hours at a time(I have a pic in the post)… eventually he stopped and now me and my baby are finally out of that toxic disturbing situation but it seems like no matter what I do I can’t rebuild my life supporting my daughter alone with no car is difficult, I had 2 jobs but i got fired from one bc without a car my babysitter options are slim bc I can’t get her back n forth, and the cost of a babysitter is to much for one job so I’m basically working to pay a sitter, we are homeless, no car and I have to build our personal items back up again and I’m stuck, idk what to do anymore, this is my last effort for a better life for us, idk what else to do…anything would help give us some hope, and we would GREATLY appreciate it… thank you
https://www.paypal.me/ashash4
Electricity Disconnection Notice
Hi everyone,
This is my absolute last resort, although I am extremely thankful this website exists. I am a single mother of 3, working full time while going to school full time to pursue my degree. We live alone and I provide the only income. There is no child support. My children’s father and I were married for 8 years, separated in 2015 and we divorced in April of this year. I was Active Duty Army for 3 years and once I got out, I joined the Army Reserves for 6 years. I recently separated from the Reserved in December 2018. I work and go to school every day, but I can never catch up on my bills. I have applied for better paying jobs, but they are unable to work around my school schedule as that comes first. I have roughly 2 years left of school before I graduate and will be able to get back on my feet. I have been actively pursuing child support, but that is not a quick process. I could not do it during the divorce because I ended up moving and the courts said for me to do it once I got to my new city. I am receiving compensation from the VA for going to school on the first of each month, and that is just barely enough to cover my rent ($1400) because of the area I had to move too. I am actively looking for cheaper places. I make roughly $1000 a month from my job and am waiting on my government assistance for food stamps to (hopefully) get approved. I am a VERY hard worker and do everything the right way. Going back to school was the best option for me to better my kids life and I do not regret it. I do search online job boards and apps daily in search of jobs that pay well, or at least higher, than what I am making and will cater to my scheduling conflicts.
I currently have this disconnection notice for my electricity through Georgia Power. The total including the past due is $605.55, due June 21. If our electricity is cut, we have no where else to go. I have been applying for loans, asking family and friends, searching for gigs in my city that I am qualified to do, but I have had no luck. My phone bill is due as well. I am trying to stay strong for my kids, but it is so hard. I am on my hands and knees, begging for help from anyone. Please help me. I am requesting $1000 for my bills.
*All of my bills are paperless so I could only attach a screenshot of my account online without giving away too much info. I will be happy to send you actual enlarged photos if you are interested in helping me.
Thank you.
paypal.me/MyPaypal482
Trying to get back on my feet, single mum of 3
I have been single now for 8 months, I have 3 children, 8 year old, 2 year old and 9 month old, my ex left me for another woman and has nothing to do with our children since leaving, I’ve had my current job for 5 years, I’m currently on maternity leave still and recently got another job cleaning on a night, still my income doesn’t touch what I have to pay for childcare, bills, rent, kids clothes and essentials for my children, while I was with my ex he did not work so I worked hard to earn a decent wage to support all of us, he got loans out in my name constantly to fund his drinking addiction, there’s nothing I can do now to prove he got them out and now I’m left working twice as hard to pay these off and provide for my children, some days I only cook them dinner and eat their leftovers to make our food shop last longer, I am behind on rent as I was trying to clear these debts, I know there are hundreds (more) of people in my situation that need help and if I could I would help those in need too, I would be so greatful for any donations to help me get back on my feet and provide my children with the essentials they need.
Truly greatful mum of 3
PayPal.me/ilovemyfeet
Agoraphobic please help me save my house and health!
Fifteen years ago I was a successful hard working business owner. A series of traumatic events, paired with high stress, caused me to develop an anxiety disorder called agoraphobia. My body is stuck in the “fight/flight” response and panic attacks occur even during mundane tasks. It caused me to be unable to leave my home and I lost my business because of it. I spent years living off of my savings and working to get better. I was heading towards full recovery when I started a relationship with a covert narcissist. It was the worst thing that could have happened for my recovery. Over years he systematically emotionally abused me to the point that I became housebound again. I also amassed a huge line of credit against my house under constant promises it would get paid back. Last year, after being house bound for a year straight, I left with my son to stay in a women’s shelter until my ex would be forced to leave my house. It took everything I had in me but I did it and haven’t looked back. I’ve spent this year having therapy and trying to put my life and health back together. I went to the dentist and the years of not being able to go in have caught up with me. I have about $6000.00 in dental work that needs done immediately as well as other less pressing issues. I’m struggling to pay the interest on this credit line and I can’t afford the specialized therapy that would help me cure this mental health issue. I’m at my wits end to just have a peaceful new start for my son and I. It’s a huge ask but my dream would be to raise $240,000.00 to pay off my credit line, complete my dental work, receive specialized therapy, and complete some needed repairs in my home. This would take so much stress off and allow the healing to happen. It would make it possible for me to pay my monthly payments without being drowned in interest each month. I would really be able to turn my life around. I have never asked for financial aide before. I worked hard, saved, and used my own resources always hopeful that I would be back to working soon. This is just too big to handle alone. I thank you for reading my story so far. If you can spare the money, it would change our lives.
my PayPal is
paypal.me/agoraphobicmom
Help me get across the gap
Hi. My name is Jessie. I am a single mom to three amazing children, a great dog, two joyful parakeets, and a friendly rat. I am temporarily broke, and could use a hand to get across the gap to being ok.
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship. He removed my access to our money. To get half of his bonus, so I could move out, he coerced me into signing an agreement that I would not ask for maintenance. I won’t receive child support from him as the children are not his. I can’t afford to fight this. That is not what I am asking for money for though.
I honestly have no doubts that I am capable of taking care of myself, and my children, on my own. I officiate weddings for a living. My company has doubled every year. I am cofounder of, and co pastor an interfaith church. I am also opening a yoga studio.
I work very hard. Most of these things I have been building over the past three years. I was building them at a slower pace, though, as I had the financial backing of my husbands income to enable me to do so. Having a physical space for these endeavors comes with a good amount of overhead that he was helping offset as well. Now things have to be accelerated, and produce much more. I think that it is possible. In fact, In a few months I hope to be one of the people giving money on here.
My immediate challenge is that none of these things will really start bringing in money until the end of June. The wedding in particular pay well, but only for a few months out of the year. I really just need a little help catching up on April and May. I also would like to be able to pay off some credit cards that I had to stop paying on after losing access to household funds. My credit has gotten pretty messed up and I would like to get the process started to fix it.
My monthly bills total around $3000
My guaranteed income is $750
I know I can start making the $2250 I need to break even if given a little time, and if I can manage to not get too far behind.
Asking for help is really scary, but we all have moments in our lives where it is needed. This is my moment.If you could contribute anything at all it would be so appreciated. I promise to pay it forward through helping others.
PayPal.Me/sowisababylove
Asking for financial assistance getting out of dept.
I’ve come to the point in my life where I have to ask for assistance financially, I have always been a person with a big heart , always sacrificing my wellbeing in order to help someone else. Problem is, I’m the go to person when help is needed because I never say No. Being taken advantage of has cost me more then money, I’ve lost everything except my life thus far, I don’t know how much longer I can survive being in Dept, not being able to catch up on payments, trying to endure the anxiety and depression every day of not having the payment, not knowing what to do next, I’m raising my grandchild, and I am single, I quit a job I had working on a fishing vessel, so that I could take responsibility for the child, and I’m finding it hard to get back on my feet, working jobs that don’t pay much, I suffer mentally and physically as well, I’m asking for assistance now because I am so far behind I don’t know what to do , our water utilities has been shut off, back on now, I received 24-hour eviction notice, most all utilities have disconnect notices and payment arrangements. My credit cards are not paid and are over the limit, my bank account was closed for being overdrawn, and I have payday loans that I took out but now can’t pay because I got fired from my job for taking time off one week to get help with the eviction, I have a 1999 Dodge caravan that’s continually breaking down and I can’t afford to fix it anymore,I was robbed by three mechanics, they charged me and never completely repair the car, today I hate to be labeled a beggar because I’m begging for help right now, I but at my wits end and I have no idea what to do and I’m just outright tired, but I can tell you I do what I can everyday for this little girl, I don’t want her seeing me Break down, I have to ask for help to get out of my situation, it’s beyond me without help. Please consider us if you are able and willing to make donations, anything is helpful and appreciated. Thank you kindly
paypal.me/JalaunaY
Help me move to give my daughter a better life
I am a single mother to a beautiful little girl. I recently left an abusive relationship, it was extremely toxic for both myself and my daughter. When I sent the break up text my next step was to head to the bank and take him off my account and start fresh. When I pulled up to the bank I received an alert that my accounts where below $50.00 and showed an amount 0.00. He wiped me clean of 3500 dollars. I thought this couldn’t be right but when I went inside to my surprise he had beat me to the bank and wiped my whole bank account and savings clean. Obviously there was nothing the bank could do for me because he was still on the account when he made the withdraw. From there I tried to pick my spirits up, figured things couldn’t get any worse so I should just start fresh and rebuild continue to push forward. Two weeks later he harassed my job, calling them none stop, messaging co workers of mine trying to intimate them until finally my managers had a meeting and decided it was best to let me go. Within a month I was wiped clean of my savings and lost the best job I could ask for being a single mother. I normally don’t ask for help, I try to conquer things on my own, but unfortunately I’m behind in bills now, I’m losing my house and have to be out within 30 days and that’s not including my student loans I still owe, daycare, groceries, phone, etc. After all the losses I’ve taken I think it’s best I pack my daughter and myself up and move to another town, somewhere he can’t find us or cause any problems for us. Please help me raise money to move my little girl and I to another town, so I can get back on track and give her the life she deserves.
Single Mom Whom Which Can Not Catch a Break
Hello everyone, I am a 35 year old single mom with 2 wonderful boys age 7 and 15 that I adore with all my heart,but it’s seems like luck is just not on my side about 3 years ago I had to file for bankruptcy because of foolish decisions I made in my past while in a relationship with there father, I had no other choice but to file chapter 13 bankruptcy in order to keep the house I had purchased for me and my children, at the time with the job I had I was able to make my bankruptcy payments of 816 per month and still have money for utilities and the necessities my children needed but last July my air unit went out and I had not other choice but to have it replaced, luckily I was able to get it get through a place that only went by if u had a job not. Even though those newly added payments brought me some struggle it wasn’t until this past November that tragedy really struck my oldest son was diagnosed with chrons so from November-March he was in and out the hospital with March being a month long stay finally resulting in surgery. due to this I had no other choice but to find a job that was willing to work with me being off work to be with my son. Which was a 8 dollar per hour pay cut. On top of that when I switched jobs and my pay went from by weekly to semi monthly my bankruptcy payments went from 816 per month to 884 per month and now Dr. bill has been added to the financial struggle I was already having. I have family that’s helps me out but I’m so tired and embarrassed at constantly going to them for help I just want to be able to get back on my feet and do for myself and children for a change without asking for assistance. Anything that you can donate would be gratefully appreciated. I just want to pay bills down and off so I can give my children the life they so much deserve. Thanking everyone in advance.
Pay.me/CTaylor640
Single Mom/Student In Desperate Need of Assistance
Hello, my name is Nicole. I really do not even know where to start, this is embarrassing to have to do, however I am at the end of my rope and do not know what else to do. I’ll just explain what brought me to this site. I am a single mother of 2 in my early 30s, I have been struggling financially for quite some time, behind on all bills, but somewhat maintaining.
I encountered a blessing last spring, I received a letter advising me that I had been accepted into a degree program I had applied to (that is extremely challenging to get into) and the program would start in Aug 2018. This was the best news I’d had in such a long time, something I’d been praying for as the field has been a dream of mine, not only because it’s an interest, but also because it is a career that will turn my children and my life around tremendously. My kids are both under 10 years of age, but have missed out on so much (such as sports they are interested in, etc) because I just simply haven’t had the funds to make it happen, which is devastating for any parent.
So, not to drag this out… I started the program in Aug 2018 (and due to graduate in May 2020!! :)), which meant my hours working were reduced by half, I am now working half-time, which has been an extreme blow to my situation. As I stated, I was struggling to begin with and things have become increasingly worse and I have falling even more behind, especially on my rent. Well my landlord has been patient with me for as long as I guess she can be and has now drawn up court papers, so I have a court date on Monday, June 3, 2019, yes, right around the corner. I have gone out to try to get local assistance however I’ve been told they’ve run out of funds at this time, but also that they cannot help with the full amount that is needed.
So, currently I am 3 months behind on my rent (including late fees) in the amount of $3,853.00. I know, this is a great deal of money to be behind, I have done my best to keep a hold on my situation, I have failed to do so. I know this is my responsibility, however I am in a bad place at this time and have run out of options. At this time I only have $1,050.00 to go towards the due amount. I have reached out to family, but they have things going on and cannot help me right now.
I have recently been able to eliminate several financial responsibilities that will allow me to keep up with my household bills with my current pay and the child support I receive, which isn’t much but I am grateful. However, I cannot afford that rears/back rent/late fees I am being taken to court for. After I went out to unsuccessfully get help within my county I got online to try to search anything that would be helpful and I came across this website. I am in dire need of help before my children and I are made to vacate our home. I do not have any family close by and if we have to move out I don’t know what we’d do. I do know that I’d likely have to quit my program because I would have to move back to my mother’s home which is too far away to continue the program.
I am asking for any help, I am a very stubborn person when it comes to asking for help, but as I stated I am in dire/desperate need and this is my last option. If you can, please help me with my situation. I absolutely appreciate any donations to help towards my mess. Thank you in advance.
Please let me know if you can help…
Monitairally Broke Rich In Family
Hello Everyone,
I’d like to introduce you guys to 3 of my 4 children. Two of whom are fraternal twins age 3 months. The oldest is a year old and my eldest is 3 years old. Just a bit about myself…My name is Lustrina…All my life I have been going through nothing but turmoil…in and out of different schools and homes…seeing my drug kingpin father just long enough for him to tell me how much I am NOT his…seeing my crack head mother with a different guy pretty much every day…going to school smiling through all the bull crap that goes on…and as a child I would always say…”man I’m NEVER having kids,if this is what parenting is…neglecting your child and expecting them to have respect for you…I refuse to take an innocent child through anything like this” but God had other plans…on September 14,2015 a week before my 21st birthday I was blessed enough to have my first baby boy…who spent the majority of his first year of life in the back seat of a crown victoria because his father and while both working still weren’t making enough to afford even a weekly hotel room…and the last day that we were in that car I vowed that I would never take him through anything like that again as long as god could wipe those memories if any from his brain…so we finally moved and we ended up closer to family and in a 1 bedroom apartment…his father became more abusive towards me…in the beginning it was just verbal and mental abuse…after the move in it became physical…I had to leave…and being that I had absolutely NO WHERE to go I had to leave him with his father which is where he remains to this day and regardless of what I talk to him and face time him ALL the time…fast forward to my recent life…after leaving him I found a pretty decent job and moved in with my sister…she ended up kicking me out 3 months later because she was so insecure about her relationship that she thought I would be stoop low enough to have sex with her fiancee…(I never would and never have) so once again I’m out on the street by myself barely bathing and can’t make it to work so I lose my job…I meet this guy we fall in love and we now have 3 beautiful children all within about 2 years time…what I didn’t know about this guy is that he has a whole other family…he has left me and our kids in a hotel room with absolutely nothing…I get help from family and friends from time to time but it’s never enough and not being able to afford daycare I’m with my kids 24/7 which also means I can’t work as often as I would like to either…I’ve exhausted every resource around my city that I can think of and still nothing…I’ve tried GoFundMe and still nothing…I’ve tried surveys..paid apps…all kinds of crazy things (anything legal lol) and still nothing has worked…if you can help in ANY way possible…even if you’re just giving some advice…please I need it…
Signed :A Woman With Too Much Love Given And None Ever Received 🖤🖤
Hell is failing as a father
There is no greater Hell than knowing that you’ve failed as a father. I’ve done okay in some aspects, but I’ve failed hard in others. There’s a big difference between bad circumstances and knowing that you are responsible for your current situation.
Everyone has been in a bad relationship, but not everyone stays long after it has become terribly detrimental to your life. And it is that realization, that knowing that you knew that you should leave, but didn’t out of fear or naive hope, that turns it into Hell. The realization that you are the only one to blame for your Hell.
I should have left sooner. And I’m paying for it now. I should have left when she got addicted to drugs and drained my bank account. I should have left when my car was repossessed. I should have left when she spear tackled me and beat me with my own shoe so I couldn’t even walk to work.
I did leave. But I should have left sooner. That’s why this Hell is of my own making. I’m responsible for it.
I did leave. It was New Year’s Eve and I knew that I couldn’t spend another year of my life like the last one. I had reached my breaking point. I called a friend, packed up my boys and whatever possessions we could fit into my friend’s car, and left. The emotional turmoil of that time has dissipated for my boys, they pretty much have returned to normal. But I’m still dealing with the consequences.
I had returned to the house later to get our nonessentials, only to find that my ex had pilfered everything that she could. Anything that I had that she could pawn, presumably for drugs, she did. All my electronics, my tools…she even hawked my boys’ bikes.
That is a small circle of Hell. How do you as a father tell your sons that they can’t even ride their bikes because they were stolen by someone they were supposed to trust? And this could’ve been prevented if I had left sooner.
I could go on about all the negative consequences and the things that I lost during those few months. The mental anguish of her stalking me, showing up at family and friend’s houses and my workplace. Or of her relentlessly contacting me by any means available to her…the last of which was to inform me that my dog was dead. But I don’t want to make this thing too long, so we’ll move on.
Things started to look up. I managed to get a car and a place. And thankfully, I kept my job through the whole ordeal. I could get my boys where they needed to go, had a roof over our heads, and was able to keep working. I work hard and I love what I do. I’m a certified nurse aide at a long term care facility, and I also managed to pick up hours as a transportation driver for the home as well. Which means that I get even more one on one time with each resident when I take them to their doctor appointments.
But I’m here because I need help. My ex stuck my with an electric bill in the thousands of dollars. How it got that high, I don’t know. I paid some on it, but not enough to prevent a shut-off. I have exhausted every other avenue of help. I have applied for multiple grants, loans, government assistance, have asked family and friends. But I’m still stuck in Hell. I make just enough over the poverty line that I don’t qualify for assistance (I’ve tried several programs). The bill is $5251.39. They also want a reconnect fee of $14 and a security deposit of $660. Total to turn my power back on is $5925.39.
We have been without power for two weeks and for my boys, it’s been like camping at home. But for me, it has been Hell, knowing that I’m responsible for it. Knowing that I could’ve left my abusive ex sooner. Knowing that I could’ve juggled the necessary bills better. Food, shelter, transport and electric…which one is more important than the other? Knowing that my boys are depending on me. Knowing that if I don’t get help, I could lose them.
My PayPal link is paypal.me/jameslevibowman
I have nothing to offer you if you decide to help me. Nothing except my heartfelt gratitude. Thank you. Thank you for even considering helping me out. Thank you from all of us who are here looking for a Guardian Angel.
Youngest son needs a house to get out of this small apartment!
Hi my name is Karen and I’m a single mom,
I live with two of my mentally ill son’s & my oldest son’s cat in a small two bedroom apartment. It’s me, my oldest son, and my youngest son, and the cat in a small two bedroom apartment
We all live on SSI as primary source of income. I have bipolar & paranoid schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, and a little ptsd
and my oldest son has ptsd and anxiety and depression, social anxiety,
and my youngest son has ptsd, depression, anxiety, social anxiety, schizophrenia, compulsive behavior
we have all been living in apartments since 2003
The family dynamic is not healthy & we all just want out of this apartment in into living in a house
I’m also 61 years old in don’t know how much longer I have left on this earth in I want to make sure my two mentally ill son’s have a house to live in & not be homeless on the streets
They know how to pay bills, mop & clean, take trash out, yard work, etc
The apartment we are currently living in is very small & The family dynamic is also not healthy
My two mentally ill son’s unfortunately don’t get along with each other and i’m essentially the “Middleman” between them because I don’t want them getting hurt or going to jail
Its very stressful at this age to be dealing with this kind of drama!!!! I don’t need this kind of drama in my older years!!!!
The cat is also very aggravating and its not mine or my youngest son’s cat. The cat gets crazy “Spells” in will get wild he will start howling & running like a bull up and down the stairs & run in the kitchen & jumping over my youngest son’s equipment in start playing with wires & plugs. It’s just so very annoying!!!!
Their dad was basically sperm donor.
My youngest son is a very smart person. He’s the one that found this website!
My youngest son doesn’t have any credit & my credit is bad =[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[
Please at least help my youngest son to get out of this small apartment so he can get into a quieter environment in start learning stuff to move forward with his life in start making money! I’m very concerned of his future after I leave this earth
I know we are asking for a miracle here but houses are expensive here! My youngest son would need at least a $100,000 for a house with nothing that needed to be repaired
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Hi everyone, I’m Karen’s youngest son,
Man I gotta say i’m really truly blessed for me & for my mom. if its not for her I would either be in jail or dead……..
So I live with 3 people & 1 cat in a small two bedroom apartment. It’s my mom, my older brother, the cat, and me in a small two bedroom apartment
We all live on SSI as primary source of income. My mom has bipolar & paranoid schizophrenia
and my brother has ptsd and Anxiety and depression
and I have ptsd, depression, anxiety, social anxiety, schizophrenia, compulsive behavior
The family dynamic is not healthy & I honestly just want out of this apartment in into living by myself away from this unnecessary drama. There’s so many things I want to do but the environment is just not quiet enough nor healthy to be in.
I really truly want to help move my life forward but as I said the environment is not healthy nor quiet enough to do so.
I really wanna learn spanish so bad!!!! I literally have the best courses & materials to learn it. My father never taught me it but can i keep faulting him for not teaching me? No!
There’s too much damn Commotion & Racket going on in this apartment for me to even try to learn something!!!! I’m a person that needs absolute silence to learn if i’m going to try in learn something! I don’t see how anyone could learn anything with there being commotion!!!!
The living situation in this apartment is so unhealthy for everyone in here
See me & my brother never got along at all & Tbh I really don’t care at this point.
It feels like we’re all prisoners. My brother lives upstairs in one of the rooms and Me & My mom live downstairs in the living room with two separate mattresses on the floor. The cat also lives in the living room too.
My mom is like the “Middleman” between me & my brother. She don’t want any fights or anyone getting killed or anyone going to jail.
She brings food to my brother on the staircase so he won’t come down & we don’t come into contact with each other
and me & my mom have to use two separate portable toilets downstairs in the kitchen because the restroom is upstairs. she said she can’t climb up the stairs anymore because shes 61 years old and she has to wear ostomy bag because she had diverticulitis and it developed into a polyp and it ruptured or something =[[[[
and I use portable toilet because along time ago my mom didn’t want me to use the restroom thats upstairs because I use to use a lot of toilet paper in flushed the toilet paper in the toilet water came out of the toilet so i always had used portable toilet since then.
I can’t even go upstairs in take a shower because i’m not even allowed too!!!!
The cat is also very aggravating and its not mine or my moms cat. The cat gets crazy “Spells” in will get wild he will start howling & running like a bull up and down the stairs & run in the kitchen & jumping over my equipment in start playing with wires & plugs. It’s just so very annoying!!!!
My dad is a deadbeat dad.
He left my mom when I was at a young age to find another women just for sex because my mom was sick at the time………………………………
fast forward he moved this women in to a house that my mom had paid with her income tax money but the house was unfortunately in my dads name. My dad then wanted us to go live on the other side of the house but My mom was not women enough to sit & stay there in listen to them having sex
Fast forward since then in we have since been living in apartments
That woman that My dad cheated on my mom with had now cheated on my dad & my dad had been single for years in until recently he moved a family he had from mexico into that house.
He actually had two houses that were payed with my moms income tax money but when he cheated with my mom with that woman, that women then convinced my dad to sell the other house just so we couldn’t live there………………………………..
He’s very cheap would only buy ramen noddles & tortillas to eat.
He is just a very terrible dad if you can even call him that & I don’t want anything more to do with him.
I only needed him to get to & from school & to get dropped off at that house from the bus.
When I was young, I use to have a pet sheep in the backyard of the house. He was my only friend :3 I loved that sheep so much but after one day when I came home from school I was so ready & excited to see the sheep after I came off the bus from school. Because I remember I hadn’t seen him since the weekend!!!!
And when I got off the bus that day in went to the backyard to see him, he was not there!!!!!!!!!!!! I was so devastated & heartbroken =[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[
The fence that held the sheep was also torn down so I knew something was up =[[[[[[[[
I went to go ask my dad what happen to him in he said so casually like it didn’t affect him he said he “Ran away”…………………..
I don’t believe that BS excuse at all and this was the final straw with me being done & having nothing else to do with that
Because before this ever even happened. There was a time I rode with him and another man to some farm and he picked up another goat/sheep (I can’t remember which one it was) and I was in the back of the Bronco petting the sheep because I thought my dad got him as a friend to take him back to the house for the other sheep!!!!!!!!!
NO this sorry ass excuse of a father took this sheep to the back in tied this poor little sheep by the head in hung him up high in killed him right in front of me. BROOOOOOO I ALMOST FUCKING LOST IT RIGHT HERE DUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I WAS CRYING MY EYES OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ALL I HEAR IS THE SHEEP WEEPING FOR HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND I CAN’T DO ANYTHING TO HELP HIM WAS THE MOST DISGUSTING FEELING I’VE EVER HAD IN MY LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND WHAT HURTS ME THE MOST WAS MY SHEEP WAS LOOKING AT ME LIKE WTFFFFFFFFFFFFF IS GOING ON???????????????? =[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[
I’m just at a loss of words to express that horrible situation. At this point I want nothing else to do with that bastard except making sure my sheep was safe. As I said above I came home from school one day in my sheep wasn’t there. I don’t believe that BS excuse that he “ran away”.
I have strong feelings he hurt my sheep too but I have no proof of that. I will unfortunately never know what really happened to MY ONLY BEST FRIEND MY SHEEP =[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[
I have since officially cut ties with that sorry ass excuse of a father
I was recently at my lowest point of my life recently. My mom had cellulitis/ chronic venous insufficiency in I thought she was gone man =[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[
I wrote all this to express how I genuinely need the money to buy a house so I can get out of this small apartment in into a much quieter environment so I can move forward with my life in start learning stuff to generate me money so I won’t be poor for the rest of my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because I’m very scared & very hopeless for the future when my mom leaves this earth =[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[
Adopted single mom finding family and help for existing one.
My name is Deborah Brown. I was adopted in 1976 and have finally found my biological family through Ancestry DNA. I have been on my own since I was 16, married twice to complete loosers who abused me and the children. We finally got away. I have 4 children, all boys. My adopted father passed away when I was 16 and adopted mother never liked me and wouldn’t let me live with her after my father died. She is now in a nursing home.
I have never received child support for any of my children even after applying for state help in getting it. I’ve worked 2 and 3 jobs just to support my family and I have finally found my biological family. I would love to move closer to my father and brother. They are 7 hours away from me. (My biological mother is autistic and is in a group home and doing well there.) We live in a RV at the moment because that’s all I can afford. Minimum wage barely covers rent and this RV was alot cheaper. I have done odd jobs to pay for utilities and kids clothes and shoes. I get my clothes at food banks that offer clothes. Haven’t had anything new in years. My car is not new but paid for. I am asking for $4,000 for gas money, rent on a cheap home, utility deposits and some cheap furniture to start off with. Mainly we need mattresses and a couch. We have no furniture. I have done the best I can alone. I can get a job somewhere if someone could please help me move so I can be near my biological family. They will help me get on my feet and possibly finish college. I have tried several times but bills always got in the way. I have no credit cards or any way to pay for anything except what we have to have. We live paycheck to paycheck and it doesn’t cover everything. I am alone with my boys and just need some help getting on my feet and close to my family. I can do better and have some support. Something I have never had is support and someone to believe in me. I am asking for the bare minimum just to get started off in the new place. Thank you for helping or taking the time to read my plea. My phone camera is broken so I can’t post a picture of us.
PayPal.me/deborahbrown42
Single mom with Nothing at all
6 months ago my life changed forever, I found out I was pregnant with my first child. But I was happy I had a job, and apartment and a car. Then 3 months later my car was taken from me and then went everything else. At that point I didn’t have anything and my baby’s father had been providing for me. Then a month after that he lost his job, then we both had nothing. I instantly just began to stress more and more each day. Now just 3 weeks ago my life changed drastically, I had my baby 3 months early. So of course he’s a premature baby that needs a lot attention, help, and prayer. Now I’m even more stressed out, but I make it my business to go see my baby in the NICU everyday even though It hurts me to see him like that so much. Now not only do I worry about not having a place for my son to come home to, not having any money, or a car, I’m also worrying about my sons health. My son weight 1lb and 12oz right now. I cry almost every night worrying about him, and worrying about my living situation and what I’m gonna do when it’s time for him to come home. I tried to go get a new job but it only made my stitches from my emergency C-Section stretch open so that didn’t work. Everyone keeps telling me I have to take it easy and that i shouldn’t be trying to go back to work this soon , but I’m trying to find a job that won’t have me straining my body so much so that I can find a way to provide for my son when it’s tile for him to leave the hospital. But I haven’t been having any luck at all. I’ve been begging family and friends to help me with finding a job and still no luck. I’m so stressed out at this point I feel like a bad parent already. I constantly have to keep asking people for money just so that I can eat. It’s killing me to be in this situation, especially knowing that I have a son that is going to be coming home to me soon, and knowing that I don’t even have a place for him to call home just makes it even worse. IM BEGGING SOMEONE TO PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE FIND IT IN YOUR HEART TO HELP ME OUT. Even if I could get enough to buy a car I would be able to make money driving for Uber/Lyft etc. I really truly need the help I pray every night for a blessing and I’m hoping it will come one day hopefully sooner than later. I’m not sure what else to do anymore my options are running out. I’m doing the best that I can but nothing seems to be working. PLEASE SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME I REALLY NEED THE HELP IM BEGGING
https://www.paypal.me/charismaj23
Single mother of 3 young children in need of help
Hello everyone. I just don’t know which direction to turn right now. I feel very hopeful for my future and I am a very genuine human being. I just need a little help getting started on the life I am suppose to be living. I am in a rut and feel stuck. I am a 24 year old single mother of 3 boys ages 4, 2, and 11 months old. Everyday is a blessing with them. I just want to give them what they deserve. About a month ago due to not being able to keep up with the bills we were evicted. We now are staying in a motel. I soon will run out of the little money I have. I also have no car. I have no family to turn to, no mother or father. My children’s dad is not in the picture. Imagine taking care of 3 children everyday with no help. It is a struggle. It has caused me to slip into depression but I still stay strong for them. If only I could find trustworthy people to help with watching my 2 youngest children so I can start working again. I have separation anxiety and don’t just send my kids out to any stranger. Family members will only help out with them if they are paid. Which I still don’t understand because if it was me I would gladly help family out for free. I have a big heart but it seems the ones with the big hearts always get stepped on. The universe works in mysterious ways so I am still very thankful just for being alive. Anyhow, I have big goals and dreams and just need help getting started. I want to go to school for business. I plan on starting my own business as a real estate investor, which I am very passionate about. I appreciate anything I am given. I will even appreciate some advice if that’s all you have. If you are willing to help, I would like to bring in 5,000$-15,000$ to help with classes I am going to take, a car, rent, therapist, and to invest in our future. Thank you so much!
paypal.me/livelaughloveJM
Recently divorced mom of 2 needs help.
I am going through a divorce right now because my husband of 10+ years was abusing my oldest daughter. She is now in a residential treatment program for ptsd, depression, anxiety, and for attempts at suicide. She is currently 4.5 hours away from me. I also have another daughter who is younger and doesn’t understand all that is going on. I am trying to get our lives put back together and be successful kn our own. I have lost my vehicle, my home, a large portion of the family, and above all else our normalcy. Needless to say our lives were uprooted tremendously. I do have job and an apartment now. I am needing help to pay my bills and to be able to get caught up enough to be able to start saving for a forever home for us. Its been a very hard year and I need to turn things around for us. If you can help at all it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for everything.
Injured single mom needing help
I have been a single mother of 3 beautiful children for over 13 years. My husband and father of my children died in an accident. He did not have life insurance. Since then, I have put myself through school and worked as much as possible to take care of them. However, I have also racked just over $60,000 in debt, between education for myself and children, a small amount of credit card debt, and medical bills. My oldest child is on the autism spectrum, so not only requires time, but also money.
Seven months ago, while working, I injured my knee and have been unable to work since then. I have filed a worker’s compensation claim, and am having to go through court to have it taken care of, because the owner did not have worker’s compensation. I am now out of any money I have saved, but the bills are still there. If anyone would like to help me, I would appreciate it more than you can imagine. I also pledge to pay it forward when I am in a position to. Any help is greatly appreciated.
Pregnant and living with Mom and step dad in an efficiency apartment
Hello everyone.. I am 19 years old, I am 22 weeks and 3 days pregnant with a little girl, I’m living with my mom and step dad in an efficiency apartment right now, At first we had a 3 bedroom house, it was Me, my little sister and them both, My mom and i were the only ones working , but then my mom got my step dad (Dave) a job where she worked.. He was doing fine, worked for about 2 months and I guess somewhere during that time he found a mistress.. my mom and i had absolutely no idea what was going on, The girl was my mom’s friend, But in April he ended up leaving her. He wrote her a letter explaining that he could not deal with me and my sister anymore, that we were killing him and that she did not satisfy him anymore, In the letter he wrote how it wasn’t because he was cheating .. said it at least l 3 different times, My mom was at work at that time and she had no idea what was going on, neither did i.. My little sister (who is his only child) was helping him mess around with this female the whole time, anyways he left for work after he wrote the letter and my sister was supposed to give it to her when mom got off, She did. My mom was heartbroken, She tried killing herself (they have been together since I was 6 months old).. Later that night my sister left and her phone was ringing, It was a females name, I answered it and the woman asked for Dave, I was so confused because he was supposed to be at work. I told her , and hung up and she then texted, I was curious so I started looking through these text messages and it was my dad that was texting her the whole time.. I was distraught. I felt like I needed to tell my mom. I was so scared too, But I did.. My mom almost quit her job but she didn’t .. a week or so later I had a baby doctor appointment, I found out I was already 1 cm dialated, My OBGYN put me on bed rest and told me that I wasn’t aloud to work any longer, So now it was just my mom working.. We couldn’t afford the house anymore and stayed in a motel for 4 days, Then she found an efficiency, so my little sister, myself and My mom moved into this efficiency apartment. Everything was going okay, my mom forgave my sister and it was okay. Then we found out my sister was on meth, we tried everything to get her to get clean, At one point we believed she really wanted too, But my little sister ended up moving out to move into her drug dealers house.. There is nothing we can do about it, bc she is 18 now. She’s still there I worry every minute because she’s my baby sister… But anyways Dave ended up calling my mom and asking for her to take him back. She of course fell for his “charm, and lies saying everything would change, he would be better, wouldn’t sleep all day and night and wouldn’t only want her for her money.. Yeah that’s not happening. He quit his job a week after he moved out of our old house, He had no income or anything.. All he does is sleep all day, Stay up half the night and repeat over and over again.. so here we are now, I had a check up at my OBGYN, I am now 2 1/2 cm dialated at 22 weeks, I have to get weekly injections (they HURT so bad!) And I am not aloud to work, It’s still only my mom working, I am grateful for her but I’m afraid were going to lose our place.. My goal is to get my cervix to stop dialating before I have to have the stitch in my cervix.. Drs think that the shots are working :) But I just want to be able to help.. I wish I could work, I barely have anything for my daughter.. I still need a carseat, More clothes, Diapers wipes and bottles, (I’m going to try my hardest to breastfeed) my mom gets paid biweekly and all of my mom’s checks go towards food, Our rent, we only have to pay water so that’s good, and if Dave asks her for something.. She can NEVER tell him no.. I just want to be ready for my daughter.. She is Due September 23rd 2019, UNLESS she decides to make her way into this world sooner.. If whoever is reading this , (if anyone actually does.. I’m not sure) I would greatly appreciate it if you could help me out right now.. My PayPal is PayPal.me/simba2420 and my cashapp is bigkay213.. Ive never done anything like this before and I was looking online and seen this.. I’m praying someone can help. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to read what is going on in my life.
Some of you might be wondering what happened to the father.. we we’re together for a year and 9 months before I got pregnant, and as soon as I told him he left me, Blocked me on every social media, my phone number, EVERYTHING, it’s okay though because I WILL be a GREAT mother to her, no matter what.
Again my PayPal is PayPal.me/Simba2420 and my cashapp is Bigkay213
Single mom of 3 lost job
Hello to all that are reading. I’ve for the first time since my first job in 2005, have been fired from a job 3/7/19. I’ve always worked and been reliable, low maintenance and just function off of the necessities in life. I was unhappy at my previous jobs (1 I stayed with for 7 yrs, lack of appreciation, I trained the management, only missed work when I or my children were sick but they didn’t want to pay me over $15/hr…after almost 7 yrs.) nonetheless I gave the job my absolute all. I left there and started a new job that hired 300+ people and after 8 months laid off approximately 100-150, me being one.
I’ve always known how to do hair (learned from my mother) and in 2017 while pregnant with my youngest I went to school for natural hair. I have my license and have began working on building my clientele in a salon as of 3/27/19 but it’s not enough to pay any bills at home. I’ve had to even take my baby to the salon with me on the few occasions as I’m not allowed to take him back to daycare until I’ve caught the payment up and able to maintain it. It gets quite depressing thinking about the bills piling up (daycare, rent, electric, water, car payment) everything, absolutely everything is behind and I’ve not had luck finding a job as of yet but certainly looking. I’m the go getter type worked two jobs at a time while taking care of a newborn, school and work while pregnant twice…my pride makes me this way, I do everything I can to provide for my family…but I’m sinking horribly, depression is still lingering though I’m fighting it and as hard as it is I’ve had to check my pride and ask for help. I want to be an entrepreneur and work on opening my own salon spa in the future but I have to get my home life in order first. Please help!
Thank you for taking the time out to read my story. Anything that you can give I and my babies greatly appreciate.
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Our Living
New Single Mother Trying To Get Her Life Together
I am a 23 year old single mother to my beautiful daughter who is 17 months old. For a while we were doing okay but now I am way in over my head. Sometimes I do not know if I will even be able to get her diapers and wipes for the week. I am currently in college and trying to put her father on child support but it is a process. Already, my car is up for repossession and hasn’t had any car insurance for a little over a month so I have not been able to drive it anyways. We are living with family in a crowded home while I try to get my life together and get a job so that we can move out as soon as possible. My mother is also ill with a heart condition whom I take care of everyday as well. I hate to even need to ask people for money or help but sometimes in order to give you need to ask. My grandfather who normally takes care of us is going through his own financial struggles and my daughter and I being added to the load just is not helping him at all. I need to tend for my daughter and myself as much as I can. No one said that being a single mother was going to be easy but I do not think i realized it would be this hard either. I just need help to get myself up and going to get my life together so she can go into daycare and I can get myself a job and keep up with schooling. I want to be able to give my daughter the life I never had and right now it seems shes getting the life I did have which is not what is best for her.
My paypal is paypal.me/jennamariexo and anything at all would help us get back on our feet and living the life I know she deserves to live. Thank you for listening and I hope to one day be able to help someone who is in need
Maternity Leave
Hey. I am a 22 year old single female who recently had to leave my job and country I was living in due to the fact that my unborn child’s father is abusive and harassing even with a restraining order against him. I am currently unable to be hired because I am just days away from hitting my 6 months pregnant mark. Where I currently live, no one will hire me because like they said ” no one wants to hire someone for just a couple months”.
I am trying to meet ends with all of this and I’m in-need of someones help. I also currently live on my own in a family house where bills wont be so much of a strain on me.
PLEASE!. I am trying to raise 8,000 so that I can be can be covered before and after my baby is born. Just until i can get back on my feet to work.
Thank you soooo much to anyone who is kind enough to help me, and may God continue to bless and watch over you and you family.
Paypalme> paypal.me/TaieshaSmith
Single Mother Seeking Help
20 May 2019
Dear Friends,
I am a single mother of two. I am currently unemployed, though looking for work after ten years of being a stay at home mother/homemaker, and having been down this past year in recovery after having broken my ankle and having to have surgery to repair both bone and muscle. It has been a long road, and recently has only become harder.
Three months ago, it came to my attention that the man I was engaged to was molesting my youngest child. As he was immediately removed from our home and incarcerated, we have been left without an income of our own, until I find employment. We are still in the process of all of the legalities and such to determine what his ultimate punishment will be. There are expenses and things from this occurrence, alone, that we are struggling to meet, including counseling for my child and myself. We are in the process of trying to have these covered, but while in this process, other areas are struggling.
Aside from the emotional and physical aspects, the financial burden it has left us in is quite heavy. My parents are amazing and doing their best for us. Things do wind up behind, however, as it is hard to balance a household of six on just my stepdad’s disability income. I do get assistance for food expenses, which helps, but, of course, does not cover everything necessary. I am looking to raise money to help my family with expenses such as bills, gas and such to help me along with my job search, and the other debts I have found myself in, since no longer having the supporting income we once did.
I am writing to seek any support that may be found for myself and my family. There is so much involved in all of this, and I know it is typical for people to have a set amount they are aiming to gain. However, at this point, I do not have an absolute goal. Any amount can and will help in this case, and will be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for your contribution(s). This is a very difficult time,and I cannot express enough how much it means to my family and me to have the support of others who may sympathize or empathize with our current situation.
Thank you again!
Sincerely,
A.M.W
paypal.me/amw0506
Just Needing a Break
Ok, here’s the deal. I am a single mother who has been searching for a new position but I am in the middle area where I have too much education (have an Associates and 30 hours into my Bachelor’s). Up until 4 years ago, I was balancing School, Work, son’s activities, Sunday School Teacher and helping my grandmother when she needed to go to the doctor. Needless to say, When I finally made it to university, I would drive from home in Dallas to Arlington, 17 miles, then drive from Arlington to my job in Dallas which was another 25 miles away, not including the days, my son or I would get sick, he was Never deathly ill or anything, but highly susceptible to diseases. He had the Flu and Strep Throat at the same time, so, which were those resting days at home, so the next year, I quit volunteering to assist teaching Catechism but my son still went. I forgot to mention that I lost my financial aid at this point because I had missed so much school. My family is against me obtaining my Bachelor’s and would not help me with taking care of my son and not understanding why I was needing to do my homework or go to class. I couldn’t afford a sitter and if I had tried asking a friend for help, I would never hear the end of how this person or that is a child molester. He was about 10 at the time. About a month or so later, I lost my job. So the Trifecta hit. For three years, I have been searching for a job but have found that I am in this purgatory place of job seeker unsatisfaction. I am too qualified for low paying jobs and not qualified enough, because most jobs want a Bachelor’s degree. I need job or I need to create one. One of my passions is photography and I have actually been hired a few times for shoots but here is the problem. Although I know I can do the work, working even as an assistant I have the major problem of not having money to purchase the very costly equipment. Many photographer jobs that are available want you to already own a full frame camera and a few choice lenses. So again, I am stuck. I want to finish college. I want to buy my own home and car. I never seem to have had a decent paying job that would allow me to make it on my own, you know, be able to pay the bills, car, insurance or anything. I once held down two jobs and still brought home less than 1500 a month. When my son was first born, I did do real estate and was pretty successful as an apartment locator but since my son would get sick often, the majority of the money I made, would pretty much go to the doctors since he was under 5 then. This is the person I used to be until my son was born, I had a job, at an entertainment/dinner theater place legit, I don’t want to use the name, just as a cashier, and I worked very hard during until the day he was born. I actually would go to work at 8 am till 2:30 then come back by 4 pm til a little after midnight. Go home and start over again. I did this for 5-6 days a week until my 8th month, About 8.5 months, I was given better hours and had to do M-F 8-5, so much easier for me then. The only time, I ever called in sick at the time, was when my son was born and even then, I didn’t know I went into labor a month early. A week, to the day after he was born, I received a letter, giving me notice that I was fired. So, I went to work on obtaining my real estate license, again, certain members of my family would continuously berate me and harp on me for getting a job that had benefits, which I understood but, could not find, because I didn’t even have my associates then. For five years, I did this kind of work, then I had wanted to switch offices to what I thought would be a better location, the funny thing is, the better location had a very high turnover rate and which as a locator, these referral sources are what made you or broke you. I had no knowledge at the time what the location would be like. So I took on an additional part-time job as a telemarketer, while still working the real estate and trying to raise my son. He was so cute then, he still is. Very talented too. A true athlete. He never cared for cartoons as, usually any sport on television he could find.
I one day looked at him, realized I was working two jobs and still not making over $1,000 a month. That’s right, working over two jobs, rarely seeing my son and he seemed to be growing so much, he was about 4 or 5 then. Needless to say, I quit the now unsuccessful locator job and kept a part-time job. I thought I had landed on my feet when I finally got a job that was close to home and full time. Well, about 6 months later, I was let go 1 month before that business shut down after 60 years. Good times. So unemployed again, I made the decision to return to school, so I could earn a bachelor’s degree to find a job that would offer me some sort of benefits or at the very least insurance. Fast forward to now. I can’t go to school without financial aid. I had an almost job interview to do but had to turn it down because I realized at $11 an hour and nearly 36 miles away, that I would only make a $260 month, after spending that money on gas. My son would lose his insurance and I would too. I accomplished my associates, I finished half of my bachelors
I now live with my parents, my kid is 14, and I have yet to show him that I can provide for him. I know there’s the saying, if you work hard, you get what you need in life. I have yet to find that to be the case.
I actually find it, quite the opposite. I have worked since I turned 16 years old and the only time I was able to make near $2000-3000 a month was when I was a locator. I no longer have my license because of that industry has changed beyond compare. When I worked in it, I would make anywhere from $200-1200 on a one apartment rental, because the apartments were willing to pay 50-100 percent in commission. Now, they only want to pay 10-25 percent in commissions and sometimes that is only if you show a client. I have applied at Target, Walmart, and many other stores, filling out their online application to get the same letter, that I would not be a good fit because I am overqualified. I don’t see how. Since those last two jobs, I had found work, working for one of the colleges I went to but it was only temporary and the other as a CSR agent that did not help me to further my education. That is when I took my first Hiatus from a community college. When that temporary job ended, I went to three different community colleges while I was working on my associates so that I could have a schedule that fits mine and my sons’ needs. I finished my associate’s degree about six years ago. I am just tired of not hearing back from employers because of whatever reason. I continuously update my resume, enter online applications and cover letters but I don’t hear back.
Well fast forward again to 2015. I had taken a photojournalism course from an actual Pulitzer prize winner In that semester, I listened and soaked up everything he had said about photography. He never bragged about his Pulitzer, I happened to find out from another professor. My photography improved immensely after taking another photojournalism course at the community college.
I guess I should explain that, while I went to Junior College and the on to a University, it was the University that tripped me up most, as far as my education. There were very little courses to take online, which would have helped me immensely as far as traveling from south Dallas area to arlington and then to the north Dallas area. This is the time, I was working, going to college and my son had been in baseball about 3 years at that time. I am a single mother. The father has not been involved in my kid’s life. Well, one year for about 4 months he was involved and then he took off again.
As much as I want to finish my degree, I realize, I needed a career that has a very flexible work-life balance along with all of the benefits and pays a decent salary, you know enough so I can pay back student loans, provide a home, I want to have a house of our own. I never once, in my life, had a job that allowed me to make enough to pay for my own place, bills, and groceries. Not working one or two jobs. I’m a hard worker and have always been. this is why I need a break.
Because of this photography course, I had taken and practicing since and people who have asked me to take photos of them since where family and friends. They are professionally done but not professionally done.
I have attempted to find jobs as a second shooter or real estate or weddings, however, the main requirement these types of jobs to help save money, want you to already have the photography equipment. The expensive lenses that cost about $600 or so, a full frame camera that costs over$2000.
Of course, If I had the photography equipment, I wouldn’t need to apply or ask for help with these companies, I can do it. I just don’t have the right lenses. To rent some of these lenses can cost up to $50 a day. So here’s how I’m asking for help.
I want to build on my photography equipment. I don’t care if it is used but I do need it to work with Canon. I have a 60D camera but it is the lenses and lighting equipment I need help with the most. I know at some point, I will need to buy a full frame camera, those are like the Canon Mark V and above. I don’t want anything too old. I want to be more involved in Photography Clubs like AMSP or Professional Photographers Association but again, those run into $500 or so a year, maybe less but I am at my ropes end here but I still have hope that something will work out. I don’t qualify for a credit card or flex lease situation. I already tried. My student loan debts and the fact that I usually have about $100 a month aren’t helpful. So if you can help out in any way, I would be grateful, I know my son would be grateful. I will pass on the kindness one day. So thank you for your time. Have a great one!
Eternally,
~T
Single mum in crisis!
Hi, my name is Andy.
Earlier this year, I started an online relationship with a Single Mum (let’s call her Sarah). We really hit it off. But Sarah has had a series of not very pleasant boyfriends. She has been abused and cheated on by a number of her ex-partners. Naturally, she wanted to take things slowly, so we have been texting each other for months now.
Sarah was living in temporary accommodation with her son (let’s call him John) when we first met. She was on the waiting list for a council flat. She was desperate to move on with her life, and to provide a better life for her son.
Eventually, she had some good news! A council flat was available for her! The only problem was, she didn’t have any money to furnish it.
Thankfully, I had enough financial flexibility to come to her rescue. I used my bank overdraft, and I took out a loan, in order to help her get started… Things seemed to be looking-up for her.
Unfortunately, this is where things took a turn for the worse… Now that she had a permanent address, her previous debts caught-up with her. Suddenly, she was £16,000 in debt, with no job and no means of paying it herself.
To solve this, I took out a second loan, and paid her initial installments so that she could start payment plans to deal with the rest of her debt. I could afford to do this, because I am selling my house this year and planning to use some of the equity to pay-off my personal debts.
However, just when we thought that everything was in order, another £6000 debt has arrived on her doorstep. The credit agency are unwilling to negotiate an affordable payment plan, and they have started to send Bailiffs to collect debt.
I should mention that Sarah has BPD. For her, the thought of Bailiffs knocking on the door is more traumatic than it would be for most people, to the extent of wanting to run away.
Sarah is a lovely young woman, with a strong desire to put things right in her life and provide a better life for her son. If I could pay this last debt for her, I would! But I have run-out of available funds, and so I now appeal to you. Please consider donating something to help her out. Every donation is gratefully received.
Thank you for you kind attention in reading this message. Your help is very much appreciated. If you cannot help yourself, please share this story with your friends. Thanks!
Andy
paypal.me/singlemumincrisis
Trying to navigate this newly single Mom life with a broken compass
I won’t bore you with the same sob story that I am sure you hear over and over again. I’ll keep it short and sweet and to the point. Obviously, I am here for monetary support. Yes, my husband left our family for the chick at his office. Yes, he put our family through immense amounts of hell and emotional abuse. He is the definition of an extreme narcissist. My children have seen and heard things they never should have. We have three daughters together ages, 7,8 and 10.
Was I a perfect wife? Nope. Have I made mistakes? Sure! But I never cheated on him and NOTHING in this world is worth inflicting that kind of pain on our children.
I finally left our beautiful farm house and land in June 2018. Moved in with family. Got approved for low income housing and moved in to an apartment 4 months later. If you can picture plucking your kids from a big house and the only home they have ever known with a farm, growing up as “outside kids” and are now having to live in an apartment, please understand my pain for them.
I’ve done EVERYTHING in my power to make a new home for them and shield them from more pain or asking them to “adjust” to one more thing. We have come a LONG way. I work two jobs and it kills me that I have to wake my kids up two hours before we normally do, just so that I work those two jobs because I have NO ONE to help me. No family, no friends, and I am slightly over protective and plus I don’t have the funds to pay a babysitter much less find one that I would trust. Im doing everything on my own. My husband as moved on and purchased a new house with a big back yard and he’s just living his best life. He was able to go to school and get his real estate license and now he is a real estate agent. Must be nice to have the time to better his life when he doesn’t have kids to worry about. He does pay me child support which I am thankful for but as you may know its never the same as two incomes in a household.
I qualified for food stamps. $64 a month.
I work as a special education paraprofessional at a local elementary school. I changed the girls school so they could come with me. I didn’t have a choice because there again…no one to help transport them to and from school.
I’ve had to pawn my car to pay for attorneys fees which by the way keep rolling in! Because my estranged husband is dragging it out and nit picking the papers to DEATH. Its almost over but I am completely tapped out. My savings: depleted. My checking account: Overdrawn because I HAD to get groceries.
So, I can’t pay my car note because that is astronomical and I thought for sure by now it would be over and Id be able to use the settlement money to dig my way out of that mistake. I wake up every morning and pray my car is still in the parking lot.
I can’t pay for attorneys fees. I can’t pay for ANYTHING. We are scraping to get by every single day and I’m honestly on my knees at this point. Anything to help me get out of this situation. I can’t move my babies again and cause them more pain or stress. I am trying to start a side business to help with income but that is a joke because I’m so broke.
If anyone has ever been in my situation and can offer any kind of advice or monetary support, I would be forever grateful and would give back to someone else in need when I get to the point where I can. I know I will!! I will never give up trying to better my life and the lives of my girls.
Thank you for taking the time to read my “sob story”
Katie
paypal.me/katie32
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