I’m a mother of 3 and I have made decisions in life to give my children the life I never had as a child. However, a few years ago, I lost my job and tried to work for someone I knew. It didn’t work out and instead of me making income, I became further in debt and even though a tried to stick it out with them, after 3 months of no income I told them I would be looking for another job because my bills were piling up and they did not care for the safety of me and my kids. They felt that I was being selfish and tried to tarnish my work history for potential employers. They succeeded at first, but my old job took me back and since they knew what kind of employee I was they paid no mind to what someone I considered a friend said about me. I’ve been working nonstop, with the exception on taking a day off work for rest, but I have yet to rid myself of my now debt. Sad part is, before I had that hiccup a few years ago, I was mostly debt free. Now I am struggling and asking for help to clear my debt so that I can spend more time with my kids. Save to take them on vacations and not have to stress or avoid calls. I am sincerely grateful for the help anyone gives! You really don’t know how much this means to us!
Researchers have said that just in 2015 year ending alone over 80 percent of the households in America that we’re single households we’re in fact ran by a FEMALE head of household which we’re mostly living very poor.
Many people may say well there is government assistance for them to get a grant but it’s hard to find and information regarding that said topic anywhere. So in hopes to help the single mothers out in the world this article will give you some insight on the different assistance topics we can cover including where and how to get a grant or scholarship. Also, you will read and see how simple it is to receive help with income expenses and medical insurance.
Are there really grants for a single mother?
Of course they do but these grants are not only for single mothers. However, that doesn’t mean there isn’t help for a mother to receive one. I know its mind boggling that the government hasn’t had any means created for money for a single mother that is actually in the shape of a grant. One thing the government does for a single mother is they assist them through a group or have set sponsors through a company, and sometimes they are covered by the actual income assistance completely.
Below are a few websites that will redirect you to free items that you can get just for registering on the website.
Low Income Assistance for Single Mothers / Government Grants
As I said there is not an official grant for a single mother available that is FEDERAL. However a single mother can go through federal programs and register and sign up for them. Those kinds of programs are usually for households with low income. Which means you would also qualify for Welfare. No matter what the case these are programs to help those who make below the limit and live poorly.
Below are different types of assistance based in the United States.
TANF – TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES
TANF is a crucial for many low income families located within the US.
With TANF you receive a small amount of cash every month that you can use toward your food, rent, and other necessities. However you only receive TANF for up to 60 month limit.
If you are a single mother and you have children in your home who are less than 19 years old you are eligible for TANF.
SNAP – SUPPLEMENTAL NUTRITION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Food-stamps or SNAP as other people may refer to is financial help for meals. You can receive money every month to place food on the table if you are on low or no income.
For most of Americans living in poverty SNAP is potentially the only assistance they can get.
Research has shown that in 2015 SNAP benefits have helped at least 45 million Americans. Most of the ones who receive the stamps are under are up to the age of 18.
When you go to use your benefits for SNAP you have your own personal debit card to ring your groceries up with at the register. If you are interested in trying to get on with SNAP benefits all you have to do is fill and application out and send it in or take it into a local office that deals with SNAP benefits.
NSLP – NATIONAL SCHOOL LUNCH PROGRAM
This is a program that gives free (or discounted) food to students whose parent’s income is bellow a poverty level. The income needs to be at least between 130-185 percent bellow the poverty line.
Most the time if a person is a receiver of SNAP benefits their children will be accepted into this program for free lunches. But, that doesn’t mean if you don’t have or receive SNAP that your children are disqualified.
You need to contact your child’s school to apply.
TEFAP – THE EMERGENCY FOOD ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Food for the American families who are in the poverty range not matter what the age.
If you have received food stamps before or any other program assisting you and helping you such as the ones in this article you could also be approved for this program.
You will need to contact your State distribution agency to learn more about the Emergency food assistance program.
Local Food Banks
A food bank doesn’t exactly fit into the whole “Grant” program area as it is actually a location in your town where you can get food if you are in need.
Do not allow you or your family to go without food. If you ever reach that trouble you can call 211 and ask them where the nearest food bank is based on your location.
More then 200 food banks exist with the feeding america foundation and they supply enough food to feed over 40 million people.
WIC – WOMEN, INFANTS AND CHILDREN PROGRAM
This program includes a package deal where you as a mother are able to receive healthy foods, whether you are pregnant or a new mother, and also to children who are 5 or under.
WIC is a program that is temporary and only used for a short amount of time – usually between 6 to 12 months.
EARLY HEAD START / HEAD START
These programs are for children up to 5 years old.
You can receive free child’s medical and dental care along with their schooling, and dietary needs.
Find your closes headstart office on their website or call at 1-866-763-6481.
Insurance for unemployment
This is a special program which will pay you weekly if you are unemployed and it had nothing to do with you for you being fired or let go. You will only be able to receive this benefit for maximum 26 weeks. Different states have different benefit rules. But most states will average out at about 45% of whatever the average weekly income is.
Single mothers who are out of a job temporarily can find solace with these benefits and can help make the burden less for themselves because this pay will restore what you have lost from losing your work.
If you want to try and get this started and opened for you, you will have to find your local unemployment office or apply on the website for this specific program. Most states will allow you to also try to sign up for this over the phone.
Section 8 housing
Section 8 is basically a program that helps a family be able to pay for their housing. If approved you will receive a voucher of up to 70 percent of your bills (utilities and rent). You are expected to pay the other 30 percent.
If you want to apply and feel you qualify you can get in touch with your local office involved with public housing, the HUD office.
CCAP – CHILD CARE ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
This is a benefit for families who can’t afford to place their children in daycare while working.
You still have to pay a certain percentage but it isn’t a big lump of money. The less you earn, the less you need to contribute.
EITC – Earned Income Tax Credit
It is a tax benefit for people with low income. You could potentially get as much as $6,000.
If you normally have a tax rate of $1050 but you are allowed $5550 then you get refund of $4500.
There is a Children’s Tax Credit too for as much as $1,000 for EACH child.
LIHEAP – LOW INCOME HOME ENERGY ASSISTANCE PROGRAMLIHEAP is a program that is a one time help to help pay for heating / cooling expenses.
Most of the time this is for the disabled or families with children or disabled person in the home.
If you need any extra information regarding this topic you can get in touch through the number 1-866-674-6327 or a local number for your local LIHEAP office.
WAP – WEATHERIZATION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Weatherization assistance program lowers energy bills for families in need. Usually the elderly and families involving children are accepted and put to the top of the list before all.
Your monthly income need to be below 200 percent poverty level.
To apply, find a local WAP center.
Medicaid is help with medical expenses. If you do not have health insurance this gives you certain benefits as long as your income restriction meets the level it should.
A lot of single mothers may meet the standards to be recipients of Medicaid even if you are unemployed.
Every state has different rules about Medicaid plans. You can find out exact requirements on this website.
Together with ObamaCare it ensures that even single mothers who didn’t receive any health benefits will now be able to have coverage.
CHIP – CHILDREN HEALTH INSURANCE
CHIP gives children without health insurance a chance to have health benefits all the way up until they are nineteen. It is for families whose income is too high to receive Medicaid benefits.
It provides every type of benefit you can think of — dental, eye exams, and even annual doctor’s exams.
Every state has its own rules. If you would like to learn a little more about this specific benefit you can call 1-877 Kids now (1-877-543-7669)
Federal Pell Grants
Aid program for students of up to $5,815 for those in need to be able to set foot into college.
This is the best opportunity for a mother who is single to finally be able to finish her schooling and finally continue in the workforce. The money is completely free of charge with no interest rates or paybacks ever.
You need to fill out an application and submit it for a pell grant and have it turned in on or before June 30th of every year.
Federal Supplemental Education Opportunity Grant
Similar to the Pell Grant. If you already have had pell grants and you are at the top of the charts in need you will be first on the list to receive this. Depending on a persons needs that are wrapped in with their financial struggle will ultimately decide who will receive anywhere between $100 too $4,000 annually.
Charities can be a way to seek help for you and your children whether you are in need of food or clothing or even housing. A lot of charities around the world actually have their own food banks that they run and they will give you bags of free food.
If you go to salvation army a lot of the times they will let you sleep there if you have no where else to go especially if it is a result of violence.
Most churches will offer you food and clothes or maybe even a place to stay if you have been recently kicked out by the one you are living with.
To find information on this you should look through your phone books local listing or yellow page. You can also research online and see what churches are available to your area and call them and ask what services they do offer.
Single moms can receive loans usually relatively quickly but I would not recommended that at all. You could potentially go into debt and not be able to rise back from that.
Sometimes you have no choice because you have to fix your broken car or maybe pay for utilities and food and need the help right then. But you have to be able to pay that loan realistically quick.
Pay attention to your credit because if you try to get a loan through a bank or anyone they will check your credit score and see if it is even available to be able to place a loan out to you. If it is a loan that is for payday loans or credit card advances they will not run a check but you will end up paying more after fees and costs.
Line of Credit
If your credit is decent some people ask a bank for a loan personally. Most of the time this is a better idea then asking for a payday loan because if you need quick money with lower rates of interest this is it.
On a personal loan interest is lower dramatically but you have to pay in instalments. It doesn’t really fit criteria for an emergency. Normally if you just tell them you do not have any more funds and that is why you need this they will turn you away. If your credit is poor you will not be able to even touch this offer.
Short term (payday) loans
This is a very popular type of loan. You may know it by the term “Cash advance.” The interest runs really high on these and it is a loan that is only for a small time frame.
This is a loan that would more then likely be considered if a problem arises and you needed to repair your car or had a disastrous dental emergency. You have to know for sure you will be able to give every penny back.
If you do not pay this type of loan back you could be in loads of trouble financially.
Credit card cash advance
Do you own a credit card? If so you will be able to get money from a bank as easy as 1, 2, 3. This is not a method that is highly praised though because as soon as you start taking money out of the bank the interest keeps rising and you also are charged for using and pulling out of the bank a fee. This is potentially the easier options if you do need cash asap but you have to pay it back and make sure you absolutely can.
When it is all said and done grants will not solve your money issues within your home if that is what you expect. To get a grant is definitely not easy it isn’t a walk in the park by any means.
If you are looking to get a more stable source of financially being stable you should probably look in areas around you or find a women shelter until you can get back up on your feet.
If you think you have all the time in the world you can apply for other areas of assistance such as Food stamps, HUD, and etc. They do take a lot of time and effort for someone to get back with you and let you know if you have been accepted and enrolled. Try finding a part time working job as a way to financially start becoming stable again.
The moral of this is you can not expect a grant to fall into your hands without effort and take all your worries away. They are only here too do one thing and that doesn’t usually fix anything with your financial setting.
This is all on you and what you decide, no one else can decide for you.
Hello everyone! Never thought I’d be on here asking for handouts because I always vowed to myself that I would always take care of me and mine. Well…….life has a way of throwing you a curveball. Now I have considerable amount of debt that I have been struggling to pay off and doing so as much as I can. However, I sincerely need help with March rent. Its tax season I know and was counting on those funds to set me straight, but I may not receive them. Actually, I know that I won’t receive them. I could just cry but I won’t because my financial blessing will come from somewhere. My sons never know the struggle and that’s something they shouldn’t even have to worry about. I could never ask anyone to pay my rent in full $1850 but if a few people find it in their hearts to give just 5 dollars, it adds up. Trust and believe, I am that person who will pay it forward when I am able to because I myself am a person that helps those in need because I truly care about people. Thank you in advance for your monetary donations.
Hello, I am Tabita, a desperate single mom of two, after I gave birth in June 2023, my husband left me alone to take care of both children, he doesn’t support me financially he ran out with all our savings and spent it, and this made my life hard, I stay in rent now , suffering and it is very hard to manage it, I wish I have my own apartment, it doesn’t matter how small but to be mine because this is a burden to pay monthly for a place to stay , I feel hopeless, I need 50,000 $ to buy an apartment with one room for me and my children and I would feel și happy for getting it , I pray God will help me and bless abundantly those that will help a single mom abandoned, I only believe God didn’t abandon me, this gives me strength each morning when I wake up, and I encourage myself to stay strong, no matter what . Thank you! Bellow is my PayPal link for payment.
My name is Sarah, and I’m a single mother who recently lost my job at the local diner. Overnight, my world turned upside down, leaving me alone to provide for my two children, Emily and Jacob. As bills continue to pile up and the threat of eviction looms closer each day, I’m reaching out for help in a time of desperate need. Without you help, my family faces the very real possibility of homelessness. I never imagined I’d find myself in this situation, but I refuse to let my children suffer because of circumstances beyond our control. Your support, whether through donations or spreading the word, could make all the difference for us.
All we need is 5000$ to get through this month.
Please, if you can find it in your heart to help, know that you’re offering more than just financial assistance – you’re offering us hope.
Thank you for considering our helping us during these difficult times.
I’m a single mom with 3 young children. We were evicted for our home due to my job letting me go. We haven’t had a place to live for about 5 months. I’m in need of financial help to get us a place to live & food to eat. Anything would help us.
Today, I write with a heavy heart and a sense of urgency that cannot be overstated. My name is Becca, and I am in desperate need of your assistance. For the past three years, I have been on a challenging journey to receive an ADHD assessment through the NHS. Unfortunately, despite my patience and perseverance, the waiting list seems endless. As a single mother of two, a self-employed gardener, and someone grappling with mental health issues, this prolonged wait has become unbearable. Living with undiagnosed ADHD has impacted every aspect of my life. From struggling with focus and organization in my work to managing my household and caring for my children, each day is a daunting challenge. The burden of untreated ADHD has become overwhelming, exacerbating my existing mental health concerns and leaving me exhausted and defeated. As a self-employed gardener, my livelihood has suffered due to my ADHD struggles. Despite my dedication, I face diminishing work opportunities, making it harder to support my family. The weight of these circumstances grows heavier each day, deepening the sense of hopelessness. I have explored every available avenue for assistance, but resources are limited for individuals in my situation. A private ADHD assessment offers hope by addressing the root cause of my struggles. However, financial constraints as a single mother and self-employed individual make it impossible for me to afford the assessment. I humbly reach out to you, hoping for your compassion during this time of need. Your generosity could change my life, providing access to the assessment I desperately require and offering hope for a better future. Your support would not only ease the financial burden but also serve as encouragement during this challenging period. I am aware of the difficulties everyone faces, and I am genuinely grateful for your consideration. Your kindness would mean more than words can express, and I pledge to pay forward your generosity once stability returns to my life. Thank you from the depths of my heart for reading my plea. I am hopeful that your kindness will help me start on the path to healing and regaining control of my life.
With sincere gratitude and warm regards, Becca
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Hello. I would like to share my story with you. I have nowhere else to turn for help, I have exhausted all resources. Let me introduce myself. My name is Neza. I am 38 years old, I am a hairdresser by profession, and I am happy to do this work. However, I have currently been out of work for 5 months. During this time, I had two operations, my uterus and fallopian tubes were removed due to an illness. I am a single mother supporting 2 beautiful boys. They are 14 and 15 years old. The partner I was with robbed me and took all the savings I had. I live with my mother, who fortunately is a great support and helps me a lot financially. However, I already owe her quite a bit of money because she helps me pay bills. Since I have been away from work for so long, all my cash reserves are gone. I have a loan for a car, I have a bank limit so I could pay for the heating. The boys are growing and I don’t have the finances to buy them clothes and shoes. I don’t have money to go to the store and buy food for us. To make it even better, my car broke down. I can only dream of fixing it. I am turning to you and politely asking you if you can help me, because I am desperate. I don’t sleep at night, I don’t have an appetite because I’m worried about being out of money, they’re just making my health even worse. Whoever can help and is willing to help me, God will reward him with health, which I myself do not have. In order to recover financially and get everything in order, she would need $10,000.
With kind thoughts and wishes, Neza
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I’m a divorce 33 years old with 4 kids, hardworking. I recently moved from Florida to Indiana because of the difficulty of the high cost of living (rent). It has been a bumpy journey in life. One of the most difficult situations was being homeless. Eventually , I got a job while I was in Florida that was paying me $12 an hour and rented $1400. I have to take Uber to and from work, etc. My Ex wasn’t unable to provide assistance because he’s in Haiti, so it was only me.
In 2020, I meant someone, but because of how expensive Florida is, even with two incomes, it was still a problem. So, we decided to move Indianapolis in 2022. My fiancé moved first with the help of my cousin, who was already living in Indianapolis. Then I joined afterward with my kids, and I found a job. I eventually had to finance a car to make it less stressful on us to around from work. Although we only moved with just our clothes to Indiana, I felt a sense of relief.
Until I got pregnant with my fourth child. It wasn’t planned, but it happened. I started getting care very early, and from tests ran and examination ran during my pregnancy. One of the scariest results was having strange 3 cancerous cells in my cervix m. I had to now visit two different doctors during that period, and the frequency of doctors appointments was many, along with my kids’ doctors appointment, especially for my daughter, whose asthmatic. My job started to get effective cause most of my doctors appointments, they were during work hours. My supervisor was very understanding, but there were policies in which he couldn’t help much. When I had to go to my appointments I either had to come work late or leave work early, because I didn’t have enough sick time, vacation HR started to give me warning that I might be terminated due to me not having sick or vac time whenever I had an appointment If came in late or left early I got points. 6 points might termination I was already at 4. The reason I didn’t have time was how the company gave the time on base every 40 hours. I believe it was 3 or 4 hours of sick time.
As if things couldn’t get worse. The headaches and backpack were getting worse. My doctor requested me to be out for a week, and upon returning, HR gave me my final warning. I went to the office to request unpaid time 6 weeks before my due day but wasn’t able to get it. To make matters worse even if I pushed to work until my the require Maternity leave wasn’t going to be paid maternity leave due to company policy that requires me to have a year with the company in order to get paid maternity leave.
Things started to go downhill when I received a call from my 7 years old son teacher that he said he wanted to kill himself. My attention was needed, which led to me resigning instead of getting fired from my job. My fiancé had to take up a second job with Ups, which wasn’t helping much cause it was only 2 to 3 hours at times. My fiancé has been very supportive, but at the same time, he has a lot on his plate from his parents in Haiti along with his two sons he also has to provide for.
During my time out of work I’ve doing door dash, uber and all those other little side gig to keep up with some bills, but I could have only done so much being 35 weeks pregnant and barely able to move around. Then my fiancé grandma passed, and we had to help with the burial. Time passed. I went into labor and had to get an emergency C-section cause things weren’t going so well. It’s going to be two months now. I need to get a leep procedure done but am not able to cause the hospital is out of network of my insurance provider, I have to pay up front because its an outpatient surgery. So that’s on hold
I could go back to my old job but am unable to find a daycare with an opening space for a baby at the moment. I tried looking for an overnight shift but haven’t found any as yet. My uncle passed away a couple of weeks ago in Haiti, another unexpected expense on us.
Long story cut short with all of these has been happening rent is late, car payment is late, a personal loan I took late 4 months now and few medical bills that are passed due also. Am looking for any type of assistance I could find to get back on track, especially with rent. I don’t want my kids to go through being homeless again.
Your assistance will be gladly appreciated 👏
Thank you in advance.
I am a mother of 3 little boys. I have a 6 year old, 5 year old, and a 1 year old.
Back in 2017 I gave birth to my oldest and even though I had insurance it still cost me a lot of money to have him. Then in 2019 I had my second child. After these 2 births I was close to $70,000 in debt. I have been working to pay all of this off. I lost my job when the pandemic hit and I ended up having to sell my house to make ends meet. Now fast forward to 2023. I gave birth to our 3 son. I had to take a job making less money just to try and make ends meet. Their dad works a 2nd-3rd shift job to help me out and I work a 1st shift job. We have to work these jobs since we can’t afford daycare for the boys. Our oldest is in school and our middle child is in developmental 1/2 day preschool since he is has autism. So, he cost more than a normal kid. Then the 1 year old has therapy that comes twice a week. We are currently living in a 2 bedroom apartment but we need to purchase a house and a bigger car that fits all of us. Plus their Dad has a brother also with a disability that will be moving in with us
I am an Human Resource Coordinator and I enjoy it but if it comes down to it and I can’t get financial help then I may have to look for another job. I currently live paycheck to paycheck and I make less than $50,000 a year.
I am asking for help to purchase a new home and another car. We just don’t make enough to continue to live where we do and try and take care of our household.
All together for a new house and a new car would be $670,000. Now I know that I would probably never get that amount but anything would help.
Thank you for your consideration
I really need your help. I am a single mother to an amazing beautiful little girl, and I am doing every single thing I can to protect and provide for her. I am here now in hopes to receive great help from great people and save my life as I have recently found myself debating whether my life is worth living or dying. I’ve managed to save my family as a child. However after leaving an abusive relationship and losing my only support system ( my Granny) I have found life incredibly challenging. I am desperately seeking financial assistance. It feels like my world has been turned upside down, and I’m struggling to stay alive.
I lost our only support system to cancer, then my home due to an abusive relationship, next my job came into play after my entire brake system unexpectedly went completely out on me on the freeway. I have slept in the car, parks, anywhere we can. It’s so hard right now because I have no idea how I got here. I have always worked hard and provided very well for myself and my daughter. I really am struggling with the tragic loss of our Matriarch /Mother/ Granny suddenly passing away. My birth mother hates me for all the wrong reasons (she feels my dad chose me over her, instead of seeing things for the torching rape that it was) left me broken and lost.
I have found a great career opportunity and put a plan together. My only dilemma is I would need assistance to make sure I can secure my position. If I can just get the assistance I know I can get back to a much better more stable position. I am also looking to get into counseling to grieve properly as well as finish nursing school. However I can’t exactly focus on that with my situation.
If it wasn’t for my daughter I would not be alive right now. I made a promise before she took her first breath on this earth that I would protect, provide, and unconditionally love her for eternity to give her a life that I was not afforded as a child. I keep a positive mindset, I’m big on helping others and giving back to the community and I know this is a test and I am going to step out on Faith because I know I am meant to live, I am meant to see my daughter graduate, be happy and great living her full life.
Although I am having a very difficult time feeling like the ultimate failure not only as a mother, provider and protector but as a person. I am seeking every avenue to get back to my best self and give my best self. I humbly ask in my darkest moment for your help. I am reaching out in hopes that you might be able to offer assistance. I am going to pay it forward in life. Every donation truly helps my babygirl and I.
Thank you so much for your compassion and understanding.
A Desperate Mother
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My name is Deondra , and I am reaching out to you with a humble request for assistance. As a single mother of three children, I am facing significant financial challenges as I strive to provide a stable and secure future for my family.
Currently, I am burdened with overwhelming debt, including credit card balances, personal loans, and an auto loan. Despite working diligently to manage my finances, the weight of these obligations has become increasingly difficult to bear. As I endeavor to become debt-free and alleviate the financial strain on my family, I am seeking support to help me achieve this goal.
Your generosity could make a profound difference in our lives. A donation of $20,000 would enable me to pay off and/or significantly reduce the balances on my credit cards, personal loans, and auto loan. This, in turn, would alleviate the financial pressure on me and allow me to allocate more of my income towards providing for my children’s needs and creating lasting memories with them.
I understand that everyone faces challenges in life, and I am incredibly grateful for any assistance you can provide during this difficult time. Your kindness and generosity would not only alleviate a significant burden for me but also bring hope and stability to my family’s future. Thank you for considering my request, and I sincerely appreciate your compassion and support. My paypal account information is @Alstonunique
Hi, I’m a single mother of seven and I could really use a blessing. It’s hard to even ask such favors but I’ve tried everything. I live on the Cherokee Indian reservation and so I thought surely we had programs or something for home repairs. Well, we do and I applied with no response whatsoever. I even had a man come to my house and give me an estimate, that way if I received help I would have everything ready to go. Sadly, the repair is estimated at 10,500. That’s for a whole new roof. Lord knows we need one urgently. I bought my mobile home ten years ago and what started as a leak, ended up causing our roof and inside ceiling to fall through. It would be such a blessing to receive help to get our roof repaired. It’s been rough trying to live in such a mess. My kids and I would be grateful for a new roof and getting our home back in order. God bless.
I have lost everything, including myself. After filing for divorce i am handed newspaper articles on how my husband premeditated the rape of his biological daughter. It is sickening. she was only 14 years old. We share a 12-year-old boy. I have been so violated but it is not considered a crime upon me. How do you tell your son his father is a monster.
During our marriage I was responsible for everything. The bread winner, the household, the farm, working full time, and our son. He was not an active participant in our lives,
My husband started drinking and using pain medications. He became an alcoholic ragger. Domestic Violence started because I informed him the marriage was over.
He tried every manipulation tactic to keep me home and married. Death threats, killing himself, stalking, blackmail, and holding me hostage in rooms for hours. When my safety and my son’s safety was at jeopardy, I obtained a contact protection order. He was removed from the home and ordered to pay the bills on the property. He has refused. His back child support has not been paid in 6 months. I have not received a dime from him in 14 months.
I have been ordered to pay the property mortgage, repairs, maintenance, horse care, and utilities. I also have the full financial responsibility of our son. I have a restraining order not allowing me to sell my own belongings to pay the bills here. He monitors my social media accounts and reports anything he does not like; I have been working 16-hour shifts to pay the bills and we are behind. My credit is trashed. I am also ordered to pay the monster spousal support. My attorney fees are up to 22 grand. Again, money I don’t have. How does a victim of domestic violence pay her abuser spousal support? How does this happen. I have been paying 100% of every responsibility since he left, and now spousal support is ordered on top of that. The abuse continues through his attorney and court system.
I am broken and suffering horrible PTSD and now my son is showing signs of inappropriate behavior. I was ordered to get counseling for both of us. Again, I don’t have the money. I pray to GOD my son will be ok.
We are on the verge of losing everything. My husband disconnected the electric because the bill was late, and it was in his name. It was 10 degrees outside, and I received a notice in the mail it will be turned off in 5 days. I had to change the account into my name. My father gave me some money to get caught up on the electric bill.
I am on my third lawyer due to the incompetence of the first two. Divorce paperwork not filed, letting my CPO expire, not filing contempt of court for failure to pay the bills, losing evidence, not turning my discovery in on time, not giving requested belongings back to my husband, failing to give itemized statements and so on.
I have written our local state legislature for help. I stated that it should be mandatory that anyone applying for a marriage license should be notified of a sexual predatory or anyone else convicted of a felony. I also requested there be exemptions to individuals who are requesting spousal support. Here is the list of exemptions: domestic violence, substance abuse, alcohol abuse, any kind of fraud, stealing money, credit fraud, and refusing to work. Spousal support was initially for the homemaker who raises the children.
I also asked for marriage based on fraud be annulled immediately and not just having a one-year time limit. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
I would take any kind of help. Even if someone would help me lobby for changes in the Ohio divorce laws, attorney advice, monetary donations or free counselling for my son and I.
Hello I am requesting help to be able to take my mom to Galveston Texas for her Birthday I want to do something nice for her but do not have the funds to do so I am a single mom with 2 daughters and already struggling as is with this inflation it would be a weekend getaway since I work during the week and can’t afford to take time off any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you! PayPal Euridice Ortiz