Can you help?
I can’t believe I’m writing this but I hope that I as I write my story down it will help my mental wellbeing – and maybe someone out there will be willing to help. If that someone is you then thank you so much in advance.
I have always been that nice guy that always helps others – whether that’s family, friends or complete strangers asking for spare change in the street. Some have said in the past that I’m a bit gullible but I have always tried to see the best in people.
A few years ago we lost my Dad to a brain tumour. He was diagnosed in the June and he passed away in the January. He was the ultimate nice guy who couldn’t do enough for other people and I’d like to think that a large part of my outlook on life is down to my Dad.
During my Dad’s last few months I signed up to make monthly payments to various Cancer and Hospice charities (my little way of feeling that I could make a difference). This continued after Dad passed but the requests from other charities then started to come in. At first I was paying £50 per month but as the requests came in, it soon ran into the hundreds.
All of these charities said it was easy to cancel my contributions but every time I phoned I was talked into paying for another month – or two, or more.
I was already concerned that things were getting out of hand when I started drawing out cash from by credit cards to fund the donations – but then Covid hit. I was lucky as I was put on furlough instead of losing my job – but it still meant that I was paying an even larger chunk of my ‘income’ to the charities. I figured I was still in a more fortunate position than those that had lost loved-ones to the virus.
So, now we are in 2022, the headlines are full of stories about the cost of living going through the roof and I have finally plucked up the ‘courage’ to tell the charities that I cannot continue to pay. They have (mostly) been very understanding but this has still left me with thousands of pounds worth of credit card debt that I cannot afford to pay off.
I don’t begrudge the money that I have donated over the years – but of course a lot of it wasn’t actually my money to give.
Unlike others on this forum, I’m not asking for a specific amount – but rather if you feel that you could contribute to my fund then any donation (no matter how small) would be hugely appreciated.
My skills are mainly Excel based so if there is anything I could offer in return in terms of spreadsheet help then please do let me know.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story, and hopefully, with your help, I can go back to being that helpful bloke (but this time I’ll offer my time rather than money).
My PayPal.Me address is below…
I was a stay at home dad for 5 years. My boys are now 5 and 3 yrs old. There mom is a pharmacist. This year both of my kids were going to be in school so I started working. A week later my signifagant other was fired. She convinced me to stay here in Alaska while she visits her parents in Arizona and looks for a job. After she gets there she has stopped letting me talk to my kids, she ignores my calls and texts. She won’t talk about getting all of us back under the same roof. I stayed here thinking it was temporary. I deposited almost all of my pay into her bank account before she canceled my credit cards. I love these kids, she really has the upper hand financially, but I need to fight for these kids. She seems to think she’s won because she knows I can’t just move to arizona without a job and I can’t get a lawyer if I want to get an apartment. I spent every day with these guys. Every minute was amazing. My Significant other has stolen my boys from me. She lied to me. I thought I was staying for the good of our family while she looked for a job. Now I’m desprate. Please help me get from Alaska to Arizona and into an apartment and set up with a great lawyer who can help me save my children from a ruthless woman. Please help