I am a Veteran of the US Army, with a divorce that is pending, and now a
single mother of two. I have had a blessed life until the past year and a
half, and upon taking my children and I out of a bad and stressful marriage,
have found myself needing help. I have always been use to helping others,
and although I can’t financially do so right now, I still try to do my part.
I’m active in organizations that help other Veterans and another group that
prepares meals for needy families in my community. Since losing my brother
to Operation Iraqi Freedom, my children and I have joined a national
organization focused on helping the families of POW, MIA, and KIA troops.
I have never had any type of government assistance, or asked for a handout,
but due to some pride, and wanting to prove I could do it on my own, has
caused the pile up to become overwhelming. My divorce is pending until
certain documents could be provided by my children’s father. This has caused
any sources of help I’ve asked for to be declined because they still take
his pay into consideration, even though we’re living in a different state,
and receiving no financial help from him at all.
I am working full time, and was saving money to take a state certification
test so I could get a better job. Recently my son injured his mouth, and the
only option given was for a series of 10 oral surgeries. We just finished
with number two, and he had some minor complications. Since these are
considered oral surgeries performed by a pediatric specialist, our insurance
will not completely cover the cost, and I have to pay the difference up
front. I used the money I had saved to pay for these first two, but then got
behind on bills from missing work so I could be with my son for two days
after each procedure.
I finally realize that everyone needs some sort of help sometimes, and if it
were just me, I wouldn’t ask for anything. My kids are my world though, and
have been my motivation through all of this. Wanting them to be happy and
healthy motivates me even more to do whatever it takes to get us back out on
In addition to my son’s medical expenses and medications, I’ve lost my auto
insurance, my car is facing repossession within the next 2 weeks, and our
phone service is being disconnected one week from today. I’m doing the
absolute best I can with what I have, and I know if I could just get a small
push to get ahead again, I can stay there. I tried a loan as well, but I
have zero credit. After marrying at 18, and being almost 27 now, I was never
allowed to put anything we owned in my name. Not even jointly with him, so
now here I am, almost 30, and no credit history at all.
The total amount I’m seeking is $8,000, but anything at all helps. I’m even
willing to do some sort of peer to peer lending where I pay you back on your
terms. In one way I’m thankful for this experience because it showed me how
strong I can truly be, but like any parent, I just want to provide the best
life possible for my children.