I am embarrassed and full of shame to be writing this but have reached a point where I really have no other option. I am a full time single father to my son and have been raising him 100% of the time for the past seven years with zero assistance. I am a teacher and coach two sports at the school. Living on one income on a teacher salary in Northern Virginia has been challenging to say the least. Despite coaching two sports to earn extra money, working part time and summer jobs I have still had to rely on credit cards and loans to get by and survive the summer months when I do not receive my teacher salary. I have reached the financial breaking point. Credit cards are maxed out. I can’t another loan as due to my debt to income ratio. I was praying for a tax refund but after doing my taxes I owe 1200 dollars. My checking account is literally at ZERO this morning and I don’t get paid again until April 1. I dont qualify for any governmental handouts that I have helped fund with my taxes. When our food runs out in the next couple days I literally have no idea how I will feed and support my son! I know there are people who are worse off then me but I am praying and hoping that my story resonates with at least one person who has walked a mile in my shoes who is able and willing to help. Thanks for taking the time to read! And should anyone reading this choose to help THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart! You are indeed an angel and I karma will smile upon you and your loved ones.
Researchers have said that just in 2015 year ending alone over 80 percent of the households in America that we’re single households we’re in fact ran by a FEMALE head of household which we’re mostly living very poor.
Many people may say well there is government assistance for them to get a grant but it’s hard to find and information regarding that said topic anywhere. So in hopes to help the single mothers out in the world this article will give you some insight on the different assistance topics we can cover including where and how to get a grant or scholarship. Also, you will read and see how simple it is to receive help with income expenses and medical insurance.
Are there really grants for a single mother?
Of course they do but these grants are not only for single mothers. However, that doesn’t mean there isn’t help for a mother to receive one. I know its mind boggling that the government hasn’t had any means created for money for a single mother that is actually in the shape of a grant. One thing the government does for a single mother is they assist them through a group or have set sponsors through a company, and sometimes they are covered by the actual income assistance completely.
Below are a few websites that will redirect you to free items that you can get just for registering on the website.
Low Income Assistance for Single Mothers / Government Grants
As I said there is not an official grant for a single mother available that is FEDERAL. However a single mother can go through federal programs and register and sign up for them. Those kinds of programs are usually for households with low income. Which means you would also qualify for Welfare. No matter what the case these are programs to help those who make below the limit and live poorly.
Below are different types of assistance based in the United States.
TANF – TEMPORARY ASSISTANCE FOR NEEDY FAMILIES
TANF is a crucial for many low income families located within the US.
With TANF you receive a small amount of cash every month that you can use toward your food, rent, and other necessities. However you only receive TANF for up to 60 month limit.
If you are a single mother and you have children in your home who are less than 19 years old you are eligible for TANF.
SNAP – SUPPLEMENTAL NUTRITION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Food-stamps or SNAP as other people may refer to is financial help for meals. You can receive money every month to place food on the table if you are on low or no income.
For most of Americans living in poverty SNAP is potentially the only assistance they can get.
Research has shown that in 2015 SNAP benefits have helped at least 45 million Americans. Most of the ones who receive the stamps are under are up to the age of 18.
When you go to use your benefits for SNAP you have your own personal debit card to ring your groceries up with at the register. If you are interested in trying to get on with SNAP benefits all you have to do is fill and application out and send it in or take it into a local office that deals with SNAP benefits.
NSLP – NATIONAL SCHOOL LUNCH PROGRAM
This is a program that gives free (or discounted) food to students whose parent’s income is bellow a poverty level. The income needs to be at least between 130-185 percent bellow the poverty line.
Most the time if a person is a receiver of SNAP benefits their children will be accepted into this program for free lunches. But, that doesn’t mean if you don’t have or receive SNAP that your children are disqualified.
You need to contact your child’s school to apply.
TEFAP – THE EMERGENCY FOOD ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Food for the American families who are in the poverty range not matter what the age.
If you have received food stamps before or any other program assisting you and helping you such as the ones in this article you could also be approved for this program.
You will need to contact your State distribution agency to learn more about the Emergency food assistance program.
Local Food Banks
A food bank doesn’t exactly fit into the whole “Grant” program area as it is actually a location in your town where you can get food if you are in need.
Do not allow you or your family to go without food. If you ever reach that trouble you can call 211 and ask them where the nearest food bank is based on your location.
More then 200 food banks exist with the feeding america foundation and they supply enough food to feed over 40 million people.
WIC – WOMEN, INFANTS AND CHILDREN PROGRAM
This program includes a package deal where you as a mother are able to receive healthy foods, whether you are pregnant or a new mother, and also to children who are 5 or under.
WIC is a program that is temporary and only used for a short amount of time – usually between 6 to 12 months.
EARLY HEAD START / HEAD START
These programs are for children up to 5 years old.
You can receive free child’s medical and dental care along with their schooling, and dietary needs.
Find your closes headstart office on their website or call at 1-866-763-6481.
Insurance for unemployment
This is a special program which will pay you weekly if you are unemployed and it had nothing to do with you for you being fired or let go. You will only be able to receive this benefit for maximum 26 weeks. Different states have different benefit rules. But most states will average out at about 45% of whatever the average weekly income is.
Single mothers who are out of a job temporarily can find solace with these benefits and can help make the burden less for themselves because this pay will restore what you have lost from losing your work.
If you want to try and get this started and opened for you, you will have to find your local unemployment office or apply on the website for this specific program. Most states will allow you to also try to sign up for this over the phone.
Section 8 housing
Section 8 is basically a program that helps a family be able to pay for their housing. If approved you will receive a voucher of up to 70 percent of your bills (utilities and rent). You are expected to pay the other 30 percent.
If you want to apply and feel you qualify you can get in touch with your local office involved with public housing, the HUD office.
CCAP – CHILD CARE ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
This is a benefit for families who can’t afford to place their children in daycare while working.
You still have to pay a certain percentage but it isn’t a big lump of money. The less you earn, the less you need to contribute.
EITC – Earned Income Tax Credit
It is a tax benefit for people with low income. You could potentially get as much as $6,000.
If you normally have a tax rate of $1050 but you are allowed $5550 then you get refund of $4500.
There is a Children’s Tax Credit too for as much as $1,000 for EACH child.
LIHEAP – LOW INCOME HOME ENERGY ASSISTANCE PROGRAMLIHEAP is a program that is a one time help to help pay for heating / cooling expenses.
Most of the time this is for the disabled or families with children or disabled person in the home.
If you need any extra information regarding this topic you can get in touch through the number 1-866-674-6327 or a local number for your local LIHEAP office.
WAP – WEATHERIZATION ASSISTANCE PROGRAM
Weatherization assistance program lowers energy bills for families in need. Usually the elderly and families involving children are accepted and put to the top of the list before all.
Your monthly income need to be below 200 percent poverty level.
To apply, find a local WAP center.
Medicaid is help with medical expenses. If you do not have health insurance this gives you certain benefits as long as your income restriction meets the level it should.
A lot of single mothers may meet the standards to be recipients of Medicaid even if you are unemployed.
Every state has different rules about Medicaid plans. You can find out exact requirements on this website.
Together with ObamaCare it ensures that even single mothers who didn’t receive any health benefits will now be able to have coverage.
CHIP – CHILDREN HEALTH INSURANCE
CHIP gives children without health insurance a chance to have health benefits all the way up until they are nineteen. It is for families whose income is too high to receive Medicaid benefits.
It provides every type of benefit you can think of — dental, eye exams, and even annual doctor’s exams.
Every state has its own rules. If you would like to learn a little more about this specific benefit you can call 1-877 Kids now (1-877-543-7669)
Federal Pell Grants
Aid program for students of up to $5,815 for those in need to be able to set foot into college.
This is the best opportunity for a mother who is single to finally be able to finish her schooling and finally continue in the workforce. The money is completely free of charge with no interest rates or paybacks ever.
You need to fill out an application and submit it for a pell grant and have it turned in on or before June 30th of every year.
Federal Supplemental Education Opportunity Grant
Similar to the Pell Grant. If you already have had pell grants and you are at the top of the charts in need you will be first on the list to receive this. Depending on a persons needs that are wrapped in with their financial struggle will ultimately decide who will receive anywhere between $100 too $4,000 annually.
Charities can be a way to seek help for you and your children whether you are in need of food or clothing or even housing. A lot of charities around the world actually have their own food banks that they run and they will give you bags of free food.
If you go to salvation army a lot of the times they will let you sleep there if you have no where else to go especially if it is a result of violence.
Most churches will offer you food and clothes or maybe even a place to stay if you have been recently kicked out by the one you are living with.
To find information on this you should look through your phone books local listing or yellow page. You can also research online and see what churches are available to your area and call them and ask what services they do offer.
Single moms can receive loans usually relatively quickly but I would not recommended that at all. You could potentially go into debt and not be able to rise back from that.
Sometimes you have no choice because you have to fix your broken car or maybe pay for utilities and food and need the help right then. But you have to be able to pay that loan realistically quick.
Pay attention to your credit because if you try to get a loan through a bank or anyone they will check your credit score and see if it is even available to be able to place a loan out to you. If it is a loan that is for payday loans or credit card advances they will not run a check but you will end up paying more after fees and costs.
Line of Credit
If your credit is decent some people ask a bank for a loan personally. Most of the time this is a better idea then asking for a payday loan because if you need quick money with lower rates of interest this is it.
On a personal loan interest is lower dramatically but you have to pay in instalments. It doesn’t really fit criteria for an emergency. Normally if you just tell them you do not have any more funds and that is why you need this they will turn you away. If your credit is poor you will not be able to even touch this offer.
Short term (payday) loans
This is a very popular type of loan. You may know it by the term “Cash advance.” The interest runs really high on these and it is a loan that is only for a small time frame.
This is a loan that would more then likely be considered if a problem arises and you needed to repair your car or had a disastrous dental emergency. You have to know for sure you will be able to give every penny back.
If you do not pay this type of loan back you could be in loads of trouble financially.
Credit card cash advance
Do you own a credit card? If so you will be able to get money from a bank as easy as 1, 2, 3. This is not a method that is highly praised though because as soon as you start taking money out of the bank the interest keeps rising and you also are charged for using and pulling out of the bank a fee. This is potentially the easier options if you do need cash asap but you have to pay it back and make sure you absolutely can.
When it is all said and done grants will not solve your money issues within your home if that is what you expect. To get a grant is definitely not easy it isn’t a walk in the park by any means.
If you are looking to get a more stable source of financially being stable you should probably look in areas around you or find a women shelter until you can get back up on your feet.
If you think you have all the time in the world you can apply for other areas of assistance such as Food stamps, HUD, and etc. They do take a lot of time and effort for someone to get back with you and let you know if you have been accepted and enrolled. Try finding a part time working job as a way to financially start becoming stable again.
The moral of this is you can not expect a grant to fall into your hands without effort and take all your worries away. They are only here too do one thing and that doesn’t usually fix anything with your financial setting.
This is all on you and what you decide, no one else can decide for you.
Hi everyone, so recently I got left…and I don’t receive child support. I am a mom of three young girls (ages 8 and under)! I am a full-time student…I am trying to get my real estate license online to get a job quicker, but I am also attending school for my bachelor’s in health administration. I currently work for 2 businesses that are run by amazing families who allow me to take my kids with me while I work!! It saves me so much being able to not find a sitter. Even with doing all of this and trying my best to do everything I can to support my little ones…I just can’t seem to stay above it all. Every time I find myself breaking even in life something happens, car breaks down, hours get cut, kids need new clothes or shoes because theirs are too small. I spend many nights crying while my girls sleep just wondering what else I can do to get by. I have exhausted all my family members of help to the point I’m losing them. I would never think to just ask people for help, but I am not sure where else to turn anymore. I’ve signed up for debt settlement assistance, I’m on the egg donor list waiting to be picked, I’ve sold everything of value I own. I have always put my children’s needs before mine, so at the end of the day they are fed, bathed and happy…most nights I’ll go to bed having barely eaten for the day because I don’t want to eat things my kids will eat and take from them. As I sit here and look at my bills pile up, I’m at a point of desperation…all I want is to get above water and feel like I can breathe again. I’m two months behind on my mortgage thanks to my new situation and I just want to catch up and get a little ahead, so I have time to prepare and get my ducks lined up again. My mortgage is $1,900 a month…my bills are all around another $1,000 a month. So, if I could find a way to get around $6,000 that would put me in a place where I am caught up…more would make me feel safe but I’m not a person to ask for more than I need. I want to stand on my own two feet and teach my daughters that their momma could do it and so can they when they are older. I’ve supplied a photo of myself but am uncomfortable doing one with my kids for safety reasons and I hope that is acceptable. I’m so uncomfortable posting this but as I sit here watching my kids play, I am just ready to be able to focus more on them and not be so stressed, I want to be a good mom. Thank you if you find it in your heart to help me, I will forever be grateful & tell my girls of the amazing person who helped us stand strong when nothing else seemed possible.
I am 24 year old single mom. My son is 6, I became a young mom at a young age. I am in college and I am currently living alone with my son. I don’t have my family near me which makes things worse and I wish I did but I also hate asking them for help financially. Just recently, it feels like everything piled up for us. My son needs surgery which we may have to pay. My college decided to bill me more than usual For classes I need and now I have a $2000 bill I’m scared I won’t be able to pay. One gross thing is that where we live we found bed bugs and I am so devastated and have no idea even how they appeared. We were asked to pay $900 for exterminators and we have been sleeping in the living room because I don’t even want to walk into our bedroom. I just don’t understand why they ask for so much money when we really need those things to go away. If those things weren’t stressful enough, around this same time as well, I was in an accident and my insurance won’t pay because it is not full coverage and I have to pay $800 for my car to be fixed so recently I have been asking for rides for my son and I, to school and work wherever I can. I got a credit card out which was a super dumb idea and I’ve been paying what I can with what I work since I can’t work full time because of school but it was the worst mistake because now I have a $2000 debt that I never meant to get myself into and that I was using for food and home things and things I could have just saved for with time. I am afraid I won’t be able to pay anything and won’t be able to pay our rent or living. I feel worthless and feel so unlucky at the moment and I’m hoping anyone out there can help in any way possible or just send positive prayers or vibes our way. I currently feel like the worst mother possible to my little boy. Whoever you are, thank you for taking the time to read my story.
Hello! My name is Lorena Huizar I am 33 years old and I just got out of an 11 year marriage with mental and physical abuse, I am currently going through a divorce and I have 2 children, Jocelyn 7 and Anthony 10.
My life since I married has been one long roller coaster ride. Shortly after I married my ex husband received rumors about boyfriends I had in the past and for some reason he believed them all. Because of this he built a thick wall and I was never able to break through it no matter what I did to make our lives Happy. He had this guard up and sadly during the entire marriage he never let that guard down. I am a woman of faith and I always had my marriage in my prayers hoping that one day that wall he had up would be torn down.
I then got pregnant with my son Anthony thinking that this would definitely do a change in his heart and finally let me in, for a while things seemed good but he would still not come to me to hug, touch, kiss or simply hold my hand. So I would attempt to show affection but I would always get rejected. I thought that by having his baby things would change and well that was not the case. By the time my son was 3 I got pregnant with a baby girl I was very excited about having a baby girl that I focused on my son and my baby to forget about the problems I was having with their father, I didn’t ever think about leaving for many reasons.. I was/am a Christian woman and I was hopeful God would make a change in my ex husband’s life, I didn’t want to separate my kids from their father and I thought I would never make it on my own with 2 kids.
In 2015 I went to my little brothers wedding in Mexico, and all of my family noticed I was not the same happy cheerful person before I had married. By the time I got back my kids father wasn’t talking to me because he didn’t even want me to travel to visit my family and because he had heard of more rumors of me being in touch with an ex boyfriend while on my trip to Mexico. When the topic came up he was so enraged and full of jealousy that he then physically abused me, he left me bruised and the worst part was that my children saw this unfold, they heard my screams and came to find me only to find their daddy hitting their mommy with a belt :( I have never endured that kind of my pain in my entire life. For 3 months I didn’t talk to him and I didn’t leave because I felt scared. Within time I was able to forgive but we all know that something like that you could never truly forget.
A year and a half after the abuse ICE picked him up from our home and it was a moment where I felt weird without a man in the house but at the same time I felt this relief and peace in my heart.
I don’t know why God does what he does only he knows, but when I didn’t leave him when he abused me God decided to step in and take him out of the picture for good. I have been alone and on my own since June of 2017 and we ran a company together and I did what I could to keep running it. But now i am at a point where if I don’t come up with a pretty penny I may be losing my company I worked so hard to get.
I have not spoken to my ex husband since August of 2018 till 2 days ago that I needed to mention a couple of things.
He opened up his own company and has been trying to take my employees from me, he doesn’t want to give his kids child support and lastly he has been name calling me to my 10 yr old son. I believe name calling is just truly unnecessary.
He replied with a very hateful message that I kind of wanted to doubt it was him telling me all those horrible words. He is determined to see me fail even if that means that my kids get affected by this as well.
Yes the employee amount decreased and it has impacted me financially. My payroll company is in the negative by at least 10-15 thousand dollars :( I am behind on my mortgage and truck payments. I am on the brink of falling apart but I have to remember who is watching me because to this day my babies believe I am super mom, and it breaks my heart because we are barely able to get groceries at times.
I have prayed I have cried I have asked for the little help I can from my closest family members but I really don’t want to be a burden on them.
I can give more details about my situation if needed, but if i am able to pay all the negative I have it would lift a huge load of my back, I have not been at peace since a couple months back now and because of money I am here begging for any kind of help I can get.
All I want in this life is to live everyday to the fullest and be the best mom I can be to my babies.
Hello, my name is Nikki. I am a single 21year old mother of two toddlers (aged 2,5 and 1). We live in the Czech Republic.
I am in desperate need of financial help. I am the single mother of 2 children, I have a 7 year old boy and a 5 year old boy. Both boys will need to attend summer camp this year, for the very first time! God bless my mother, she has watched my children for me every other summer, but due to her declining health – she has cancer; she is unable to make the drive from her house to my house (we live in different cities) to watch my children this summer. My children and my mother are both understandably upset. My children just cannot comprehend why their grandmother will not be able to watch them over the summer. My children are scared and nervous at the thought of attending a summer camp. My mother feels horrible that she is unable to help me out any this summer. But there is nothing that can be done to change the fact that my children will have to attend a summer camp this year. The problem is that summer care programs are extremely expensive. A 12 week summer program for both children will cost at least $3,500.00 and that does not include the before care needed or the after care needed. Most summer camps are open from 8:30 am through 3:30 pm. I have to be at work for 8:00 am and l get off work at 4:30 pm so there is no way that I can get the kids to camp early enough so that I would not have to pay for before care nor can I get there before 3:30 pm so I would again have to pay for after care. The total cost for summer camp, before camp care and after camp care is $3,996.00. I cannot fathom having to pay nearly $4,000.00 for summer camp but I do not have any other options. I simply just cannot afford summer care, but at the same time I also cannot afford to get fired from my job either. I am at the end of my rope. I am barely making ends meet now. Not to mention I will have to buy school supplies soon and school uniforms and school lunches for both children. I don’t know what to do. I have cried many tears over the last few days dreading the fact that school will be out, very soon. I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle. I greatly appreciate anyone that reads my story and to anyone that can assist me. May god bless you.
Hello, my name is Shahan and I am a single mother of two beautiful young children aged 4 and 1.
We sre survivors of family/domestic violence. It makes me cry even having to write some of the past problems on here, but I will do what it takes to be able to help me and my two children to start fresh and have the life we deserve.
I was in the abusive relationship for 5 years on and off. He controlled my every move and then once leaving him, I was still submissive to him. It got that bad that my son started to wee the bed again and I couldn’t sleep as he would stalk me every night.
We had to leave my home for safety more than 3 times and right now I am trying to find a new home which no one seems to want a single mother to live in their home.
Ive never had problems with struggling with bills and food, but since the domestics, I have been and I am ashamed I let them all rack up the way they have. I cry nearly everyday because I just want my babies to have the best life possible and doing it on my own with no help can be hard, but I would t change it for anything in the whole world.
I love my children so so much. I would just like to be able to live a little more stress free and be able to focus on their happiness and my own 100% instead of worrying about money for just one day!
I promise I am trying my hardest and most days I see the positives, I know money is a big issue with a lot of people. I know if I won millions I would share it around to those in need.
I still give money to the homeless if I have a spare dollar, knowing I probably need that for bread the next day. But too make others smile, is a blessing too.
Thank you in advance to anyone who helps me and my babies, even $5 will add up somewhere.
I appreciate every beautiful thing in life.
Hi all, I know there is a very good chance this won’t get read compared to the thousands out there that each have their own situation and why they are in need. I know there are people out there that have it way worse than I do, but in this moment, right here, right now, I feel I can’t find my way out of this hole what was dug for me.
I am a 30 year old single mother. My daughter’s father passed away almost 2 years ago now, not that he helped much when he was here. I’ve basically been a single mother from the start. He was physically there, but taking care of his chid was babysitting to him.
Things were good for awhile, until they went bad. I was a mother, a full time college student and a full time employee when I was 18 years old. It was hard work, but it was worth it to me. That’s around the time my child’s father (Mike) started getting delusions. I didn’t realize it at the time, but it was the start of his schizophrenia. I tried to bear through it, I tried to help, I tried to save him. I allowed the abuse to go on much longer than it should have. I allowed him to suck every ounce of joy from my life. I tried saving him, and in turn lost myself. I went from a happy, motivated, outgoing person to a depressed, sad and full of anxiety women.
I continued to push through life, not realizing just how much I had lost myself. I let this man take everything. I loved him, I wanted to help him…. to save him. I was always a strong women, I always stood up for what I believed in, I was always there for any and everyone that needed help, I just couldn’t see, I was now the one that needed help. His mental health brought him to the brink of insanity. He believed with every ounce of his being that I was hiding a guy in our home, and said guy would do things to tourment him. He set up recordings, if I was minutes late from work I must have been off screwing around with someone. I would cook meals after work and he wouldnt eat it at times saying this guy in our home had spit in it. I could go on and on about the issues his delusions brought on. He turned to drugs as an outlet, which most definitely made things worse. Not in his eyes though. He lost everything we ever had through his addiction. Every dollar ever saved, gone, any nice electronics we had, gone. Any and everything the pawn store would take. He took it. I should have gotten out immediately. I should have ran like hell, just as his own grandfather had told me too. I couldn’t. I couldn’t leave the man I loved while he was at such a low point in life. I had to help him. He ended up losing his battle to addiction almost 2 years ago. I still cant fully talk about some of the abuse that occured through our relationship. I am still picking up the pieces of the mess left behind. I am still trying to find myself again. I am in such a financial crisis. It is currently 7:17 a.m. I just woke my daughter up for school and don’t even have gas in my car to drive her the 5 blocks away. (It is very cold where I live right now) I work very hard, but it’s a paycheck to paycheck life right now. My daughter’s birthday is this week. I am struggling with how to pay for that. I understand it is no ones responsibility but my own to take care of my child and I. I understand I allowed things to get the way they did. I am just looking for a little saving grace to help keep us afloat while I continue to pick up these pieces. I appreciate any and everyone that has taken the time to read through what became my hell. I appreciate any and everyone that helps. If you know someone currently dealing with abuse, please try and help in any way possible. It can destroy a person, and the abuse can and often will continue to get worse. I hope someday I can help abused women, I want to take what I’ve been through and turn it into a positive. I have to heal myself before I can help others, but that is my goal. I can and will become that strong willed women in once was. I just want to say thank you again to any and everyone that has helped, plans on helping, or even helps another abused women. Thanks again.
Hey everyone, I am in desperate need of some help. I found out I was pregnant April of 2018. Although exciting news my family did not take it well. I had no place to live until I was nine months pregnant. Finally, working 3 Jobs I was able to rent a trailer. On December 31, 2018 I welcomed a beautiful baby girl. When I got out of the hospital my mom had my car towed from Walmart. I am still employed, but I pay $520 for rent $250 electric , & $20 water bill. On top of all of these bills I also have the expense of a child. $60 a week on formula, plus diapers. I can not even pay all of my bills and now I have to buy a car also. I hope to be able to go to college and become a nurse, but with my financial situation I am in right now I do not see it happening any time soon. Although it’s a struggle my sweet little girl makes everything okay and I would do it all again for her. You have no idea how great full I would be for help. Thank you in advance!
Me and my mom have been through so many rough things together, like my abusive father in the past, and how we both deal with depression and anxiety and things are very hard considering we struggle.
because she had my brother at the age of 16 she worked so hard to get the career as the lawyer she wanted, but didn’t have enough money to make it through university.
She works at a company that deals with weather and landscaping for about 10 years, and she struggles with addiction due to her PTSD. She works so hard that sometimes she has physical and mental breakdowns.
And right now she is in the midst of a mental breakdown; she has nightmares and can’t sleep, she’s vomiting and can’t keep down food, she has diarrhea and sometimes pees the bed because she’s so anxious. She self medicates and it’s much more than what I’m saying; her job is her life and her life is her job.
She can’t afford to leave because she has a position she has been working for for so long and won’t make as much money as she does now; but we make enough to get by, but barely.
she has done everything for me; she pays for a house, school, and even my meds which cost up to 300$ a month. her body is breaking down on her, and she can’t do it anymore.
I’m older now; almost graduating highschool, and I can’t bear to see her like this. I want to help her financially, and I have a job but I can’t make nearly enough to lessen the pressures of her job, and that’s why I’m asking for your help.
It’s about time to help her too, and I want to help her so badly but don’t have the means too.
i appreciate you taking the time to read this and/or donate 💕
My name is Shannon. I’m a 23 years old single mom to a beautiful little girl. I do have a job but I acquired debt through a regrettable pay-day loan. My daughter and I were living with my brother and his family in Tennessee and I was helping take care of my nieces. My brother received orders and was stationed at an army base 12 hours away in Texas while his wife and children lived in his home. I stayed and helped his wife while he was away. When my brother returned it was okay for a little. Then the physical and verbal abuse began. I had to just take it. I couldn’t afford to move out although I was working 40 hours a week. Whatever money that I had left after all of my daughter’s needs were met was taken by my brother. I had to get out. I didn’t want my daughter growing up in such a hate filled home. She needed to be surrounded by love and peace. I took the fastest route to leaving that I could. I had to take out a loan. I was able to get the money for my move in fees and the deposits for the utilities to be turned on. Everything was starting to look up. My daughter was going to have a space of her own. Where she wasn’t going to have to dodge things being thrown throughout a house. She would be safe. I would be safe. I have made efforts to pay towards this loan but I fall short. Something breaks or a bill is higher. Now I am being pursued by a lawyer for the loan to be paid. Please, I beg. I cannot be taken to court over this. I owe a little under $3000 with the legal fees that had been tacked onto the initial loan. I just want so much better for my child than I had. She deserves the world. Please if someone could help me. I will be eternally grateful and how to pay it forward whenever I am capable. Thank you so much for taking the time to ready my situation. For whom ever is able to donate please,
my paypal is paypal.me/scar93
I am a 22 year old single mother living in a council house with my two awesome children. Recently we have fallen on hard times. I’m currently studying to be a teaching assistant and I volunteer in a school. I only get 15 hours of childcare for my daughter who just turned 3, my son is 4. I have been looking for months for a job I can do on the side but I just can’t find anything that works around them. I’ve done selling makeup from home and trying to sell my art work. Last month I sold most of my possessions but all I have left is a few things I have on credit that I’ve not even paid for yet. When I moved out on my own with the kids, I had absolutely nothing. We had to start from scratch, we didn’t even have floors in our home. Because we had to move in immediately I took out £500 worth of furniture and soft furnishings to sort out our home. The prices are extortionate but it was the only catalogue that would allow me to have credit and on a buy now pay in 12 months basis. Anyway, it’s been almost 7 months and my financial situation is so bad that I’m £750 overdrawn, I owe my friend £300 and I owe £500 to the catalogue. I also had a huge bill from working tax credits from when I was living with their dad, around £360. Along with that and having to buy a new laptop for college (otherwise I cannot do my work) and providing all I can for my children I am failing to keep up. I don’t drive, I walk my kids to school and back, I take them out in nature, I cook them healthy meals, we do crafts, we bake, we always read together, I always make sure they are clean and happy. I am doing the best I can. I don’t drink, smoke, spend anything on myself. But i just cannot sleep at night with this money situation hanging over me, it’s beginning to make me seriously depressed. I have no friends or family to help me, my family are all poor and I have one friend who has helped me as much as he can to get carpets in my house. I have managed to save bits and pay him back £380 so far but I still owe him £300 and I just can’t pay it.
Please, please. Someone help me just to get back on my feet. I’m not asking to be well off, or even comfortable, but just able to keep going, until one day I can get a good job and give the best to my kids.
Thanks for reading
I am a single parent who has struggled for years after leaving a toxic and abusive marriage. After leaving a two income home, the times and ways have been extremely hard but I’ve managed to keep on, keeping on. The struggles of my life have brought much acquired debt and a lifestyle of living check to check. But I manage to continue to provide for my children and I give all of the credit to God. I have worked all of my life, acquired a college education and have worked full time to support my children and myself for the past 5-6 years.But unfortunately life has left me evicted before, currently in an upside down car loan, student loan debt and living check to check. Which leaves little to no room for saving when you are left to split a 36-hour bi-weekly pay check between three children, all of the necessary bills, and myself. However I believe that God will provide. And I write these words on this questionable site late in the a.m. wondering if this is a way that He will make a way? And if it’s not, I will continue to wait on what His plan for me is. I am writing Begging for any financial help, any amount! Because I have truly learned that something is better than nothing. I am trying to find, Beg, for financial help to clean up my credit that I have acquired over the past couple of years so that I can successfully apply for a first time home buyer home loan. And hopefully make a dream come true for my children and myself. Finally having a permanent place of security would be next to heaven for us all. And the amount of stress that I could finally shred knowing that we are secure is something I would give my last breathe for my children to have right now. And no longer having to through money away in rent, get another eviction notice, live in bad areas because of what I can afford would be an amazing dream come true. So having a little boost to get to that place of serenity is what I am asking. If I had to pick a price to Beg for I would randomly say $5,000. That would help me tackle a few bills, set up some consistent payment plans and help with bringing my car loan back current with a later hope of refinancing. $5,000 along with my continued working will help me get severely close to my home ownership and possibly home purchase by the end of this year. I hope that these words are transparent enough and I hope that they reach a place that will turn my wishful thinking, struggling and hard work all into a dream come true.
my name is allison. i’m asking for money. this is very hard for me. i never ask for anything so i have to do this and it’s very hard. i need help. i’m drowning in medical bills and car payments and my child is going through a rough time at school and i barely have enough money to give him new clothes and school supplies.
once my husband left us he got a new wife and kids and wants nothing to do with us and it hurts. he doesn’t pay his child support. i just need help. i’m so scared of asking for help. anything will help. i appreciate anything i can get. i need money for my car payment. i need money for my house. i’m about to lose it. i need money for my sweet sweet boy. i need money to get him food. i need money to get him new clothes. i need money to get him school supplies. I wish things were better. i wish i wasn’t such a bad mother. i try so hard and i still feel the absolute worst about everything i do. i feel like i don’t belong here. i can’t give my son a good life. i try my best and nothing seems to come out of it.
i’ve tried to get another job but it hasn’t worked out. my son gets bullied at school because of his clothes. i really need to get him some new clothes but there has been no way for me to scrape up enough money to get him any. i wish i could be better. please help us. anything helps. i’m ten thousand dollars in debt.
we are about to lose our house. i am four months behind on my payments.
i need to take him to the dentist but insurance won’t cover anything and i don’t have enough money for my bills. i need money for bills. i’m about to go under.
i hope someone will be kind enough to help me and my son out. i would really really appreciate it. anything will help us. i don’t know what i will do if i lose my son. i can’t afford my bills. i’m about to lose my car and my home. my son told me he wants to run away because he’s not happy. i’m about to break down. i don’t ever ask for help so this is a lot for me.
I was an abused child, sexually abused by my older brother for over 7 years of my childhood. I told a friend at 16 who told my parents and they first didn’t believe me but then learned my sister was a victim as well and they reacted with anger that I told someone. I was forbidden to tell anyone else and forced to live with my abuser until I was old enough to move out. I became angry and self destructive, had no confidence or self worth and unconsciously drew abusers into my life. My current husband is an emotionally and verbally abusive alcoholic. I separated from him into my own place but was unable to completely break ties because of the psychological effect he had on me. I then got deathly sick, suicidal, started hyperventilating and having panic attacks, and then my job of 14 years went out of business. I hit rock bottom and realized I couldn’t leave my kids with him so I began trying to heal and studying the brain and have now managed to pull away from him. Now that I’m no longer falling for his manipulation, he’s resorted to financial abuse since that’s the only way left to hurt me. There is no standing order for support because we’ve just been separated and he just cut me off with only a half day notice. I have 2 children ages 9 and 11 who have also been victims of his abuse, I also had to take on all the family pets, 4 cats and a dog. I have been looking for work for 6 months and other than cleaning houses, I’ve been unable to find anything comparable in my area. If I could relocate to another state I could get a very good job but I am trapped. I have no money for a lawyer or to move. I just need an angel to please help me through this dark time. I’d be happy to pay you back when I get settled. Thank you for reading my story and bless you.
I’m am needing money to go see my 5 year old daughter who lives 4 hours north of me. In November of 2017 I had to move to South Georgia to help take care of my mother who is sick and on disability. My ex husband and I decided to have our daughter live with him to finish out the school year and that she would move in with me for before the next school year. Well I’m February of 2018 I had my first grand mal seizure and was diagnosed with epilepsy. My epilepsy is uncontrolled by medication and I’m currently seeing a local neurologist and an epilepsy specialist at Emory in Atlanta. My epilepsy randomly causes hallucinations and we have no way of knowing when those will happen. I have large build ups of grey matter that push on different parts of the ventricles which is what causes the hallucinations. Because of that my ex, my mom and I decided it’s not a good idea for my daughter to come visit at my house until we can get my health under control (my mom wouldn’t be able to really take care of my daughter if I started hallucinating and it’s not a good idea for my daughter to see me hallucinating) And because of my health I’m currently unable to work (I’m a hairstylist) I have applied for disability but haven’t gotten an answer about it yet so my mom and I are living off of what she receives for disability which is barely enough for bills. My daughter has been begging me to come for Valentine’s Day especially since she doesn’t have school the following Friday or Monday. We haven’t seen each other outside of FaceTime since Christmas and I was only able to be there for 3 days. I have a friend from the Athens area (which is where I’d be traveling to) who is willing to drive down and get me and bring me home when the trip is over but I have to be able to pay for gas. Please help me go see my little girl.
I need around $200 for the trip
my paypal info is PayPal.me/ewhittaker21
I don’t know what to post for a picture so here is a screenshot of a text between myself and my daughters aunt/godmother
I am 39, I was born in Slovakia, at the moment living in Portugal. For 2 years I have been living in the tent and on the street. Before I had some tough time in my life, I suffered with strong depression, eating disorder and I had financial issues. I was not able to earn enough money, and I did some wrong decisions.
I made debts and I had to leave apartment. So I left past unhappy life and I started to travel around Europe with backpack. I walked around France, Spain and Portugal.
Travelling, living in the nature, and a lot of walking, helped me to heal from my issues. I was healed from eating disorder and I don’t feel depressive anymore. I love to travel, to be in contact with nature, I discovered my real happiness in this lifestyle. I was never happy in the city, working 9 to 5, it was so unnatural for me… Now I discovered how I enjoy simple and humble life in connection with nature. It fulfills me deeply and I am grateful that my life gave me opportunity to understand my real desires. Even though it was quite difficult years before, after period of struggling, I enjoy my life a lot now.
I am pregnant. I met my boyfriend on the road and we fall in love. It was very beautiful and I was happy with him. We both didn’t want to have children. He is young and he doesn’t feel like having family yet. And I was aware that my lifestyle and my small income is not appropriate for baby, thus I was decided not to have children.
But it happened, it was unintentional. I will have baby in September.
My boyfriend doesn’t want to have child and I don’t know how to keep our relationship alive, without him accepting our new family. So I stayed alone. For a while I was thinking about abortion, but I couldn’t do it. I decided to have child and take care of him best way possible. I know I will do my best to be good mother.
I cannot stay on the street with my baby, but at the moment I don’t see many possibilities. I have small income, no savings, no insurance and no home. And I am couple of thousands euros in debt, which keeps me in permanent stress. I am paying my debt slowly, I am working seasonal and I do massages when it’s possible (I am massaging therapist). But I have no idea, how will I survive with baby when I will probably have smaller income and bigger costs for some time. If I will cut off debt payments, I will get in bigger problem that I am now, I cannot do it.
My wish is to get a van, so we have shelter and we can travel comfortably. To pay my debts, so I can feel free and safe and I don’t have to be worried about how I will manage to pay my dues next month, or next one…
And to have some little money for this year, so I can give birth to my baby and stay with him at least first months without having stress and worries about possible problems.
My debt to pay is 6200€. Price of older van suitable for travelling 3000 to 4000€. Baby costs, birth giving and children stuff, our life costs, food, bit gasoline, car insurance… approx 3000€.
I will be very happy for any, even small, support. If you decide to help me, you can be sure that every cent is useful for me and I use it with genuine humbleness and great joy of life. You support good cause – healthy, peaceful, nice and smooth arriving of one child to this beautiful, just confused sometimes, world. And you give me chance to live free and delightful life, with much less worries. To be happy and relaxed mother for the baby, that’s what all children need the most.
Thank you for your time. Feel free to contact me with any question you have. I will be happy to get in contact with you, to share how my life is going, how I fulfill my plans… If you wish, of course. If you don’t, I will just keep you in my heart as unknown well-doer with great heart <3
You can donate here
It’s my sisters account, that’s why the name is different. I don’t have my own account at the moment.
Please apologize my English, I am not native speaker.
I’ve never asked for financial assistance or help and never thought my life would come to this point; I am a single mom with a teenage daughter; divorced her father when she was still a baby and raised her on my own ever since. Her father pays the equivalent of $130 per month and has never increased this amount in almost 15 years. She is a good child, studies very hard, doesn’t drink or do drugs, accepts a 23:00 curfew and doesn’t have the typical teenage tantrums I so often hear about from other parents. I’ve raised her on my own for most of her life and she is very appreciative of everything I do or buy for her. So in general I am one of those blessed mothers who have the privilege to enjoy my daughter, enjoy motherhood and also have a best friend.
The trouble is that my daughter doesn’t deserve to live in a situation like we currently do. We’ve been living with my long term boyfriend for the past 15 months and up to the end of last year things were quite okay; but life took a nasty turn at the end of last year. I was retrenched at work and didn’t receive a big severance package; BUT I am not one of those people who allows life and things that happen to me to break me; it’s very important to me that my daughter doesn’t worry about a roof over heads, food, clothes, school fees, medical fees, car installments, loan repayments etc. etc. I do no not expect my boyfriend to support either me or my daughter financially, so I started baking from home; go to markets, caterers, wedding planners, individuals etc. with my baked goods, but it doesn’t bring in enough money to support us. I owe the bank money, must still pay off my car and must still pay an amount to the receiver of revenue…
My boyfriend has always been very controlling when it comes to anything me and my daughter do, but lately things are getting out of hand. He has a very short temper and we are going through extreme emotional abuse. We live in his house and he constantly tells us to “f#*% off”, that he’ll pack our bags for us etc. The problem is that this emotional abuse is taking a toll on us and we’re turning into robots, too afraid to take a wrong step. His parents, whom we love like our own, lives across the street, but his father, who has been ill for quite a few years, passed away a month ago and we supported everybody through this emotional time, which brought us closer together after the abuse and fights of the past 3 months. But today things hit rock bottom; keep in mind that he has hit both me and my daughter on occasion during the last few months, he threw me across our bed, which resulted in a popped disc (I’ve had a back operation to repair a broken vertebra 9 years ago) and was quite painful. Today was just the last straw for me; he took his mother and sister (who lives in another country) to the airport, so his mother can get away from everything familiar and come to terms with the death of her husband. His mother is my support and anchor; I’ve dreaded this day for the past week since she announced that she’s going away for a few weeks. She knows about the physical abuse and protects me and my daughter when my boyfriend hits one of his crazy moods. My boyfriend has his own business and does well financially, but he doesn’t support me and my daughter, something of which I am very proud. I moved in with him because I loved him, not because I need a man to look after me; but I cannot take his abuse anymore. He uses the fact that I am not financially in a position to afford my own apartment or the living costs that goes with moving out, to break me down, beat me, call me names, tell us f-off, threatens to throw our stuff on the street etc. I am so afraid of him; we are so careful and I have some voice recordings of his abuse.
Please, I’ve been working an average of 14 hours a day for the past month, I am not lazy and only a beggar, I just want to start over in a safe place and give my daughter the life she deserves. PLEASE HELP ME get out of debt and start a new life before it’s too late?
The country I live in doesn’t support receipt of PayPal payments, I can only make payments through PayPal. I am willing to send a donor my bank statements and supporting documents to confirm my situation.
Please, I fear for my life and have no family or friends to turn to; I’ve been isolated from everyone for the past year… I need about US$30000 to get out of debt and afford rent and deposits for an apartment of our own
I’m Lacie, I’m 24 years old I’m a single mother with a 3 year old daughter. Things were going pretty well for me, but I somehow screwed up everything. I was tboned last year, I lost my car because well I was stupid and young, tried to save some funds and let my insurance laspe so I could take care of other bills and handle my insurance on my next paycheck so because of that I lost my car along with my 17$ an hour job, and all my savings for my own house. Along with that, I lost my license which is 2,100$ to get back. I hate asking for help but, I’m just in dire need. Below is more detailed life stuff
My daughters father is not in the picture, and I was adopted by a small family so most of them can’t help me either. I was managing a fast food shop for a little but my mother grew really sick, and could no longer care for my daughter while I’m at work and I can’t afford daycare, I can barley get to work without a car. So I ended up stepping down and now I’m manager at Dunkin working 9.50 an hour at barley 40 hours a week, usually walking 2 hours home because of the lack of support and funds. I want to file bankruptcy which is only 1300 $ but it’s just getting it all together is the problem. Anything really helps. It’s been hard to keep food in my daughters mouth I don’t want to end up homeless and lose her.
so in all fact, I’m a good 30,000$ in debt.
The car I owned was 10,000$
the car who hit me is trying to sue me for 13,000$
I have another car place when I owned my first one that’s another 10,000$
other stupid bills when I was a kid and irresponsible.
Now I’m a single mom trying to figure out how I’m going to make ends meet and if this site is going to even help me. If I could just get like 1500$ I’d be solid because I can just file my bankruptcy and start from there. But with this part time job, not having a car and not a solid sitter things seem completely impossible. Anything would help me out, even job opportunities honestly.
After a lifetime of believing in various “what comes around, goes around” platitudes, I’ve finally come to the agonizing conclusion that either A. “Karma” is a bunch of baloney, or B. I’m a terrible person. Because if suffering made you rich, I’d be rolling in the proverbial dough right now. I’ve always believed in helping out my fellow man, that through love, human beings will one day evolve to the point that we create a truly utopian society. I’m certainly a hugely flawed individual, and can lay no claim to being above anyone else in ANY way, but I have tried to live my life with love as my driving force. Whenever possible, I’ve helped out both friend and stranger alike, hoping that it’s made a difference, if only a small one. Today I’m asking the universe to help ME. I’m in a dire situation. After having a terrible car accident recently and breaking numerous bones, I’m unable to walk or move very well, and will likely be this way for the greater part of a year. I cannot currently work because of my injuries (though I send resumes daily, searching for something I CAN do). Shortly before my accident, I gave away ALL of my savings to an old friend who had been struggling himself. I have no family, and because of reclusiveness due to depression, I have very few friends (and those I do are all destitute themselves). I’m currently living in the guest room of a man’s home. He originally asked me to stay with him under the guise of wanting to help me. However, within a few days of me moving in, he began trying to get me to give him “sexual favors”. When I refused, he demanded that I start paying him rent, or else he’ll make me leave. He’s given me until February 15th to pay him $400, which he wants me to continue giving him on a monthly basis. I don’t know what to do! He continues to attempt to get me to sleep with him, and because I won’t, he spends his time making me miserable. His treatment of me is nothing short of extender emotional abuse. He calls me names constantly, and it is obvious that he purposely tries to physically hurt me by causing me to have many “accidents” on a daily basis. My mother died shortly before my accident, which makes everything so much more difficult. I am wracked with sorrow. I feel utterly alone, without a person in the world who cares about me. I say this all not as a gimmick to invoke pity, but to express how truly devastated I am, and how I have literally NO ONE. Please, please help me. I need money to move out of this place, to get into an apartment where I can recover. The fact that I am on an online “begging” site illustrates how alone I am. And I DO, I BEG of you, please help me. If there is a God, if there is a cosmic “oneness”, then I send this message to the universe in desperation– Help me, world!
Hi! I’m a single mother of two teenage boys. It’s time I finally swallow my pride and ask for help. Almost two years ago our lives were completely turned upside down. Within a 3 week time frame, my finance was shot and killed, I was fired from my job of nine years, and then we we’re involved in a “hit and run” accident which totaled my car. Thankfully, my sons and I weren’t injured in the accident. But our struggle had begun. The lost of our loved one, no income and no transportation was hard to grasp. My son’s were my savior’s, I was completely devastated, depressed and I honestly wanted to give up. I knew couldn’t and my boys were supportive in so many ways. They encouraged me to have a yard sale. We sold anything and everything we could. We had to get a replacement vehicle. Together we came up with enough and I was able to work out a deal with a payment plan on my neighbor’s old car. Doesn’t compare to the car I had but it gets us where we need to go. I’ve been focusing on finding a job, a good job. A job where I am able to take care of all three of us. My boys have been also trying to make $, they mow a few yards after school. I appreciate what they’re doing but I want them to be able to put all of their focus on school. I’ve also had a few jobs, which only kept us from not becoming homeless, nothing more. Recently I was blessed, I accepted a job offer with a great company, great pay, and great benefits! The only problem I have is the dress code. I have nothing nice to wear. I have some business attire however I can’t fit into any of it. I found a nice outfit in my size at a local thrift store but I wore it on my first and second interview, I can’t wear it everyday too. I start in one week and I have no extra money for the proper work attire. Any donation amount would be so greatly appreciated. Thank you
I am a young full time mother of three, very wonderful and young children. I have been divorced two years and we have been living back in my childhood home with my mother and her family. My children and I while very happy, are cramped here in this tight and crowded home. We need a desperate change.
I have been working several jobs, as well as battling health issues plus spending extra time with my children other than mornings and evenings; in turn my health caused me to take too much time off of work; I have now gotten better and have been doing everything I can to catch back up and build the life my children deserve. I have a goal for my children and I to be moved on into our own home by the end of the school year. I have never been someone to ask for help, but I feel like I no longer have an option but to do so. My children and I would be so humbly grateful for any donations we may receive.
Our hearts are looking for a place to call home; its been a long and tiring journey and we only hope for growth and renewal. With everything we have we are trying to stay strong and live our lives as normal. A place to call our own is the only thing my children really seem to ask for, I believe it’s my job as a mother to make it happen to do so, no matter what. Family is important after all; and I want to teach my children these few things
- There are still good, helping, caring, and loving people in this world. God is in everyone.
- Be strong even when things are dark.
- Its okay to ask for help.
For every donation we receive my children and I will be doing an hours worth volunteer work with a homeless shelter here In Denver Colorado our way of giving back to those for your gifts upon us. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts and with everything we are. Love and Light; God Bless.
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If you don’t already know me, I am a single mom of 6. I have 2 children and a grandchild living with me, the others are out on their own. I have a full time job, I have a few sporadic side gigs, deliver for Postmates when I can and live frugally. I have been blessed in many ways over the years even, especially, during the months we were homeless and I am very grateful.
Hi my name is Emma and I am a 22 year old single mother to a four year old girl name Chloe. I am having a really hard time now being able to support both of us financially and find myself constantly in a worried state. I am currently enrolled at University of Toronto, working to complete an undergraduate program. I got pregnant with my beautiful daughter Chloe when I was 17 and had her at 18. Apart from raising my daughter single handedly, I am a full time student and I also work part time as a barista during the days that I am not in class as well as on the weekends. I don’t get any support from my daughter’s father and am having a hard time supporting both of us by myself. When I am not working or attending lectures, I am working at balancing caring for Chloe, tending to housework, and completing readings and assignments. I know that I need a way to make more money while I’m still studying but I’m not confident with picking up more hours at work because that means also paying for a babysitter for Chloe and taking hours away from the time that I need to do my school work. I am terrified at the thought that I am caught in this bind where I have to choose between my studies which will help my future, or making money now at a minimum wage job to make ends meat for Chloe and I. I am Currently in my second year and have 2-3 more years of this to go. Since starting this program, I have been extremely stressed and anxious. I am not sure if I will be able to support Chloe and myself like this for much longer without giving up my studies. Paying for rent is extremely hard in the city and all I care about if being Able to give my daughter everything she needs (which I do), and being able to give her a happy and healthy life. Anything that anyone is willing to donate to me will be extremely appreciated. I know that once I graduate and get a well paying job, I will pay everything forward and never take for granted what other have done for me.
Please anything that anyone is willing to donate us will help and mean so much to us.
thank you for reading.
I have always prided myself on being a strong independent woman.
I am a hard-working 30 odd year old single mother to a beautiful and charismatic toddler; he is my pride and joy.
I live close to my mother and help to care for her, as she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 2013.
We are a close nit family and she adores her grandson!
I am currently sitting on an embarrassing, eye watering amount of debt with nothing to show for it.
I work hard, full time and earn a good salary which is sucked into my overdraft every month. (Same for many I’m sure)
Not including my regular monthly expenditure, by debts suck up exactly 89% of my salary.
I fell behind and had to rely on loans when I was made redundant 6 months after my son was born.
I got back up and successfully found employment but a lot of damage was done by that point.
Shortly after I got back into employment my dear mother became ill, and her mobility quickly declined leaving her in and out of hospital.
Given my mother had helped to care for my son; I had to reduce my hours at work so I could then help care for them both, a lot changed very quickly.
Shortly after, my mother was registered disabled, and unable to work leaving her with un-cleared debts which I took on.
My dear mother constantly asked and worried about if I was doing okay with money, and I reassured her I was. She has no savings or means to help, so to worry her whilst she’s ill does not sit well.
However, I am no longer able to cope; I’m feeling trapped, anxious and helpless.
Today I reached the end of my overdraft and was unable to pick up groceries, which is what has brought me here. This is a scary feeling when you have dependents. Luckily tomorrow is payday so all will be okay for now.
Not only is this causing insomnia, but it is affecting my mood and in turn my parenting which makes me sad. And the fact I cannot talk about it is incredibly hard.
I feel like a failure, and ask myself everyday- “how have I worked for 15 years with minus nothing to show!” I have no idea.
I am a proud woman and have done my best to stay afloat so far but I am now officially drowning.
I have always worked above and beyond to provide for my son. Before his father left he told me I would fail as a mother and a woman. These words suck with me and I have been fighting alone to prove to myself (not him) that he is wrong. I know I can. But I admit that I need some help. Please.
As I am fortunate enough to be in employment, without the debt, I will be able to comfortably support myself, son and mum. Most importantly I can focus on raising my son and being the best mother I can be.
By no means would I expect my debt to be cleared as I am aware it is an astronomical amount but if I could put a dent in it to reduce my monthly payments or even my overdraft, it would mean I can claw back some of my salary to support my family I would be eternally grateful.
Combined loan, myself and that taken on from mum- £59250 Breakdown available needless to say.
If nothing else, it feels good to let it out / talk / write about it.
Thank you for taking the time.
Hi, I am a single mother of a beautiful boy. I am a hippie at heart, and I love to spread joy to others. I think we should do something for someone else every day. Let the person behind you in line with only 2 items go in front of you because you have a toddler and a full buggy of groceries because you know you’re going to be a moment. It’s just doing things for other people make me feel good and I’m not one to ask for help, but I am stuck, and I don’t know how else to get out.
My son and I are living in an old mobile home that needs some major repairs. I feel it would be better to just find another place to live but I don’t have any extra money. I am living paycheck to paycheck with a minimum wage job. I live in an area with few jobs. The jobs that are in this area usually pay minimum wage at $7.25 per hour and start you at 40 hours per week. However, within a few months, you’re lucky to get 20 hours a week. It’s my home and it’s a small town but if I could get enough money to leave it would be a wise choice. I need to move to an area that is thriving with jobs with enough income to live comfortably. I can’t raise my child like this he deserves better. I didn’t get to go to college because I got pregnant in high school and the guy bailed. I just want to give him the best life I can because I’m all he has.
I work every day providing for my child but can’t get enough money saved to invest in a nice place to live. I’m also always having to get my car fixed. I can’t afford to get a better car because the one I have is always breaking down. Now my food stamps have been frozen due to the government shutdown and I am really worried about how I am going to buy food now. I depend on my food stamps to buy all our food. The money I earn goes to my bills and gas and what my son needs for school.
So please help me if you can.
If you do decide to give me a donation, thank you so much and I good will come to you in return. :)
Hello, I have been told my whole life be a good person, work hard and everything will work out. Another words be spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially stable. Feel pathetic and I have been trying this for many years and I am by no means perfect. I have made mistakes but nothing that is not normal for a human being to experience. My weakness is my heart and it has caused myself to be in unhealthy situations a lot in my life. I am a mother of two. I have been self employed most of my life but while raising children it became difficult to maintain everything. I have in the last year applied for over 100 jobs and that is no exaggeration and I cannot land a job. Been on interviews and nothing. I have lived on credit or borrowed money it’s disgusting. I live in a small town and the opportunities are slim to none. I grew up in this area and my children are in school and do not want to uproot them. I feel your damned if you do and damned if you don’t. How do you be a great mother, which is everything to me and yet be able to provide for them with no opportunities. I was taught to work for everything and sacrificing morals to get somewhere is never a choice for me. Maybe, that’s why I am where I am? I have had 6 different staff infections behind my brain, cervical cancer and plenty of other medical bills through my life which has never put me ahead of the game. I have been physically & mentally abused by relatives and relationships. Still I get up everyday hoping someday life will get better. I am a wonderful mother, I volunteer at school and help the elderly a lot. My passion is caring for others and I will never quit doing that no matter what. I would be so grateful to get rid of my debt and be able to live in a nice home so I am able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. A secure job would be great. I have thought of everything I can think of to make my situation better. My life seems to slam more doors than it opens. I feel I have so much to offer this world but yet no one is seeing it. I have been a nanny for 7 years and have taken care of others who have had diementia and cancer prior to being a mother. Which I loved working with private employers. I have tried this route and the potential is not real rational considering where I live and raising my children. No one wants to suffer or beg. I get some things in life are self inflicted but others are not. I have been struggling for years and not sure what the answer is. I guess if I knew, I would be writing this. Please by the grace of your kindness I will be able to be the best I can be. God Bless and forever grateful.
Meet my family..Hunter, Kaitlin , and Tonya..My name is Yolanda I am a single mom of three pretty amazing kids. My 8 year old son Hunter has saved my life, when I had a seizure on the kitchen floor and hit my head and was unconsious, My 5 year old daughter Tonya was diagnosed with Pertussis at 3 weeks old and spent 3 months in ICU recovering from her sickness mommy never left..Then there is Kaitlin she is my 7 year old miracle sent from God…Kaitlin was diagnosed with ALL Luekemia when she was 18 months old, I will never be able to explain the feelings that overcame my mind that day..I don’t want to lose my child, what did I do wrong? Is this my fault, what can we do now, how am I going to pay for treatment? You name it I thought it..But, in the end I pulled myself together, became that soldier that I had to be for my baby girl. I never left her side during her 12 extensive chemo treatments, Lumbar Puncture after Lumbar Puncture..Watching my baby lose what little hair she had was devastating. I continued and still continue to strive..She needs a strong mom not one that is even willing to give up. 3 years of chemo, test after test, needles after needles, We came out on top and Kaitlin is a Survivor..Yes it can come back, but we will not accept that thought. On February 17th 2014, Kaitlin was listed in full remission, and cancer free. She is now 7 and living strong. Me being a Single mom since day one, it is hard to do anything special with my kids, I am epileptic myself so I can not drive so why own a vehicle, that impairs us from going alot of places. The money is also just not there I struggle to survive everyday off 750.00 a month..Impossible pretty much but am I making it work? Absolutely, I won’t give up. I would love to be able to give my daughter A Birthday To Remember..Being able to afford it is hard. She loves butterflies because she says they are free, and able to go anywhere and do anything, and Unicorns are magic to her…They make everyday brighter and her smile wider..If I could just find a way to have enough extra funds even if just 100.00 I know I can make this happen for her..She deserves it, when a 7 year old little girl can wipe her mommy’s tears away and says ” No matter what happens there is a reason God has got Me I’m Going To Be Ok..” I can’t explain the feelings that flow through me..She is amazing..I so want to give her this…I just want to see the smile on her face, and for her to know in her heart how much she is loved and that Yes she is right she is going to be ok..If anyone can help it would be so appreciated , you would be my angel sent from above, may God bless you all. Hope, Faith, Love is worth more than you will ever imagine..
I have a long sad story to tell, but it will take more than 400 characters to type it up so I will do my best to make sense of my situation.
I am a single mother. I have no family (mother raised me and my younger sister and she was an abusive alcoholic). I moved to USA 15 years ago and from age 13 on I was in different foster homes due to bullying, sexual and physical abuse I experienced in those homes.
I have always been independent, smart, strong and kind. I worked very hard to be able to receive several scholarships, making it possible for me to go to one of the best private art colleges in the US.
Unfortunately, after my ex fiancé, who is the father of both of my children, decided to kidnap my daughter (he has been on the run & off the grid for over 3 years) and leave me with nothing while pregnant with our second child, things have been getting worse.
I have no family, no friends, no support of any kind. I am stuck in a very rural town with no car and no support. The county doesn’t have much of anything besides TANF, SNAP and a couple of assistance with electric bills but only for once a year.
Due to me being all alone with a 2 year old child, I’ve lost great jobs, a place to live and a month ago my son was put in foster care simply because my child got sick I had no one to watch him, and also due to the lack of transportation and resources.
I have been doing my absolute best and hardest to change my situation, but I am in a place with no support no family and I am set for failure and never being able to get my child back if I do not get help to get out of this town, help with getting my license back and a vehicle, help with housing in a nice decent neighborhood, help with just getting me back on my feet so my son and I will never have to go through something like this ever again and I can eventually find my daughter as well!
Thank you to all who took their time to read this and to the ones who are helping my children and I without even knowing us !
My life, from the day I was a young child has been nothing but tragic. From being severely abused by a single mother who was an alcoholic, growing up in Europe and surviving the war, leaving the country and moving to USA with my mother and younger sister only to experience more abuse from not just my mother but her husband as well. Being in several foster homes where I was bullied, hit and sexually abused. All of these things led to me never having a home or family.
I graduated high school with a 4.0 gpa and earned a full scholarship to Savannah college of art and design by submitting portfolios to the college and writing essays for the national women’s legislative council.
I finished 2 years of college with my major being fashion design. I moved around trying to find a place to start a life on my own and ended up meeting my ex fiancé who is also a father of two of our children.
He ended up being verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive and after I had our daughter it got worse.
Wjen I decided I was not going to let my daughter grow up in an abusive environment, my ex fiancé took our daughter who was 1 yo at the time and left me pregnant.
I lost everything. A home, my daughter, I had no money, no car, no job and no friends thanks to his controlling ways.
He has been gone and off the grid with my baby girl for over 3 years now.
I have a 2 yo son who recently got placed in foster care since I have no support of any kind and am stuck in a small college town with no resources capable of helping someone in my position.
I have lost everything and I continue to fight each and every day to continue to be strong for my babies, but I have come to a point where no matter how strong I am and no matter how hard I try to get a job, get to a job with no transportation, no family and no friends helping me in any way, where I desperately need help.
Please, to whom ever has taken the time to read my story, I hope you can help me and help my children!
I’m a single mother to an amazing toddler. We just recently got out of a really bad and dangerous situation with his ‘father.’ The court put my son in my custody. My son had to be in the hospital for a week because of what he did. I couldn’t work anymore because he took the car, the apartment, and I can’t afford daycare. I’m just happy that I have my son and he is safe. I love him more than anything. My ex, his ‘father,’ hasn’t been paying his child support and is also supposed to be paying half of daycare expenses, which also isn’t happening. I am currently staying at a friend’s house but they have to move in just a couple months and that means, so will we.
I’m not going to lie, I need money for a lot of things, but right now, two big things are on my mind. I need a car, which will help us in so many ways, and my son’s birthday is in less than a month. I really would like to do something for him. Show him that there is still good in the world. I would like to get him a bicycle.
I’m not 100% sure how this site works, I searched on google for help and this site came up. If there is anyone who is willing to help us, I would be forever grateful. Please help us get back on our feet and please help with my son’s birthday coming up. He doesn’t need anymore disappointments. He is my everything and I love him so much. I am so blessed to have him.
Thank you to anyone who helps us out, I wouldn’t be on here if I wasn’t desperate. God bless.
Hello, this is not my style as i work 60 hours a week to provide for my two children. But fighting for full custody to provide my chidren the best life I have ran into a financial hardship this month. Please Help
I am currently in a custody battle with my kids father. He has a substance use problem and recently had a relapse. We have joint custody but I am requesting sole legal custody. I thought this would be an easy process considering the situation but we have been in and out of court 5 times since October. I had to retain a lawyer and need assistance with the cost. Their father is not giving me money for them and I am supporting them on my own. I just want my kids to be safe and in my care.
Hello everyone, my name is Melanie. I’m 34 and have a 12 year old son and 2 dogs and a cat. I’m in a real tough time right now and I need some help to get back on my feet. Last October I lost my job. I was replaced by the owners daughter. 3 weeks after losing my job my partner walked out on me and I was 1 week into my work placement for my course. So in 3 weeks I lost my job and income and the relationship and his income. My son was also being bullied at school and having school refusal. I was so stressed out I had a nervous breakdown. I had to put my practical placement on hold for a month to get to a point of not having panic attacks. In November I returned to my placement and managed to get through it however I really struggled. I now have assessments due to finish the course but I’m suffering major depression and anxiety still as I feel so lost and afraid because I don’t have enough money to pay all my bills and debts. I’m trying to pay for all the bills, food, fuel, animals and my sons needs on welfare. My car needs fixing. I have no money to do anything. I can’t even put fuel in my car. I am trying to find a job but I also need to finish this course and I’m at the tail end of it however I’m just so depressed and anxious about bills. Sometimes it gets so much I just cry and want to not be alive anymore. If anyone can please help me so I can pay my bills for the next month so I can get my final assignments completed so then I can use this new qualification to find a better job. I have no energy due to my major depression and I’m losing weight. I just need a little help to help push me over the finish line. I am extremely grateful for anything that anyone can provide. I feel such shame right now even writing this. I can’t believe I even am doing this right now but it’s my last resort and I have nowhere to turn. From the bottom of my heart and soul, please help me and thank you for taking the time for reading my post. Thank you from the bottom of my heart if you donate to me.
My link is: PayPal.me/hopeforafuture
My name is Emma, I am a 20 year old stay at home mom and full time college student. I am studying Medical Assistance with Keiser University online. I recently lost my job because I was unable to find reliable child care for my almost 3 year old and had trouble showing up for work on time because of that. I am expected to pay $50 a month towards school, plus paying for things my daughter needs and now added onto that piles of medical bills as I have just recently been diagnosed with a Teratoma attached to my right ovary. I will need surgery done and my medical insurance has become ineffective recently. I work very hard in school, I have a 3.70 GPA and my goal is to keep it no lower than that finishing out this year. I am a dedicated single mom, my daughters father has never been a part of her life and I do not receive child support because I am scared to name him to domestics and or contact him in any way. He was abusive mentally, and sexually our entire relationship. I do my best to provide for my daughter, and my family helps when they can but I am running out of funds quickly and the job search is going slowly. I am asking for any donations to help me stay on my feet while moving forward, instead of falling down completely. I can’t afford to loose everything in the process of finding a new job and getting my life re situated after surgery. Thank you for your time and for any donation you could give. I promise your donation will be put to important use for a very very grateful stranger.
I am a student and the mom of an awesome 6-year-old. We finally have our own place after years of domestic violence and living with family. We’re happy. However, I haven’t worked continuously since September and only once in November of last year. My job had very few hours to give me and so I went without work. I was let go from my job in December and am several months behind in rent so much so that I am going to be evicted. I am on this site as a last attempt to get the funds. It’s last minute seeing as I didn’t think to go online to ask. I need the money by 2pm central time this Friday, January 18th. I need $1,300 for 2 months of back rent so that my leasing office will give me a chance to make a payment plan and pay this month’s rent. I have a remote job I recently secured and a couple of interviews and callbacks to hear from. I simply need a loan. If you would like to give me this money as a gift. It is most wholeheartedly appreciated but if you would like it back. I am willing to do that. I simply need it to get the office to give me time. As I said I have a remote job, I am also asking for money to get a new phone to complete my assignments for that job. It’s only done by mobile. My phone isn’t cracked up but it is out of date and the software won’t run the work application. I am asking for $150 – $200 for a new one.
All together I am asking for $1,500 for 2 months of rent and a new up-to-date phone to do my remote job on. Again, I do not mind paying the money back in 4 months time if you would prefer. I would greatly appreciate the help. Thank you so much, really. If you have any questions. Please don’t hesitate to email me.
Just a recap, it’s $1,500 by 2pm Friday, January 18th. Thank you.
Hello! I am a single mom who also has her mom living with her. I have a good and steady job but there just doesn’t seem to be enough to make ends meet each month. I have no credit cards (thankfully), but do have about $15,000 in student loans, two car payments (Mine and Mom’s) and the usual bills, insurance, utilities, rent, etc. I am on that cusp that I make too much for any assistance, but not quite enough to live comfortably without stress.
Mom has recently lost her job so our 2nd income is gone and it has become a struggle to make ends meet. She is searching for a new one and goes out every day to put in applications. I just need enough to pay off the cars (and complete some necessary maintenance) and student loans to free up those payments.
Any assistance at all would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading and considering.
I feel like my world has been flipped upside down. Ever since I became a mother I’ve had stones thrown at me left and right and it just seems endless when all I want to do is the right thing for my little baby and myself. My child’s father decided that he wanted to take me to court, even though I wanted to work things out outside of court. I’ve had to represent myself, which I’ve done a decent job of, but I’m no attorney. It is very time-consuming, especially with a toddler and having to scramble around, filing paperwork, meeting deadlines, being to court on time, figuring out daycare, carrying everything by myself, and doing all of this without a car has made me feel overwhelmed at times. I’ve been given no type of child support, even though I’ve filed and they lost all of my paperwork. All of this difficulty and my child’s father is only wanting to see our beautiful baby twice a month. This is just the first stone thrown my way.
I had the opportunity to finally move somewhere cheaper, to be able to catch up and breathe a little. A “supposed to be” friend bought a house and allowed me to rent from her for half the cost that I was previously paying. Next thing I know this person is handing me an eviction letter. Come to find out, this person had become friends with my child’s father and they were plotting against me. The illogical part to all of that is that they don’t even realize the damage done to the baby. We had no place to live after that and I had tried to rent a room, but there are a lot of people who have issues with toddlers moving in. This entire situation forced me to find a place to live back home, out of state.
My child’s father doesn’t want us to move, even though he doesn’t even live in the state I lived in. It’s as if he doesn’t care if we’re homeless, more so our baby ending up homeless or in foster care. Where I need to move to I have family/friend support, a wonderful daycare that I went to when I was little and more importantly an apartment. It’s an empty apartment, for now, furniture-wise, but there’s running water, lights, heat, a blowup mattress, a pack ‘n play, toys that my sister gave to my baby, and some food in the fridge. I came here with my computer and a suitcase full of clothes for my baby.
Lastly, I just received word that my grandfather passed away. Out of everything, this is the toughest part to type, so I’m not going to say much because it hurts so bad.
So, I really need a leg up. I still need an attorney to do a move away order. The judge gave me permission to travel, which my child’s father agreed to. It would be an absolute blessing to be able to be around supportive family, in this new apartment. Recently, I had two interviews for one job that is about 20 minutes away and being able to get to and from work and the daycare with a car would be so helpful.
Yes, I’m educated and have always been the strong, resourceful one, but I’m so tired and sore. So many people have made me feel like a terrible person for asking for help, as if I’m undeserving and I’ve never been the type of person to ask for help, before being a mom, but I don’t have a husband/boyfriend for support or a second income. I just need a boost.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
I’ve been staying with my mother and her boyfriend since December of 2017 when my daughter was three months old. I initially came to visit but got stuck here. My mother has been unemployed for over ten years. Her boyfriend works, but they live pay check to pay check.
I am unemployed because I had just finished school right before my daughter was born and I’ve had no one to watch the baby.
I’ve worked very hard to make very little online here and there to pay for a few things like diapers and my cell phone. But, my mother and her boyfriend continue to steal my money.
They blow through food stamps that are meant for me, my daughter, and my mother. So, I’ve only eaten twice a day to make them last, being hungry almost constantly, and they still don’t last. My daughter never goes without though, of course.
We don’t get to wash our clothes/bedding. Can’t afford it.
We’ve been plagued by a huge bed bug infestation that really is a nightmare.
My mother and her boyfriend have a long history of drug use, which I’ve been suspecting has been happening. They’re supposedly always gone working, yet they need to steal from me.
I desperately want to go home to PA, where I would have support and help with the baby while I look for work. Unfortunately, no one can provide shelter though for various reasons.
I really just want to be on my feet and self-sufficient/independent and provide for my daughter, but I can’t do that here.
I need a place to stay near my support, help with bills until I find employment, and a way to get there.
It is a lot to ask, but I’m so desperate and sick of struggling.
I am a single mom of two amazing young boys. After over 2 years of staying with their father through his multiple suicide threats and physical and mental abuse, I finally called the police when he attempted to kill me. At the time I was running my own company from home. I got behind on work and soon realized I could not care for both kids and run the business. We moved in with a friend temporarily, while I started a new job and got back on my feet and got them into school. A few months in, after him being intoxicated and getting into a fight, I was sexually assaulted but had nowhere to go. Unfortunately due to my children’s emotional needs and physical issues, I missed too much work and lost my job. Finally we found someone that would take us in while again I got back on my feet. Unfortunately, after only a month, they have turned into a controlling and manipulative situation and we are being told to leave again. I am currently just now re-starting my job search but we are briefly out of cash. I’m trying to save up to get us our own place, as well as get the kids some winter clothes. Our vehicle broke down 2 months ago and we are currently borrowing a good samaritan’s vehicle but even time on that is limited. I have a Bachelor’s degree and strong work ethic. I want to show my children that they can rise above their circumstances, but unfortunately I am having trouble doing that alone and I don’t have family that can help. I am not looking for anything major. Even just a couple of dollars to put gas in the car to get them to school would be amazing. I’ve never asked for anything in my life and this is taking every ounce of humility for me to do…but I believe in goodness and faith and hope that maybe anyone at all could help, even just a tiny bit. Thanks so much and God bless.
Hi everyone. I am Suze, I’m 31 and mother to a beautiful 5yr old girl and 5 month old boy. I’ll do my best to explain our story and I hope that some of you will maybe recognise our difficulty at this time.
I separated from my partner when my son was just 7weeks old. There had been a lot of emotional and verbal abuse, mainly centred around me not bringing in enough money. I was working full time in domicilary care throughout my pregnancy, working 40hrs (up to 60+ if you include the travel time) plus 2 sleep ins per week. I then found out our money issues were in fact due to his coke addiction; which stupidly, I knew nothing about; and had to ask him to leave.
unfortunately I am now living in a house I can not afford, and due to bedroom tax and the rules about not assisting people who make themselves voluntarily homeless, the help I receive only covers the average rent of a 2 bedroom and I can not hand my notice in to get help from the council.
i was also left in quite a bit of Débt. I managed to pay the rent arrears myself, but at the sacrifice of having no presents for the children at Christmas. My son didn’t get one gift for his first ever Christmas. I don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself that. I have got bailiffs knocking so most days I either leave the house, or stay in my room with the baby and refuse to answer the door.
Now I am 2 months behind with my personal loan and 2 months behind in rent. Because I started my maternity early due to sciatica, my maternity is being reduced by half, in 3 months it will stop completely. I desperately want to get back to work, but I simply cannot put any money away for child care whilst I’m struggling to get out of this whole.
we do not have food in the house, last week my daughter had to make the 2 90 minute round walks to and from school because I didn’t have £10 to put in the car. Our rent is due in 5 days and I have nothing to give her. I’m seriously considering escorting as my last means. I hate the idea, I hate to think what my children would think. But my pride is now non existent, the fact I can not get us out of this situation without help is a very hard pill to swallow. Please, if anyone can help us out in anyway, it would honestly change our lives.
Thank you so much for your time reading this. Please know. This is a last resort; I will not be laying down and relying on others… I will get out of this with the help of strangers but I will ensure we stay out of this situation On my own. I just need a bit of help to get me on my way to provide the best life I can for my kids x
Hello, my name is Rachel and I am 31 years old. First I want to say thank you for taking the time to read my story. It is not easy for me to ask for help, especially from strangers, but I have nowhere and no one else to turn to. Ever since I was a teenager, I have struggled with addiction in one form or another. Alcohol, drugs, eating disorder, smoking, sex; didn’t matter what it was as long as it made me feel good and eased my emotional pain. When I was 21, my dad passed away from alcoholism; his demons got the best of him. All through my 20s I battled my addictions and experienced a lot of pain and suffering as did my family. In and out of rehabs, sober living houses, relationships, when I got sober I bounced back and was able to get my life back or more often get a new start. I always had help though, my mom sometimes, but more often men who wanted a relationship with me and took me under their wing. Each time I lost it all (the job, the relationship, the car, the money, the self respect) it became increasingly harder to get it back. But I never gave up, I kept fighting. Then I got pregnant and I checked myself into a year long program. I did amazing, it changed my life. I found God and started to love and forgive myself and slowly I began to heal. I gave birth to a beautiful daughter I named Kennedy Grace, and she was the light of my world, she still is. Eventually, we left the rehab facility and tried to make it on our own. It had been extremely difficult because I have a minimum wage job and I my debt and bills are astronomical. My car insurance alone was $250/month because of a dui in my past. It has been a difficult journey digging myself out of the hole I got into but I have stayed sober. That is a miracle. Then in September, things got worse. Consequences from my past came back to bite me. I got pulled over for speeding and I found out I had a warrant from an old dui charge that I thought was dropped. I got arrested, and ended up doing 2 months in jail. My mom took care of my daughter thank God but we lost our apartment and I got another broken lease to add to my debt. While I was in jail, they replaced me at my job and no longer wanted to offer me full time. I finally got out the Sunday before Thanksgiving. That week I started having pain in my right leg and hip. It got worse every day and on thanksgiving I woke up and couldn’t walk. I went to the hospital and they told me I had a serious infection in my hip joint. They had to do surgery on it to clean the bacteria out and the doctors ordered IV antibiotics for 4 weeks. I had to go live in a skilled nursing facility. The day I was getting discharged, they told me that a CT scan showed I still had the infection and it had spread into my bone. So back to the hospital I went. The doctors changed the antibiotic I was on and prescribed 8 more weeks of IV antibiotics at skilled nursing! So that’s where I am now, on week 2. I am terrified of the future because I have no where to go when I get out of here. I have no savings, and all my credit cards are maxed out. From the DUI, my license got revoked for a year and my car got repossessed. I’ll be on probation when I get out and have 6000$ in fines that if I get behind on, I’ll go back to jail. I literally have 0$ to my name. I have tried so hard to change my life so I can provide a good life for my daughter but it feels like I’m swimming upstream. With everything I have done, I deserve to struggle, but my daughter doesn’t. Please help us if your heart calls you to do so. I promise I will pay it forward and help anyone I can when I have the means to. If you can’t help financially, please keep us in your prayers because faith can truly move mountains. Thank you for reading and God bless.
I am really weary about reaching out on here, not sure if it will do me any good. I have just been at a point a desperation for longer than expected. I have been trying to remain positive but nothing seems to move forward. I have been in a bad spot for about two years now. My father passed away in 2016 and life has never been the same. I regret that when I lost him, I lost myself and motivation to live and work like he raised me to have. For a little over a year I stopped working, stopped hanging out with friends, stopped caring pretty much all together about me and my well being. I didn’t see the light to snap out of this funk until I became pregnant and once it was too late. I found out I was pregnant a month after being evicted from my very own first apartment I was so proud of. My car got repossessed. I lost my bank account and to this day I cannot get approved for even a bank account. It’s really amazing, how much I ruined my life in one year and a couple months. I just want to get myself back to where I was. Decent credit. Caught up on bills. Not owing anyone or anything. I now have the most adorable little man named Eddie, after my father. This kid makes my heart swell and I want nothing more but to LIVE again and move on and make my dad proud of me again. I would like to feel proud of me again. The damage I created to my credit and relationships w people in my life, and just my overall well being makes my stomach turn. A very huge lesson learned. Never lose yourself. I just came across this site researching ideas for me to get ahead with my money problems and I came across this and basically I am just at the point to start begging people. I worry everyday I wake up until I sleep about my financial situation and I promised myself to not give up. One day I will be where I need to be and be able to afford a home and a happy life for me and my son. I would like to take care of the list of things holding me back from living a normal happy life with my son. I want to take him to swimming lessons at this moment and don’t have the funds and not sure I ever will! I now work at my friends restaurant and I have gotten back into a routine of working but I also have a checklist of paying off what I can and a baby sitter. I’m always left with no money soon after I get paid. And for that part I am proud and not regretful but so far it feels like it’s been barely a dent and I just keep seeking ways to make it satisfactory. I live at my moms but my goal is to live with my son and raise him and be able to provide for him throughout his childhood and never make the mistakes I made. I am still trying to figure out the site but I plan on posting updated photos of proof of what keeps holding these desires back from me. If I can just get everything to certain point to where I feel challenged but not so overwhelmed and hopeless as I have been then I would be so grateful and blessed. I want to always keep a job and earn things for that would be the best example to give my son. I’m not sure if I would ever even admit to him that I reached out onto this site. I just feel I have went every route except this one and every little bit helps and when it all comes down to it, I need the help. I was told to not be afraid to ask for help. So that’s what this is. If I ever reach a level to be able to help someone else, that is another thought in mind but that’s obviously for another time in the future I can only hope for right now.
I’m not sure if I include my paypal link here.
SENDING OUT AN SOS!!!!!!
hi there, thanks for opening this. I’m not sure how to approach this asking for help thing the right way so please bare with me. I can be the most prideful person, so this experience is humbling me in more ways than I even know.
So i will start from beginning. I came out here to California, while leaving my son with my mom to keep him grounded in the school year and his sports and all. It was originally supposed to be a 2-3 month transition but has now been 7 months. I came out here and since I have been here I have had my wallet stolen that contained nearly $900, all forms of Identification and since I am not from Cali, I have been on the craziest ride ever trying to get everything I need together at once in order to get my new drivers license. Also, the place that I was living at when I moved out here, turned out to be a completely unsafe situation and the landlord was harboring romantic feelings towards me which I quickly rejected and he was not too happy with this obviously. After being harassed by him for long enough, I grabbed what I could grab and left. This was about 4 weeks ago, and I have been hotel hoping around trying to formulate a new game plan here. I am torn between getting plane ticket and just returning home with tail between my legs.. or , do I put myself back on the map so to speak and dust my shoulders off try again. …I don’t know which is the right choice. But I do know that hotels every day are very expensive and I can’t afford it. I don’t make enough money for the cost and it’s killing me, the stress of every day trying to hurry and find a way to make sure I have a shelter for the day. I am humbled beyond measure right now…;I miss my little boy so badly and I am feeling like a failure … I have let him down and he misses me terribly. I just want to hold him and then I know everything will be ok. Please please please, help me get get back on my feet and seethrough hat I came here to do. To be stable and secure and safe not only for myself but also for my son and that ensuring his safe arrival here with his mom.
My name is Christina Davis and I am asking for financial help due to now being the legal custodian of my 2 brothers, Charlie and Connor. I am 26 years old and currently wrapping up my bachelor’s in accounting at Wake Forest University. About 2 months ago, my mother passed away from breast cancer, and I was given custody of my brothers. As you can imagine, things are tight. We don’t qualify for government aid, and buying groceries for two growing boys isn’t cheap!
Charlie and Connor are 14 and 16 respectively. Both of them play football and basketball while still managing to have small part-time jobs. Thankfully, they didn’t have to relocate, but I’m still paying rent for my apartment because I couldn’t get out of my lease. With that being said, on top of the commute and now supporting my brothers financially I am $5,000 in debt after only 2 months. My goal is to be able to support them so they can focus on their grades and maintain their athletic status in order to be applicable for scholarships. Our mother didn’t have life insurance or savings, and so we are running on what little I had saved. We have basically no family members who are financially stable, so leaning on family is also out of the question. It feels like my hands are tied. I have reached out to my church and other local community outreach programs and they have responded generously, however I’ve exhausted those options as well. My brother’s are blessings and I would do anything in the world for them. Our late father put everything he had into making sure my brothers treated everyone how they want to be treated and had big dreams. And our mother, well she fought until the very end. While she lived a simpler life, and didn’t care much for material things, she still made home cooked meals every night and would help just about anyone in need. In 4 months I will be working full-time. By then, I will be able to afford all of our bills. It isn’t easy for me to ask for help, but I can’t imagine failing my brothers. They are the most important thing to me and I need to make sure I take care of them. Even the smallest donation is going to help us more than you know! Thank you in advance from the bottom of my heart.
I am a single mother of a 4 year old girl who works 3 jobs to provide for us. We live paycheck to paycheck even with 3 jobs.
My car has recently broke down and I do not have the money to repair it. I usually have emergency money put away for moments like this but I have been putting so much money into this car it’s left me with nothing.
We live in a rural area so public transportation isn’t easily accessible. Rideshare become very expensive fast… so I have been getting really bad anxiety everyday trying to figure out how I’m going to get my daughter to school (they have no buses at her school and we do not live close to it) and I have to stress about how I’m going to be getting to work everyday. I can’t lose any of my jobs because I’m the only one providing for us. I haven’t been able to work one of my jobs because I need my car to make deliveries.
I usually suck it up and try to deal with my problems but I need help. I feel like a horrible mother right now. The other day we had to walk a total of 5 miles to get some groceries. Which isn’t bad for me but my daughter was so tired by the time we made it home. I had try to explain to her the whole time that I can not afford to fix out car at the moment. It just made me feel like a horrible mom. I know in my heart I’m not but I feel like I’m at a dead end.
I really need financial help to either fix the car and pray that it doesn’t give me anymore problems or I just need to put money down for a more reliable car. Anything will help at this point. I would forever be grateful we are able to get the help we need. I also promise to pay it forward to other in need once we are able to get back on our feet.
Thank you for your time.
Hi, this is me at my most desperate and here is why. Three years ago my children’s dad and I split up, after he left I found out he had been keeping all our money instead of paying the bills, I started getting nasty letters and bailiffs showing up at my door, I was working full time but I could not afford to pay the debts on top of the daily bills and feed my two daughters, then the worst happened, we got evicted, I grew up in the care system so I had no family to turn to for help, my girls and I became homeless, we sofa surfed for two years and struggled so hard but i finally got the well paid job I had been working towards, I became a children’s residential care officer! My girls and I found a nice little flat perfect for us and affordable with my new job, we could breath again and we were happy, but now I am scared it will all happen again, my job is a zero hour contract as I am a relief worker (bank staff) this didn’t matter at first because I was getting lots of hours but then they hired loads more staff and I find myself begging for shifts constantly only to find the Rota is full! I can’t make ends meet, I am looking for a new job which breaks my heart as this was my dream job I worked towards for years and i am halfway through an amazing qualification that comes with the job and sets you up very well for the future. In the meantime my bills are piling up and I’m starting to drown in stress, I havn’t told my girls because i can’t bare for them to go through this again and i don’t know what to do, I have nobody I can turn to, it is me and my girls against the world but the world keeps kicking us down no matter how hard I try! I am so scared, being homeless was such a dark time and my girls deserve better. Please if anyone can help us I would be eternally grateful and when I am back on my feet I will pay it forward and help others too!
My name is Kimberly, I am a 32 year old, mommy of one amazing little 4 year old girl.
My vehicle recently stopped working on me. I am in need of financial help to get a used but new to me vehicle. I have put a lot of money into my older vehicle and it just keeps breaking down on me and it just a big money hole at this point. I am a single mommy of a beautiful little girl. We live in a rural area so public transportation is not a option for us. I have three jobs to try to keep up with all my bills and to try to support my daughter and I. One of which includes driving, and I am not able to get that income right now because I need my broken vehicle working.
At this point I just feel like I’m drowning in bills and dead ends. But what made me feel like a horrible person is what my daughter told me the other day…. I live in a rural area so the nearest grocery store is about four miles away. We had to walk to it the other day to buy food and the whole way there my daughter was asking me why we don’t have a car anymore? trying to explain that to a 4 year old is hard (and by her confused little face I don’t think she understood). It just really struck me hard. I try my best to support us but I keep hitting a dead end. The whole way back she was just complaining how tired she was and how she wished we had a car… when a car would pass by that she liked she would just say well maybe we can get a car like that mommy. A eight mile walk for me is not a big deal but for a four year old its like we walked around the world.
I came up with a game plan on getting another car but just don’t have the funds. My plan is to trade in my broken down car and put a down payment on a lower priced vehicle that I will be able to afford payments on. I also would like to make sure I have enough money for car insurance too. My goal is to have $2,500.00 ASAP so far I have been able to save $500.
It takes a lot for me to ask anyone for help. I have always just been one to do it all on my own or to suck it up and deal with walking to where ever I have to go, but I am doing this for my daughter. I don’t want her to suffer, and I want her to be proud of me. Hopefully when she older she understands how I always have tried my best to take care of her.
I plan to just keep two jobs only and once I have a car I really want to spend sometime helping others who need a hand. If I get the help I need, I want to be able to give back and help people who need that helping hand.
Thank you for reading.
Hello. I won’t tell you my name, but I am a 23 year old single mother with four kids. Ages 4,3,2, and 1. My children and I live in a motel, because in Oct. of last year, I found out their dad was cheating on me. We recently had just moved to this city, and I have no friends or relatives closer than 6 hours away, so I didn’t have anybody to run to for help. So far I have worked my butt off every day, and most nights, to keep us stable. I scrap almost every day, I have sold anything I had worth value. I walk dogs, run errands, drive people around, babysit, any and every legal way I could think of to make money, I have been doing. I even skimped Christmas by the bare minimums… However, I was on the way home last night and my truck all of a sudden lost control and jerked real hard to the left. I had to wait on the side of a extremely busy hwy for no cars to be coming so I could try to limp it across 3 lanes to the spot between the right lane and the on ramp. Then carry four kids across the on ramp. Along with belongings. Then we walked a really long time back to our motel… I think our transmission went out. It was having a hard time making it into 2nd gear last few weeks. I don’t know when I’ll be able to work again, with no vehicle, or make it to the store, or anywhere. My parents are no good for help, and my kids dad has his own stuff going on with a baby on the way and whatever….
I’m not asking for much, I just need a little money to put down on a car or the amount for a new transmission and whatever labor. I’m even very willing to try to pay some, if not all, back when I file my taxes. The help would be greatly appreciated and will not go forgotten. I will pay forward the kindness others show me.
paypal.me/ChynnaSmith this is my paypal link, thank you and God bless.