My name is Ben. I don’t like asking for anything, I believe you should support yourself and family on your own by working hard and not living above your means. Everybody has needs that are different and I’m sure a lot are worse than mine. That being said sadly here I am.
I was very happy starting the year off, I had a good paying job and was looking toward buying a home with my wife and 5 yr old son. I found out that my wife was pregnant again and we were overcome with blessings, everything was great. We ended up having to get an apartment because my credit score was 17 points away from qualifying for home financing. We were still very excited, we would be closer to my mom who is 84. She was equally excited because she is in poor health and legally blind in both eyes with cataracts and glaucoma. After my dad died a few years ago I’ve been her lifeline for doctors, groceries and church each week so she was very excited for us to be closer together.
The weekend we moved into our apartment is when my wife started having labor pains. She was 18 weeks 3 days along and gave birth due to a blood clot the size of a soccer ball, it tricked the body into going into labor and my second son as it turned out, was born. His name is Quinn. He lived for 1 hour and 2 minutes. Beautiful little guy. My first son was excited that he was getting a baby brother, in a few months, but this news we certainly didn’t want to deliver to him.
My wife then a couple days later started having really bad chest pains and for a long time they believed it was simply grieving. But she insisted that it was more, she went through the tests, the heart cath and they found that the stress from the lost pregnancy have caused damage to her heart muscle and caused it to become very weakend. She and we thought she was going to die. We were blessed that she didn’t. My mom at the same time was having issues at home and fell hitting her head pretty bad which in turn caused her to be in the hospital for a little over a week. I missed a lot of work due to these events and of course the bills started to get behind.
I still have my job and now my mom lives with us. I have been down the road of loan companies and payday places and to be honest it has hurt more than helped. I have sold off almost all we own to keep my electric from being turned off and to keep some type of food in here. My rent is two months behind and I’m sure we will evicted soon if I cant find a way. My wife, Mom and 5 yr old son depend on me for everything and I cant seem to get over the hump. The loss of work from my son Quinn passing and the funeral bill that followed so far has proven to be something I cant over come. We are on the verge of being homeless and I have tried everything and everywhere I can. I don’t want to ask for help but my family needs it. thank you for anything, it will help.