My name is Jennifer Schultz. I am a 46 year old female who got herself mixed up with a very controlling and abusive guy 10 years younger than me. I thought he was the perfect guy for me at the beginning of 2013 when we started chatting online. We chatted for over a month and he was everything I ever wanted a partner to be.
I lost my place to live so his family (he lives with his mom and dad) agreed to let me live in their home with this guy. I had a few rules which I followed. I had to help keep the house clean, do laundry, do dishes, and any other chore asked of me. I helped with the cooking and baking as well. It was all going smoothly for the first few months. Then he and his family started changing. He would yell at me all the time. His mom and dad would say mean things about me behind my back. I caught them a few times when they didn’t think I was listening.
That went on like that for over a year. I took it because my boyfriend kept making all these big promises to me about how we were going to live in the future. He would tell me it’s just going to be a bit longer and we will be out of here. Well he broke every single one of his promises to me.
After the first year of living with his parents they decided we could live in the tiny cottage on their property. This cottage is around 300 sqft in size. It has no running water and no plumbing. We do have a tiny fridge and cook stove. The oven on the stove doesn’t work. We do have a microwave, but have to unplug most other items to run the microwave.
My boyfriend will not let me work unless it is with him in his construction business. He is an awful boss. He will sit on one of his machines yelling out orders that I have to follow or I get yelled at. He doesn’t pay me for my work. Last year we worked 7 days a week for 4 months and he didn’t care how tired or worn out I was.
When we get in an argument he throws temper tantrums like a 2 year old. He has to get his way at all times. He will throw things across the room or kick items across the room if he doesn’t get his way. If he is really mad he swears and screams those swear words at the top of his lungs along with throwing items or kicking items. He has physically stopped me from leaving the house to get away from him by grabbing my arm or arms. He has a very strong grip. He also weighs 325 pounds and I only weigh 225 pounds. So he has all that extra weight putting the brakes on my leaving.
I have found a way to get me out of this situation but I need money to do so. I thought about stealing from my boyfriend but I don’t want to go to jail. So I am asking complete strangers to help me out if you are so inclined. I have a cousin that lives in Michigan and I live in Minnesota right now. He will let me move in with him, but I have to find my own way there. I checked U-Haul and a moving truck for a one way trip will be about $600. I also need money for fuel, insurance, food, and hotel for one night. I cannot make the trip in one day so I will have to get a hotel room. I am thinking the rest of the items will cost $600-$800. So I need a total of $1200 – $1400 to get away from this abusive bully and his mean parents.
I have tried the sheriff and different shelters. The sheriff would take me and a small suitcase into the town I live near and drop me off. The shelters won’t help me because I am not abused enough for them to help me. I need to be bloody and bruised I guess to qualify as abused so they could help me. I am desperate to get out of this situation. I will have a very safe and secure home with my cousin if I can just get there. Please find it in your heart to donate to my cause. Thank you and God Bless.