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Looking for a saviour

Good evening,
I am a Scottish woman who lives in Edinburgh, UK.
Seven years ago my partner walked out on my children and I for another woman.  He was a serial cheater and not a very nice person.
We were not married and as such, I was left with nothing.  I had to find a flat for the children and I.  My children were 18 months and 5 years old respectively (daughter and son).
I had no job, no furniture, nothing.
I decided that I wanted to make sure my children were brought up as well as I possibly could achieve.  So, I researched the best free state primary school in Scotland and moved to a flat in that area.  My children have thrived.  My daughter is a girl scout and goes to piano lessons every week.  My son is a boy scout and goes to tennis and football lessons each week.  They are kind, funny, clever and a benefit to humankind.
I decided to go to college and completed an access to university course in Mechancial engineering.  I achieved an AAA result. I then applied to go to university and was accepted on to a Physics degree at The university of Edinburgh.  I looked after two very young children and done a Phyics degree while living in abject poverty.  I slept on a couch for years as I could not afford a bed.  This is testamount to my character.  I done everything myself with no help.  I dont even own a car.  I walked my children 1.3 miles to their school every day and bvack, then went to university.  Then walked another 1.3 miles to the school and back to pick them up.  Got home, clean, tidied, made a home made meal, bathed the children, played with them, read to them, made their packed lunches for school the next day…  Then sat studying subjects such as Electromagnetism, vector calculus and thermal physics to name just three modules.
Many people always quip how hard being a parent is; let alone a single parent.  Let me tell you; the single parent thing seemed like a walk in the park compared to a trying to do a Physics degree as a mature student.  I was under acute stress.  In hindsight, it was totally menatl to do a degree while looking after two under 5’s on my own with zero support.
The children and I stayed in our privately rented flat for 7.8 years.  Last July we were evicted and I had to find somewhere else to live.  I am a model tenant and my landlord needed to sell the flat I was renting.  This was incredibly stressful due to the housing shortage in Edinburgh.  There are like 10 people looking to rent for every property available.
There is a housing emergency in Scotland and particularly Edinburgh where I live.  Therefore I cannot get a council/social housing provided by the council.  I have been on the waiting list for a home for 5.6 years (current average time to get a social home is now 19 years).
It was a miracle that I managed to find a flat in the same catchment area for the children’s schools.  If we had to move to another area it would have caused so much psychological distress to the children being removed from their communities.
My rent increased from £980 per month to £1550 per month.
I passed my Physics degree and have been working for 3 years now.  Happy to provide my degree certificate if anyone wants proof of anything to donate.
I have always managed to support the children and I.  I have never asked for financial assistance in 8 years.  I have always paid my bills and rent.  However, this month I am short of rent of £550.
I am so frightened of not paying my full rent in time (due Tuesday), as that can be reason for eviction.
I would love the option of repaying any donation back in intsalments but i think this is anonymous.
If anyone out there would be kind enough to donate anything, I would forever be indebted to your generosity.  On every walk to the school every morning I would say thank you out loud into the air and wish you good fortune forever.

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Help with paying off Loans so that I can help my family

Hi all,

I hope you are all having a good day today.

I am writing the post to ask for help with paying off loans so that I can help my family. Unfortunately when I was younger I was not the most financially responsible and managed to get in quite a bit of debt and I am struggling to clear this debt off.

This month my Landlord raised my rent by £400 and I am struggling to pay this now with everything else. My sister broke up with her boyfriend and is struggling to look after herself and my niece and they are currently living with my mum who is struggling to look after and provide for them.

I want to help them as much as I can but can’t in my current situation. Any help is greatly appreciated and will not only help me but my mum, sister and niece.

Thank you in advance

https://paypal.me/HelpWithPaying?country.x=GB&locale.x=en_GB

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Single women with 1 year old

Hello, I am a single mother of a one year old working 2 jobs to try and balance my money and afford the child care.
I recently was made redundant from my second job as they went bankrupt 8 days before my wages was meant to be paid leaving me short of cash.
I have bills pilling up that I can’t pay. I am ensuring my child is not going hungry and is dressed whilst I might not be eating for days. My landlord is chasing me for rent which I can’t afford at the moment until I find a second job.
I would like to ask if people could help me out . I’m looking for a donation of £1500 to be able to pay my rent my bills and put food on my table. Please help me I ave no family I could ask for help and the child’s dad has never accepted the child as his and doesn’t want anything to do with him.

My PayPal is elina110@outlook.com

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Please read, struggling and in need of help

Hello so I’m not quite sure where to start here, this is the first time I have ever turned to anything like this, usually I’m very independent and would never reach out to anyone for help but this time things are beyond my control. So a little about myself and my situation.. I am a single mother of 2 daughters my eldest is 11 and my youngest is 3, I have recently gotten out of a long term relationship with my daughters father, I have been left with a 4 bedroom house, a car, And all of the bills to pay for, my youngest daughter has severe learning disabilities and is completely non verbal, she has no understanding of anything around her and there’s absolutely no communication what so ever. I have recently had to quit my full time job as a disability teaching assistant to take care of her as nursery didn’t have the means to be able to provide her with what she needs. This has obviously had a detrimental impact on my financial situation and with no help from their father and no family to turn to this is my last and only option, I am not looking for a miracle or to have all of my bills etc paid but just something so I can take a breather for a short while. I would massively appreciate any help that’s received. Thank you for reading. I don’t have PayPal well I do but I’m locked out of it for some strange reason so I’m hoping my bank details will work..

kirsty hughes

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Covid fallout has brought me to near bankruptcy

Hello and thank you for reading.

I’m from the UK and I had a small business working overseas pre Covid.  This was destroyed from lockdowns and I was forced to come back to the UK and start from scratch with no place to live, no job and no furlough.  The only way I could survive was to take out a loan to cover living expenses etc.  If I hadn’t taken the risk then I would’ve been homeless.

Since then I’ve retrained as a truck driver – it’s long hours and physically demanding work but has enabled me to cover the loan payments and keep a roof over my head until now.  However, with the cost of living spiralling out of control I’m struggling to make ends meet now.

I don’t drink, smoke and I’m not reckless with money.  Like many, I had to take on debt to survive after having my income cut off by the ‘health experts’ and I’ve been digging myself out of this hole I never asked for ever since.

I’m well aware there are many causes here which will make my situation look trivial.  Maybe somebody who was in my position once but is doing well now will see this, relate to it and give me a little help.  I can’t tell you how much I’d appreciate it – when I’m back on my feet rest-assured I will pay it forward.

Here is my link below.

https://paypal.me/looplibrary

 

Thank you for your time and I wish you all the best.

J

 

 

 

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Urgent help needed

I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to you as a person who has recently faced significant challenges and is in urgent need of financial assistance.

After a successful career in sales and running my own counselling business for four years, decided to focus on raising my children and contributing to my community as a stay-at-home mother. Over the past 17 years, I have dedicated myself to my family and community, holding leadership positions and co-founding a non-profit organization that has provided underprivileged students access to quality tertiary education, significantly impacting their futures.

Unfortunately, my marriage has recently broken down, leaving me to fend for myself and my teenage children. Despite these challenges, I am determined to rebuild my life and provide for my family. I am in the process of launching a new coaching business and have been accepted into a prestigious Executive MBA program, which speaks to my commitment to personal and professional growth.

However, I am currently facing an urgent financial crisis. I need £3,460 to cover immediate rent arrears by the 30th of May 2024 and an additional £5,190 to cover rent for the remaining tenancy period. I am seeking assistance in the form of a donation or a loan, which I am confident I can repay within a year.

I am a person who values integrity and I am immensely capable, I cannot convey all aspects of my present situation, but I have demonstrated time and again my dedication to my family and community, and now I need a helping hand to get back on my feet. Your support during this critical time would not only provide me with the stability I need but also empower me to continue my work in making a positive impact in the lives of others.

Thank you for considering this request. Any assistance you can provide would be deeply appreciated.

paypal.me/lorinawaters

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Desperately in Need of Teeth.

Dear All the Charismatic People Out There,

I am reaching out to you today in a time of great need, pleading for your assistance. In 2021, I experienced a devastating house fire that resulted in the loss of everything I owned. It has been a long and challenging journey, but I have finally managed to rebuild my home from scratch. Despite the hardships faced, I am still striving to overcome adversity and rebuild my life. Your support and generosity in this difficult time would make a world of difference to me. Thank you for considering my situation and offering a helping hand.

It is critical that I get the £21,000 necessary to pay for dental implants since I am down to my last few front teeth and must have them pulled immediately. Regrettably, conventional dentures inflict excruciating pain on my mouth and render them unfit for wear. My ability to eat has been severely impaired, and there have been instances where I nearly choked and had to forcefully remove the food from my throat in order to breathe again.

After suffering severe brain damage in a vehicle accident when I was younger, my doctor recommended a powerful anti-epilepsy medication, the side effects of which include tooth problems. The accident left me with irreparable damage to my teeth and receded gums; even though I am off the medicine and doing well now, implant-supported dentures will be necessary to fix the damage.

I have tried getting aid from the NHS and other places, but they have all told me that the financial responsibility is all on me. As a self-sufficient person who is already trying to make ends meet, the anticipated total cost of £21,000 (including extractions) is simply too much for me to afford.

My self-esteem and general health have taken a hit due to this never-ending struggle with my dental health, which is really problematic because I am extremely self-conscious about my appearance. Regardless, I have overcome these obstacles and accomplished a personal milestone: the publication of two books that are accessible on Amazon. I am also continuously working on other projects.

The videos of people like you who have helped others through kindness and support moved me when I saw them on YouTube and found your website. Finally, I am pleading with you to consider making a donation to help pay for my emergency dental treatment; I truly appreciate your kindness and generosity. I would be eternally thankful for any help you could give, and your support would mean the world to me.

Please accept my sincere gratitude in advance for taking my request into consideration and providing me with some optimism at this challenging time. If you are that nice and kind, it might change my life forever, and for that, I will be eternally thankful.

With deepest thanks and most genuine admiration,

Natalie Stow.

PayPal me link: https://www.paypal.me/NatalieStow

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Pay for willows medication and surgery

My dog willow has been in and out of the vets these last two weeks. She has a deep corneal ulcer in her left eye which is on the border of rupturing. This may result in needing her eye removed. So far I’ve spent £1157 on her vet bills. I can’t afford to keep paying for her treatment, and her insurance won’t cover it. I am desperate for help with her bills. I don’t want her to lose her eye but if it comes to it it will cost £1100 and if not her other surgery to fix the ulcer will cost just over £500. This, along with her medication is pushing me over the limit. I struggle with my mental health and am a full time student, I can’t afford it or have the mental capacity to worry about it anymore. I am really struggling, please help me.

https://cash.app/%C2%A3MaddyM015

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Am I talking to an Angel who can help answer my prayers and help me turn Pain into Power??

 

Good day & thank you to anyone taking the time to read this,

I have to say I was brought up not to beg for things and am not too comfortable with it.

I’ve been told often in life that I should ask for help, as I do find it difficult. “If you don’t ask you don’t get” I’ve been told many times.  But I’m hoping that the Angels looking over your shoulders right now will nudge you to assist me to a bright new beginning and fresh start. And that you too will also be even more abundantly blessed. I’m asking for urgently needed financial assistance.  I’m currently not working due to ill health but would love to earn a living doing what I love from home.

Living in a small apartment block, above a neighbour that seems to be unstable & stalking me, is extremely distressing.  I decided to get up very early this morning to write this letter at 5.30 am, while it’s quiet and to avoid this young man.  It’s become a habit for me to tip toe & tread lightly while walking around, but no matter what I do he seems to know when I’m moving around.

I’m ten minutes into writing this letter, and he’s already up and slamming doors, which can often cause my walls, windows, and floors to vibrate with the force of the bangs.

This 22-year-old seems obsessed and has also threatened me when I asked politely if he and his friends could keep the noise down as it was after midnight.  I even gave him furniture silencers to attach to his doors to help him. To no avail, the door banging got worse. On one occasion having to involve police.  I feel unsafe, insecure here & experiencing privacy violation and at my age and stage in life, deserve to live in peace & safety.

In short, I don’t want to make this letter about him, as I’m a young at heart, mind and looks – others tell me many times that I don’t look my age.  I’m also a creative – I love painting, singing and art & crafts hobbies.  This is what makes me feel good, and when I’m in the flow it feels amazing. I also love to write and have started a blog as I want to share some of my life experiences to help others to heal emotionally and mentally.

I was born into a dysfunctional family that I left at a young age and unfortunately ended up in an abusive marriage. Fortunately, I walked away and raised 4 children as a lone parent after divorce. After 17 difficult years my children have flown the nest, but the years of stress & struggle have left me with health issues, also from childhood trauma which has taken many years to heal & still.

Thankfully I’m very proud of my children. Two went to university, one gained her master’s degree & a son who is musically gifted (in my biased opinion!). Now it’s time to realise my dreams, but what money I had, which wasn’t much to start with, was used to help them out.  I discovered my creativity & artistic skills to get through the hardships. I’ve missed opportunities because of lack of money or time, when my children were younger.   I dream of what I could accomplish of my own creation, in the right circumstances

But living with the above situation and other difficulties here is blocking creativity.  As I’m spending more time in anxiety, struggling to keep depression at bay, while focused on issues around me.  A large area of my bedroom carpet is currently damp to walk on, as water from my bathroom is seeping up through the floor. But my landlords don’t see this as urgent to deal with for another few weeks.

I have also recently had surgery and won’t bore you with details of how this property is negatively impacting my health.  I am about empowerment of myself and others and as I’ve been encouraged a few times to write a book that could help heal others and myself, I want to make this dream a reality.  I have a lot to give & want a chance to accomplish this before I leave this earth.

The sun is coming up over the horizon as I write this, a rare occurrence here in England at this time of year. So, I hope this is a sign that a new and bright beginning is possible for me.  I’m sure you get thousands of similar requests. I don’t even know how much monies to ask for. Just enough to be able to move to a new location and a fresh start to help myself and it would be my joy to pay it forward and help others with their emotional and mental healing journey, as I feel it’s my purpose to turn my pain into power.

If you could assist me with at least fifteen thousand pounds, enough to move home or whatever you feel is just, I would very much appreciate it.

I thank you in advance if you feel moved to assist me.

Paypal.me/miss308

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Help Alex’s Family Go Home

Hi, my name is Alex. I am married to Daniel and we have 2 beautiful boys.

Originally we are from an East European country, but in our search for a better life we came to the UK, and for 8 years we have been based here.

We have been working hard to save money and buy a forever home for ourselves, but life being so expensive and because we didn’t have enough experience of how to manage the finance, we ended up having 45.000£ debt, not saving money, and continuing to struggle with money.

We are passionate about animals, especially cats, Maine Coon cats. We decide that we want to be the best Maine Coon breeder. At this point in our life, we have 10 cats.

At the moment they are all too small for breeding and with patience, we hope to be there.

I feel ashamed about this post because God gives us more than we ask for, we have peace in our lives, we love each other, and we respect each other. I don’t know if I could ask him for something more than we have.We are healthy,we can work for our dreams but because just Daniel it’s working at the moments,our dream it’s so far to become reality with our montly income .

We have started to think that it’s time to go home, to be with our family, because in all this time we have been running for money and we lost a lot of moments which we cannot take them back. We have been dreaming of a small house, with a plantation of tomatoes and cucumber and having our cats around, growing our kids in a peaceful county environment.

We hope to make from our passion a living cost in the future, and we also want to offer them the best life with high breeding standards. Offering to people piece from our passion and a life friend.

I don’t know if my dreams will come true but I have the responsability to try.

We will use fund to clear our debt,pay for our home and with the money left take care of our cats with high-quality food and all supplements they need.

Nothing it’s more important than time,sometimes we forget about this and we run for material stuff.Enjoy your life ,even the hard moments,they are in our life with a purpose,we need to learn,we need evoluate,we need to learn how to appreciate small moments,we need to learn to appreciate people and accept them how they are.Having faith and give me life into God’s hand was my decision.And I am gratefful for this.

Thank you so much for reading our story.

Here is my paypal: https://www.paypal.me/ANicula747

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Debt acrued supporting family

I met my wife outside of the UK, we dated and got married in her country.

I chose to use credit cards to pay for her visa application and health surcharge, as well as for language lessons and exams to support her application, and flights for us both to return to the UK. At that point it was manageable, I had a well paying job, but following a redundancy we had to further rely on credit cards for us to move to be nearer to my family, and to support us both while we both looked for new jobs.

We have £25k of the debt remaining, trying to deal with it is affecting every aspect of our lives, our health, our marriage. It feels like my life is falling apart and we are working as hard as we can but we are barely making a dent, so I am relying on the kindness of strangers, I am begging you, please help with anything you can.

https://paypal.me/emergency146?country.x=GB&locale.x=en_GB

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Please I need help

Dear Kind Hearted Angels

I’m at life’s crossroads, feeling very tired and can’t do much to uplift my life.

I’m a mum of grown up children. Worked as a nurse and in health care all my life. I have taken very good care of my children, including educating them, without burdening them with any educational loans, not taken the money back. It was always a sacrifice looking after the needs of my family first. I support my elderly mother who is 83 years old, who lives in solidarity, after my father passed away. I got my mother to live with me for some time and got her total knee replacement surgery done, which was a total failure. She now walks with clutches, has ongoing knee pain and is a total invalid to take care of herself. I am in debt, can’t afford to rent a place, so living with one of my children. This has caused more misery due to persecutions; at one point I felt very suicidal and wanted to end my life.  My only hope is in God, who keeps me going.

I need to get my mum’s knee surgery rectified and the surgeon has said it is a major surgery. I want to bring my mother to live with me after the surgery, but I need a place of my own. I don’t have the funds to mortgage a property. I am still working, but struggling with my finances. This is the last major help I want to render for my mother, as she struggles to walk with clutches and she wishes that a re-surgery will rectify her knee. She also has other physical health problems. Dr has advised that if her knee implant breaks, she will collapse and fracture her hip or leg which will further intensify her current problems.

So here I am, reaching out for a lifeline. I am really tired working night shifts in the hospital, which is my only means of income and I’m getting old. I sincerely need help, just a last chance to support my mother and to have a place of my own. I want to bring my mother to live with me, instead of putting her in a care home, as I want to look after her myself. My mother has done her best for me, I love her too much to let her suffer any more, as she has gone through lots of sorrows, poverty and persecutions in her life due to family dynamics, especially her son deserting her.

I will need money for her surgery, i.e. $4000 and funds to mortgage a property – around $90,000. I have always done my best for my parents, my family and others. I’ve always been a generous giver when people reached out to me for help.

I heard of this website and I felt that this was my only hope; if God can bring kind hearted souls as channels of restoration in my life. I have prayed too much, cried a lot and now looking to God for a miracle. Thanks a million for even considering it. May God bless all your heart desires richly. Your kindness means the world to us. Thank you for restoring hope for humanity and knowing that angels/vessels of God do exist. Any type of donation or help would be greatly appreciated.

With heartfelt thanks,
A dedicated & caring daughter in need of help.

https://www.paypal.me/FeliciaV33

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Need help to pay for caregiver

I’ll write a short summary and more detailed version further down.

I’m trying to raise $1600 per month to pay for a care giver for my wife which will get 40 hours of care per month. My wife has a rare autoimmune disease called paraneoplastic syndrome. It’s caused by the body detecting cancer and creating antibodies to kill the cancer. Unfortunately the antibodies also damage neurons in the brain and causes brain stem inflammation, collateral damage. It’s difficult to diagnose and very difficult if not impossible to treat if not diagnosed quickly.

 

4 years ago I went from being the sole breadwinner to full time care giver for my wife literally overnight. It was then a long and difficult battle to help my wife regain a very small portion of her life. We spent the savings and sold the house and now live in rented accommodation with little left in the bank. We are in the catch 22 of catch 22’s. We need money for rent and bills that we pay from savings and will do until the savings run out. I sometimes manage to do 1 or 2 hours work per week online but for me to work more we need someone to care for my wife which we currently can’t afford. That’s why I’m here. It costs $1600 per month for a carer for 40 hours per month. That will help us turn things around, I can then work more and get a carer for more hours and then we won’t need donations. We don’t have any family close by that can support us, I’ve been providing 24/7 care on my own for 4 years.

 

More details – 4 years ago my wife became sick, after feeling a bit off for a couple of weeks she started vomiting all day, she was so dizzy she could barely stand, her vision was troubling her, she was sensitive to light. The local doctors wouldn’t see her in person as they said due to the pandemic they were only doing telephone consultations. After several visits to emergency care with them basically only ruling out being pregnant and with no further diagnosis my wife’s condition continued to deteriorate.

 

I took sick leave to care for expecting I would return to work when she got better, neither of us had any idea that 4 years later I would still be a full time care giver and we would be in this position.

 

We were advised by the local doctors to pay to see specialists privately as that is the only way my wife will get diagnosed quickly. We saw more than 20 different specialists each time being told they would see it through to the end, only to be told on the follow up visit they don’t what to do and pointed us to another specialist.

 

Month by month, my wife’s physical and mental state changed considerably, she could no longer open her mouth and jaw more than ½ inch, she had double vision and couldn’t move her eyes sideways, she could only walk slowly and with me holding her up and she had lost a quarter of her body weight and she was slim before she was sick and she was having panic attacks constantly. By month 4 we fortunately found a doctor that took her seriously and diagnosed her condition but told us straight it’s very rare and difficult to treat, especially after the first 1 or 2 weeks of symptoms. He also found significant inflammation of the brain stem which was causing increasing damage. The doctor said treatment had to be in a government hospital, which we were fine with, but will take time to get her admitted.

 

Month 5 she finally gets into hospital and in month six they administer steroids to reduce the inflammation of the brain stem.

 

By month 12 and several hospital stays later, the brain stem inflammation had gone due to the steroids but the major symptoms remained. My wife could only open her mouth about ¼ inch by this time, could not mover her eyes, had double vision, had developed severe pain in the neck, back and jaw and had difficulty walking.

 

We paid for advice from the leading specialist on my wife’s condition and he wrote to the government neurologist advising chemotherapy and Rituximab. The government neurologist, for unknown reasons refused and said if weren’t happy we could see a different neurologist but would have to join the back of the 48 week queue to.

 

So we searched and found chemotherapy and Rituximab treatment abroad, we knew it would be expensive, would be a very difficult to travel (I won’t describe the journey here but it was one of the most difficult things we’ve ever done) and may not even help but we had to try. So we sold the house and spent 18 months abroad getting treatment.

 

The result now my wife completed chemotherapy and Rituximab is that my wife’s vision has improved a little bit so she can read again, it’s difficult to read but this has given her a world she can be in. Even though my wife’s quality of life is only a fraction of what it used to be, we have to be grateful that the treatment gave her some life back, without that it would have been unbearable. Her vision is still double, and she can’t move her eyes sideways, she still can’t eat solid food or open her jaw more than ¼ of an inch and is in constant pain, we’ve tried every available medicine and treatment for this. My wife still needs constant care, she has panic attacks even if I need to pop to the shop and needs help with everything. We’re hoping the chemotherapy and Rituximab will stop any further problems developing.

 

So that’s our story and why I’m here, on a website I never thought I’d need to use.

There’s so much more to write about the past 4 years and I really want to do it when I can. It’s not a nice story, it’s more like a horror story but maybe if people donate I can thank them by telling all of it one day.

https://paypal.me/needcaregiver?country.x=GB&locale.x=en_GB

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6 months of life knocking me down – need help to get back on my feet

Since December I have gone through a personal hell that only a few friends know the extent of. It started with a break up of a 2 year long distance relationship when I found out through a social media post that the guy I was involved with actually started dating someone else being my back. This lead to a mental health spiral that led me to be off work with depression and anxiety. Mid January I was supposed to go back to work as my Doctors note had run out, I wasn’t really ready to go back but thought I should try. The day before I was going back I got a call from my Area Manager to tell me I had been suspended pending investigation for numerous allegations. This hit me like a ton of bricks as I had no clue what was happening. That night my depression was so bad that I had thoughts of ending my life. I saw no way to get through this.
The next few days were hard and one night I spoke to a couple of friends, one to say that if anything happened to me could she come to the house and the other was to ask her to look after my cats. One told me to call the Samaritans, which I did, and the other called the Police and told them what I was attempting and they had to go round straight away. Unfortunately it wasn’t a cry for attention, this was a genuine act. The Police came and were amazing, so helpful and understanding. They contacting a married couple friends of mine and they came and stayed with me for a few hours. The Police came the next day to check up on me and called me the following week to make sure I was ok.
I was put on su***de watch and was under the Crisis Team. They wanted me to stay at the crisis house for a week but because of my boys I couldn’t, so they visited daily for 2 weeks. All this time work wanted me to attend meetings and hearings and answer loads of questions, they couldn’t understand or didn’t want to understand what I was going through and had no sympathy at all. A new Area Manager was taking on during this time who took over the hearing and she was superb and so supportive.
Bottom line, I lost my job. Of the allegations my deputy had said, including being a racist and using the n word, being abusive to volunteers, stealing money and stock and giving volunteers more than the pathetic 10% discount that the company allows, the only true one was the discount. I gave volunteers 50% (which I have later learnt that pretty much every manager does) and I gave them free items if they had worked really hard or had taken abuse from customers. It was gross misconduct and after nearly 7 years, they couldn’t trust me!
I had friends turn on me but also had true friends stand by me. It has come to light that the Deputy was using me as a patsy and was actually doing something highly illegal which I can’t go into because he is now suspended pending action. He was trying to take the spotlight off him by painting me to be a villain. Unfortunately that just put the spotlight on the store and his actions came to light, so it backfired.
The Police, my Doctor and the Derby Crisis Team were all amazing and so quick to help me. I felt so supported and it turned things around.
Unfortunately this isn’t the end of my woes. I had a string of things happen during this time. My boiler is leaking, my diabetes was going screwy. My car has gone wrong, it also needs 4 new tires. I got a speeding ticket on my birthday visiting my mum (4 miles over the limit) so had to pay for the speed awareness course. One of my teeth has gone bad and I can’t afford to have it removed. Milo one of my cats is poorly and has blown up like a balloon and the vet wanted to put him to sleep, which broke me. I can’t afford to get him sorted though and I need the fluid drained. And my other cats, Thackery has an eye infection and Barney is losing weight and is skin and bone because of his age.
And the big thing, because I was dismissed I cannot get full benefits. I wanted to claim housing benefit and I asked my landlord for proof of rent and a tenancy agreement but because he is a friend and has done me a huge favour in letting me live in his house, it was never an official thing and he never told the official people he had to tell, so he cannot give me anything to say I live there, so no benefits. January 2023 I would have been homeless so I will be forever grateful for his kindness. And he is going through lots of issues himself. My claim for help is in but it takes about 3 weeks if not more to process and because I was dismissed I won’t get full help.
Unfortunately, grateful doesn’t pay the bills or put food on the table.
So, this is where I have to come cap in hand asking for help. And I am so sorry as a 53 year old man I have to do this but I cannot see of anything else I can do. If anyone can please see it in their heart to donate anything I would be eternally grateful. I have less than £100 in the bank and nothing coming in. I am so sorry for this and I feel ashamed but I have been through so much. I am going for job interviews and trying to get back on my feet but keep getting knocked down. This is incredibly humbling for me, and I wish I had any other option and I am sorry to have to ask.
And I am sorry for the huge message. Thank you for your time x
My paypal is: paypal.me/DamonHatton