May I thank you in advance for any consideration given to my situation, it is greatly appreciated and hopefully my plea will not go unheard.
Over the past 4 years our lives have been turned upside down after the birth of our beautiful daughter, first, I lost my eldest daughter at the age of 27 years old. She was a vibrant young woman from my previous relationship and although I was absent for big parts of her live I loved her deeply and prayed everyday that we would become close one day, but that day never came. It hit me hard and deep bringing about PTSD and depression. I had to bury this though as my partner’s father passed away from brain cancer which was very sudden and because of my new daughter and being the man I had to be strong and hold the family together and buried my pain. A short time later my father suffering from vascular dementia started to quickly deteriorate and within the year was also lost. Still buried my pain for my daughter I had my father which eventually caused me to have a breakdown. This was too much, I had faced hardship and pain but nothing like this and being a man, an ex serviceman I felt ashamed, ashamed of my weakness which has had a strain on my current relationship to almost breaking point. Then as we rent privately the condition of the property was in such a state of disrepair with mood in various rooms(bathroom, kitchen and baby’s bedroom) the dangerous state of the electrical wiring(I am an electrician) and the flat roof and main roof leaking I resorted to calling in the environmental health who assessed the property and agreed that the property was unfit for a small child. Subsequently my partner took the baby and moved into her mother’s and now lives in another private rented property but I cannot afford to live with them as they would lose the benefits that pay the majority of the rent and as my wages are not enough to cover the costs of the new rental price on top of my other commitments. I live in my works van outside which again has caused the depression to resurface and putting more strain on a very strained relationship.
I have been trying to secure social housing but my local authority does not hold housing stock and because my partner is housed they deem it as not a priority. There are places for me but they are a considerable distance away and with my work I think it would be the final nail in the coffin of the relationship and this would kill me. My bond with my daughter is the strongest thing I have ever felt as I carry her to bed every night, as my partner works part time to cover the difference in the shortfall in rent she falls asleep in my arms at night, it is the most wonderful thing there is. Now with winter fast approaching heating the home on the our money has become another strain on our finances causing more strain. I am trying to keep the family together not just for me but mostly for my daughter and feel this is now my last course of action, I am a proud man, I work hard six days a week trying to save money but it is whittled away and then back to square one with nothing. I would love to give my daughter and my partner a worry free existence, a life without struggle like any normal man that wants to provide for his family and now swallowing my pride I find myself here asking for help, enough help to give my family a chance, a life that they deserve, a home to call their own. I have a figure that would secure a property, it would need a lot of work but I can do it, I would do anything for them as I hope this letter demonstrates. If I could raise £100,000 I would secure the future my daughter and partner deserves, a home. May I take this opportunity to thank you again for any consideration shown with this plea for help, I know many people that suffer hardships even worse, suffering even greater and would understand if you find others in greater need again, thank you.