Dear all,
I hope this message, finds you well.
As a Kid I always wanted to go further with my education and reach high academic level. I do really appreciate the possibility of educating myself. Especially as in other countries like third countries education is not accessible. I received the opportunity to pursue my Master’s degree in Human Resources Management in September 2023. Since then, I’m really pleased that I had made it till here even though I had financial issues. As I work, I have managed to pay 1900 in rates. However, I can barely afford my monthly expenses, as well as the cost of studying and living. The study and living expenses are taking a toll on me especially as I’m going through divorce.
My future ex-husband and I have been together prior marriage three wonderful years. During this time we cared for each other, we loved each other. I truly loved him, he had all the qualities what I was looking into a man. He was courageous, ambitions and hard working. In the beginning of our relationship, he suggested that we should keep our relationship privat as long as possible so that we can grow our love and bond stronger, without third parties involved.
I did not take the suggestion badly, and agreed… I remember when I told my sister that I’m dating him and he heard how I told her on the phone he literally flipped out and asked me why I had told her about our relationship and how many persons I already have told about as I knew exactly we had an agreement… I was like, that’s my sister.
By this time he did not have a place to live neither a job as he is refugue..with him I felt that with his courage and mine we will go far…my father helped him to pursue a job ….
I willingly accepted my boyfriend’s conditions at that time because I truly believed in him. Material things or money was not my priority. During this time, I was still living at my parents house and attending evening school to obtain my A-Level and worked part-time during the day.
As we celebrated our two-year anniversary, I told him that I do not want to keep hiding anymore and I want our relationship to be official. Fast forward, a few months later they were rumours that my ex-husband at that time boyfriend were in a relationship with another woman.
My boyfriend denied everything, he even told the woman in my present that he would never ever would start something with her and she should stop taking his name in her mouth….
I really believed my boyfriend that this woman was just trying to put a wall between us. As mentioned my boyfriend by this time did not have an EU-permenet residence.
As his social situation has slightly changed a family member of his should have helped him with getting an apartment, unfortunately the person was not reliable. Therefore, as a couple we decided to take an apartment under my name as we had also planned to get married so for me it was not a bad idea at all to take the contract under my name.
..we/he moved in in July 2022 and it was just perfect. Since our traditions do not allow a woman to live with a man before marriage, I went only to visit him. He asked his family to Dr. Congo to send him the documents required for the civil wedding. We got engaged on March 25, 2023. I was so happy to finally take the next step.
…. Since I have African roots, there are three steps to getting married. The first traditional wedding… the groom has to “pay a bride price”, bring gifts for the bride’s family, in the second step the religious blessing and finally the civil wedding… our religious wedding should have taken place on October 28th, 2023… …as that When the documents arrived from the Congo, we quickly received an appointment for the marriage at the registry office.
…My fiancé then told me that we shouldn’t tell my parents that we are getting married in a civil ceremony, otherwise they would not allow us to get married before the traditional marriage…..I remained silent….. One Week before the wedding I was so nervous that I didn’t have a new hat on my side that I wanted to make with my fiancé. On the other hand, his family knew that we were getting married, they didn’t even understand why I got cold feet.
To sum up, we got married. From there on everything changed….. as my husband received the bride price list he started to find excuses why he would not proceed with the traditional wedding, telling me things like we have to add one more or 5 years so he can marry me traditionally…
……. After revealing my mother that we were legally married, she told me that he does not love me, he just married me because of obtaining an EU-citizen…. A few months before our engagement he invested in eventmangement materials like lighting and Led-wall. In my head I believed that he is my partner and his well-being is important to me but also beneficial for our couple, therefore I invest 6100 Euros in his startup too.
.. My father was so angry and urged me to take my husband out on the streets, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it because I had no evidence to confirm all these accusations… My father disliked my attitude and expelled me from the house.
Unfornutaly, I found out that the allegations against my husband were true while living at my cousin.
… my cousin was out with his boys and on the way home he saw the woman who was supposedly having a relationship with my husband at the time and asked her if he should bring her home since he was also on the way home … she agreed and got into the vehicle… shortly afterwards my friend called her and asked her where she was, she replied she was on the way home, then my friend asked her to please come back
So my cousin brought the lady back to my friend. At that time, my ex-husband didn’t know that my cousin was a cousin and my cousin didn’t know that he was my partner… Arrived in front of the club, the way the woman greeted my ex-husband’s boyfriend at the time was very suspicious…she said to my husband that he had drunk a lot and that they were going home now…. my cousin then brought the two of them home to her. Yes, you can imagine the rest.
.I lost su much, he betrayed my love, he never ever looked after me while living at my cousins even knowing where I was living….he furthermore told my mother that he do not want to continue this relationship but calling me and texting me that he is missing me….I felt like I’m in a bad dream that does not end…know he tells people that I brought him bad luck, I make him stagnate in his life …..I fell into depression, I weighed 40 kilos …I was lost…. the man I loved was disgracing me, took me for granted,
attacked my dignity and personality, left a measurable climate at my family…just unbelieveable
I fell so deep into depression I couldn’t believe he did and said all those bad things…but as I heard the audio recording I was shocked…… none of his family member ever called me or texted me even when we got engaged… I have understood I have been just an object for him to obtain his permanent residence……. even with all this stress I attended unit and went to work.
Due to court fees and the investment I made in his business, I have lost all of my savings.
Therefore, I am asking if you could help me finance my studies. https://paypal.me/manuelabapi?country.x=AT&locale.x=de_DE
I appreciate your help in advance.
Kindly greetings,
Manuela