I want to get back to normal and start helping my community.
Hello,
I’m a forty-year-old veteran, single woman with two children aged 7 and 11. I came from nothing and joined the military in 2010, looking for ways to give back to society and become a better provider to those who grew up homeless and witnessed the violence and systemic oppression brought on by the eighties drug uprising.
To keep it short, I’ve dealt with sexual harassment, toxic leadership, sexism, and a lack of empathy in the military. I’ve never complained, and I’ve tried to keep things quiet because I was afraid to cause more problems for myself. I consistently followed instructions and never found myself in trouble. I’ve become the leader of many soldiers who have respected my leadership style. To express how I am an upstanding citizen and soldier, getting behind in my finances is the main point.
During my years as a single parent in the army, I spent thousands of dollars on daycare and nannies, but the majority of my income went toward paying for services to care for my children. I worked a number of 24-hour shifts, which increased the cost of hiring someone to care for my kids and provided convenience, enabling me to fulfill my military duties.
I’ve never been behind on my bills and always tried to save money. When I had to attend drill sergeant school and perform my drill sergeant duties, my finances started depleting.
The stress from toxic environments, sexual harassment, and workload as a single parent, along with depleting finances and health issues, started to take a toll on my mental health. I plunged into a profound depression and faced discharge from the military. I ended up homeless, trying to move to a veteran-friendly state. During the move, my car broke down. I had to live in a hotel off of credit cards until I could figure out how to get a vehicle and thankfully, I found a used van for $8,000 that I had to finance because I didn’t have the cash for it. All while I had my two children with me, my plans were to buy a home and pay a mortgage with my disability, but I was moving and living in hotels and in my van because the house wasn’t going to be ready for another 2 or 3 months. At that time, I had nowhere to go and no one to stay with. Homeless shelters were filled, and agencies couldn’t help me because I just got out of the military and to them, I should still have income to be on my own. Even though I should, because of the unfortunate events of lack of support for my children, I was filled, and agencies couldn’t help me because I just got out of the military, and to them, I should still have income to be on my own. Even though I should, because of the unfortunate events of lack of support for my children, I was filled, and agencies couldn’t help me because I just got out of the military, and to them, I should still have income to be on my own. Even though I should, because of the unfortunate events of lack of support for my children, I was forced to have the luck of my finances being depleted like a domino effect. Output with no input was affecting me really fast, which led to me maxing out my credit cards not on clothes and luxuries but on cheap hotels, food, and clothes for my kids to be safe and comfortable. I’ve been going to counseling and started back to college, and I’m drowning in credit card bills, struggling to keep food and provide a normal life to my kids, signing them up for sports and hiding the fact that I can’t pay fees because I’m still trying to catch up but I’m drowning. I want to be able to get back to normal. If I can get my debts paid off faster, I would be grateful to find ways to give back to the company. I currently volunteer at homeless shelters due to my past experiences, but I would like to expand my involvement as I feel stuck and my depression is on the verge of resurfacing, which could lead to further societal barriers.
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