Hello, my name is Amber and I am a mother of six, five boys and one girl ages 15 through 1.
Happily and thankfully, we were recently freed of this cycle of domestic abuse that we had been dealing with for the past few years, as mentioned above. However, it has left me financially in a difficult place.
You see, I was not allowed to work, so I literally have no money whatsoever right now.
In addition to being mentally and physically abusive and extremely jealous he was also very very controlling. So I was not allowed to have a job because that would mean I would have my own money, and he did not want that. I wasn’t allowed to have money at all unless it was right before I put in the grocery delivery orders that were how we purchased food for the house (because typically I wasn’t allowed to go and he didn’t like going)
Anytime I would actually get to leave the house, if I was gone for more than 15 minutes it would always be an argument with accusations even though I wasn’t allowed to leave in the first place unless I had taken two kids with me and shared my live location on GPS.
These are just a few examples of what was the norm around here however it hit a new level, and a level I wasn’t capable of dealing with any longer.
The last time I was at the store and he decided I was taking too long, he decided to put his hands on two of my boys, my 12 and 11-year-old. And I don’t mean a spanking. But, at least there was a silver lining to it, because this time he knew it would be enough to arrest him because it was no longer just his word against mine. Now it involved The two children he hurt and the other children that were present as well as videos that one of my other sons took.
Knowing that if were I to call the cops and have him arrested he would lose his very nice job with all its benefits and his vehicle etc., he decided to pack up and leave instead. But he also knew that he was leaving before he paid rent for this month, in fact made sure that I knew it wasn’t paid yet and that he wouldn’t be paying it. (Despite the fact that my youngest child is also his youngest child, our 18 month old son- and if the rest of us lose our home so does he along with us)
So while we are all much happier feeling this great weight off of our shoulders, mom is still a little worried, and I’m trying very hard not to let the kids know.
Rent is due on the 5th, which is tomorrow. Very short notice I know, the latest I could possibly pay it should be the 9th or 10th (before eviction filing begins).
He also left the water bill at $602 and change. He typically doesn’t pay the bills until they get shut off, even though he makes more than enough money to pay all the bills.
Luckily the electric just got shut off twice so the majority of the back balance on that has been taken care of but on the 15th another 281 is due for that as well.
I will absolutely be getting a job as soon as possible, I have already started applying several places, however due to the extremely short notice of the situation with rent, that is why I am asking for help.
I’m positive I will be able to find employment that will take care of me and my kids all on my own like I did years ago before he and I met, but it’s going to take me some time to get to that point and I know I won’t be able to do it before we are behind on rent here, and I really would like to prevent any more upheaval from my children’s lives, so anything that anyone can help with is so greatly appreciated.
*Also,*The rent and electric I should be able to find local agencies that should possibly help that so it’s mostly just the rent I am looking to get help with right now. (Any of the rent assistance programs in my area have a long application process)
My cash app is $amb829
My PayPal is PayPal.me/AmberBarber829
My venmo is @Amber-Barber-19
Thank you in advance, from me and my children😁❤️