I’m a 41 year old mom single moms of 3, This is not where I thought I’d be at 41 but the last 4 years have been the darkest times for me. I sit in the dark writing this at 10:30pm on a Thursday. I’m mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially exhausted. Personally asking for help like this is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I’m a single mom of three who has been fighting to stay afloat since life turned upside down in 2020.
During the pandemic, I went through a painful divorce that left me emotionally drained and financially vulnerable. With no child support and three children to care for, I used credit cards and payday loans just to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. Between 2020 and 2022, I accrued over $40,000 in debt — not from luxury, but from survival.
In the midst of trying to rebuild, I suffered a physical injury when a man accidentally fell on me from 42 ft above me at Globe Life Stadium. Of which I couldn’t find an attorney to help with my case due to not knowing what his cause of fall was. I don’t believe him to even be alive but I was rushed on a stretcher to the emergency room where I have double whiplash, trauma to C3 and c4 vertebrae and electric shock. I have no insurance because I don’t qualify for government assistance by making $30 too much so I have not been able to seek proper medical attention and refuse to be in any medications that would only hinder my ability to work. Since then, my ability to work at full capacity has been limited. I’m self-employed hairdresser of 20+ years, but the instability (recession) has made it nearly impossible to catch up. I’ve applied to over 600 jobs in hopes of finding something secure and consistent — but nothing has come through yet.
Now, I’m being sued by creditors. I’ve considered bankruptcy, but something inside me still hopes I can repay what I owe — that I can honor my obligations and teach my kids resilience through action. I’ve always been the one to help others, but now I’m the one in need. I have no family support, and this is truly my last resort.
Your kindness — no matter the amount — would not just help financially, it would restore hope and breathing room for me and my children. Even sharing this means more than you know.
Thank you for reading my story and considering a donation. From the bottom of my heart thank you.
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