Single father of 3 with 50/50 custody just trying to make it. I recently got 50/50 custody of my 3 sons (twin 9 year olds and my nonverbal autistic 12 year old son. Even though I’m jobless at the moment (other than some side work thank God) without my own personal transportation and their mother receives my oldest sons ssdi check and also receives food stamps for all 3 sons and has a job somehow still got awarded child support from me even having them half the time all month. The judge took my oldest sons check into consideration and decided it should be split between parents roughly 1,000$ total and after doing the difference of what I would owe and half of the 1000 I ended up receiving a total of 81$ while she gets to keep the remaining 900$ something and also food stamp benefits for the while having a job. So therefore her working just a couple days here and there she’s able to make it fine with her other income and food stamps. While I’m trying my best to make ends meet working here and there when I can with side jobs. Because of having a 5-5, 2-2 schedule that the judge decided on making it hard to even find employment that will work with me. Im also having to take all 3 of my sons to and from school which is roughly 55 minutes away even though in the same county there is no bus that runs to their school from where I live. I have to borrow my parents vehicle every day that I have them to do so. I’m not going to sit here and say that I’m deserving of any better because I used to be an addict (now in recovery) and my bond with my sons are stronger than ever. They literally don’t ever want to leave me because their mother got a new boyfriend and literally pawns them off every time that she gets them after being with her for over 13 years and never being away from my boys it is hurting them more than anything and all I can do is just comfort them every time I get them and let them know that I’m not going anywhere! Just like today (thanksgiving) their mother told the judge that she wanted to have the boys half the day even though it was my day so that she could eat dinner at her mother’s. come to find out after she gets my sons she makes them aware that she’s going to her boyfriend’s and they have to go. they call me upset and I of course jump to their side and comfort and confront their mother and tell her that she is ignorant and evil for forcing them to go to that. we’ve only been split up for 4 months after being together for over 13 years she is not taking our sons into any consideration (she is literally doing everything she does for spite to get me upset and make me look more and more like the bad guy. I’m trying to get on my feet and get these boys what they deserve their own home and our own vehicle so that I can try to get full custody because that’s what they want. On the days that their mother picks them up for me they cry and instead of comforting them she gets them in the car and calls them crybabies and says that it’s messed up that they cry about leaving me and never her. She is a Panamanian that grew up without a father and still to this day she still doesn’t know who he is (32) yrs old. And all I can see is her putting that same hurt into them that was put into her growing up and they need out of the situation to save their sanity. So if please anyone could help with anything it would be more than greatly appreciated for me and more so my 3 boys. Please help me get them what they deserve I’ve never done nothing like this and it still makes me feel like a failure asking for help and not being able to get there as quick as needed for my sons but I have to do this with hopes and prayers 🙏 that something will happen good for us! Thank you all with all my heart ❤️. PayPal @JamesNelson3588 or Cash app $paythejt88