Hi guys, I’m 48 years old and got divorced about a year ago. For the majority of my life I have been a volunteer serving others mostly in the form of counselling services and lately hurricane relief as I live in Florida. I am a hard worker and have worked all of my life. I am also an author and published two books, so I am relatively smart.
I was married for 10 years and a year and a half ago my now ex-wife just decided that it was time to move on and out of nowhere requested a divorce and said that there was nothing I could do to change her mind. She was the breadwinner and supported me for the most part.
As smart as I am am and as I good willed as I am I didn’t foresee this coming. I never predicted that with us living apart she would suddenly get feelings for someone else, but that is life, nothing is guaranteed. Having spent almost all of my life helping family or helping others for their benefit, I stupidly never created any investments of any kind and frankly I never had any money to put into savings. Now it has all come back to me. And I never would have thought that I would ever say this, but I regret not getting into business and building a legacy. I maybe never should have touched all those thousands of lives for the better that I helped to the best of my ability live a better life for themselves, because now I am stuck.
When divorcing I had originally planned in joining another humanitarian organization which I would have dedicated my life to, but in order to join I had to have all my debts paid off, I had about $140k. So I sold my part time pressure washing business and negotiated what I could and paid it off as well as some taxes, sold my truck, signed the house over to my now ex ( stupidly ) but I didn’t qualify to join the group after all. So I am left to build my life from scratch now with nothing.
Also, in selling my business, I probably spent too much time helping the new owner succeed ( 8 months ) I shouldn’t have been so generous and should have worked harder on my own new businesses. But it is what it is. Now with really only 3 months to figure out good income and make it, it turns out I was not able to turn a profit or really make any money with my new businesses. One was an online course to teach pressure washing which I had been promoting for the last 6 months or so, one was an app for the phone which I couldn’t get launched, and one is a land investing business which might still work out, but I no longer have any more capital to pursue. ( My account this morning was -$520 cuz my monthly tax payment came off )
I have a 15 year old beautiful daughter who lives my first ex-wife. ( I need to stop marrying I suppose ) But I am at the end. I have no more money left now, no more capital to build a new business, I have no assets, no car, no place to live, one account which is minus and if it weren’t for my brother helping with a place to live, I’d be on the streets. My ex just sold our old house for $1.4M and made I think about $800k profit, and I have nothing. I guess volunteering and helping others should be done very sparingly if at all if you hope to live. My books make me about $2 every three months through the Amazon International online library program.
I don’t expect to get anything out of this website and I am quite embarrassed to even put this post on here to be honest, but what can I do? So there you have it. I’ve never done drugs, I don’t smoke, I’m hard working, caring for others first, I exercise, I try to eat well, I’m smart, but sadly, being good natured doesn’t mean I succeeded in life. Merry Christmas.
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