Hello everyone, thank you for taking time out of your day to read my story. I have always had a rocky relationship with my mother. I finally made the decision to move out into my own place in hopes that it would help our relationship. I was doing great financially then I got covid last year for three weeks and was unable to work. Those few weeks put me behind in everything…. Car, rent, utilities, etc.
My mother has never been good with money and has always looked to me to pick up her slack even though I had my own bills to worry about. And she refuses to save money. But being that I didn’t want to see her struggle I helped where I could even though I was still trying to dig myself out of debt. Finally I came up with the idea for us to move back in with each other to try to get some financial relief on both our ends. In my mind I was thinking that since I am now 27 I should be able to peacefully coexist with my mother in the same household and if not just be as cordial as possible. Well it’s been nothing but fights ever since. I’ve come to realize my mother is very narcissistic. She will continuously tell me I am what’s wrong with her life. She threatens my personal belongings that I have paid for with my own money because I tell her ‘no I can’t do this ‘ orbit I try to discuss with her how something she said didn’t sit right with me she will get very defensive and turn the situation around on me. Once I again I try to ignore it all because she is my mother and basically the only family I have left. After hurricane Ian hit SWFL we entertained the idea of moving to GA and I was fully on board until we visited to look at houses and the environment did not sit well with me. I have a history of panic disorder and while we were there I had a horrible panic attack and she just told me I’m being dramatic. When we came back to Florida I told her I don’t think it’s a good idea to make such a big move that will put us into EVEN MORE debt. And I am also not mentally ready to leave my home, career, friends and basically entire life yet. That statement did not sit well with my mother and she told me that I am dead to her. Then proceeded to tell me that if she commits suicide, that’ll be my fault because I made her stay here in Florida.
This among many other awful things that I feel a mom should never say to her children have been told to me.
I’m at my final straw. My mental health has declined drastically and I can’t take much more.
I want to move back out on my own but have nothing in my savings because i used it all to help her.
Anything helps so I can save up for deposits and moving fees.
I love my mother but I refuse to let her treat me as she has over the years.
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