This is so hard for me to do. I’m not ever the one asking others for help. I’ve always been fiercely independent, and I just want to say that even if no one helps me, at least I have put what’s been happening to me into words; some sort of therapy maybe. I swear I’ve never felt so defeated in my life.
Let me start at the beginning…
My husband and I met in April of 2018, both divorced once before and both really not looking for one another. A beautiful friendship grew into an amazing love story, and we were married 6 months later. He was my forever, for I had found the one whom my soul loves… or so I BELIEVED. We quickly settled into married life, we never fought, we always kissed goodbye and goodnight. Things were so good, until they weren’t.
April 21st is a day I will never forget. It’s burned into my memory forever. That’s the day my husband told me he was seeing someone else and that he had been unhappy for a long time and he was leaving. Just like that!! There would be no “trying”, he was not “in love” with me anymore. I knew things were not like in the beginning, but I had been (I thought we had been) working on things. He had even made the comment a week before about how things were better… I don’t understand!!
She was supposed to be my best friend. The one I could confide in, the one I never had to worry about being around my husband. She’s the one he left me for, not once but twice. Yes you read that right…TWICE. Some of you reading this are saying “How stupid can you be”, but let me say this. I loved my husband with every fiber of my being, and he came back and said he regretted it, he loved me, wanted our marriage to work, wanted to go to councelling and I needed to be sure. Well I’m sure now…sure that I will never let him back into my life.
The two of them drained my checking account, then he brought her to the house while I was away helping my dad with my mom who has dementia, and let her take whatever she wanted out of our house. She took several personal items of mine that can not be replaced. Not only that, she went so far as to take my clothes out of the dryer (some new to me things for work) This woman left her panties in my bathroom floor so I would find them when I got home and know she had been in my home!
Today I was told that I will have to have an attorney to finish my divorce. I make too much for legal aid, but am otherwise struggling. I need to move closer to my parents, and get out of that house. It’s killing me slowly being there, and I know I can’t do this on my own. I need $1200 before the attorney with even pull the papers from the courthouse and redraft them. Then I can be divorced in less than a week she said. Between 1st month/last month, security/pet deposit I’m looking at $3,000-$4,000 right off the rip (I’ll sleep on the floor starting out if I have to)
Please someone help me get away from this nightmare I’m in!!
Sincerely,
~J
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