My young adult daughter struggling when she just began!

I really am not very good at writing or being able to get exactly what I want to say in a letter, but here goes.

I am a 54 yr old mother of a 20 yr old daughter. Now we have had a rough go at life but we always have been able to get by somehow. I didn’t know that the things that I went through in life would have such a bad impact on my children at the time, and that is something I have to live with and regret.

I was married to my daughters father when I had her and 7 mos later separated. Now I knew it was a mistake to get married because her father was a very mean and violet man, but I let him fill me with empty promises as well as my daughter. My daughter has been through one let down after another when it comes to other people and although I tried my best to give her a good life, I just wasn’t enough. I see now that she definitely has been tortured mentally with all she had to see, hear and endure as far as domestic violence. Unfortunately I tried several times to give her father the chance to be just that “a father’s, and of course it just wasn’t in the cards

Of the 20 yrs of my daughters life he only probably spent or acknowledged her on any given day or holiday (birthdays, Christmas’s) a total of 3 yrs. I don’t quite understand why but it was always if he wasn’t around neither were any person in his family. So needless to say she pretty much only had me and her older brother (from previous relationship) to depend on. All of this has left my daughter harboring a lot of pain and anger. So she was determined to make a life for herself by herself at a young age. She has never been one to ask for anything from anyone unless it was a must. All she has known is that you cannot rely on other people to be there when you need them. It hurts me so but it has made her and I closer than any parent can be with their child.

My daughter recently went through a breakup of a 6 yr relationship and although it was mutual, of course there is still pain. In their agreement they decided that he would take the one vehicle and she to take the apartment. Now though she works full time and makes decent money it really is only paying for her to have a place to call home. We talked about her taking on another person but as she only has as many friends as you can count on one hand it just isn’t something I am willing to bring a stranger into, and even then it will be much harder to save for a car when your constantly paying for a ride back and forth to work, with Lyft alone it’s almost $40 a day. She only has had her apartment for a little over a year and now I fear that she may struggle so as to lose her job if she doesn’t find a vehicle. It’s getting harder and harder to rely on others, and most expensive.

So I am asking for donations and hoping to raise $10,000. The reason I am asking for this is so I can be of some kind of help being I am disabled and have several health issues which have caused me to barely be able to care for myself. I would like to be able to either have a good down payment or be able to buy a nice reliable car outright and also pay for maybe 6mos to 1yr of car insurance so she has some time to get some kind of money saved. The way things are now there isn’t anything left to be able to purchase a car now or in the near future. With this help I believe she can have the opportunity to live without struggling and worrying about how long she will be able to keep her job and her apartment. She has been asked if she is interested in a management position in the future at her job and hopefully that will be when she can have more than all the responsibility she bears on her own right now. If anyone deserves a kindness in this world, my daughter is among them with all that life has thrown at her in the past.

Thank you to anyone who has taken the time to read about my baby and I send the deepest and warmest wishes for a happy holiday to you all. May God bless you!

 

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