Hi,
My name is April and I would like to purchase a house valued is at $400,000.
So, a little background. My roommate and I are caregivers. Around 2016, a relative of a friend visited me and asked me to be a caregiver to her sister- in- law. I resisted because she wanted me to move into her sister- in- laws home, and I liked my independence. But she insisted. I told her I would agree only after she accepts my roommate, which she did.
The conditions of this arrangement were that I WAS NOT going to be paid. But I would live at her house rent free. At that time, my roommate and I both had jobs, and the lady at the time was able to take care of herself. The reason for us being there was because she had a severe accident after drinking and damaged her shoulder. Her sister-in-law wanted someone to be there with her to keep an eye on her.
She was in her 80’s at the time we moved in, and while struggling, she was still self-sufficient. She had a little dog, who she let pee in the house, and her house was very chaotic and had strong smell. Nevertheless, we accepted the job.
We would later find out that she has dementia. Dementia requires 24/7 care, especially when it progresses. We didn’t know about this issue when we first accepted the job. And the first few years living with her things would be okay. We got the house in order, trained her dog, cleaned things up, and started routine. The lady was actually fiercely independent but REQUIRED our help. My roommate eventually had to leave her job, and she spent the who day caring for the lady. I was also giving the job of helping another family member. After about a year, my roommate requested pay for taking care of the lady and eventually they agreed to a small sum, about $200 a week. I was not paid.
Throughout the years, her dementia would progress. She would forget things, repeat a lot. She would do a lot of Sundowning where they start expressing how they want to go home. She would have mood swings and bouts of anger. She would try to leave the house to walk home to New Jersey, we live in Florida. And so many other symptoms. We had to keep locks on the door, and eventually we would need to monitor her with cameras. My roommate would eventually ask for more pay and after family members rebuked the lady, she agreed to give her $500 a week. I still did not get paid and it was going on 8 years. We also adjusted the lady’s diet, so she ate very well and very healthy. We took her out to restaurants and cafés and other activities. And doctors and nurses complimented how excellent her health was and how well she was doing for her age. She was even able to go off several medications.
As her symptoms progressed, my roommate would have nervous breakdown, and I had to do a lot more with taking care of the lady as well as my other jobs, I still was not paid for this one. My roommate eventually got fed up with me not being paid and started to present it to the lady’s sister-in-law. Finally, she agreed to pay me $200 a week. The would be in the final year and a half of the lady’s life. She started to completely decline and would eventually be bedridden. We took care of her and changed her in bed and did all we could, and eventually after several months, she passed away at 97 years old. We took care of her for 10 years.
In the time I took care of Isobel, I could only work part time (babysitting, nanny, caregiving), I work low-income to allow people to afford these services. So, I make between $200-$350 a week. But I could not work full because I needed the time to care for the lady.
So, for the house. It is the house we lived in to take care of the lady. The family wants to sell it, and I would like to buy it. I need help because I need the money to accomplish this endeavor.
Thank-you.
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