Hi all, happy new year.
This is a difficult thing to write, but I believe it’s finally time to ask for help. I am really struggling. I always wanted to be able to crawl out of this hole on my own, but I’m starting to believe that is just not possible in this lifetime.
I was involved in a very long-term domestic abuse relationship, which I finally managed to break free from after a lot of trauma. I won’t get into the gory details, but the abuse was physical (all kinds), psychological and verbal (all kinds), financial, coercive control, and abuse of power/position.
Unfortunately, this person ran up a lot of debt in my name without my consent as an exhibition of control, which I have been trying to pay off for some time. I work upwards of 60 hours a week just to pay my bills, and unfortunately, this is no longer sustainable. I had to quit my master’s degree due to the financial hardship I was already contending with, and I am now at a complete loss on what to do because I cannot afford to pay my bills as well as the debt this person has left. I can no longer afford the trauma therapy I require to continue my recovery from PTSD; however, if I can clear some of this financial burden, I would like to save up again to return to therapy once the more pressing bills are covered.
I was trying to recover from this on my own, but after several further hardships created by this person due to their position, I have finally reached a breaking point.
The total amount of debt that I need to pay off is £30,000 in order to be able to clear what they left, and start with a clean slate.
This month, however, the total amount I need to cover my bills is £1000.
I know this is a lot to ask for, and I do so with a heavy heart. I do not wish to burden anyone else with this, and I am only asking for help if it is within your means and you feel comfortable doing so.
I would be so, so grateful for any amount towards my bills for the month and will endeavour to pay forward any kindness when or if I eventually find myself in a position to do so.
If I can pay off the debt left behind by this person, I will endeavour to save up within my means and complete my master’s so I can pay it forward by helping other victims of domestic violence and abuse in the future.
Thank you once again if you can help or choose to do so. I cannot express my gratitude enough.
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