My Adventure to Oregon
Here’s my story of love, almost loss, adventure, and hope!
Over the course of a year and few months or so I had fallen in love with my best friend. Our love story is one that I wouldn’t mind telling over and over again. I am proud of what I have and who I have.
We met when we both worked at the same restaurant, I actually trained him on his very first day. We instantly became friends, sharing the same sense of humor, we enjoyed doing the same things, and car rides blaring music was definitely our go-to. I had known for a while that I had fallen for this man… he had no idea, go figure, he was so oblivious. I met Christian in 2017, over the course of time we had both realized how much we could share with the other person and how much we trusted this other individual. One night April 3rd 2019 he barged into my house and told me, did not ask, he told me I was his girlfriend, we made it official the next day. April 4th that’s our date. Over the course of the past year we have met each other’s families, traveled together, made many memories, began living with each other, and experienced the highs and the lows together.
On January 6th of 2020 I lost my job as a bartender at a little bar in the town I lived in. I woke up one day to a message from the owner of the bar saying “I hope everyone is having a good day, The bar is officially closed for business, I’m sorry I cannot afford to keep it up and running anymore.” This threw a wrench into our relationship for sure. I was relying on him and he was doing the absolute best he could to take care of us with the money he was making. He did a wonderful job. I couldn’t have asked for a better man to step up when he did. However, everything began getting a little harder after that.
I began applying for jobs instantly, I bartend and serve, not ideal, but I do it and I do it well. I enjoy taking care of other people and I enjoy making drinks and serving food, some of us were built for it. I applied for jobs left and right and it just so happens that it was slow season for the service industry. No big sports games were on, taxes hadn’t hit yet, and the weather was complete garbage, these things do take a toll on those of us who work in the service industry. Needless to say, I went almost two months without a job, many days I had to borrow money to put gas in a car that wasn’t mine to try and go get a job each day. Gotta do what you gotta do, for sure.
Late January came and I still hadn’t found a job at that time and it was taking a toll on my relationship. I struggle with depression and anxiety really badly, to the point where I wouldn’t get out of bed, I was eating out of control, gained over 22 pounds in a month time span… I was spiraling. Christian tried to be understanding, he tried to get me out of bed and it never worked. None of my clothes were fitting, I had no money to go anywhere or do anything, and I definitely didn’t have enough for my basic bills. January 17th I almost lost my relationship because out of that dark time in my life. I lashed out on the person who helped me the most. I cried about all the things I was going through and never stopped to think about what I was putting him through. Sure, I had lost my job, I had no money, and depression and anxiety had taken over my entire life at that time…. but I never stopped and realized that he had been holding me the entire time and I wasn’t happy… but I was taking his happiness as well. That wasn’t a good or healthy time for either of us. We almost lost each other for good that night, I am so glad that isn’t the case. In a weird ironic way I’m glad it happened because we really took some time to step back and appreciate one another.
Out of that long winter and all of that darkness I was facing and all the stress he was under we made a decision to stay together but it came at a price…
Christian recently moved to Oregon to chase his dreams… our promise to each other is that we would never give up, we would never turn our back on the other, and we would stop at nothing to take care of ourselves so that way we could truly love the other person.
You’re asking yourself… “Wait, why are you in Tennessee and he is in Oregon? Why didn’t he just take your with him?”
One, neither one of has had the money to move both of us and all of our stuff all the way across the United States.
Two, he was offered a rent free living situation until he could get on his feet and it has been hard for him to do so because he has still been helping me in my difficult time. (such an amazing man)
Three, we decided that we would take this time apart to truly learn what we have, what we don’t want to lose, and to work on ourselves. I have to try and find happiness within myself, and he has things he needs to work on as well.
It is okay to notice that you aren’t okay and take time for yourself to work on yourself so that you can truly learn to love yourself so you can truly learn to love someone else.
May 19th, my birthday, my man is coming back for me. We agreed that May 19th would be the date that I take my looooonnnggg journey to Oregon and change my life forever. I’d chase this love over any mountain or any sea, and if you felt like you had a soulmate, a true soulmate…. would you do the same? I bet you would try if you had the chance.
I am trying to raise this money to pay for the U haul to move all my stuff three thousand miles across the country, while also towing my car and that alone is almost 2500$, money to cover ALL of our moving expenses, his plane ticket here to help me pack our stuff, and money to try and use to get our life started there, together.
Raising money for adventure and for a dream of a true love that I can’t let go.
I have until may 10th to raise this money and I think it is totally possible, I am also working, and have been doing odd and end jobs to try and pay the bills I currently have while also being able to try and put 5 and 10 dollars back here and there because every little bit counts. He is also saving but we were behind for so long that it has been very difficult to get ahead. We won’t give up though.
I am laying it all out and putting everything I have into this because he is my dream. This is my love and I found it on my own and I’ll never let it go. Three thousand miles is just a hop, skip, and jump if it leads me to him.
This is my love story, it has highs, it has lows, we have experienced many firsts together, and we both have things to work on, but I hope that the story of two real people taking an adventure and doing all things possible to fight for love can give you some real Hallmark feelings and you would be inspired to give to our dream.
Thank you for your time, May 19th, here I come!