I apologize in advance for this being so long winded, I hope you give the time to read. I understand this is a longshot, but the request is a total of $50,000.
I’m currently back in school for dental hygiene, after earning my Associates degree a few years prior. Being the only one of my siblings to move out, and also the youngest, I wasn’t always supported. I left mainly due to interpersonal family issues circling around physical and emotional abuse. Although times in the past few years have been difficult, I’m thankful I was able to get out. I’ve often found myself working up to 3 jobs to live comfortably; doing my best to support myself, and also send funds home to help my older sisters in the care of our mom. She has Huntington’s disease and is now in the care of a rehabilitation facility about an hour from us. We’re trying to get her closer, but COVID has made that difficult, so as of right now Skype calls and “door visits” are all we can do. I want to be able to make sure we get her started in a nicer place, and I think $10,000 would guarantee that. My dad hasn’t been financially responsible, which has led to my oldest sister taking at least $20,000 from her retirement to help him. Although he has vowed to pay her back…I’m very doubtful, and it irks and pains me because I know she’s being taken advantage of. I’m hoping to gift her that so she can have her earned retirement secured and finally be able to move out and get away from our dad. Same with my middle sister, who I want to get out as well. She works hard and has been my biggest support and best friend through low stages of my mental health while still living at home. Hell, I even wrote a paper on her in middle school on how she’s my angel. It would really we wonderful to gift her $10,000. The last $10,000 I hope could be used for my financial situation. I do have some debt from previous car ownership and repairs in selling it (I now outright bought a 97 Honda CRV instead), as well as debt from schooling and medical debt. I consolidated this all down to one loan so now I’m able to make payments, but it always seems that when things are under control something else pops up. This would clear my debt entirely as well as help in my future education, as I know with the upcoming Dental Hygiene program I would have to take out a student loan anyways.
I’ve always prided myself on being self sufficient, however at this time in my life I know I need to swallow that pride and go out on a limb. I want to help my mom and sisters in a way that I likely would have never been able to. I see my sisters wasting so much of their life stuck in a cycle, that I somehow was able to escape. I see my mom in a facility that not always has her best interest at heart; and although her and my father’s abuse would make one jaded, I know she’s helpless. She’s still the woman that brought me here and raised me, and now is helpless. I want to pursue a career that I feel like I finally have a calling for, without the looming fear of never fishing my way out of debt. I know in the grand scheme of things I’m not in the worst financial situation, but it would make the biggest change in my life and the ones I care about most. I would be so incredibly grateful, and I know my family members would be too. I just want to be able to help them, but it feels like I can barely help myself.
In the picture is our most recent door visit with mom. My older sisters are on the left and right.