Thanks for taking your time to read.
Hello! I’m a 28 years old male from Sweden.
Short backstory about the main thing:
So I was diagnosed when I was 13 (autism). I worked very hard to get a decent control over it. If we skip ahead a few years to when I was 17. I was still in school, a small one specialized for kids like me. I would NEVER imagine doing something other than sitting at home, playing video games and asking my mom to bring dinner (yeah I know)..
But one day I met a girl who lived quite far away from me. I asked my friend to take the train with me to go see her, needless to say, the most stressful day of my life.
Short story, it did not end well.
But I kept trying, trying to find someone, just to fail. I gave up.
Up to date story:
One day I was gonna celebrate my buddy’s birthday (online since he lives a few hours away).
He asked if we could play a game that we hadn’t played in a few years and I pointed out it would be fun with more people. He said “Can’t you check on that subreddit you always meet new people on”. I said “Sure”.
I found 2 guys and 2 girls. The first girl joined the call right away, not very talkative. The guys joined in a second later. We had a good time and my friend was happy. I did manage to piss off the girl though. Yet I wrote to her the next day asking if she wanted to play. My friend was busy.
She said yes.
Well, her and I kept talking. About literally everything. A few arguments here and there, but we solved them quickly. We said the 3 words after less than a week. And yes I know how it sounds.
We just couldn’t wait. We planned for her to come here. She’s from France and I’m from Sweden.
But then… Covid struck. We did manage to get one of the only available flights out of France (lockdowns here and there).
But she arrived and it worked out great.. Except..
(TL;DR) Can she stay?
Short answer is No. Because of rules in Sweden regarding if you want to move here. We’ve looked at every possible solution. Job finding is insanely difficult where I live and without a car (for either of us) it’s not that likely.
We did apply for jobs, ask around for help, searching for hours on the internet for a solution. Nothing.
Problem is that there is only one way for her to stay now since the “tourist” time is over.
What do we need?
15.000€. That is what it costs for a year of living in Sweden according to the government. The thing is that we have enough to get by, but for them to see that she can actually stay and not be a liability to the system, she needs that money on hand. It’s insane.
If you, a complete stranger, decide to help us with what you can. I will never forget it, I will pay it forward. This has been the most stressful 6 months for both me and her. And if we somehow get to that amount, I wouldn’t feel comfortable spending it. I just want to give her her dream life.
(Picture of our cat)