Hi, this is written with extreme humility and humbleness.
In trying to support my girlfriend with this difficult decision for her, she brings up money as a main factor. I think we are fine and even if I am check to check, it will work out if we can just continue thru. However my 19k heloc, 3k credit card, and 3,500 on my car. Make her unable to see an end or debt or a beginning of a college fund. The fact that the furnace needs to be replaced (but it will go another year or two) is not helping.
i will do anything to support this child and if begging for support can help I will.
yes, I haven’t been the greatest saver lately, but my past has set me up with a house and new roof. But I have debt now and no savings to show. It is embarrassing that I can’t show to her that everything will be fine and provided for. On the way to the clinic, if she doesn’t change her mind my last effort will be to say the 400+ dollars for the termination would make a great start to a college fund :).
Ideally, 25,500 would show her a lot but an extra 9k (average cost for a child) to cover the first year would amaze her 🤞.
so please, from the bottom of my heart, please help me give this child a chance.
If the journey end on 10/25/19 I will happily return donations if that’s possible or send them to the women’s domestic violence shelter and rcc. I can handle my debt but it’s not okay for her. Please don’t let me not do everything I can to save my child.