2 weeks ago, my mom got diagnosed with cervical cancer, this happened pretty unexpectedly since we only went to the doctor for pneumonia, since she was coughing pretty often.
This hit pretty hard since they diagnosed it was terminal. The only option left is chemotherapy to prolong her life, but it’s uncurable for now.
This is a pretty tough story, especially for me, but even harder for my mom herself. Especially since her past. I want to start this to get some funds available to give her an as much as pleasantly possible time left.
I’ll tell you something more about her past.
After both my parents opened a bar everything went wrong, after 6 months my father died and she had to take care of the bar herself.
Since this was a bit too much, she sold the bar. Since we didn’t have any insurance my mom got into financial problems. After a few years, she met someone new, and he moved in.
Those times when we was around everything felt pretty great again, but after about 10 years he got diagnosed with stomach cancer. He went through chemo and stuff went bad as time proceeded.
After about 3 years he lost his fight with cancer and he died. Meanwhile, my grandpa got sick and his leg had to be amputated since it had a virus. But when the amputation had to happen he died.
After this shitty period of time, my mom went under administration since we had financial problems due to problems from the past (F.E. the bar)
Everything got better with the help provided, till the debt repayment started. Every piece of income we had, went towards the debt collected over time and we didn’t have much to live with since the payments were pretty big.
I tried my best to help with getting everything financial on track again at home, but since I’m 21 since this year and the dutch system only provides for children until 21, everything got harder to sustain once again.
They told us I had to take care of our problems, and so I tried to earn as much as possible so we could pay our bills, and if we were lucky we could do something fun to soften the situation.
The thing she liked the most to do is drumming in one of her bands (TR Country Band and The Black Wings Band).
Around this time our care also broke down. I had to do lots of research to explain to my mom the best way to move forward and get a new car, so we could keep up doing everything she was doing at that moment.
Since my mom is also the caretaker of my grandma, the car was required since she couldn’t live with us.
Besides everything I wrote down, there probably are also other things I didn’t think of, forgot or pushed away since I’m trying to focus to make the best of the current situation.
The only thing I hope to achieve right now is to make the best of the time that my mom has left, without having to think too much about her current situation.
I sincerely hope that some of you will help us out that she’ll be able to take care of her “Last wishes” because I can’t handle this alone anymore and I want her to have splendid last moments.