I was married to a narcissist for 13 years. I did not know what a narcissist was until about year 12. After many years of bullying, confusion, emotional manipulation and wiping out my savings, he decided to leave me for his high school sweetheart. I am about to turn 50. I have no children, no assets, no retirement (because I was manipulated into giving that to him for his business) and I was left with $56,000 of debt. I did not fight him in court on the debt, because by this point I was too afraid he would physically harm me and I was trying to be as peaceful as possible just to get out safely.
I am struggling to save money for retirement while paying the debt. I am currently on a plan to pay it all off, but it will take me 6-8 years while paying 18% interest on the debt consolidation loan. Meanwhile, I am doing the best I can and living with my elderly mother. I work full time from home. I sleep in a twin bed so I have room for my desk in my room. I find joy spending time with my mom and 4 dogs and going to church. The people are very nice there.
So far I have $3,000 in savings for emergencies. It’s taken me time to build that up, and that doubles as the sum total of my retirement at the moment.
I’m embarrassed to ask for assistance, yet here I am. I humbly thank you for your kind consideration.
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