To start off, I’d like to thank everyone who clicked on my request and is reading it. My husband and I are both hardworking people. We live in France and earn a regular salary (my husband is French and I’m Ukrainian). We live in a small one bedroom apartment and even rent out our couch through airbnb to save on rent. We can be considered as quite successful as we have all of our basic necessities. Wanting a bigger apartment can be considered a luxury.
I’m 36 y.o. and have no children yet. As you know, my biological clock is ticking and the longer I wait the higher the chance I will need a help of IV (which costs a lot of money) to get pregnant. Furthermore, this was confirmed by the doctor in the US, who told me 6 years ago to plan having kinds ‘right away’ as my egg reserve is diminished or very limited. Life, however, often has other plans for us. It didn’t happen for me. And now that I’m married, I have yet another hurdle. As our apartment is very small and it’s a rental, to start a family we need to buy our own apartment, be it the same one bedroom just slightly bigger to have a baby. Real estate is quite expensive in the area we live in and we qualify for only a small credit with a bank. We are ready to take a loan and pay it during 30 years if needed, but banks here don’t give the same home purchasing loans as in the US. The highest amount we can get is 100,000 EUR while we need 300,000 to be able to buy a one bedroom and not a studio. Even if we go further away to the countryside, prices remain quite high and it will cost us 250,000.
I feel awkward asking for help on the internet, but I have not much other choice as to pray and hope for help. It’s a vicious cycle I find myself in, as I desperately want kids. We try our best to save and even diminish our rent through airbnb (we have people constantly sleeping in the couch in our living room) and yet I might very soon find myself in a position to have IV as my only option while I certainly can’t afford it. While we are not poor, we still find ourselves blocked in these brackets with not much hope.
If you know what it feels like to want to start and family, to want to have kids and not being able to yet, you will understand what I feel. While there’s stil hope for me, I need help. And as much as it pains me to post my request here (as I’m sure there are so many more serious cases), I will be forever thankful for any donation, any help you can spare. And I will keep you in my prayers. Thank you again for reading my request and thank you for your consideration.