The Purpose for me to go BEGGING for MONEY is for both My Father who is now 88 years old and can no longer drive and My only child Vivian who is almost 12 ! She is THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE!…and Mine !! I made the choice to be a single mother at 40 and I’m now almost 53!
In August of 2019 we were in a horrific car accident where we were lost on our way to our first vacation I could afford… The WAZE app had me lost in a remote unfamiliar area where we literally hit an 8′ solid Rock WALL at full speed on a hair pin turn on a dark and foggy night…!
WE survived! Thank Goodness! The after affects were a nightmare. My insurance rose to $1589.00 A MONTH! After I purchased another vehicle of the same model because of the impact. The expense even then I really could not afford and I did not think about the insurance RENEWAL when I needed to replace the wrecked Vehicle ( a Scion) This ordeal lead me to have to move to a more expensive area where she and I would / could be in safe walking distance of School, church, and family and basic necessities…! And to top it off “The Family” that we had near by divorced and separated and are now just a sad memory….
The Covid19 of 2020 was a time in which giving up the car was a blessing in disguise…or so I thought. We were now living in a new area where she knew no one and I kept promising that in the spring she’d meet the kids in the neighborhood – and making new friends would be EZ that situation of being at home and having special educational needs as well as knowing no one Her emotional needs were abolished. We needed to see specialist in places that public transportation is not set up for in our situation… ….from that point I began to loose the child I once had who was absolutely funny, fun loving, outgoing and our relationship was amazing… The times we spent in the car talking, singing, exploring was Over…Up until then the screen devices were not an issue since it was something to pacify the dull moments of life which seemed like there were no dull moments.
Now, and up until recently I realized her wish of having a car and the dream of owning a car due to the expenses is far out of reach completely. She and I are loosing our quality time together and our relationship is turning into a critical crucial moment where she needs the freedom AND I FEEL I HAVE FAILED HER…she’s not made the friends like before. And Just being able to have the freedom to go to parks, The science center, a movie or to the mall, and JUST basic shopping for food at a lower price IS AN ENORMOUS ISSUE TOO! I have to walk or ride my bike to get a 7.00 1/2 gallon of Milk. In the rain, snow heat – weather does not give consideration when needs need to be met and I’ve been stranded and walked 5 miles home in the dark late night because as a mother I will do what ever she needs me to do to survive and give her basic needs. I rarely think of myself and I would walk 100,000 if I had too.
….Since last summer My father has really began to slip without human interaction especially with Vivian ( The 3 of us ) WE lost my mother in 2018 and that has been something I have struggled with because I need her now more than I have ever needed anyone. We are in a circle that is never ending due to not having reliable immediate access or the ability to drive to see us or us going to see him. I am honestly his only real supporter to care for him properly…soon he may not be able to live on his own at all and that will not be any better.
He is a type 1 diabetic and still has his limbs and gets around but My daughter is suffering from not having the things normal children have access too when the parent has a vehicle, the relationship with the only man truly in her life…
I cannot afford The Door Dash or the Uber Eats…so if she and I want a fast food treat. We walk a mile there and back. In General Her legs hurt after a lot of walking because the boots she had fitted (30 miles away) never fit correctly. We did PT and still work on flexing the ankles since at her age now for her muscles and bones to grow correctly is an enormous feat I am not able to obtain. And Gradually becoming worse and If I cannot make magic happen soon, she’ll need major surgery or be left deformed.
SO, WE ARE IN NEED OF A RELIABLE SOLID WELL PERFORMING MODEST VEHICLE to get to and from for She has medical needs that are out of my local area where she needs Children’s National in Washington DC for her idiopathic toe walking that was diagnosed way later than normal. Usually, children with this are noted and treated. In our case; I was not on my game as I should have been as well as the Pediatrician. She is having complications with tight heel cords associated to walking incorrectly for far too long.
The public transportation system where we reside is “So-So”we utilize something called MOBILITY and that has been awesome in some aspects but for anything like getting to my dad in an emergency or myself who went two weeks with a broken wrist until I just could not take the pain any longer; I am tied and I have no way to assist him should he require immediate assistance.
I have always taken care of my parents – even living at home until I was 33 and moved 650 miles away landing The PERFECT CAREER endeavour that I so longed for and was why I needed to live at home was so I could obtain the experience needed to succeed …I managed to bring them to where I was thriving. My parents were never rich, they struggled their entire lives to give their children (3 of us) the best life they could and they did an amazing job as far as I am concerned. My father is an amazing Dad and Grandfather.
Being a single mother IS THE HARDEST JOB ON PLANET EARTH. That is apparent from the many stories I’ve read that I know the struggles. This of all things has become the hardest, longest, journey on a path I forged alone with child and no village to call our own.
from the start…I lost my job – after I told them I was pregnant. from there it was a decade I still shake my head and wonder how did we make it out to the other side standing straight up ? We did it!! battled for survival, homelessness/ sheltered, shunned and ostracized by my narcissistic privileged (brothers) siblings. WE over came welfare, poverty, and I could continue….but that’s not why I’m here now….
I need a hand Up not a hand out. I’ll accept any gift of any sort that will free us from this and bring my daughter back and my Father too
My life was spent as a road representative and driving a car was easy and natural since its written in my name…and id never not had a CAR! I took for granted how easy life was with 4 wheels.
Thank you for taking the time to read…It means a great deal.
sincerely and kindly,