Hello, I am a 47 year old caregiver striving to take care of my disabled 67 year old mother on my own. I have been chronically ill, both physically and mentally, since the day I was born, but was fortunate enough to have a mother who, though often unwell herself, regularly put my needs ahead of her own. Although my father was emotionally vacant to me and emotionally abusive to my mother, my Mom always made sure that I was well cared for and loved- even at great expense to herself. Because I was often too ill to go to school, I had few friends and spent many days at home in Mom’s care. She never complained. She was, and still is, my best friend. Because of my illnesses, I was unable to get a driver’s license of my own so she drove me literally everywhere I needed to go until she became too disabled to drive herself. She always looked after her family’s needs to the exclusion of her own. When her body inevitably began to give out and her physical condition began to decline, my narcissistic father abandoned her- just before their 40th wedding anniversary. So, for the last 11 years it’s been just Mom and I, and now she is wheelchair bound and rarely leaves the house as she is in chronic, debilitating pain. In addition to fibromyalgia and diabetes, Mom has degenerating discs, a disintegrating hip and shoulder joint, a honey-combed femur bone, and failing knees, so she desperately needs a walk-in bathtub for bathing and therapy. She also has developed a hernia because she needs an adjustable bed to sit up and tore a stomach muscle. This month she was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and now can barely use her hands for anything- so caring for her needs has become a huge challenge for me as my own health condition continues to decline. But I can’t imagine putting such a loyal, unselfish, lovely human being as my mother in the dubious care of strangers in some facility as long as it is in my power at all to care for her needs myself. I won’t throw her away- she’s worth too much. But I need help, and so I’m asking. I would buy these things for her myself in a heartbeat but I have already had to put myself into debt just to care for our daily needs and special care items for her. I have asked Medicaid/ Medicare for help with these two items but they won’t pay. $10,000 for a tub and adjustable bed would increase the quality of my mother’s life so much and help keep us together. If you would like to help us with that it would be so incredibly appreciated. Thank you.