February 1, 2012
My family and I decided to move in with my grandfather. My grandmother had passed away and grandpa was getting older. He sold his house to purchase a place for the whole family. We were very lucky to find a house on 5 acres with another small house in the back. My father and sister moved in the small house and my grandfather, husband, 4 children and I moved in the bigger house. The big house had an additional room that was more like a studio apartment. That is where my grandfather stayed. We were all very excited. My grandfather had always been very good with my kids. He taught them how to take care of the property. They learned about plumbing, electrical work, how to run irrigation lines, and how to work on the farm equipment. We had a huge garden, lots of animals and lots of room to run around for my kids. My husband was an Ironworker and I was the lunch Lady at my children’s school. No we weren’t perfect, we had our family issues but at least we were all together.
May 17, 2017
I will never forget that day as long as I live. I was at the grocery store and received a phone call from My oldest daughter (9yrs old). She said..”Mom, I just saw something that really shocked me” she continued to tell me how she saw my grandfather (her great grandfather) making her little sister(6) touch him. Ill spare you the horrible details of everything she said. She continued to say she and her sister were hiding in the bathroom because he caught her watching through the window. Needless to say I rushed home, threw my daughters in the car and ran to the elementary school around the corner where I worked. After confirming my daughters story I took her to the emergency room where they called the police. They had me go to an office called “The Children’s Interview Center” the detectives I worked with were absolutely the best and I will forever be grateful for how they helped me through this situation. The next morning I had to wear a wire and go talk to my grandfather.
Did I mention my grandfather was 91!
May 19, 2019
I hid the wire in my bra, drove down the street to my house, stepped out of my truck, leaving a detective hiding in the back seat. I started walking to the den where I knew I would find my Grandpa. I felt like I was going to puke, I couldn’t feel my legs or feet but I kept walking. I told myself he was going to have some crazy explanation as to why Bailee would say these things and everything would make sense… but that was not the case. I walked in and the first thing he said was “ I’m in trouble aren’t I?” I wanted to die, but I didn’t show it….
He went on to explain some of the most unexpected horrible things I could have imagined. He admitted to everything. He confessed it had been going on from the time she was 3. I don’t know how I walked out but after about 20 minutes I left.
The detectives listened to the recording at the corner of my street. Then they swarmed my house, arrested my 91 year old grandpa and took him away. I had a panic attack.
My Grandfather had never been arrested before. He was a WWII Veteran. He received an Honorable Discharge from the Navy, Many awards and certificates, and numerous letters of appreciation from commanding officers. He retired after 34 years of service. He was the local handyman in his community and was always helping his neighbors with something.
Shortly after my grandfather went to jail my sister, brother in-law, dad and grandfather attempted to evict us. He lost… but as a result I sued my grandfather for the property…. as if that wasn’t enough to deal with, my grandfather decided to fight the molestation charges and take the case to trial. That meant my daughters had to testify in open court in front of my grandfather. In December of 2018 after court mediation we came to an agreement. He would agree to give the girls the property and he would take out a loan to pay off his debt. His debt being the bail and the lawyer fees. If he should pass away before the debt was paid off I would be responsible for the remaining balance of the loan. It wasn’t ideal but I would at least be able to raise my children where we all wanted to live. On a side note; I did struggle with the decision to stay in the house because of everything that happened. However the alternative was not pretty. We did not want to go back to living in the city, my children desperately did not want to change schools, and in the long run the home would be worth far more money making it a good investment for my children. I also wanted to make it a point to my daughters that you fight for what you believe is right. March 23, 2019 we had the appraisal done. We were about 10 days away from finishing the loan process. March 25, two days after the appraisal, he passed away. We are now facing the possibility of losing our home.
Because of the many issues our family faced, my husband was unable to deal with everything and as a result he fell back into his abusive habits. I left him and I am currently going through a divorce.
To make matters worse… my dad became sick. He had stopped eating for the most part after he found out what his dad had done. He was so malnourished he was 50lbs underweight. He was diagnosed with Superior mesenteric artery syndrome. A rare disease which from my understanding does not allow food to pass through the digestive tract because the position of certain organs had changed due to the loss of body weight. After a long stay in the hospital we decided to bring him home with Hospice. He died three weeks ago. To add an element of what the hell…. My sister took off 3 hours before he died with everything of value including a safe with $10,000 in it…
EVERYTHING you just read is 100% true. I have many things obviously that I need help with…
My dads cremation
Besides the emotional trauma that we are currently in counseling for the most important is obviously the house and my dad… Any money that can go towards the liens on the house would be a great benefit to the future of my children. They are wonderful kids that deserve so much more than I can offer. They are responsible, honest, polite and dependable. They get good grades and don’t get in trouble at school. Please consider helping us close this chapter in our life so we can move on to a happier future.