My husband and I got married a few months ago. Two months before the wedding, his Stepmom filed for divorce from his dad. I had just moved in with him to the house his dad bought for him and his sister (who moved out to live with her boyfriend). The house is owned by his father and stepmother. She would not talk to us directly, but we were told we would have to be out of the house at some point, and that was it. That’s all we were told. So we were left worrying if we were going to have to get out the week after our wedding, a month, we just wanted answers. Along with that, we still had wedding expenses that needed to be paid. His father said he was going to cover some of these costs, but with his financial issues and his wife leaving him, he didn’t give us a dime and we had to come up with about $8,000 of unplanned wedding expenses just weeks before our wedding. Let me add that I did not want a big wedding, his family wanted a big wedding, and I was most excited about going on a honeymoon. Well, that didn’t happen.
Anyway, the worst part of it all is that we both work for his father. He spent money like there was no tomorrow and basically ran the company into the ground. My husband put about $17,000 of expenses for the company on his credit card. His dad has yet to pay him back and I don’t think we will see that money again. There have been several times when he couldn’t give us a paycheck in times. One time, in particular, he gave us all a pay raise so I took out a loan to consolidate my credit card debt. My goal was to get my credit up and buy a home. I was finally on the right track to achieving my goal, and was so proud of myself! Things were looking up. My dad had just passed away a few months earlier, so this was a big step for me during a dark time of my life. Then, a few months after that pay raise he just STOPPED paying us! Weeks, and then months went by, and still no paycheck. Everything was brought to a halt and I was forced to use those credit cards I had just paid off. I had no choice, I had to pay my health insurance, my car insurance, and basic life necessities.
So now, a few years later, I unfortunately still work for his father. We are being kicked out of the house in a month, we are sharing a car and we cannot catch a break. We don’t go out, don’t spend money on anything for ourselves. I have been trying to get a new job or a side job with no success. Today we were told that we will not get our paycheck on Monday, 4/15 and we will probably have to wait until May 1. I still have 7 bills due this month, my car lease is up May 6th, and my bank account is -$700.
We are drowning. We just need a break. I hate asking for help, it’s always been hard for me, but I don’t know what else to do. We just need a break. We need to catch up, we need to breathe again.