Hi, my name is David. I never thought I’d be asking random people over the internet for help, but here I am anyway. This cause is more so for my father than me. I’m 20 years old and have been doing my best to support him financially. As soon as I graduated I had to get a job in construction to help him pay his debts. The problem is it’s a sinking ship and we both know it. He owes thousands. He met a woman from China over the Internet (yes you know where its going) and he married her and got her citizenship and has charged thousands for her to come over. After 5 years, she did finally gain citizenship. As soon as that happened she left. We’ve concluded she only wanted citizenship.
That was just the icing on the cake. My dad is a land surveyor, he worked at his father’s company. All his life, he was told the company would be passed to him. It wasn’t. A few years before my grandfather died, he gave presidency to his 2nd wife, my dads step mom. She was incompetent to say the least. Junior year my grandfather died. And she closed the company with no warning, leaving my dad unemployed with no income. He’s come to the conclusion his father lied to him. And if you knew the man you would agree.
Shortly after my dad has tried to start his own company, however competition is hard in the surveying world when the clients already have their own surveyor. He has 1 client. And he gets a few jobs every so often. That’s on the side. He actually found another surveying company and started working there. For $18 an hour. At 57 years old, that doesn’t really cover the bills.
I started working there too. For $13 an hour. Since I’ve graduated, I give him $180 a week. And that’s just for basic foods. I would be lying to you if I said we have it the worse, or the hardest. But it’s still hard y’know? You combine all of that, plus his multi thousand debts to credit card companies, and the fact we have nobody in our family, it’s tough enough. I’m all he’s got. He’s all I got.
Bankruptcy is not an option. People always say “Oh well just do that” no. When you do that he must give up his credit cards. That doesn’t help if there’s ever an emergency. He has reached out to a debt managed program, he has gotten a few credit card companies off his back, but the management people obviously want money. I can’t remember off the top of my head how much he has to pay. But I know it will take years.
As old as he’s getting, I’m starting to worry. Imagine you work your whole life, and just because of your own father you have virtually nothing. He doesn’t show it, but I know it’s killing him. I hate doing this, I hate asking for any kind of charity.
But, if you find it in your heart to throw a bone our way, words would not express how much it would mean to us. He doesn’t even know I’m doing this. He probably would tell me to not bother. All our life people have backstabbed us. But I’m out of options. I don’t want to see him like this anymore.
This is for him. I can work myself up, but he can’t. Time has passed him by. All he can have now is a miracle. I’m not asking for much. Anything, anything helps at this point. Ordering take-out is a luxury to us. All our money goes to bills and needs. Not wants or self indulgence.
I’m not expecting much. But I’ve hit the “fu** it” point.