To Whom It May Concern:
I want to share a little about myself. I’ve been unsuccessfully in the process of trying to safely escape an abusive marriage. My children and I have been abused for several years. We have experienced physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse that has traumatized us all. I finally mustered up the strength and courage to ask for separation while asking him to leave. He initially agreed and seemed as if he was working on leaving. But then, he stopped. I mentioned it to him several times later. However, he finally admitted that he wasn’t leaving and just told me he was leaving but didn’t mean it. He has also made several threats about taking our youngest from me. He stated that he is his only friend and counselor, and no one else talks to him. Throughout this process over the past year, he has gone on a smear campaign. He called and met up with family members on both sides of our family. In addition, he also went on to slander my name at my church and other churches. He provided an excuse for visiting churches he didn’t attend by stating that he sought counsel. Consequently, it was all meant to smear my name and disable my support system. This smear campaign started because I said I wanted to separate from him and stuck with it. I didn’t waiver this time because of fear.
This process terrifies me, and he continues pulling out all the stops to threaten and promote fear. Although I am fearful, I remain steadfast. He has convinced most people that he has changed. However, we see the real him when no one is watching. He continues to use the bible to manipulate me to change my mind about leaving. While simultaneously still being verbally, emotionally, and financially abusive.
I want peace for my children and me. I no longer want to walk around on eggshells and in fear in my home. I no longer want to have to whisper b/c he’s always eavesdropping for ammunition to use later—or even just the simple idea of hanging out downstairs in our living room without fear. The living room is his area where no one in our home feels welcome.
I desire to have a safe space where my children and I can feel free and at peace without fear. I want a place where we can finally relax without the threat of attacks. Unfortunately, he has gathered his supporters to be on the lookout for us if we stay local to our current area. And unfortunately, he knows about the previous area we were considering due to manipulating our youngest child to show him where we go when we’re out and about. I want to be further outside the city due to the risk to our safety. And unfortunately, that’s not cheap. I need funding to relocate safely to a new area further away from him and his supporters. This place will finally be a place that we can call home. Although I currently have a residence, it has never felt like home.
I used to have savings and other resources that would’ve helped me with such circumstances. But over the years, those financial resources have been depleted due to his mismanagement of funds and inconsistent contributions to the bills, household necessities, and repairs. He mismanaged our funds for selfish needs with little regard for the family. As a result, we could never save the way that I desired.
All funding received will contribute to moving expenses like:
-funding the new place for several months in advance
-furniture and household necessities
-paying bills in advance
-legal fees associated with moving
Any support, whether large or small, will be greatly appreciated. Please feel free to contact me directly if you would like any additional information. I would be happy to speak with you.
Thank you for your thoughtful consideration.