Anything helps at this point, and I’m so sorry for such a long post, but it’s been 10 months of life constantly hitting hard. Thank you in advance for any help. 💜💜💜
Honestly I’m not entirely sure where to begin right now. If I cover everything just from January 2019 until now, this post would turn into a novel so instead I’ll hit the financial highlights from January to July 2019, then I can give more detail on the last couple of months.
-January 27, 2019 a close friend passed away, although she lived locally she needed to be buried in CT with her mom and being only 22 years old, and a single mother of 1, she did not have any type of life insurance. Her father (widowed) had recently taken care over her daughter due to complications with her fibromyalgia, cystic fibrosis, and type 1 diabetes. It wasn’t much, but I donated what I could to help with expenses thinking that it might take me a few months to recover, but that this was a necessity and I could live without some “extras for awhile.”
-February 3, 2019 I was called regarding my little sister had taken her life very early in the morning with postpartum being the surface cause. This was back home in CA and I desperately needed to be with family, friends, and somewhere it felt safe to mourn.
-March 29, 2019 I had been feeling under the weather, but I stood up from my desk at work and nearly passed out due to pain in the mid right side of my stomach. The good news? It wasn’t my appendix. The bad news? After spending 3 days in the hospital it was deemed to be a possible tumor in my bladder, and definitely kidney stones and a kinked ureter, thankful for full body CTs when the ultrasound shows nothing.
-June 14, 2019 I began a treatment that completely took all of my energy, strength, appetite, and happiness away. Honestly, biologics can kiss my you know what at this point.
By July the medication was wiping me out completely and I was spending more time with doctors and praying to the “porcelain gods” than going to work. I’m an on-site apartment manager with 96 units and it’s a demanding position to be in and does require minimum 40 hours per week to run smoothly. At the end of July I completely tanked and my boss put me on administrative leave. At this point, I had missed so much work that I had used all PTO, but I was unable to keep up with my workload and it was causing issues at work and not allowing me time to try to heal. In the midst of all of this we knew I would need a minor procedure and it was pending authorization and would be scheduled toward the end of August. On August 3, I had a deer jump a fence onto my vehicle as I was entering town, luckily the car behind me was able to stop in time (and they were super sweet and called the police for me and waited with me to give a statement of what happened). My car was totaled and my insurance didn’t cover it (hint always double check your underwriter and know that only comprehensive will cover your property for a live wild animal). I used all of my savings and borrowed money from my mom to purchase a $5000 car. When I sold the totaled vehicle that money went straight to my mom for repayment. Surgery was officially scheduled for August 30th and it was presumed that I would be able to fully return to work within 3 days as it was a very minor procedure. On August 20, at my Pre-op, I found out the surgeon wanted to add on a few additional procedures at the same time, as long as I didn’t have endometriosis removed as well, it would be about 45 minutes and a 4 day recovery. My surgery ended up being nearly 3 hours. Due to all of the previous missed work, I returned to work on September 2, 2019 only to completely set my healing process back. My boss came to visit the property and put me on “part-time, light duty.” As you can see from my screenshots, I haven’t had a full paycheck in quite some time, and now owing my boss rent for the month of August, it will be taken out of my next two paychecks. Unfortunately, medically speaking, I’m still not healed and there is something wrong that is causing horrible pain in the lower left side so I am now waiting to see a specialist.
I have barely been keeping my head about water since March of this year. I have asked everyone I possibly can for loans or donations and no one has been in the position to do so. I have called all of the local churches, I applied for emergency food stamps (still waiting to here if I’ve been approved), I contacted resource centers, and have searched online for second jobs I can do from home (most of which are scams). I’ve always been able to make money on the side cleaning, grooming, serving, or bartending but my body won’t let me right now and I’m so far behind at my full-time job that I have no idea when I’ll actually be able to pick up some side work even after healing. I’m terrified of getting fired because of how constant the “emergencies” have been. I’m currently without car insurance as I haven’t been able to pay the premiums, my electricity is getting close to shut-off, I have student loans due (I am getting the payments adjust to income based, but I must be in good standing to qualify), and my cellphone needs to remain active for work. I am still actively reaching out to friends and family, but this is the first site (other than my personal fb page and ig) I’ve posted on for help. Honestly, $300 wouldn’t completely get me out of the hole and it’s an astronomical amount to ask from kind hearted strangers, but even $1 at this point would be more than I have towards past due bills right now. If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading.
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