I’m asking for help because I have no where else to turn. Everything feels hopeless at this point. About 14 years ago I had a girlfriend named Cathy (45 years old). We were all set to get engaged but because I thought the grass might be greener on the other side I broke up with her. No real reason. When I tried to win her back it was too late. She had met somebody else. I was completely devastated. I went on my way and she went on hers. Cathy ended up getting married and having 2 beautiful boys…Christopher (10 years old) and Shea (7 years old) pictured above in the holiday card they sent out for Christmas. A little over 2 years ago the guy Cathy married cheated on her with a coworker who was 19 years old. At the time he was 38. A bitter divorce followed and ever since Cathy has been emotionally a wreck. She has been doing better with being proactive with her divorce care a new found belief in God.
One day as I was waking up in the morning I received a phone call. It was Cathy. A phone number came up that I did not recognize because I deleted her name from my phone. Never in a million years did I think I would need her number again. I almost fell out of my bed when she said “Bob, this is Cathy.” Her voice sounded exactly the same. She went on to tell me everything that happened. She needed somebody to talk to and her instinct told her to call me. I also happened to be single at the time.
Over the last couple years, we have talked every day. I also see her boys who I’m attached to and they are to me. I feel like their father as I have no children myself. They call me “Fun Da Da” because their actual dad is no fun at all. He was abusive at times to Cathy and her boys. During the divorce settlement she got to keep her house and receives child support. The trouble is the child support is less then half of what his income was to the family. I told her I would help. I knew I did not have the extra money but I could not let her and her boys suffer or fall. I cashed out my 401k of 21,000 to first pay off the debt I already had. Next, I took out a personal loan of 30,000 from my bank (Citizens Bank). She needs 1,500 per month to keep her house plus money for food and small extras for the boys. During this time Cathy has been working on getting a higher paying job. I figured okay I will keep going into debt and she will soon have a job. As soon as she gets her job I could then concentrate on paying down my debt. I took a gamble. As of now she still has not found that job that pays more. Recently, I had to start putting money back on my credit cards to keep this cycle going. Between 3 cards a little over 17,000 has been racked up. The pressure is starting to really way on me. In total I’m 47,000 in debt. The most I have ever been in my life. I know it does not sound like much compared to other people but I also suffer from anxiety and depression. This accumulation of debt is causing me extreme anxiety which I have battled for 23 years now. I take 3 different types of medication to help control my anxiety and depression.
Bottom line, I have realized I still love Cathy more than ever. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and her boys. She calls me an angel for being there in her time of need. I want to continue being there for her. I’m asking for 65,000 to help get me out of debt (47,000), an extra (7,000) for Cathy to be able to put a new deck on her house in case she does have to sell and an extra (11,000) so I can buy her a modest engagement ring and pay for the boys’ sports, extracurricular activities, clothing etc. This would be my first marriage and I’m 47 years old. I’m an insurance agent and I love helping people. Please answer my prayers!!