Hi! My name is Mikaela, these are my children, Hailey, Tanniah, & Caleb. We started off a typical family with problems that were a bit more intense than the typical kind of problems one experiences in life. Then things began to spin out of control.
I’ll tell you a bit about us. I was married to an Army veteran for 14 years and have recently discovered that the relationship I had with him had been highly mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive. When I found that I was strong enough to leave him, my children and I spent a little over a year alone together struggling but we finally found happiness, peace, and calm.
I was in counseling and we were all healing nicely. Then I met someone. He came into our lives and was instantly loved. He was everything their father had not been able to be. We became a family. It was all of our first experience at having what we thought was a real “normal” happy family. A well balanced “grown up” life. Not long after, the honey moon rapidly unraveled and we found ourselves in a nightmare worse than before.
His unresolved past came raging forward and he became a beast driven by his need for revenge. Every hurt he had ever experienced became magnified by minor disagreements between us that grew out of proportion which led to new hurts and a new need for revenge. The worst part was that out of all his undelt with trauma came delusions and confusion which made everything that I did appear to him to be something wrong and in his eyes was always meant to hurt him. He would go so far as to punish me for things that had never even happened between us.
I tried to end our life together many times but he was not so willing to leave or let me walk away. Eventually I lost our home in a futile attempt to leave and Child Protective Services, the glorious entity that they are became involved and though I eagerly accepted the help that they was offered from their newer department, The FAR program, which was in charge of preventing child abuse and neglect in cases with situations that showed the risk of future instances of abuse/neglec. That help never came and two days after my case was closed a new case was opened by the department in charge of investigating actual cases of abuse and neglect was opened.
I was a victim of Domestic Violence. According to all the Departments handbooks and publications and training docs, they were supposed to help me. They were not supposed to open a case against me, the victim. They were supposed to open a case against him and hold him accountable. They were not supposed to require me to get a restraining order because it could anger the perpetrator and make things worse. I was told that I had to get a restraining order or I would lose my kids. I was told to stay away from him, so I was relocating to another state where I already had a place to live waiting. A job was lined up, a vehicle to drive was available and I had already spoken to a real estate agent and ensured that my credit and financial situation were not going to be a problem when renting a home. I also had in my hand, the required restraining order.
That day, CPS got a court order to take my children, based off of allegations that I have documented proof of that were false. They took my children who have never in their lives been away from me. Then it all got worse. I lost everything, my kids, my home, my truck. My family turned their backs on me, friends walked away. According to the previously mentioned documents and handbooks etc CPS was not allowed to create a service plan that would cause undo hardships on a victim of domestic violence. The court proceedings that followed presented me with 5 services, some of which would require multiple appointments each. I was court ordered 6 hours a week to have visitation with my children and currently The Department owes me aproximately 200 hours of visitation and continues to deny me the right to see my children. My lawyer does nothing about it.
We are vastly approaching the 11th month of my children being in foster care. The Department is advocating for reunification with their father. Their father is a 100 percent disabled Combat Veteran with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He recently stayed in a psychiatric unit of a hospital for the 3rd time in 11 months and tested positive for Methamphetamines during his stay. He came home from the last stay and locked me out and kept everything I own. The most recent report is that he has moved in a woman that he met while staying in the psych department who has lost her children to CPS not long ago and before visits and smokes marijuana in the house before visits. My daughter found a jar of marijuana in a place where my children could easily access it and this woman has visits with my kids when I still do not.
I am in dire need of an attorney. I have nothing right now. Yet I ask only for help with this. I have so little time. My next court date is June 20th and I am positive that they may place the kids with their father. I find out next week if I am approved for a Rapid Rehousing Program with intensive case management which will help me by covering my rent for 6 months and helping me look for a job and balance reunification with my children and all of CPS’s requirements.
You can help me in 2 ways. Help me raise the money to pay a good attorney to help me and tell my story to the world. Make it go viral.
I thank you in advance for even just taking the time to read this.