I feel a little guilty asking for help. But I honestly feel this is important enough to ask. My daughter graduated high school in May after a long 4 years of difficult times. Everything from a new school to extremely large classrooms with a minor learning disability, to bullying and more. She struggled academically, emotionally, and socially. She is the sweetest kid. Kids who bullied her she would invite over to the house to try to be friends with them and they would steal from her (her Beats I got her a few years ago for Christmas, and her Airpods she bought with her Christmas money, stolen from her!) She really tried so hard but she just felt so beat down. I pushed and pushed her and by the grace of God, she graduated. But not before I had to pull her out with 2 months of school left and transfer to a private school. A boy sprayed hair mousse on top of her head and she had a major allergic reaction. A week later a girl came up behind her in school and pulled her pants down horrifying her in front of hundreds of other students. That was the final straw. She never once showed any interest in college or furthering her education in any way. It is my belief that not everyone is cut out for school and I was okay with her just getting a job as long as she was happy. I did a major disservice to my daughter by not letting her work through her high school years. My reason was because she couldn’t focus on school enough to pass, getting a job would cut into her studies even more that she so desperately needed. So when she graduated, she had no experience working. She came to me one day and shocked me. She told me she had just come from a school where she was looking into a program for Esthetics. I was so surprised. She told me she really wanted to do the one year program. I said absolutely! She asked me to go look at the school the next day with her and I did. Before I went, we filled out the FAFSA for financial aid. The school is really nice. They have a lot for their students and they offer lifetime job placement. So I went into the financial aid office with her to figure out the financials. Well, I nearly fell out of my seat when I heard the tuition for a one year program! I couldn’t believe it! Not only that, but she doesn’t qualify for any financial aid. Why?
I raised my two daughters on my own, neither of their fathers had anything to do with them, never paid a dime of child support and never even cared about their education. I was able to put myself through college twice…once to become an Early Education teacher, and the second time to be a Health Information Tech. I graduated both times. About 5 years after I graduated the second time and entered into the workforce for that career, I fell ill with a blood clotting condition. I ended up with several other issues along with it and my ability to work was gone. I struggled putting my older daughter through college but she was eligible for a lot of aid. A few years ago, I got married to a wonderful man. He really stepped up for my kids, my youngest in particular. However, he was having to pay alimony to his ex and while he made good money, there wasn’t a whole lot left over at the end of the month. He clothes and feeds my daughter and puts a roof over her head. But we just don’t have the extra to pay for this tuition. I know it is bothering him a lot. He makes decent money but for the next few years, there won’t be any extra. We don’t receive any assistance or anything like that because he makes decent money and that is the reason we don’t qualify for any financial aid. It is breaking my heart in the worst way because education is so near and dear to my heart. How do I tell her that my dream was always for her to go to college but I can’t afford the tuition to this school?
I am not allowed to take a federal parent loan because my loans had to be discharged due to my disability. I can’t allow her to fall into the trap of student loans. I see too many kids graduate with so much debt they can barely get ahead. So, this is my story and I am hoping there is someone out there that has as much of a passion for education as I do and would be willing to help. The photo is a then and now shot. My older daughter graduated and my youngest wore her cap. When my youngest graduated, my oldest wanted to recreate the picture backwards and she wore the youngest’s cap. It was one of my proudest days ever.
Thank you for listening.