It’s a big title, but it’s what it’s mostly about. There’s so much I could add to this, but I will try to keep it as short as possible.
My name’s Nicole and I’m already a 20+ year old. College is forever a struggle and money-wise is an every-week challenge. With the little money I do get, about €20 euro a week. I put €10 euro away for saving and €10 to spend. Still doesn’t sound too bad, right? Well…
I still live with my parents, yes, I’m one of those old kids still living under their parents roof, however, there’s a catch. I’m living in the EU, but my parents are from an asian country, China to be precise. They fit the narrative of owning their own restaurant and having their children work for them.
You most likely have guessed it by now. I’m one of these children. My brother and I have always been working in their restaurant, without being paid. At first I didn’t think much of it as a child, but now I’ve grown older and still am working there… I spoke up one about it and luckily she decided to give me that €20 euro now, however, there was something else I discovered too. She obviously got angry and told me that I’m ungrateful, that I’m working here my entire life to pay off the food she bought for us to eat, the fact that I’m living in her house is part of it too.
So.. Why do I not stop? Just leave! Right? I wouldn’t be able to… One time I was really angry in the restaurant during work and I wanted to walk away to home, but my mom stopped me before I could and said: “If you want to leave, then don’t come back home. Give me your keys and leave instead.”
She indeed came at me with this and my world really felt crushed. I knew now that I have nowhere to go?
I don’t have any savings, maybe about 100 euro though? But that is impossible to be able to rent a little room with, no, even a hotel night would at least be €10 euro a day..
I could get another job, right? I actually considered doing this, but there’s some points that are already troubling me when thinking about having another job on top of the restaurant work and college.
- College is a 2 hour commute, which is 4 hours total a day. I travel, because it’s free to travel for students. Otherwise that would have been €50 euro a day. I go to college from Monday to Friday. I mostly have to leave the house at 7-9AM and come back home between 5-8PM
- Work is usually from Friday to Monday. I’m sometimes free on Monday. But the Monday is usually: coming back from college at 5PM and then having to work until 10PM… Not to even mention having to prepare for the next college day. The rest of the day I’m required to sit at the restaurant to help in case it gets busy. But I believe she simple asks me to come so she can keep an eye on me.
- We live in an area in which a lot of tourists come. You know those Summer Holidays we all long to? Sadly my entire summer is working from 11AM to 10PM in the restaurant. HOWEVER! For this work I actually get €200 euro for the entire summer! Can you sense I’m totally happy with that? Ha… Usually this money goes to being able to pay my college fees or any new books for a subject. That is usually about €300 euro though, so I have to ask my mother to pay instead and I’ve to give back the €200 euro…
It’s just frustrating to already imagine to have another job added on top of this “job” I’m not even being paid for. You can see my amount of free-time to include this job even, is almost next to none.
However, there’s always been someone who has been helping me so much. He paid for some of my favorite snacks and helps to keep me sane.
This is why I’ve been trying to find different ways to get money… Perhaps it’s seen as bad from me to beg, or even lazy? I am aware of people to be working even longer and more… So I feel slightly bad for begging, but I feel like I’m becoming more and more desperate now that summer is coming closer and I’m already fearing those exhausting days. I happened to stumble upon this site and as fishy as it looks like or even how unsure I am that this could be legit.. I suppose trying it out never hurts?
Any money I would get, will straight go to my saving account and eventually be saved up to the point where I can rent my own little apartment or room of which I’ve seen there’s definitely some of these for about 150 euro a month, however, usually with a deposit to be paid first. I would already be so glad if I can rent a place for at least 6 month or a year. I’m pretty sure within that time I will be able to find myself a part-time job.
There’s a problem though.. I do not even know how much other jobs even earn and will it even be enough to pay rent, food and college? I’m afraid I might even have to stop college… I’m in my 2nd year of a Communication and Multimedia design study and I’ve already been slightly struggling. So if things get to the point of me having to choose what to do, I will most likely decide to save money by stopping with college, but the thought only already makes me devastated…
I read it’s recommended to state an amount I need, but I’m not even aware how much I need to at least start with, being able to move out the house in my own place. The only problem I have with being able to do this, is money…
Lets say, we make the rent €200 a month. The Deposit is usually one time rent as well. First payment would be €400 euro. Rent for at least 1 year? 200×12= €2400 minus one month, it would be €2200 for a year, right?
One college year is exactly €2060 euro. There’s two years left after my 2nd, so this would be €4120 euro. There’s most likely going to be books, but I’m pretty sure, that if I’m already working an actual job where I actually earn money per hour, I would have no problem paying off the books myself. Not only that, I really have to pay my friend back. I know he isn’t asking me to pay it back, but I definitely should. This has no haste, so I don’t have to ask an amount for this and simply save that up while I’m working. My little brother is going through the same thing, but he’s actually been able to have a job himself. But due this, it’s me who has to work all the time in the restaurant. On top of all that, the money he’s earning from his work, he doesn’t even have access to it. His bankcard is taken by my mother and he’s only allowed to use it by asking for permission first.
€400+€2200+€4120= €6720 . . .
Just looking at this amount is unbelievable to me to even grasp I could have it. I really wish to achieve this amount of money, so that I can at least start the gears of moving out of the house and being the boss about my own schedule, money and be able to continue my college without a worry.
As of right now she has me in financial grasp and with that, I’m not able to do anything else than either working in the restaurant or sit at home to study for college. I’ve no time to do anything else, and my friends sometimes go out to eat, but of course, I never can come along. Except for one time, where I lied that I had to go to a “college dinner” I’m not sure if that’s even a thing, but she believed it. But to continue lying about where I go is not what I want. I’ve tried to be the best girl to my parents and hope she would give me more money, but she doesn’t see the “use” of giving me more money, which makes me think, she’s deliberately not giving me any.
So please, I thank you from the bottom of my heart to have read my story and even considering to give money or even the thoughts and hopes for someone else to be able to spare me some. I thank you for those thoughts.
I will try my best to continue working and still try to ask for payment for my work to my parents, because I’m already in my twenties, and have barely any savings and still not an income? Whereas so many of my friends started with part-time jobs next to high school and they would get an easy €300 euro a month. That just boggles my mind. Apologies for any mistakes in the text. I’m from a non-english speaking country. I’ve tried to type it all very simple as possible.
So from my calculation, €6720 would be the perfect amount to start. And if it’s okay to be a little bit selfish. I would love to ask a €100 extra, to give myself some new clothing… Yea, I don’t really get new clothing either and you know what? I’m in my twenties, and my mom still demands me to wear graphic pink shirts and just anything to hide my femininity. So being able to get me 2 pair of nice new jeans, probably about €20-€40 euro and with that just a couple of new tops I am good to go for another year.
Thank you very much once again and sorry for writing so much, but I’m trying every means to get money. I’ve even been trying to set up an online store by selling 3D models, but that requires time and I would love to get out the house before the new study year starts, or by the end of the year. Thank you, please take care and by no means feel obligated, because those with emergency medical bills are much more important and EU college payments aren’t as high as those in the US… I will do my best to keep my head up high!
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