I have worked hard all my life I started working when I was 13 years old. ( I am now 48) When I was 20 I had a child while working a full-time job. Her father and I did not stay together but however she was raised in a wonderful environment she’s a wonderful adult, wife and mother. She is a registered nurse. She recently gave birth to her first child, a beautiful baby girl who is just amazing.
I had met a man after my daughter had graduated from high school and started college. He was a single father with two little boys that were four and five years old. He was living in his dad’s Barn and was working everyday to build up a farm.At the time he owned two tractors and was probably worth around $20,000.
he had a couple of people that he rented farmland from to grow crops on.
at first I did not want to date anyone that had small children because I had raised my child and I was looking forward to spending time with someone that I could travel with and enjoy single life with.
This man kind of forced himself into my life and before I knew it him and his children moved in with me into my small 2 bedroom apartment within 3 months.
Needless to say we stayed together for 10 years. I helped him get full custody of the boys and we ended up putting a house on 30 acres for our family and he kept getting more farmland I would help him farm and raise the children as they were my own. (Doctor’s appointment dentist visits I signed them up for school I made them breakfast lunch and dinner etc. Helped them with homework drop them off at sports they each had their own bedroom that I painted and decorated. I actually painted that whole house inside and out and it looked brand new.
when we put the house on the 30 acres of land that we bought he asked me to marry him and he gave me a ring. I had found a double-wide that was only $12,000 through a friend of mine I knew and after a lot of hard work we had the house in and we put cows on the land and everything was going well. when we had moved into the house he had asked me to quit my job to help him take care of the farm and the children. which I gladly did because I figured I was going to be with this man the rest of my life and be his wife and this was my family. So, I had no reason to worry.
I can’t tell you exactly what happened because I’m not even sure. He had a problem drinking and we started fighting and I really wanted to try to make this work I figured 10 years of being together that we should try to make it work and I did try. I tried for a year-and-a-half. He threw me out last June for the last time. I was done being used and being treated like crap. he had been talking to at least 15 women on messenger and wanted to date other women.
the very last time he threw me out which was over a year ago he moved in another woman immediately.
He is worth well over $1000000 now. but since I did not marry him I don’t get a penny. Every penny that I had, I had sunk into our house our home and our family. I had a very nice Colorado truck that was 3 years old when I bought it and I paid it off within 3 years and it was still worth $10,000 and he burned it to the ground. I did not press charges and he had canceled the insurance a few days before so I couldn’t claim anything on it and I didn’t want him to go to prison for what he did. I was stupid and naive.
So right now I have an old beat-up car that needs new tires and a oil change. I am job hunting and I am staying with a friend right now which is a blessing, but I have found an apartment for $350 a month including all utilities.
I have worked hard all my life and once I get a job I know I will be okay.
I have no money no gas in my car and absolutely nothing to move into the apartment I have no furniture, dishes,towels, sheets no bed no dresser.
I have very little clothing and shoes that are about worn out.
if I was a selfish person and I didn’t give all my money these years I would probably be okay. I probably wouldn’t be on here embarrassed and begging for help.
I’m sitting here crying writing this. I am ashamed of myself and I am ashamed for the man that left me in this position.
I am a strong person and I will get back on my feet I do need a little help. if you can find it in your heart to help me I guarantee you I will pay it forward.
Much love and peace to you, thank you so much.
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Thank you so much and bless you