I won’t bore you with the same sob story that I am sure you hear over and over again. I’ll keep it short and sweet and to the point. Obviously, I am here for monetary support. Yes, my husband left our family for the chick at his office. Yes, he put our family through immense amounts of hell and emotional abuse. He is the definition of an extreme narcissist. My children have seen and heard things they never should have. We have three daughters together ages, 7,8 and 10.
Was I a perfect wife? Nope. Have I made mistakes? Sure! But I never cheated on him and NOTHING in this world is worth inflicting that kind of pain on our children.
I finally left our beautiful farm house and land in June 2018. Moved in with family. Got approved for low income housing and moved in to an apartment 4 months later. If you can picture plucking your kids from a big house and the only home they have ever known with a farm, growing up as “outside kids” and are now having to live in an apartment, please understand my pain for them.
I’ve done EVERYTHING in my power to make a new home for them and shield them from more pain or asking them to “adjust” to one more thing. We have come a LONG way. I work two jobs and it kills me that I have to wake my kids up two hours before we normally do, just so that I work those two jobs because I have NO ONE to help me. No family, no friends, and I am slightly over protective and plus I don’t have the funds to pay a babysitter much less find one that I would trust. Im doing everything on my own. My husband as moved on and purchased a new house with a big back yard and he’s just living his best life. He was able to go to school and get his real estate license and now he is a real estate agent. Must be nice to have the time to better his life when he doesn’t have kids to worry about. He does pay me child support which I am thankful for but as you may know its never the same as two incomes in a household.
I qualified for food stamps. $64 a month.
I work as a special education paraprofessional at a local elementary school. I changed the girls school so they could come with me. I didn’t have a choice because there again…no one to help transport them to and from school.
I’ve had to pawn my car to pay for attorneys fees which by the way keep rolling in! Because my estranged husband is dragging it out and nit picking the papers to DEATH. Its almost over but I am completely tapped out. My savings: depleted. My checking account: Overdrawn because I HAD to get groceries.
So, I can’t pay my car note because that is astronomical and I thought for sure by now it would be over and Id be able to use the settlement money to dig my way out of that mistake. I wake up every morning and pray my car is still in the parking lot.
I can’t pay for attorneys fees. I can’t pay for ANYTHING. We are scraping to get by every single day and I’m honestly on my knees at this point. Anything to help me get out of this situation. I can’t move my babies again and cause them more pain or stress. I am trying to start a side business to help with income but that is a joke because I’m so broke.
If anyone has ever been in my situation and can offer any kind of advice or monetary support, I would be forever grateful and would give back to someone else in need when I get to the point where I can. I know I will!! I will never give up trying to better my life and the lives of my girls.
Thank you for taking the time to read my “sob story”