I hate doing this, but I will do anything to get some money together for me and my son.
I’m going to start by saying, I love my other half, I really do and it’s breaking my heart to have to separate my family but I have to do what’s best for my son.
We have been together for seven years and have a one year old baby boy. Unfortunately, he suffers from ADHD and Aspergers which in his case means he struggles to feel empathy and make it difficult for him to control his emotions – particularly anger.
In the couple of years before I got pregnant, he lost his job and got into a lot of debt which I did not know about. I started to notice things werent right at some stage, but by that point we were almost evicted by our landlord as he hadn’t been paying his part of the rent and had taken out so many payday loans he couldn’t keep up.
We managed to recover somewhat, although I am still paying off a few loans I got to keep afloat at the time, as once things started getting bad they kept getting progressively worse. My savings didn’t last long.
I had never really planned to have children, least of all until I was more financially secure, however I found out I was pregnant despite using contraception.
We were on the road to financial recovery at the time, and we could never abort our baby. However, when I was pregnant covid and lockdowns put both of us out of work again, meaning although we could just about afford the baby things we needed we haven’t been able to get secure yet.
Our boy is now one year old, and the stress is starting to make my partner have less control over his anger, he is never violent but gets unnecessarily angry over the smallest things, and shouts and swears a lot. It is becoming a big problem, and I will not have my son grow up in a household where he feels he has to walk on eggshells so not to provoke his dad, and I can’t allow him to see his parents talk to each other in such an abusive way – it is starting to scare him at times, and this will not be his example for how people should be treated.
I also do not want him to see his dad get like that – I want his dad to be his hero, and I know he can be in time, with some help and breathing space.
My problem is, I will have to move back in with my parents for a while and things will be very hard financially while I get back on my feet.
I never expected to be asking strangers on the Internet for help fixing my problems, but any help would be appreciated immensely and I will be forever grateful.
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