Homeless single mom beat heroin addiction, but needs some help getting back to self-sufficiency..
Hello! My name is Osher and I’m a 34 yr old single mother of 2 miracles! I Have been through SO much in my life and made many mistakes, but I’m finally to a place in which I’m doing really well but I am still struggling financially, despite all of the good changes I have made in my life so far. I am a recovered addict. I have battled with a heroin addiction sense I was a young teen but I got help and got sober at age 23 then got married and had 2 children and stayed sober throughout my entire 7 year marriage as a stay-at-home mother. Unfortunately, it eventually came down to a divorce and I moved out and into my own apartment just down the road, but I greatly underestimated how difficult it would be to financially support my kids and I by myself. I fell flat on my face very quickly after my car was stolen and my new job eventually had to give away my position to someone else. When the car was found, it was returned to my husband instead of me (as it was still in his name just like anything else we ever owned) but he kept my car a secret and quickly sold it and kept all the profits. If not for my 6 year old son I still to this day wouldnt know my car was ever found or returned at all. But going back to when it was first stolen.. soon after that huge loss of the car, it started to cause a series of other great losses, one after another. Car, job, then my husband cut off all contact between my kids and I and all visitation and phone calls came to a sudden end and there was nothing I could do about it sense the divorce hadn’t even been filed yet and no custody schedule was in place. Then next was losing my apartment and everything in it because of an eviction. All my belongings that couldnt fit into one gym bag had to be left behind because I had no car to move anything out with. So I lost everything I owned within a couple weeks and was now homeless, downtown Salt Lake City. I had lost everything important to me, most of all, my kids! Being suddenly cut off from my kids was more than I knew how to cope with, sense being a full-time stay at home mom and spending every second of each day sense birth with my kids was all them or I even knew! So I was in a dark place after that & I’d worry myself sick thinkin about what they might be going through. I didn’t know what else to do but to go towards the shelters, in the worst parts of town, then I was surrounded by drugs. That’s when I finally gave up and gave in and unfortunately, relapsed. I fell deep into drugs again for the first time in almost 10 years and I continued on like that and while living/sleeping outside for an entire year before my IV drug use led to a condition called endocarditis that required emergency open heart surgery to save my life. I nearly died, but it was the kick I needed to wake me up! I have been sober ever sense that day, which was about a year and a half ago now. After recovering from heart surgery I did 4 months of intensive, inpatient, drug treatment. Then I moved back home with my parents, I took care of my pending legal matters and got a full-time job. I also fought to get my kids back as well, but I’m still fighting to get more time with them and to get whats fair in this divorce in general. I have never received any financial support, not even child support at any point sense the divorce started 3 years ago, and it will stay that way at least until the divorce is final, which could be another year away from what I’ve seen.. So I’m relying on my own income for now. My current and next goal is saving up for a car, and the bigger goal is to pay off my past eviction balance, and then eventually also save up enough money to get into my own place again, closer to my kid’s school so that I can have them 50% of the time. Right now, I just live too far to drive them to school each morning so I only see them on weekends right now. I’ve done the math, and even with a full-time job I only make half what my monthly expenses will be when I am living on my own again and supporting my kids. Sense I was a stay-at-home mom for so long I have no education or credit of my own and have limited work experience, so my earning capacity is very minimal. So, every day is a struggle financially and I’ve been trying to think of other ways to bring in more money to help me make it, to help me get back on my feet somehow and be one step closer to becoming the self sufficient, responsible mother my children deserve! Anything at all add’s up and would help one way or another to go towards a car or pay off debts. I could never say thank you enough for any amount of help I do receive, but still.. thank you so much!! And also thank you so much for just hearing my story too, I know its a lot to read. Hope you have a blessed and memorable day! Bye bye