I am not the one to normally ask for help, but I desperately need it. I’m going to try to make this as short as possible, it’s really so much to explain. I am a single mother of two, son 11, daughter 8. Their father has been in and out of their lives for the last 11 years. He is an addict, so he would get clean and come home and then he would use and I’d kick him out. I finally put my foot down and said no more, and we didn’t hear from him at all until 3 years later, I get a phone call from jail. I had prayed to let him go and he just pops back up to mess things up. Well, this time he was going to prison. Total time spent 2 years. In that time he was calling everyday (I told him to prove himself and build a relationship with his children) we spoke and of course, ended up getting together again. So he gets out of prison, couldn’t leave the state he was in until he could transfer home, so I was helping with money for hotel rooms for him and his dad and has to get back and forth there. He gets transferred and is home and everything was great (oh did I mention this entire time I was sick, and I mean autoimmune sick and didn’t know what it was yet was going through a bunch of testing). He told me he wanted me to stay home and take care of the kids, and he will work and pay the bills. Well I worked and took care of the kids (work from home) and he was working and kept working almost everyday. He would accuse me of sleeping with the maintenance man or the apartment manager if I had to go see him. I was always the one in the wrong and had things to work on that he constantly pointed out but I (dumb) was willing to work on whatever it was to make our family work. We all got sick, found out our apartment was filled with black mold and extremely toxic so we moved.
While moving he helped a bit but then the next day was in bed while the rest of us (our kids, his dad and I) kept moving things. (Mind you, if I overwork my body I get terribly sick and my body shuts down on me and I’ll be down for days) I called pge, to switch the bill to our new place and find out that we are $2200 (and counting) behind! Mind you he was supposedly to be paying the bills, I paid for internet because we homeschooled, and rent. The lady works with me and we come up with some payment plan.
I called suburban for our gas and he hasn’t payed that either and that’s over 1600!!!!! This man didn’t pay anything and didn’t pay rent, no bills nothing. Then fights with me about putting suburban in his name because I can’t, because we have an outstanding bill in my name (All bills were in my name it was my apt) so he lied to me for three months saying he did the suburban and I get mail for it in someone else’s name. He still tried to say that they were wrong. Still I don’t have suburban in my name, and suburban is trying to help me as best they can because my apartment manager is on my tail about it not being switch over yet. We moved in in January… it’s now May. He’s been more than patient.
I to mention that he had a child with someone else and she got taken by cps because mom overdosed her on drugs. I was the one who fought for her and filled out all the paperwork, bought her a crib and everything she needed for them to let us have her. And now, he won’t even let me see that baby.
Then, just a week ago, I walk out to my car gone it got repossessed, because he took over payments and I figured I was a month behind because he had only been gone a month, but no he hadn’t paid it in 5 months! And in between all this my best friend died. Life hasn’t been very kind to my kids and I lately. And we just need some help. I’ve asked him, and he hasn’t helped, and at this point I don’t want his help.
I have learned my lesson, but I desperately need help getting out of this debt and starting new. I feel terrible asking for a set amount. I have no car to get my kids to school or their appointments, we are relying on others and I worked so hard to get to where I was and he just… destroyed it. So if you have read until this point, thank you for listening and I’m sorry it’s all scattered.
I would appreciate anything to help. Please, we would be eternally grateful. God bless