I am risking homelessness as I am seriously contemplating fleeing with my child into state forest land with a tent at the end of the summer in Minnesota.
Let me give you a sneak peek into my life for the last decade. I got pregnant in collage and decided to drop out but I never stopped my education. I have devoured every financial education book I’ve been able to get my hands on since becoming an adult. My issues lay in partners being domestically abusive toward me and/or cutting off my resources so that my business doesn’t take off.
My sons father was a alcoholic and struggled with drug abuse. We were living in his father’s basement for 6 years while I worked tirelessly at both a day job and starting my business on the side. After years of the abuse I felt so trapped. He had convinced me that I couldn’t do anything without him and that neither of us would stay afloat alone and the state would take our child if we split up.
I ended up meeting my now boyfriend at a job I was working at. He did what I now know was love bombed me. I told him my story and how I was a struggling mom just trying to launch my business and afford to leave my ex. He told me he could treat me way better than him. That I was crazy to stay there. Things moved quickly and within 2 months of meeting him I had moved all of my stuff into his mother’s house (talk about a red flag I missed). We actually had a incredible relationship for about 6 months to a year. He told me he would work so I can stay home and work my business. Things seemed to be going great. As you all probably already know.. things didn’t stay that way. His boundaries slowly invaded my bubble as my boundaries were nowhere to be found. He would try to control how I raise my child, things I say and do, the money I spend.. all the typical abusive shit. Even going as far as to try to control how I run my business, fucking with my mental health, verbally assulting me, both him and his mother being mentally abusive and disrespectful towards me and my business just because I’m still investing in it and it hasn’t provided a return yet.. even after years of effort. (Entrepreneurs understand that this is normal)
Today he drives to work in MY CAR that somehow I’m not allowed to drive places because he pays for the gas. He doesn’t even let me Doordash anymore. Pretty much any idea for a side hustle he shuts down.
Literally will tell me to get a job in which I always reply that I’ve been trying. Employers aren’t hitting me back. I did get one job in the last year but my trainer got me fired within 3 weeks because she didn’t like me.
All he cares about is if my business or if I am making money. Not my worth as a human being and not being in a mutually beneficial relationship. I’ve established boundaries that he ignores or presses on purpose. This relationship is not equal and he drains my energy.
I’m 98% sure he is cheating on me. There are signs even though I’ve offered opening up the relationship several times.
I’m literally stuck in this toxic house all day with more and more resources slipping between my fingers.
I know very well now that he is a narcissist who targeted me on purpose in the beginning. First week after meeting him I was already telling him about my business and that I had such a desire to make money inspiring millions of people so he knew I had a giving heart and he saw that I was already looking for a way out of my other domestic abusive situation. He decided he wanted me to use and abuse and financially drain except.. my business’ isn’t making any money so he just likes to treat me like shit because he didn’t get what he wanted from the beginning of this relationship.. my money.
At this point I can’t even get my business off the ground without the proper resources and I need let alone escape Mr. Probably has me on video camera right now..
What I will use the money for is easy. Stability and basic needs first. I need housing and to pay my car payment (which he stopped paying btw). I need stability. I haven’t had my own place and someone not controlling me since 2015 and I’m dying to have that again.
Depending on the amount of help I receive I will either be buying really nice camping stuff to make sure the tent will be ready for a Minnesota winter, getting into my own apartment or buying a trailer home or maybe even a tiny house. (a dream of mine)
Depending on how much is left over after me and my son are comfortable will not only go into a emergency savings but also be put into me finally getting to give my business the proper launch that it deserves after 7 years of work.
Honestly I’m terrified of being homeless. Not for me, I love camping and I would prefer living in a tent actually but for my son I’m so scared that my son would be taken away as this isn’t entirely legal because there is a 21 day limit per season when it comes to camping on forest land here.
It would kill me if they gave full custody to my abusive alcoholic ex..
Please help me escape this chain of domestic violence for myself, my son and my future family lineage as this runs in my family but I swear it stops at me.
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