A little over two years ago my life was headed down a dark path and i knew that the result would be me ending up in prison. At the time my daughter was a year old and I didn’t want her to end up bounced around in the foster system and neither myself nor her dad have family members that we could trust to leave her with, so I sought out some friends of my family and asked if they would take care of her while I got my life together. This family has been foster parents for multiple children and this is how I know them so I figured that they would be a good fit for the situation. And that I could trust that at the end of all of this when I was able to take care of her again that they would be able to hold our hands through the transition.
this has NOT been the case. I have been out of prison for a year now and sober for two and a half years. Currently I only get to see my daughter for one hour every other week. They also chose to make this time at 9am on Tuesdays, knowing that I work 12 hour shifts at my job Saturday through Monday and that this time slot is literally the hardest one for me to be my best at.
Currently I have been sober over two years, have maintained employment at my job as a server, bartender and manager for over a year, have lived at the same apartment, have had the same boyfriend, am going to weekly therapy sessions, have completed treatment and parenting classes, have had zero positive drug tests. i have a bedroom and clothes and toys and everything my daughter could need or want at my house. I have never been suspected of child abuse or neglect. There is no reason that myself or my home is an unsafe environment. Yet this family continues to maintain that i am still using and that my boyfriend is using despite us both doing everything in our lives to the contrary. i’ve even managed to improve my credit score 100 points!
A little over a year ago they asked me if they could adopt my daughter and i told them that no, now is not the time to discuss something like that. i have all intentions on turning my life around and being there for my daughter, she deserves that. and ever since they were told no they could not keep her forever they have been limiting contact and visits to both myself and her father. Despite a court order stating that we have regular and meaningful contact. The family told me that it was going to have to be up to a court to decide whether placement with them or with her parents was what’s best for her. So after they said that I filed ON MY OWN a motion to terminate the guardianship. Unfortunately I make too much money for a court appointed attorney, but not enough to afford one on my own, especially after the COVID shut my job down and created some SERIOUS financial strain in my household.
Until I get a lawyer retained to speak on my behalf they are going to continue to play games and make things as complicated or impossible or expensive as possible in an effort to try to overwhelm me and get me to give up. They are exploiting my past issues with drug addiction and hoping that they can push me back into those habits so that they can keep my daughter. I have been dealing with this situation becoming more and more increasingly a struggle for the past six months and I have finally come to realize that I can not do this on my own. I am a very strong willed lady, but I dont know the law and so I need someone who does.