Let me start by saying, it is very hard for me to ask for help from anyone and I’m a very private person. This is all very hard for me to do.
16 years ago, I met my soon to be ex-husband. When I met him, I didn’t know he had a drug problem. I got pregnant with my first son 6 months after meeting and married before the baby was born. Before meeting him, I always worked. If not one but two jobs. When my first child was born my husband was in and out of jail for theft. I found out he was using drugs. We were put out of apartment due to the landlord finding drugs in our toilet pipe. we had 30 days to move, and I was able to find space in a shelter. I threatened to leave, and he stated he would get his life together. Silly me, I believed every word he said. After having my first child, I became pregnant again. Clinging on to his words and believing that things would get better. Myself, my one-year-old, and my husband 9yr old son was living in one room in the shelter. Before it was time to move out of the shelter he was arrested and jailed for 11 months. I chose to keep his older son and raise him as my own. I also figured out I was pregnant again. Within that time, I completed a program in the shelter and moved into a house with rental assistance. I was so desperate to leave the shelter, I had no idea I was moving into a mouse/bat infested home pregnant. The landlord didn’t want to let me out of the lease. I ended up having baby number three. Long story short, a racoon was digging through the ceiling and droppings were falling down on my newborn’s bassinet. I was able to get out of the lease. I found housing in a complex. My husband came home from prison clean. After two months he was right back at it using. Cops had to be called on him. My neighbor sons were into bad things as I could here through my walls. I started looking for another place to live. This was also the start of my first-born having seizures. We ended up moving and starting a business. I became a stay-at-home mom because of my son’s seizures. They were so bad I thought he was going to check out. By the grace of God, he was covered. The Mr. now was a functioning attic. Very mean toward his family at home. Very aggressive. Heated arguments. I hoped for change. My son’s seizures stopped at age 10.
Fast forward we started building my husband credit up so he could buy a house. He ended up buying one and putting it in his name. I owed $40,000 in student loans and my credit wasn’t good. I was financially and mentally abused throughout the relationship. He would give me money after big arguments or if I caught him entertaining other women. I had built my credit back up, but I had to use my credit card one year because he wouldn’t give me any money. I had to buy my kids things, pay bills, etc. He always bought himself new vehicles and after he used the vehicle up gave it to me. My credit went downhill again because I had no consistent income to pay my debt. I now owe $12,000. Once I started caring about myself again arguments would start. I was catching him cheating. He would say I was cheating. One day he got so angry he snatched my phone out of my hand, and I pushed him, he hit me in the eye. He begged me not to leave or call the police. He would never do that to me again. He kept his word on that. But was verbally and mentally abusive. arguments were worse. He made my child’s service dog run away. I paid $800 for the dog. She was my daughter’s therapy. My daughter is in therapy now because of his behavior. My final straw was the way he would get aggressive my daughter and she defended me and herself. I attempted to leave him several times but didn’t have the means. I finally am seeking divorce and we are separated. There seems to be a mental issue going on with him now. I’m almost certain if child support or alimony is threatened or mentioned he will go ballistic. He is not taking the separation well. He is giving me the house I’m in now, but I don’t make enough to pay all the bills. I door dash and instacart shop just for gas.
It would be a huge blessing to receive a helping hand at this time in my life. I’m very grateful for being alive and able to remove myself from toxicity. I am asking for funds to get my businesses (airbnb and herbal shop) up and running so they could start generating income. Also, I would need to get a more economical vehicle because the one I am using now is in his name, falling apart, and uses way too much gas. The vehicle I would like is $15,000 and it could seat all of my children. Last but not least, I need help with paying my student loans and purchasing another dog for my daughter. I want to be able to provide for my children on my own.
It would be greatly appreciated to receive $67,800 in donations. It will not be in vain. Also, once I am on my feet and have extra funds, I would love to give to someone else in need. Thank you for allowing me to use this platform.
My daughter always tells me mom you do too much for people even when they don’t deserve it. I had to tell her that I’m just being me. I do it from the heart. She says I know.
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