Please help, anything would be appreciated. I am working to raise $6000 for a retainer to prepare for our trial set in March. Thank you for reading and for your generosity.
Long story short, in the last three months I have realized that my husband was abusing me emotionally, financially, and sexually. Our marriage was built on lies, as he had multiple affairs since day one with more lies and affairs coming out as the divorce process goes on. I have to sell my dream home, and I had to give up 50% of custody to him temporarily. I have run out of money for my lawyer, and I am desperate for help. I need help to fight his manipulation within the court system. I can’t do this alone. I am working multiple jobs, donating plasma, doing anything I can to pay the bills so I can protect my children.
I married my husband in 2017. We were the “perfect” couple and seemed to have everything together. Our first child was born in 2018, we bought our first home in 2019, and had a second child in 2021. From the outside, things looked happy. However, once we were married, things started to go downhill. I was trying to parent, run the home, and work full time while my husband went out with friends, played video games, or was just unwilling to help with daily life tasks unless they were “fun”. We began to have financial issues because his money went towards weed and Xanax, and he was distant from me. I maxed out credit cards trying to provide for the family. He grew angry and blamed me for his feelings. In the summer of 2021, shortly after the birth of our second child, he told me he didn’t love me the same anymore. I was suicidal, overworked, exhausted at this point from juggling our life together basically alone. He decided he wanted to work through his feelings, so things started to improve.
At the beginning of 2022, things were a little better at home, but I began to have health issues. I was a frequent flyer in the ER, urgent care, and specialist offices and no one could figure out what was wrong with me. Meanwhile, I was missing work, in constant pain, and still trying to care for our home and family. I underwent countless tests, including a HIDA scan, colonoscopy, and endoscopy. Still nothing was diagnosed for months.
In April, I went for my annual OB-GYN checkup. I have always tested for STDs, even though I had been in a monogamous relationship for 8 years. Imagine my surprise when my provider called me to say it came up positive. This is how I found out about my husband’s infidelity, and discovered the STD had caused PID, causing all of my health issues. He said it was “one girl, one time” during the summer he wasn’t sure about being with me. I asked him to leave the home for a while so I could think. After about a month, I decided I wanted a divorce. Once I told him, he turned into someone I don’t recognize. I am trying so hard to keep it together while fighting for my children’s safety. Please give if you can, and help me get my life back with my children.